I’ve seen a sickness in men, and it is chucking out validation like bread at the duck pond.
Here, I’ll show you what I mean.
Let’s say you compliment a girl, and she refuses it. Like so:
You: Your hair is spectacular.
Her: Oh, actually I haven’t even combed it today, haha.
What do you say next?
If you’re like most guys, you let girls off the hook with something along the lines of:
You: Well you can’t even tell. It looks awesome.
You: Andie, let’s go to this wine tasting they’re having Thursday night!
Her: Oh no, I sooo want to go, but my parents are in town this week! I have to spend time with them!
How do you respond? If you’re like most guys, it’s something like:
You: Oh man, well, I’ll miss you, but have fun with your parents!
Do you sense anything slightly wrong with these responses?
Is there an almost indecipherable air of excess ‘niceness’ in them?
That excess niceness you’re picking up on is validation – and letting her off the hook.