I have long believed, based on my own experiences in my most primal state and what I have seen in some truly talented others, that the best and most prolific lovers in the world - the most skilled naturals and the most successful seducers - have a different way of seeing women than most men, and that that difference is one of the biggest keys to their consistent and impressive results.
Obviously, right? But I want to focus on one specific KIND of different way of seeing women - the sexual way.
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Most folks, as humans, tend to view other humans as people - as separate and removed from the other things around us, whether inanimate, plant, or animal. They see other humans for their minds - their thoughts and their words and their ideas.
It's one of the biggest problems for men who struggle with girls. They are so focused on what a girl is SAYING that they miss the meaning of what she is COMMUNICATING altogether. One of the major turning points in a man's transition from loser to lover is learning to hear what a woman is actually saying behind her words.
Yet, it doesn't stop there. There's another level, the animal level. That's the level of vibing and sexual communication. It's the level where words melt away and only bodies and feelings matter.
Most men access this level at times, usually (like most emotions) times largely outside of their control. It's only when a woman elicits the right feelings in a man. It's the same way that you must elicit the right feelings from a woman to put HER into a sexual state.
But, it is something you can control. And THAT is one of the gifts of the best naturals and the best seducers: a continuous sexual state.
How does it work? Mainly, I believe, it comes from viewing women differently from most men.
As a man builds up success with anything, he begins to associate certain feelings with it - the same principle behind anchoring feelings to a person, experience, or object. Likewise, as a man builds sexual success upon sexual success with women, he begins to feel strong feelings of sexual attraction just seeing the kind of women he's had success with. The right kinds of girls put him into an instant sexual state.
And sexual state compels a man to be more charming, more persistent, and ultimately, much more successful at soliciting sex from a girl.
He has confidence he will succeed because he's done it before and he can picture the basic steps he needs to follow to get there again.
Questions of rejection or anxiety are absent from his mind because he's focused not on any fear of failure, but on anticipation of success.
So what's the secret to achieving that kind of state, in lieu of having tons of conquests of a particular kind of girl? What if a guy wants to get sexual around exactly the kind of girl who's always shot him down in the past?
He has to imagine the conquest.
With long-standing mental blocks (i.e., "I can't get young girls, they won't go for a guy my age," or, "White girls / Asian girls / international girls / etc. won't go for me, they never do"), some time is necessary to overcome the barriers to entering a sexual state and picture the conquest. If a guy spends a month visualizing sexual success with the kind of woman he wants though, picturing in his head the steps it takes to get there, and the ultimate objective of having sex with her, and maybe even having a relationship of some kind with her, for ten minutes a day for a month, the block in his head will be gone and it will be easy to imagine success.
For guys who are already block-free, the next step is to picture the conquest on the approach, and on first meeting and while talking to a girl. Picture the conquest while touching her, while positioning yourself around her and in her space. Picture it when she steps away to go to the restroom.
What you'll find is you start seeing her not for her words, but for her feelings and her body. You view her as if you are an animal, and she is an animal, because you both are. You vividly picture stripping off her pants and bending her over and entering her pussy, and she can smell it in your sweat and see it in your eyes.
All because instead of focusing on her words and your conversation, you stop, and picture the conquest.