Randomness and Success

I'm almost finished reading a great book, called The Drunkard's Walk: How Randomness Rules Our Lives, by Leonard Mlodinow. Its premise is that all these things we attribute to skill are, most often, due to sheer luck.

Mlodinow throws up statistical analyses of CEOs, baseball players, and stock pickers to prove his point. In one particularly striking example, he shows the range of the best-to-worst performing mutual fund managers from 1991 to 1995. Most folks would attribute that to skill, of course, and say that those managers who were successful before will probably continue to be successful after, and those who were unsuccessful will likely continue that trend too. But when he keeps the managers in the same place on the chart and maps their success over the period of 1996 to 2000, it looks like near-total randomness. Hardly anybody performed as you would have thought based on past performance.

So that got me thinking. What is success and how do we achieve it, if so much of it is random?

Here's what I know: everything I've been very successful at, and all of the most successful people I know, are people who combined two traits: quality and quantity. In other words, they did the best job they could, as many TIMES as they could.

The way that relates to seduction is this: all the guys I know who are great are meeting women constantly. They approach so much it boggles the mind. Why so much? Because they are driven, and because they truly love talking to women. Certainly, with time and experience they've raised the quality of their attractive selves and the kinds of interactions they have, but QUANTITY is a key factor.

It's easy to get into thinking, "I'll just work on this or that and my results with girls will improve," or, "Once I get to this point, women will be all over me."

But one of the biggest factors of all is simply being out there to meet those women. So important.

That's not to say you can't improve with time and effort. You can, and you will, improve -- sometimes, dramatically. It IS to say you must GIVE yourself that opportunity to grow and change and improve by giving yourself a good quantity, a solid volume of opportunities to do it in.

So what are you waiting for -- why are you still sitting here reading this? Get out there and meet some chicks!

Chase