They are the stuff of legends… the true MASTERS of seduction. They truly knew how to seduce women.
Some of them are fictional characters, like Don Juan de Marco… others are historical figures that really existed, such as the infamous Giacomo Casanova.
Some may be guys we know personally… everybody has at least ONE friend that every girl in school was chasing after (and he probably hooked up with more than half of them too!).
Others may be guys you’ve seen at the club that seem to know everything there is to know about how to attract women… like that guy who was surrounded by beautiful women, all vying for his attention and trying to be the chosen one he would take home that night!
It can be hard not to get jealous…
But no matter whether your goal is to how to seduce women as well as these legendary Lotharios, or whether you just want to master your own dating life well enough to find one special girl… there is a LOT to be learned from a true master.
This is true for any craft, and it’s no different with seduction.
So let’s look at the ingredients that make true masters… and what we can learn from them, in order to reach our own highest potential!
How to Seduce Women: Mastery
Have you ever heard of George Leonard?
He was not a master seducer – not to my knowledge, anyhow (come to think of it, he might have been!).
Rather, he was a true master of Aikido, and a VERY proficient teacher.
He has worked with hundreds of students, always asking himself a very profound question:
“What makes the DIFFERENCE between a student who becomes a master and possibly even surpasses his teacher… and one who never reaches that level?”
He spent a considerable amount of time reverse-engineering the process of mastery… and if you want to really explore this topic in DEPTH, I highly recommend you check out his book, Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment.
Step #1. Instruction
One of the things that Leonard found out is that the FIRST and MOST IMPORTANT step on the path of mastery is good instruction.
Since you’re reading this, you obviously agree - you’ve already discovered that studying can be a short cut. That within minutes, you can upload into your brain what has taken somebody else years to figure out.
Think of it as a USB for your brain.
In these articles, for example, I can condense fifteen YEARS of my own experience - and you can get a lot of the benefit by reading them in fifteen MINUTES.
Taking advantage of other people’s experience can get you results faster, and also save you a lot of pain and frustration – because you also find out what NOT to do.
Why would anybody reinvent the wheel?
It’s already been done.
In fact, intelligence has been defined as “learning from OTHER people’s mistakes”.
Of course you could stop reading now and just go out… walk up to girls and talk to them… and undoubtedly, you would probably gradually get better at it.
That said, you will learn ten times FASTER if you get good instructions on WHAT to do as well, and combine theory and practice.
If you learn from somebody who has already BEEN there… somebody who has WALKED that same path.
He knows the pitfalls and can lead you around them; he knows the shortcuts and can show you how to improve more quickly.
There are two types of instruction: passive and active.
By passive instruction I mean that you simply consume the information you need, and then try to understand and implement it yourself.
It’s passive because it’s a one-way street… you’re not actively communicating with your instructor. (Reading would obviously be a form of passive instruction.)
The second type of instruction involves talking to somebody who already IS a master at the skill you want to acquire.
This can accelerate your learning curve many fold… every time you run into a problem, instead of having to dig through tons of information and read for hours in order to find the right answer, you can just ASK your coach.
He has already been in the same situation, so the solution is OBVIOUS to him… and he can just tell you.
What a concept…
You can solve problems in seconds this way, even when it comes to learning how to seduce women… problems that might take you hours or even weeks or months to figure out otherwise. Check out our page on pick up artist training for more on this.
Think of this as USB 2.0 for your brain.
Step #2. Practice, Practice, Practice…
…practice, practice, practice and more practice.
I totally just did NOT write that word often enough!
It would be nice if we could just read a book about seduction, hire a coach and start living the dating life of our dreams the next day (or heck, even the next month).
Unfortunately, that’s not how the world works.
Yes, the methods you learn here WORK. Chase, myself and many of our students have put them to use, and we’ve become the envy of our friends (and of most red-blooded males, really).
But, it does NOT happen overnight… and it requires a LOT of practice.
The good news:
The fact that we often say that somebody “is GOOD with women” implies that it’s something that can be learned. Hey, you can only be good at something that involves a SKILL… And skills can be improved.
The bad news:
Just like any skill, this one takes practice to develop.
If you want to become a master guitarist and have women throwing their panties at you when you’re on stage, you are going to have to “lock yourself in the shed” as musicians say… and WORK IT.
If you want to become a master at snowboarding, you have to get out there… a LOT. You will fall, you will get cold and wet, you might even break a leg… but that’s what it takes, and if you KEEP GOING, you will eventually become one of the best in the WORLD at it.
And it’s the same with learning how to seduce women.
So… just HOW MUCH practice does it take?
You may have heard of Outliers, a book by Malcolm Gladwell. In Outliers, Gladwell explains the 10,000 hour rule.
The long and short of it is this: if you spend 10,000 hours doing something, you will be considered a GENIUS in your field… you will be one of the best IN THE WORLD.
Sure, the Beatles were talented… but they also played more and longer gigs than just about any other band at the time – and eventually they got so good that people perceived them to be the best.
Whether you want to actually invest 10,000 hours of your time into your craft or not will depend on HOW GOOD you really want to get at it… and HOW BAD you want it.
But the fact is – the more time you invest, the better you will get.
If it takes that much work to master a skill, you will also have to choose wisely which skills you want to practice… life is short.
What is going to give you the life of your dreams?
Getting really good at the guitar?
How about this… getting really good at approaching the most beautiful women that cross your path, seducing them and having steamy hot affairs and amazing relationships with them?
Sign me up for that one!
Step #3. Understand The Plateau!
Another concept Leonard talks about in his book is that growth is not constant. We don’t get better every time we practice… at least we don’t seem to.
Every student, in every craft, goes through long phases where he works, studies and practices till he DROPS… without seeming to get anywhere. His skills just don’t appear to improve.
This is called the plateau.
But guess what happens if you keep practicing while you’re on the plateau?
Eventually, your skills will make a LEAP to the next level. Don’t expect to see a gradual improvement... that’s not how we learn. Rather, you will notice, at some point, that you are suddenly A LOT better than you were a few weeks or months ago.
Your abilities made a quantum jump.
And then… it starts all over again, and you stay on that level for a while.
It becomes your new plateau, and you keep practicing without noticing any significant results.
Here’s the secret though: the improvement REALLY takes place while you’re on the current plateau, NOT when you experience the spurt to the next one!
This is deceptive… and it can be discouraging if you don’t know about it.
So the next time you’re just not seeing results… the next time you think about giving up - remember what we talked about in “Never Give Up.”
Just remember, you’re probably just on a plateau… and the next spurt is inevitable, so long as you KEEP GOING.
You’re also probably nowhere NEAR the 10,000 hours yet… so stick with it, and results will come.
“Goals are in future and past. Practice is the present. To love the plateau is to love the eternal now.” – George Leonard
Step #4. Visualization
Olympic athletes have been using this technique for decades – the archer visualizes the arrow hitting square in the centre of Gold before he shoots.
The runner visualizes himself reaching the finish line first, and at a new personal best time.
The diver visualizes the perfect jump – before he even steps on the diving board.
You may have heard of the “basketball study”. Some participants were told to only practice throwing hoops, while others were told to only visualize it - without actually practicing.
The result: we now have solid scientific data, proving that visualisation works!
By the way, if you think you’re not good at visualizing... tell me this: without looking, what is the colour of your shoes?
How do you know?
You saw an image of your shoes in your mind, didn’t you?
...that’s all it takes.
So let’s look at how to use visualization to get better at meeting and seducing the women of your dreams.
There are two things you can improve with this technique:
- your inner game, i.e. your psychology and your self-image
- your outer game, i.e. your “technique” and the way you interact with women
Your Subconscious Mind And Women
As I already explained in the article about the keys to be charismatic, it is often much more effective to develop the right mindset and beliefs, than it is to memorize techniques and lines.
If you have the right outlook, the right words will almost magically come out of your mouth... maybe you will even surprise yourself!
If your self-image is lacking, on the other hand, no amount of memorization will save you – insecurities always betray themselves.
The problem is that this self-image is controlled by our subconscious mind... which means that by definition, we’re not aware of it, and also by definition, we don’t have direct control over it.
You can’t just tell yourself that you’re now confident, and now you know how to seduce women, and now you know how to do anything else you want to know how to do... if that worked, nobody in the world would ever be uncertain of anything!
You also can’t just decide that you are now great with women, hoping that women will notice the change in your behaviourisms - because all of this goes on beneath the surface.
So how can we affect the self image... how can we change what’s going on in our subconscious mind?
Programming Yourself For Success
To answer this question, we need to understand a crucial fact about how our mind works:
When we’re wide awake, our brain oscillates at a frequency of 15 to 40 cycles per second. This frequency is labeled “beta-waves”, and it means we’re alert.
In this state, our conscious mind stands guard, and the subconscious mind does not accept ANYTHING that does not match previous experience.
In other words, when you’re wide awake, and you try to tell yourself that you’re a super star womanizer, your conscious mind will go:
“Bullshit… no, you’re not.”
The command will never even reach the depths where your self-image is really stored.
When we are deeply relaxed, however, our brain waves go into ALPHA… the conscious mind is taking a break, and it’s easier to slip things past it.
Therefore it’s a lot more effective to visualize yourself with the traits you want to install after 10 minutes of deep breathing and relaxation.
The third type of brain wave is called Theta – it is even more effective to create change in the subconscious mind, and it’s associated to actually being a bit drowsy.
This is how hypnotherapists are able to influence their patients, and you can also take advantage of this state in the first few minutes after you wake up in the morning… and the last few minutes before going to bed at night.
Write down the ideal self image you would like to create. Maybe you would like to think of yourself as confident, secure in yourself and grounded (for more ideas, have a look at my article about making a good first impression).
Then take advantage of the alpha and the theta state EVERY DAY for at least a few minutes each, in order to affect your subconscious mind DIRECTLY.
Visualize yourself as being your ideal self.
As I said above, visualization is also very effective in practicing specific skills and techniques.
So when you’re done working on your self-image, take another few minutes to imagine yourself going out, approaching women and doing and saying the EXACT right things.
Imagine them giving you negative responses, and visualize yourself handling each one of them with ease.
Imagine them giving you positive responses, and visualize yourself getting the outcome you want.
How to Seduce Women Like the Greats: The PATH
We all admire people who are masters at their craft. We watch a football game and are amazed at the unbelievable skill level professional players have developed.
We see Shaolin Monks and marvel at the fact that human beings are even capable of performing these kinds of acrobatic – almost superhuman feats, that when performed by a master seem almost EFFORTLESS.
When we see master seducers in action, our first instinctive reaction however is often to look for the specifics of WHAT they say. We would love to just put a microphone on them and memorize every word that comes out of their mouth!
And while that can be effective to some degree, and while it also definitely helps to work on your conversational repertoire, there is a much more fundamental secret of becoming as good as these masters:
Walk the path of Mastery, Padawan.
- Get Instructions, study daily and find a mentor.
- Practice until you BLEED!
- Love the plateau, stay on course and BE PERSISTENT
- Visualize… anchor both your self-image and your techniques deeply into your subconscious mind
It is so simple, really.
On the path of mastery, all you ever have to do is take one step... You NEVER have to take more than one step at any ONE time.
What is the next step for you?
Is it to make the first phone call to that girl you’ve been nervous to dial up?
Is it to meet up with your friends and hit the clubs?
Do you need to hire a mentor to speed up your learning by a factor of ten?
Or do you need to schedule ten minutes daily to practice visualization?
Whatever it is, take the next ONE step… it will take you closer to your goal.
Then… do the Johnny Walker thing.
Learning how to seduce women at a mastery level isn’t an impossible goal, and it’s one that more men have achieved than you might realize. All it takes is time, discipline, a little elbow grease... and the determination to actually go and DO it.
Onward and upward,