How Much Effort Does Life Take?
Thursday, 10 July 2014
When I first read about the Law of Least Effort, it was as if everything suddenly made sense. I thought that learning about expending effort would put me leagues ahead of other men, as I knew that I didn’t have to act all crazy and get into these long-winded conversations to get with girls; I could just be like all those cool guys who had women chasing and crawling all over them.
Unfortunately, I took the definition of the Law of Least Effort a bit too literally.
I started expending next to no effort in an attempt to not appear try-hard. However, when you expend hardly any effort, you aren’t going to get any results.
Rather than achieving what I was setting off to do, I became a closed off and virtual unknown to women. I’d go out and see attractive woman, thinking that things would be so much better if I had them chasing me and carrying the conversation all on their own. I thought that by sitting around and doing next to nothing women would flock to me and up my cool factor exponentially.
After all – I was effortless, wasn’t I?
But women rarely approached me. When you’re risk averse and don’t put forward any effort, you won’t gain anything.
It turns out that I was missing one vital point of the Law of Least Effort. You must expend as little effort as possible while still achieving what you’ve set out to do.
Why Put Out Effort?
Typically, guys aren’t putting out much effort with women, and when they do try, they put out way more effort than is needed.
Outside of conversations, they aren’t doing much to improve their status with women. Their fundamentals are unattractive, they are stagnant, and they’re not improving their social status.
But when it comes to the point that they get into conversations with women, they’ll go all out in order to improve these women’s’ perceptions of their value. However, since effort is tied to power, a man doing this looks like he’s trying much too hard with these women. And they can sense this – he’s displaying that he wants them to view him as a guy with loads of value, putting women in the seat of power. They’re the ones screening him, increasing his investment in them and causing him to chase.
This, unfortunately, is all backwards. You should maximize your effort towards becoming attractive in the beginning to ensure that later on you can be effortless. This is why we encourage men to:
- Work on their fundamentals
- Go out and approach women
- Make mistakes and learn from them
- Become studious and review your interactions
At the beginning, this sounded quite odd to me. Why go out and put all this effort into things?
Again, this was coming from a mindset that was afraid of failure. I always viewed failure as an extremely negative thing, when it is indeed the fastest and best way to become a master at your craft. Without failure, you aren’t working on breaking out of your plateau. You need to push a little bit before you’re able to get over that hump.
And when you do get over that hump, you’ll understand that all that work was indeed for something. It was necessary to get to the level that you are at now.
Finding the right balance is all about this – completing tasks necessary to getting to certain levels. Then, once these tasks are completed, you can move on to being truly effortless. You can become the King who easily gets his way with things, rather than the Jester always working to impress.
How to Determine the Right Amount of Effort
These days, I tend to ask myself the following two questions:
- What do I want?
- How can I achieve it in the most effortless way possible?
A tangible goal is always necessary to determining your purpose in what you are doing. I attempt to define my goals extremely in depth to ensure that I am not leaving out something that is truly a part of my plan.
Once I’ve figured out what I want to do, I have to figure out a way to achieve my goal in the most effortless way it can still be achieved.
For example, I have the goal of creating long-lasting friendships with a lot of people. I have this goal because it benefits me emotionally to talk with a wide variety of people and get to know them.
In order to achieve this goal in the most effortless way possible, I still need to be putting out effort. However, this effort can be minimized by paying attention to what I am doing. I still need to get the attention of people, deep dive them, and get them investing in me. These are all vital parts in the process of getting to know them. And by knowing what to do, I don’t spend any extra time on what I shouldn’t be doing, such as small talk and having meaningless conversation.
Being directed in life limits what effort you may be extraneously expending.
By knowing what you want and are going after, you can cut out any of the fat that may be limiting you from achieving things.
I, for one, love getting things done in this way because it provides more time for doing the things that I want to do outside of fulfilling what is necessary of me.
I don’t want to be stuck working on a project for 10 hours when I could complete it in fewer than 2 hours.
Applied to Purpose
Now, if you really want to start looking at the substance of effort, you have to realize that you can apply the Law of Least Effort directly to most of your problems in life.
If you know what you need from life in order to be happy, and know how to get it in the most effortless way possible, it becomes very easy to come off as an extremely cool dude who doesn’t go around wasting his time complaining about issues arising in his life. Instead, you become the guy that constantly takes care of himself to ensure that those problems never show up.
These men are extremely attractive to people who may not be as steady and strong in their lives because of the rarity of the situation that a man isn’t suffering from emotional distress. And this is insanely attractive to women, as they rarely see a man so strong with so much conviction in his life.
If you want to start applying this to the purposes in your life, you have to know what those purposes are.
Chase lines this out brilliantly in “The Purpose of Life from a Practical Point of View.” He points out what our purpose keys are in life, and how they irrevocably tie back to one’s physical and mental well-being.
Take this and combine it with the Law of Least Effort, and you’ve got a potent vehicle to propel yourself to the top prospects, because you contain so much inherent value – and that makes you irresistible. Everyone wants to be around you. You’re the man.
Summarized, the three purpose keys are:
- Biological imperatives
- Emotional needs
- Logical wants
Next, we’re going to talk about making those logical wants into criteria that satisfy your biological imperatives and emotional needs. Because by doing this you can direct your life, which in turn limits your actual effort at getting things right.
Effortlessly Satisfying Biological Imperatives
We’re going to focus on satisfying biological imperatives first, as they are the base that needs to be satisfied before all your other needs. By satisfying all of these, you dramatically increase your base attractiveness. I cannot tell you how many people I have encountered that have failed to satisfy all of these.
Not only that, but these should always be the most important needs. Always ensure that these are being met, otherwise all your other goals will suffer.
Combing through the list of biological imperatives, I have lined most of them out in order to cultivate a complete understanding.
Remember, with a strong conviction that these purposes need to be fulfilled, you will automatically limit how much extra you are doing to fulfill what you need to fulfill. But there’s still a bit more we can clean up.
Without further ado, here they are:
This one seems fairly simple – don’t engage in activities that are inherently dangerous, right?
Unfortunately, there’s so much danger around every doorstep. There’s a possibility that death can occur around every corner, and being afraid that you’re not able to live life the way that will fulfill you emotionally is going to lead you down a pathway that takes away from your happiness.
So, what’s a man to do? If he truly wants to avoid death, he’s probably going to want to go along with the advice that the Lonely Island’s YOLO gives out:
Ensure proper nutrition/health
Next up in the biological imperatives is to ensure proper nutrition and health.
I largely talk about nutrition and health in “How to Build a Male Body That Drives Women Crazy.” Health and proper nutrition and irrevocably tied to not only your well-being, but also it is the most powerful fundamental that you can obtain. Fail to be healthy and you’re not going to be attractive to a wide variety of women.
This one largely comes down to understanding what exactly makes nutrition and health work. A lot of guys spend decades of research on this particular subject and still cannot give a definitive answer to what exactly works the best, but there are normalized ideas that come to mind when deciding how to manage your health.
Typically, it’s best to engage in a workout program as well as ensure that you are getting the recommended amounts of nutrients. You don’t have to be anal about maintaining this, because doing so would take a lot of effort, but do try to stay up to date on research findings.
The plan that I follow is fairly simple: eat enough that I feel full/energized, get the proper nutrition, and is easy enough for me to make. This obviously varies from person to person, but always make sure that you are getting the proper amounts of micronutrients (Vitamin A, C, etc.) and calories. If you haven’t taken the time to do more research on this, I highly suggest that you do so, as food is something that you absolutely need to function optimally.
Ensure proper sleeping habits
Proper sleep is something that I’ve completed a myriad of research on. I personally feel as though it is one of the most underrepresented in fundamentals, because it is not visible. You can see if someone is sick, dying, or out of shape, but someone who gets too little (or too much) sleep is obviously not going to be able to get the results that he desires.
I’ve found that the ideal for proper sleeping habits while still allowing enough room for other lofty goals is to engage in a sleeping schedule that is entirely natural to your body.
This TED talks video sums up most of my beliefs on sleep:
I, on the other hand, have a different take on avoiding death.
I believe that the prospect of death is the ultimate limit to your effort. If you can take effort towards satisfying your other imperatives that may be potentially dangerous, you can do so, but only if you are able to successfully navigate fulfilling all of your other biological imperatives and emotional needs.
For example, if I want to be respected by others, and I decide that the least effort pathway to succeeding in this regard is to teach men and women all around the world about negative mindsets and freeing yourself of them, then I’m going to need to travel by plane and car to succeed in the endeavor. Both activities have elevated rates of death as opposed to say, just sitting in my home and not venturing out to talk to these people, but such an effort is necessary to succeed in my goal.
Not only that, but the threat of death from the biological perspective is extremely imminent. You can engage in a wide variety of potentially dangerous activities, but you’re only going to jump into fight or flight mode if you can see that a very dangerous situation is occurring right now.
Anything else is just a logical measure at avoiding death, which has proven to be one of our most revolutionary tools for ensuring survival. Without being able to take calculated risks and avoid getting ourselves into dangerous scenarios that our reptilian mind takes over, we would be much like other species and die out because we could not plan ahead.
So, the ideal here is to avoid death in all situations that offer risk without reward.
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Essentially, because of our evolution around a 12 hour day and a 12 hour night, we are largely unprepared for current light cycles. Most of us stay up with light for times much longer than 12 hours because of the introduction of electricity to our societies. This messes with our internal clock system, known as the circadian rhythm for humans.
When we adapt abnormal sleep cycles from the introduction of this artificial light, we often lose quite a bit of cognition as well as proper hormone development, contributing to quite a bit of problems such as constant swings in emotions and inability to think clearly during the day.
In order to get past this, I highly encourage people to limit their use of artificial light. This is one of the most efficient ways at getting rid of improper sleep habits, because it prevents the cause of many sleep problems.
This is one that I struggle with even to this day, because it is very difficult to maximize your effortlessness with sleeping while also attempting to be effortless in social life. Go to bed at 9 and still be considered cool for going out to parties? Sounds pretty bad, right?
I still try and tiptoe between schedules that work for me, trying to make both of these work. Like avoiding death, sleep is often a compromise. You can ignore this biological imperative for short bursts, but I feel as though cultivating a social group and society around you that prefers to hang out and interact during daylight hours is your best bet at becoming the strongest man you can be.
In order to do these as effortlessly as possible, you’re going to have to constantly fight and work with them. It’s not a one and done endeavor – your biological imperatives follow you for your entire life.
As Arnold Schwarzenegger once said:
“For me, life is continuously being hungry. The meaning of life is not simply to exist, to survive, but to move ahead, to go up, to achieve, to conquer.”
Effortlessly Satisfying Emotional Needs
Next up in satisfying what you need in life is your emotional needs.
This is a large part of the social arts, and it is something that a lot of men do not understand. Many men go on conquests that sound like they’d be awesome, but they fail to relate these to their emotional needs.
I largely contribute this to a lack of focus on the emotional development of men, as it is typically taught that being an emotional man is a bad characteristic. But emotion is not something that you can simply deny as existing; it flows throughout all of us.
If you look back, I’ve already displayed an example of me cultivating a goal based around satisfying my emotional needs:
I want to create long-lasting friendships with people. Sounds great on its own, doesn’t it?
Only, I deliberately took the effort of relating this to my emotional needs. It sounds so great because it’s something that people quite often want. They want to be included with others, to be respected and loved by them.
Except, most think that the only way to achieve this is by sitting back and just letting things come to them.
However, you need to take action to ensure that you are included, liked, loved, needed, respected, revered, and understood.
It may take less effort for the person who grew up in a great family and receives all of these things unconditionally, but such a situation may not be true for you.
By following the Law of Least Effort, you need to expend the required amounts of energy to ensure that these are satisfied. Comparing yourself to others won’t get you anywhere, and thus is a waste of your time and effort.
I’ve found that the most effortless way to fulfill your emotional needs from others is to spend time around them. Emotional needs largely come from the necessity to interact with each other.
However, in this constantly developing society, we are increasingly separated. Almost nobody wants to interact with each other anymore, because everyone feels like their emotional needs are being unmet.
And they all depend on the other person to fulfill them.
My life completely opened up after I introduced myself to the life of being involved with others on an emotional level. I used to be the kid that would always be around people, but never deep dove them. We’d do activities together, but I’d never actually bond with them, because we were always working towards arbitrary objectives that had seemed more important at the time.
You absolutely must communicate with people on an emotional level in order to make it work. Talk about their dreams, your dreams. Get to know their past, and relate it to yours. Do everything you can to push past the small talk and talk about deeper things; maybe even talk about this awesome, deep article that you’ve been reading at a website called girlschase.com.
As of now, I can tell you that spending time with others develops and takes care of your emotional needs on a whole different level. Get involved with others, but stay on guard from those who are so emotionally gone that they cannot be retrieved – the social vampires – and you can find the least effort pathway to satisfying your emotional needs.
If you’re looking for a condensed version, here it is:
Understand the Law of Least Effort. Increase your effort to the level that is necessary to succeed in an endeavor. Once you’re able to succeed, figure out ways to make things more efficient. Don’t be afraid to fail.
Apply the Law of Least Effort towards satisfying your biological imperatives. Ensure that your biological imperatives are met and increase your base attractiveness, thus taking less effort to attract and bed women.
Apply the Law of Least Effort towards satisfying your emotional needs. Interact with people and get to know them on a deeper level. You’ll gain mountains of value and respect.
This piece has largely been an expansion and combination of two other topics on this website that have been thoroughly discussed: determining your purpose and the Law of Least Effort.
I have found that applying both of these to my life has turned me into an extremely productive guy who does what needs to be done.
It has set me on a path I can be proud of and 100% believe in, because I know exactly what I’m doing and how to do it without wasting time. Nothing is more powerful and attractive than a man with conviction who doesn’t waste time – or effort – in achieving his goals.
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