Ah, college – the land of ample, hassle-free social interactions and zero sexual inhibitions. For many men, there are very few times in their lives when they have so much sexual opportunity.
Yet, many of them don’t take full advantage of the number of hot college girls available to them. So today, I’m going to talk about how to up your game with these higher institution beauties, and take full advantage of the abundance that’s truly available to you.
The Prettiest Girl on Campus
I walked into one of the most frenzied parties I had experienced in my four years of college. It was dark. I could see only what was momentarily illuminated by the hazy flashes of strobes. It was hot. The air had a palpable stick to it, pushing against me as if I was wading through a humid bog. I made my way past figures stumbling their way to bathrooms and bedrooms, trapped in an inebriated stupor.
There, in the middle of the gyrating bodies and pulsating sound waves, she was. One of the most beautiful women I had ever laid eyes on. She was new. Having just transferred to our campus two weeks before, she was still finding her place. She was a charming, brown-skinned girl of Italian descent who was still acclimating to the intricacies of our school’s fetes. She was very likely the single most coveted object on those school grounds. Serena.
I could barely see, but I could certainly feel her sea-green eyes locking in on mine. My heart started to palpitate. I couldn’t help but imagine all of the guys who had been trying to seduce this girl nonstop for the last fortnight. I could only imagine how many tried to press up against her perfectly curvaceous body, how many tried to get but a touch of her soft skin, how many tried to get a whiff of her lavender scent during that night alone. Who was I to try?
But, for some reason, a strange brazenness came over me. A flood of memories of the girls I had already had sex with at parties began rushing to my head. Yes, she was stunning, but was she really that different? I wasn’t all that familiar with the seduction game at this point, but some part of me was compelling me to get her out of there. Maybe it was instinct; or more likely, the fact that her eyes were communicating a distant boredom in the midst of this pandemonium.
The Easiest Time to Seduce Hot Girls
Guys have many theories about seducing and dating hot girls. And a few guys (like Chase and the other writers on this site) actually know what they’re talking about. There are many interesting things that you will hear from guys regarding hot girls. But there are basically two main camps that men fall into on this subject:
Some men say that you should treat hot girls exactly how you treat any other girl; that there is really no difference between an absolutely stunning girl and an average girl.
On the flipside, other men say that you have to treat a hot girl completely differently. They assert that the reality of a hot girl is so different from that of other girls – constantly being on – that you have to take your game to the next level in order to get her.
So, which camp should you actually subscribe to? Which one actually is the right answer?
The truth: It’s somewhere in the middle.
You shouldn’t necessarily treat hot girls exactly the way you treat average girls. But the real reason isn’t what you would think. I bet what you would think is that you can get an average girl with subpar game, but such a thing wouldn’t work on a hot girl. Well if you think that, you’d be wrong.
The reality of a hot girl is somewhat different from an average girl. The biggest difference is probably the fact that guys are constantly doing favors for her for no reason at all. There is actually a really interesting psychological phenomenon that explains this behavior. It’s called the halo effect, and it is essentially the fact that people think that good-looking individuals are nicer, smarter, and stronger that their homelier counterparts – so people tend to just thrust rewards onto beautiful people without actually stopping to assess their flaws. And that’s pretty much the reason why men are compelled to swoon over beautiful women and “fall under their spell”. Sometimes, they really can’t help it!
But with a hot girl, are there actually droves of men getting sexual with her, truly making their intentions known and actively trying to seduce her? Absolutely not. Not even a shadow of a chance. Guys just assume that, because a girl is stunning, other men must be trying to sleep with her left and right. But the reality of the situation is that she just has droves of orbiters. She also has had decades and decades of validation to assure her that she truly is a stunning girl.
So, compared to an average girl, the hot girl’s reality is different in the sense that she has people constantly telling her how great she is and affirming her with unprompted gifts. And once you come to understand that, you learn that you have to relate with her on a human level, and not just compliment her for no reason – she is far too used to that business.
But in terms of the two camps, the truth is: it’s actually easier to seduce a hot girl much of the time – given that you do it at the right time. However, it’s much harder to seduce a hot girl…if you try to do it at the wrong time.
So when are the wrong times and when are the right times? Well, keep in mind that these rules are for beginners and low intermediates. Once you’re a master, you’ll know when the times are right, and you’ll be able to judge when you can break the rules.
The right times:
- During the day
- At a low-key night event
- When she’s by herself
- In class
The wrong times:
- At a bar or club
- At night when she’s on her way to a bar or club with friends
Notice that the only actual bad time to approach a stunning girl is when she is at a bar or club, or when she is on her way to a bar or club. It’s not that it’s not doable, but more that she has her shield up, her cockblock - ready friends around, and she’s screening for only the best men. However, when do 99% of guys try to approach or seduce a stunning girl? At a bar or club or when she’s on her way to such a venue. This is when guys have “beer courage,” and this is when they feel most able to approach hot girls.
And unfortunately, this is their one mistake. If they approached at any other time, their chances would increase tenfold. And, they would probably find higher quality women.
That’s it. That’s the only distinction. In fact, Chase wrote a choice article about day game vs. night game that pretty much encapsulates this idea.
However…there may be one place where these rules can be bent. There may be on bastion where even hot girls are attainable at nearly all times.
That place? College.
What’s So Special about College?
My feet began to move forward before I realized what was happening. Before I knew it, I was right next her. And before I knew it, I was shouting into her ear.
Me: Hey Serena, can I talk to you for a second?
She smiled. And then she shouted back.
I rolled my eyes in playful exasperation. I grabbed her arm and began leading her through the Bacchus festival and toward the closest door I could see. We walked outside, where we were met by a breath of soothing air. There was a light rain that night, providing both of us the ablution that we desperately needed. I looked into those eyes again. With a deep breath, I addressed her again.
Me: I’m Colt. I met you briefly last week. Do you remember me?
Her: Haha, yes I do! Great seeing you again Colt!
Me: Good seeing you too. How’s your night going?
Her: It’s been alright. I’ve been to a few parties – pretty fun I guess.
Me: Nice, nice. Well, I saw you in there, and it didn’t look like you were having all that much fun. So I thought I’d offer to have you come hang out with me at my house for a while. I live right across the street. Interested?
Her: Yes! That sounds great!
Me: Alright, let’s do it.
In terms of lifescapes, there are two times in a girl’s life when she will most readily welcome the advances of men: when she’s in college and when she’s around her thirties. Despite the fact that she’s looking for men during both of these times in her life, there are very different reasons and mindsets that she’s considering during each period.
During college, she is in a mindset of exploration. It’s a whole new world for a girl. A world without parents, a world with complete autonomy, and a world of budding sexual maturity.
In her thirties, she is in a mindset of desperation. She’s already sowed her wild oats, and she is getting antsy about meeting a quality man, settling down, getting married, and having a family. She wants what all women truly want.
And in terms of men who approach them, women in these different stages are looking for much different things from the men in their lives. Fortunately, with the college part of the equation, you can be nearly any man and find success with women.
Small Schools vs. Large Schools
It’s important to note that all schools are not created equal. There are certainly some marked differences between small schools and large schools that you should be aware of in terms of hot girls.
Fewer Truly “Hot” Girls. Girls at small schools are usually there to focus on their education or to play a sport. And at a small school, you definitely have to adjust your scales of attractiveness. That being said, there will definitely be a handful of stunning girls. But, because they are so few, every guy will be trying to get those girls. The competition will be stiff.
Girls Have More Depth. What small school girls may lack in physical beauty they definitely make up for in personality. These girls are often intelligent, cultured, funny, and truly deep individuals. They are girls that you will thoroughly enjoy spending time with.
Easier to Have Social Proof. At smaller schools, everyone kind of knows everyone; so if you’re smart, smooth, good-looking, or talented, people will know who you are. And as such, a lot of times you can approach girls – though they may play dumb – who often already know all about you. This fact makes your job a lot easier to take these girls to bed.
Slimmer Pickings at Parties. Once you’ve been to a party or two at a small school, you realize that you generally see the same people all of the time. This means that there are just fewer women to try to bed – especially due to the fact that guys know which girls are more willing, and will act accordingly. As such, you’re best chances will often come outside of traditional parties, unless you’re at one of the big parties that go down every so often or are at the top of the social ladder.
Many Hot Girls. At a large school, you can find any kind of girl. Some will be there to learn. Some will be there to party. Some will be there because they have to. But there will be thousands of them, and there will be a much higher concentration of hot girls.
Harder to Find Depth. Some of these girls will be those who have only gotten by because of their looks. Some will be druggies. Some will be nice, but just not smart enough to have gotten into a more elite school. Here, the script is completely flipped. It will be harder to find deep girls, but it’ll be easier to have more frequent sex. Many girls will just be looking to have fun and hook up, which means great odds for you as a willing man.
Harder to Have Social Proof. Because of the sheer number of people, getting social proof will be harder unless you are at the highest social echelon. However, the upside of this fact is that with greater anonymitycomes a greater array of girls. At a smaller school, everyone knows everything you’ve done – for better or worse. So the ease of information can prevent you from seducing a girl because she already knows your history. However, this is not really an issue at a large school, which can make your life a lot less stressful.
Easier to Have Preselection. Since there are so many girls at a large school, and people are looking to comingle, it’s easy to create a network of female friends. And if you roll into parties with a horde of girls, or you are seen constantly hanging out with girls, this simple act will boost your preselection without you having to do too much work.
Big Parties Constantly. Not only do you have a constant rotation of new girls, there are big parties every single weekend (and often weekdays) where you can try your luck.
In many ways, larger schools are more representative of real-world cities, and small schools more representative of small towns and tightknit communities. Each has its advantages and drawbacks. You probably shouldn’t be picking a school based only on the party culture, but it is something good to be aware of if you’re heading into college or are already attending one.
The Easiest Way to Get Hot College Girls
In college, it’s important to realize that hot girls are looking to hook up just as much as average or cute ones. So they are much more forgiving of average game than their graduate counterparts. As such, the tips for getting a hot girl in college can be applied to any girl of your particular desire.
Join a Fraternity. I was the president of a fraternity, and I can tell you that this is by far the easiest way to consistently have sex with hot girls in college. The Greek system does an amazing job of fostering interactions (both sober and not-so-sober) between men and women, and fraternity men have a certain coveted dominance that so many college girls go for, regardless of whether or not this is partly fiction. Furthermore, sorority girls are usually involved in a panoply of organizations, so they are much more outgoing and socially skilled than their non-Greek counterparts.
Approach Girls in Class. Chase wrote a great article about flirting with and dating girls in class. How do you find a smart, driven, attractive girl at your school? Chances are she’s sitting a few seats away from you. So approach her. She’s waiting for you.
Go to a Lot of Parties. A college girl has to be extra ordinarily promiscuous to be slut-shamed. All college girls recognize that their friends are looking to hook up. And many hot college girls use the college party as their sexual outlet. You don’t need that much game to get a girl in this environment. All you need to do is be fun and lead her to a place where the two of you can be alone (and sometimes that isn’t even a requisite). If you want a full process on hooking up at parties, read my post on the subject.
The one thing that I would add to that post is dance floor hookups are much easier – and usually actually lead to sex – in college. If you go to a party and you’re grinding with a girlfor a good part of the night and actually start to make out with her, this can end up with sex more often than not – as long as you take it there.
Join Clubs/Intramurals/Teams. The easiest way to meet girls during those wonderful college years is to expose yourself to as many different social spheres as you possibly can. And if you want to increase your social exposure while broadening your horizons, there is no easier way to accomplish this feat than to join a club, intramural sport, or collegiate team. You can learn and improve yourself while meeting girls who are curious and share your interests.
Get Preselection/Social Proof. If a girl already knows who you are, or sees you with a bunch of other girls, you automatically become one of the most valuable guys in the room. And where do the girls go? Where the value goes.
Use Any Excuse to See Her. I once had a hot college girl text me about how she “wanted to borrow one of my shirts for a party”. I knew she liked me, and I knew this was a thinly veiled attempt to see me. The wonderful thing about college is that if a girl wants to see you, you can use any excuse to do so. Homework; advice; a picnic; a walk; throwing a ball; listening to music; pre-gaming; smoking; going to a lecture; walking your dog – it doesn’t matter. Just get her in person and you’ll be fine as long you learn to be a sexy man.
Lead and Close. Things may be easier in college, but you still have to lead and close. Take her somewhere where you can be alone with her and escalate physically. That’s the only way that sex will happen.
Serena was sitting in my room. She seemed happy and relaxed – much more at ease than she had been at the party. I couldn’t believe that one of the most beautiful girls on the entire campus was sitting right next to me. And more so, I couldn’t believe that it only took a few words to get her there.
I expected that this scenario would play out like many other of my party hookups. I’d serve her some chocolate liqueur – a precursor of things to come – deep dive her for a little while, start touching her, and then escalate to the hot and steamy part.
And things were going according to plan – down to the tee, in fact. But something unexpected soon happened. Serena pointed to one of the philosophy books on my table; she told me that the book was one of her favorites. She then shared her thoughts on a few of the author’s complex philosophical theories.
My mind had been prepared for many things. It was prepared for last minute resistance; it was prepared for her saying that she had to get back to her friends; it was prepared for her saying that she didn’t want to have sex; it was prepared for saying that she didn’t know me well enough; it was prepared for her getting up and leaving.
It was not prepared for her having intricate knowledge on my senior project; it was not prepared for her regaling me of tales of her world travels; it was not prepared for her adroitly deep diving me. I was speechless. We did get physical. We did get sexual. But for many reasons that had absolutely nothing to do with her body or her physical appearance. Serena made that night one of the most memorable of those entire four years.
Getting College Girls When You’re Not in College
Out of college? Never went to college? Still want to hook up with hot college girls? You definitely can. Earlier I said that college is a time of exploration for many girls. That means that they are truly open to a world of possibilities. I know plenty of college girls who hook up with older guys or guys who don’t attend their school. I would say that this phenomenon is more prevalent at bigger schools simply because there is far more social intermingling.
So, if you want to get a hot college girl when you yourself are not in college, take one of two routes:
Approach on Campus. It’s surprisingly easy to walk around a college campus and approach girls. People are there to be social and get approached for various reasons all the time. Girls will rarely question your presence. This method is great for getting a number or going on an instant date.
Go to a College Bar. There are bars in every city that college students frequent. So if you want to find hot college girls, go to these bars. These bars will tend to be wild, high-energy, and great for finding girls looking to find you.
I don’t believe that college should be the best part of your life. Life is long, and there are many adventures to be had. But it’s certainly a highlight. If you do it right, you’ll be having fun, expanding your horizons, and…sleeping with hot college girls. And hey, you might even learn something.