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How to Have Safe Sex with Women You've Just Met

safe sexIn this article, I will share some advice on how to have literally safe sex. “Safe sex” does not only mean knowing how to avoid STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) or unwanted pregnancies – there are also many more risks out there to be aware of.

Now, I hope I will not scare you away from seducing women – that is not my purpose. In most cases, casual sex does not lead to any dramatic consequences, but, very rarely, they do happen. In this post I will share some advice that will reduce the risk of any negative consequences from having casual sex.

Again, most of the time, you will be fine. Serious consequences from having casual sex occur rarely, yet they do happen, and if you have forgotten to read this post, you may regret it later. Fact is, this post might not be the most exciting to read, but it will cover some simple tools that allow you to have a lot of fun without worrying.

Alek RolstadAbout the Author: Alek Rolstad

Alek Rolstad launched his pickup career at age 14, an early starter and seduction savant. His unique style of game focuses on “sex talk”: a way to make sex the primary topic of conversation. Sex talk lets the user excite girls rapidly, and filter for girls open to fast, raunchy, kinky one-night stands and sex. Alek plans to offer phone coaching to students of Girls Chase soon… Just as soon as he can find somewhere to hold phone calls on sex talk and threesomes where he won’t be shocking his roommates.

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Cody Lyans's picture

Nice one Alek
Just had to say

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Alek Rolstad's picture

Glad you liked it!

Atra's picture

Hey, Alek and girlschase team!
I don't know if you have many female fans, bur I'm one of them for sure!
I second what you say about rape and staying relatively sober and backing off after three attempts are very sound and wise advices.
However, I'm wondering if you have some thoughts about the following related subject: while it's extremely important to understand and respect boundaries, in my experience many men are *too* aware of this, which makes them to careful and inhibited towards women, and that's not a good thing either. Perhaps this could be the subject of a future blog post?

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Alek Rolstad's picture

Hi there. I really hope we have some female fans.

Either way, I am glad that you as a female enjoy reading our blog. This is much appreciated.

Onto your question:

I agree with you, a lot of men are being too careful - including myself some times to time. On the other hand, try to understand our situation: "if we do something wrong we get jailed". Not every females are good at saying "no", so for us men it is very hard to tell wether she is up for it or not. A women regretting having sex with a male is per definition a rape.

We men enjoy having sex, and we crave it, but we are still being careful. The rape hysteria that takes place in the western world scares men away (including myself) from making a move.

In a perfect world, men would be totally dominant (in the sexy way) and lead the female to bed. But in a perfect world, the female will also do a good job at giving the right signals.

Fact is... it is not only men's job to move things forward. Yes in the mating game men are programmed to lead thing forward and make a move and women submit if they want to.

But womens task is to give signals. I am not saying that giving mixed signals is a bad thing, it surely is a good tool of attraction. But once the male is attracted to you (and you are attracted to him), make sure you give him a good signal - make it easier for him to isolate, escalate and penetrate.

I am not a female, and I surely don't know much about picking up men. But what I do know from being with very attractive homosexuals is that being hard to get and giving mixed signals is the tool of attraction - and like everything else, do not overdo it. Once the male is attracted, you need to communicate non-verbally what you want to happen. If you want to have sex with him, don't make it hard for him. Don't resist too much. Believe it or not, when I get 0 resistance and I feel that this woman really appreciate my presence, I feel confident to be very dominate and crazy. If a women start showing some resistance I automatically start being more careful.

Men are as scared of being accused of being a rapist as women are of going home with men that might be psychos. The world is sadely not perfect.

PS: I just sent in an article for editing that might be as useful for men as for women. It will be about preparations before going out clubbing - how to look best, how to feel the best way you can and so on.

Thanks for your comment.
-Alek

Atra's picture

Hey Alek!
Thank you for Your reply! I think you're right, men are scared of being accused for rape. Being dominant demands being good at picking up social cues and interpeting signals, which isn't always easy either.
Perhaps you could do a blog post some time about what the woman of Your dreams would do? If you have a female readership. that would be helpful to guys too!

Troy's picture

Alek,

Nice article. Before reading this I thought it would be a review of those other article links you mentioned but you still had quite a few more tricks up.your sleeve.

One thing I would like to add is that on the rape part, for younger guys like myself ( I'm 18 ) to avoid rape, watch your age and the girls you having sex with. In many countries, if the girl is under 16, and the man is just 16 to 18 and so on, then it's more likely that a girl will accuse you of rape and send you to jail.

I'm a athlete at my school and I have seen two other high school guys go to prison and for having sex with two 14 year old girls. The trouble ain't worth it.

I have a few more things to say but I'll post that on the forum and you can read it there when I do.

Anyway, I enjoyed this article so keep writing Alek.

Troy

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Alek Rolstad's picture

Well I like going deeper on articles that are populare, but i don't feel guilty of recycling articles.

When it comes to your question, I can sadly not give you any answers, as in my country things are not so strict. This problem hasn't occured to me when I was younger - and I started out with hte art of seduction at the age of 15.

What I suggest to you is tht you post on the forums, where you will find someone who has dealt with your situation. I might also just ask just_dave to give you an answer (if he has one)

What I do recommend is to try to pick up older women. Believe it or not, it is not that much harder! Usually every barriers are in your head (and I will admit, it can be scary) but when i was 18 I usually ended up with women in the beginning of their 20's (and once when I was 17 i had sex with a 44 y old woman - a little gross, but fun to try out).

Honestly, just do your thing, don't be ashamed of your age, and don't lie about it. You will get tested for your age, but learn how to handle it. For example tell her that "you are young and full energy" or "that you are the only one here that can make her feel younger".

I will check out your forum posts when I have time, but believe it or not, writing up articles actually takes some times (4 hours if your wondered). But that's not a problem for me as I enjoy doing so.

Glad you liked the article.

-Alek

David Riley's picture

Hey Troy,

If you can specifically send me the link to your forum post, I will be more than happy to take a look at it for you.

Side note: One thing I always mention to guys once they turn 18 in the states, stop having sex with younger girls. I don't care how "cool" you guys seem or how close you are. Until she is 18, do not touch her. I remember my senior year of high school there was a 15 year old who just transferred schools and she had Double D's. She was into too, but I refused to touch her. I had so much to lose and was about a couple weeks from graduating. Basically what I am saying, is you have so many more options in women once you turn 18 yourself.

Like Alek mentioned sleeping with girls older than you is not that hard to be honest. I've slept with 22 year olds before my 19th birthday because of my fundamentals. Just because a girl is older does not mean is harder to get, and just because a girl is younger doesn't make her any easier to get. Remember to always be considerate of your future. No matter how "cool" things seem, I've seen way too many of my friends be taken to jail because the guy lost interest.

Stay focused,

Just Dave

Oswald Haynes's picture

I've been wanting to send you guys an email to talk about this subject turns out Chase has one out already but Im glad you have this article out to inform us of the dangers. I did hesitated to send the email cause I thought it would scare most guys from seducing women.

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Alek Rolstad's picture

Hah, Glad you enjoyed it.

I agree, I also feared that it would scare away guys from guys from picking up women. But again, I have been into the art of seduction since 2007 and nothing dramatic has happened to me, nor anyone of the other veterans that i know in person. Just be on your watch, stay sober and take some precautions and you will be fine.

-Alek

Anonymous's picture

Alek,
Fantastic post .Especially i totally agree with the psychotic girl part. I have been there once and it literally me a hell out of my life.Drama queen. any way lesson learned.

keep up the good work

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

Avoiding drama queens is the best way to go if possible. It can be hard at times but warning signs come with the experience. Sounds like you got the experience and you learned from it. Hope it does not happen again.

Take care,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Chase, I found myself in a weird situation, on Saturday just gone. After few drinks with friends, I went to a kebab shop to get something to eat to soak up some of the cider, I met a woman at the kebab and ended up getting a cab back to her place. In the cab she said she wasn't going to suck my duck, I replied you don't have to, not wanting sound desperate for sex. She had left her boyfriend in town with his mate, I wanted take her back to mine, however we ended up at her place we had couple of drinks, and she was giving me the come on, in between her getting changed to come back to mine. Whilst waiting for her, the boyfriend walks in with his mate pizza in hand, the guys offering me pizza, she walks in the and as bold as brass she says I was seriously thinking of going to his ,to suck his dick, whilst pointing at me, the look on the guys face said it all. I just sat calmly waiting for the ensuing fight, it never came. All I could think was, guy get some self respect and fuck that narcistic dangerous bitch off, with that I calmly walked past them said to her, without looking at her if you want to come its up to you. I then calmly walked out thinking of my own esteem.

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Alek Rolstad's picture

Well, I think she wanted to have sex with you, but once her boyfriend came back home, she tried to give some dumb excuses for protecting her relationship and reputation.

Honestly, you should be glad you didn't fuck this girl. She would have caused more problems than you would have imagined. I think you did the right thing - I would have done the same.

I know you most likely would have gotten laid, but think about it - she was giving you a lot of red flags and in the end of the day, she wasn't worth it really.

But guess what, shit like this happens - even to really experienced players. At least your are now closer to be able to claim that you've seen it all. In the end of the day you will look back at this even and laugh about it - "i remember once that fuck up chick...".

Also keep in mind that you can use this as a cool story to tell girls next time you head out - I think it will generate into some good laugh. Women swallow such stories like candy!

-Alek

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Alek Rolstad's picture

Hi everyone. You Might have noticed that I haven't replied to my earlier posts. The reason being was that I had some login trouble. either way, I have read your comments and based many of my future posts on them.

Either way, Now I can comment again but keep in mind that Just_dave will also help me out commenting. so most likely you will get your questions answered by one of us.

I you guys are all ok with it, and again I am truly sorry!

-Alek

David Riley's picture

Agreed, generally if you guys ask for a specific author to answer your posts, I normally wait a day or two to see if the author wants to respond before I jump in.

Very great article Alek!

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

I have a question semi-related to this topic. In the latest Bond movie, Skyfall, Bond is in a casino talking to Serviance. Is this the bedroom eyes and voice that you guys have talked about using on a girl to ramp up her sexual desires?

I don't know if this is bad or not, but lately I find myself being real casual with women I interact in the service industry, like baristas and checkout clerks at the supermarket. I also stare deeply into their eyes with a slight smile just starting to form, but only momentarily to avoid creeping them out. I do this a) as a result of my confidence increasing over time and b) because I feel damn good about myself knowing that I am a sexy man (assuming attraction interest from her from the get-go, per Chase's article), able to get her wet. (I wasn't always like this. For the longest time, I felt unmanly.) Is this something you recommend doing also in casual conversation with (even if she has a BF already) because you never who if another girl is watching, which might make it easier to meet her later?

Thanks.

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

When I know for a fact that a girl doesn't have a boyfriend or I personally don't know her boyfriend I take the initial James Bond approach. Now if she's a girl from my social circle I take the Sherlock Holmes approach. What I mean her is I'm more playful without being over threatening to my mate. I don't get to close to the girl, I've had friend's girlfriends whom I met who were being "too" friendly. I attempt to distance myself. At the end of the day it's all a matter of preference and how initially close you are to the boyfriend. Sometimes I flirt with girls who have boyfriends just for practice. I don't let it go further than that, just out of respect for my fellow men. Hope that helps.

Take care,

Just Dave

Xander's picture

Hi Alek, good informative article. I have a
question regarding this section of the article:

Keep in mind that in order to test positive for HIV, you need to wait two month for the virus to incubate. That waiting time, if you feel that you are at risk, can literally kill you – so better to just be on the safe side and protect yourself in the first place.

What exactly do you mean by this?
Sounds like you need to wait 2 months for
anything to show up but if you wait 2 months
it could be deadly?

If there is anyway to clarify that I would appreciate your help.

Thanks!
X

David Riley's picture

Hey Xander,

I believe Alek is leaning towards is the amount of stress you feel leading up to the test could drain and zap your energy, You may be physically well during that time but you're not mentally well. This is because of the added stress that HIV will bring to your life.

Hope that helps,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

About the STD part on how to avoid it, is there any visuals to better put my eye into good use?

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

Pictures of STDS

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Hi Alex, The article was informative did not know Herpes could spread even when using Condoms. I always use condoms and thought that should be enough. will need to look out for this as well

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

That is in fact the very reason why some people avoid disclosing that they have the disease. They do it out of fear of being rejected. The ironic thing about condoms if they're supposed to prevent pregnancy but they can barely do that right. On a positive note I read online that they're developing condoms that can protect from HIV.

Just Dave

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