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How to Check Out a Girl Openly and Turn Her On

A reader named Nick writes in with the following question, wondering how to check out a girl:

Hey Chase,
        Love the site! Incredible and concise/no B.S. information! I didn’t see where to shoot you a questions but I was interested in your take on checking out women. Is there a right and wrong way to do it. One that makes them feel sexy and shows my masculine presense vs just being another guy chicking out a great ass or pair of phenominal tits. Would love to see an article on checking out women the right way so that both parties (especially me) enjoys it. I live in NYC and it’s coming up on good weather. It’s sometimes hard (pun intended) not to look. Cheers!

Nick

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The short answer to Nick is yes – there absolutely is a way to check her out in a way that makes you come off strong, masculine, and sexually appealing, and that turns her on and makes her excited to be getting checked out by you.

And there are also plenty of ways that instantly make you “just another guy” checking her out, too.

What’s the difference? It’s what we’ll discuss in this article.

So let’s have a look at how to check a girl out in a way that actually turns her on, and makes her want to get to know you – rather than the opposite.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.

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Marty's picture

Chase:

I enjoyed this article.

For the past few years, I've been living in the Sun Belt, where it is necessary to wear sunglasses outdoors in the daytime for most of the year, especially if spending extended periods in the open air such as when conducting street game, or face extreme discomfort.

This plays havoc with all eye-contact and checkout-related issues, both for the man and for the girl.

There's not much I can do to control when a girl wears her sunglasses, but what would you recommend for the man? For example, if performing checkout maneuver #1 described above (using peripheral vision only), would you advocate taking off the sunglasses or moving them on top of my head, so that the girl can SEE I'm not looking at her directly?

Thanks for your suggestions.

-Marty

David Riley's picture

Hey Marty,

I would not recommend taking off your sunglasses when checking a girl, if it gives you a more mysterious vibe. Women will be more curious about if you're actually at them or not. This will raise their attraction level to you. When you're actually conversing with a girl, yes you can remove the sunglasses.

Hope that helps,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Chase, I have difficulties in taking
the Girls Chase diagnostic quiz.
When I go through the test, weird things happen
like questions I have already answered repeating themselves.
Also, when I tried to download, for instance, the beginner's guide,
it was unsuccessful. It is not my internet speed or whatever cause
I tried to take it using different wifi connections.

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

I'll let Chase know that the diagnostic quiz isn't working. For now I recommend switching to a different browser and see if that helps.

Just Dave

Gentle_Phrases's picture

Hey Chase,

I've experienced your moves here in person. The other day on the subway this Columbian girl that I opened did the "slow, sexy check-out" move on me combined with the eye lock after and a wicked closed mouth smile: you could imagine it as the type of grin an evil, mad genius would have if they knew a secret that could destroy the entire universe but there was no way they'd tell you what it is. See this link for the look I'm talking about:

http://www.scientificamerican.com/sciam/cache/file/EDBDD1E6-6B01-4850-81...

If that doesn't work you can google "Scientific American 7 deadly sins cover"

I nearly had a heart attack when she did it, man. I managed to maintain eye contact but it was like my mind was a whiteboard and she just wiped everything clean. Only time that ever happened before was when a Brazilian girl did the same. Think I might be going on a Zphix binge soon...

QUESTION

Chase, I've had a few approaches (including that Columbian girl) where the woman would look away multiple times and give that same closed mouth "devastating secret" smile while staring off into space away from me for 10-20 seconds. It was never during a lull in conversation - it was when I was talking. Sometimes it was like they'd zoned out and were just reminiscing about some great sex they had with Brad Pitt last night or something. Every time...I froze and just stopped plowing on with conversation. Sometimes for minutes (if it was on public transportation). If I re-opened they would engage me once more, no problem. What gives???? Were they signs for me to keep talking or were they signs to gtfo?

To see another example imagine this face. The girl is NOT looking at you for what feels like an eternity as you speak, yet smiling to herself. In fact it's like she's decidedly avoiding your gaze. Otherwise, everything is the same, even the head tilt:

http://zaangels.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/02/coy-smirk-4.jpg

Whenever this happened, it felt as though the woman was communicating "okay bud, you're trying, A for effort, but this ain't happening. I'll be polite and give you the sexy cold shoulder until you get the message since there's people around and I've gotta ride this train." I've noticed that even if I look at the girl as she does this, she won't look at me. She wont even move her eyes. She'll just stare ahead, smiling all the while. After it's clear I've shut up, I notice that they'll break out the phone lickety-split

I know you have an article on signs she likes you, hot-cold, etc. Thing is, do you have one breaking down female facial expressions that are common when you are rocking it in set and when you're burning down in glorious flames?

David Riley's picture

Hey Phrases,

I will let Chase and the other writers know about the article on female facial expressions.

For now, what I would recommend is seeking compliance from these girls. I would suggest asking to see their nails, ring, or necklace. I would also ask if these girls are single. I would also recommend deep diving to build more of a connection with them. When the conversation starts fading off, that's when you want to pull. Grab her number and suggest a meet up. Those are some of the best sure fire ways to keep a girl's interest and see if she likes you.

Just Dave

Gentle_Phrases's picture

Sweet man - I'd love to see something like that.

Also, you're right about checking for investment to see if she's interested - d'oh. For some reason I forgot about that in the moment ;-D

David Riley's picture

Hey Phrases,

No worries, I'm here to help everyone out.

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

This is the shaving scene from Skyfall. When Bond first opens the door, Money Penny checks him out (because he's only wearing a towel). Later, Bond uses his bedroom voice and obviously looks down as he is about to undo her blouse buttons.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&ei=5QiOU97yD4ahogSa14Co...

David Riley's picture

James is a very sly man, that a lot of guys can truly learn from.

Author
Chase Amante's picture

Perfect, Anon - I've just included it!

Chase

Anonymous's picture

Having to resort to using peripheral vision to maximize success with women seems to be a north american thing. I too have noticed that women look at you hard when you're not looking at them directly. But the minute I directly look at them and they lock eyes with me, even if I smile from across the room, I rarely get a smile back or an approach invitation.

I prefer to look at people and catch their gaze and then smile and then begin conversing if they smile back. To me this is simple. I went to South America and I was stared down like a piece of meat. People there weren't afraid to stare at all or to let you know that they were looking at you.

This article seemingly confirms that Americans are afraid to (directly) look at each other like how some people in other countries do...

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

I would agree Americans have overall very passive eye contact compared to other regions of the world. Americans are very threatened and intimidated by eye contact, they're afraid of someone invading their space. This why you'll normally see people avoiding direct eye contact on the street. I guess shrug it off and say hi to people, it helps ease them and gets them to relax more. Sometimes Americans can be very uptight and can't socialize normally. Women appreciate meeting a man who's strong and isn't afraid to make eye contact.

Just Dave

King Me's picture

Wouldn't this contrast with those direct openers like, "I SAW you standing there and I just had to come and say that you have the best looking dress I SEEN all day" like that? Since we just told her what she looked like directly and obviously we LOOKED at her meaning that we just lost our playing cards?

David Riley's picture

Hey King Me,

The good thing about that opener is she knows your intentions. You have a valid reason for approaching. She won't be wondering five minutes from now why you're actually talking to her. She'll know that you find her attractive and actually wanted to talk to her. She'll appreciate the fact that you had the courage to approach her. Remember openers are meant to get you through the door. You still have to frame the interaction as sexual and gauge her attraction to you. Some women just like attention and don't want to hook up. Your openers help gauge her interest level better for you.

Take care,

Just Dave

Juan Carlos's picture

I had a girlfriend and we had great moments together. I was her first boyfriend. She left me for a guy who was a unemployed lazy guy who seemed very boring and unattractive. I am really confused by this because she really downgraded. I was an alpha male who had great fundamentals and was a very fun loving guy who cared for her. I think she just went head over heels with that guy and jumped the gun with me. Why would a girl dump me for him?

David Riley's picture

Hey Juan,

I'm sorry to hear about that. Women do things that don't make sense to men all the time. One of her needs probably weren't being met, and she found someone else. It's very tragic and unfortunate when this happens. To prepare better for the future here's a article Chase wrote about four ways to lose a girl.

http://www.girlschase.com/content/4-things-will-lose-you-your-girlfriend

In the meantime don't hesitate to get back out their and find a better girlfriend.

Take care,

Just Dave

Andreas's picture

Can somebody explained to me how is it possible for this to happen - "Conversely, some women you may not get a sexual vibe with until hours into a conversation, or maybe not even at all until after you’ve already slept with them."

I didn't know it was possible to sleep with a woman before she finds you sexually attractive.

Is this possible?

David Riley's picture

Hey Andreas,

It's possible I would often find myself making out and fingering girls at parties were my vibe was more fun and energetic. It was until we got alone that I would further ramp up my sexual vibe. I've a couple girls where I didn't get sexual vibes with until after I slept with them because I was going for a more cute approach. For instance I had met them in front of their friends or with their family. So I couldn't go for a strong sexual vibe. When people are watching I tend to dial back so the girl doesn't put up a wall. The kind of wall you face for anti slut defense. Overall thought I would encourage going for a sexual vibe whenever possible because it increases the likely hood of you sleeping with her.

Take care,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase,

I saw sort of what you described in Man of Steel near the ending: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vBt8fqYTxLo

right after she says: "Welcome to the Daily Planet"

Hopefully that's what you described.

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

Good find!

Just Dave

Author
Chase Amante's picture

Anon-

That's a loud and clear one for sure! It's in the article body now.

Cheers,
Chase

Wess's picture

Hi Chase,
Brilliant article! One question, though. Am I not to check a girl out at all when first meeting her? I'm talking about the time between I use my peripheral vision to check her out up until I use the smooth, sexy check out method.
I understand the importance of not getting caught, but what if I'm sure she won't notice, like if she's turned around and bending over and I look for a thousandth of a second? I'm obviously exaggerating, but you get the gist.
Is it ok to take a peek if I know I won't get caught, so I can better gauge her looks?
Thanks,
Wess

David Riley's picture

Hey Wess,

I joke with my friends about this all the time if she's bent over and has a mirror in front of her, you're all good to look at her ass. As far as before you open her, you can scan the room and examine it. You look around the room without intentionally checking her out. That's what makes moving fast and scanning the room so effective. I'll scan the room and talk to girls, and they love it. I'll them about how they caught my eye because they seemed interesting. As a result I just had to come meet them.

Just Dave

African Boyo's picture

I dont know if its been done before or not but id like to request an indepth daygame guide similar to the guide on picking up girls from bars and night clubs

David Riley's picture

Hey Boyo,

I will let Chase and the other know about your request. In the meantime I would like to share some helpful articles relating to daygame.

Day Game Myths

Day Game Openers

Take care,

Just Dave

RL's picture

As soon as I saw the title of the article I thought of this scene in Alfie. It's a bit drawn out but the eye contact, checking out, and bigger smile things are all here. Around the 1:20 mark.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=SrBEk826ueA

I saw this six years ago and have been trying to perfect it ever since :)

David Riley's picture

Hey RL,

Thanks for sharing the clip, I found it pretty useful and effective. If you have any more clips you want to share, please do,

Take care,

Just Dave

Author
Chase Amante's picture

Great clip, RL, Cheers for linking - I've patched into the article above!

Chase

Isaac's picture

Hey guys, if you bother checking a girl out I would say you almost have the moral obligation to give her a compliment (read: direct opener). Because girls do notice when guys check them out, and once they do, they are invested in the outcome.

If you just walk on, it means you were interested enough to look at her but seeing her more closely, you didn't like her. Maybe due to the spot/pimple or the extra hair or whatever. Basically, she feels bad and unloved and undesired.

But of course girls cannot verbalise that they want every guy who checks them out to compliment them. So they will just say they do not like guys checking them out,

So remember, check a girl out, and open her.

David Riley's picture

Hey Isaac,

That does sound like a good exercise for beginners. Especially, beginners who often get "caught" checking out a girl. This way at least they won't be known as a man who was just leering. It would keep him from falling into the creepy guy category. I would also like to point out that women have a good number of male "followers". Sure she may be disappointed a random guy didn't approach her. However normally a girl will give a guy an "approach invitation", if she really wanted him to approach. Women give men signals that they want to approach such as smiling, looking around, and have a open body language. These are arguable the best girls you'll want to approach. This will get guys out of the approach anxiety stage.

However, I will say from personal experience, that's just impractical from complimenting every girl I check out. The reason being is a check out a girl to see if she fits my bill and is worth approaching. If a girl has a sexy enough walk and looks open, I'll approach. Another thing too is I often only compliment girls when they earned it. I do more approaches where I throw something vague out to gauge their interests. Something like:

"You caught my eye when I was passing through, I'm Just Dave."

I'm also a big fan of situational openers and then leading into "Are you single" or "Boyfriend Screening". This saves me time from having to deal with women who aren't available. Women will very rarely feel bad if you don't approach them because they have a line of guys checking them out. A woman will be disappointed only if she considered you a high value guy. More or less though, you have to consider what you're really seeking in a woman when going out into the field. Some guys go out just to approach women, others out for sex, and other's out for relationships. Either way I do believe you brought up some good points and I will recommend this exercise to beginners. Thanks for sharing.

Take care,

Just Dave

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