Girls, Girls, Girls! How My View of You Has Changed
from Chase: this is our first article from Cody Lyans, whom you
may also know by the handles "The Cost of Success" or, in shorter form,
"Cosy." Cody's a very talented and experienced seducer who spends time
traveling mainly about Western Europe. His focuses tend to be on deep
psychological layers underlying surface dynamics, knowing women inside
out, and drawing women in with strong fundamental-based magnetism and a
love of empowering and infusing those around him with strong positive
energy. I give you Cody.
As a courageous young man he started approaching suntanned beauties on beaches and girls in shopping malls because he was, ironically, too scared to talk to girls he knew in high school. An unusually shy yet carefree character that compensates with a wild inner fire caused him to push the boundaries of his comfort zones in remarkably unique ways. Coming from a place of limiting beliefs he fought his way into a clarity that helped him to understand the things that kept causing him to make mistakes with girls.
He honed his understanding of women whilst working at nightclubs until he eventually decided to go all in and get into the action for some more hands on experience. An enigmatic yet highly engaging and open individual out to help, he believed that everyone has the right to improve every part of who they are and took understanding women as an important step towards a full and rich life. He not only learnt what allows you to present yourself as a desirable guy but also how to improve how fulfilled you are with your life at the same time.
His writing style is that of a storyteller, and his articles will bring a confident and breezy twist to the reading experience whilst still capturing the brilliant spirit of sharing here at Girls Chase.
In short he is sharp minded, surprisingly wise, and full of experience as a true believer in Seduction as a means to a better life.
I am going to mystify you with an inspiring view of women and life.
I am going to tell you about how views on women change through experience and what I reveal just might astound you. I’ve known women all my life, but through every stage of my life what I saw changed as I saw deeper into the people they REALLY are.
Funnily enough who they are is someone that nobody ever sees.
We all start out terrified of girls. It isn’t so much that we think they can beat us up; it starts with them having that unfortunate contagious social disease that requires us to run away from them, screaming in hopes that they don’t start chasing us. That is until of course our fear does a one eighty and we realise that we are willing to risk social humiliation just to revel in a girl’s radiant attention for a moment more. Oh how quaintly transparent our transformations are...
We all start innocently enough, and then we grow up from our childish behaviours and start to develop a healthy sense of awe and desire. Women become a mystery, and we in all honesty lose ourselves to the chaos and the drama that is selling out so you can get her to write love hearts in her journal surrounding your initials. Ah, sweet validation, how it eases the pain of not knowing what the hell to really do with girls, “Mmm... Fantastic”.
What few men realise is that there are more stages in life to come, and more views of women to be had beyond wanting to carve love hearts on a tree with your high school sweet pea. Unfortunately the next step is a little disillusioning for most; we either turn into tail-chasing hooligans, or we treat women like they hold all the answers and are the saviours to our lives.
Neither are relevant of course because our views of women must truly evolve if they are to change.
And unfortunately evolution doesn’t take straight lines; it demands we make the best of things so we can get beyond where we are.
When Women Become Just People
Very few men get beyond being the hooligan with a heart of gold, but for those that do, they start to realise that women don’t hold all the answers, and chasing tail just starts to make you look like you undervalue your own time. So, heading forth with a newfound zest for themselves, they look around at girls they once before expected to be wise, and can see the humanity in them that leads to mistakes, that drags them through wants and needs just like everyone else.
What does this guy do with this view of women? For me, I was curious and gazed on them with a little wonder, and not because they held answers, but because they lived in this mystery of life and I had yet to figure out what that could mean. In short, a man gains an open mind and girls become fascinating just as they are. To me that is the next step in the evolution, but before we discuss that let us get into how that can come about.
The real world SHOCKS innocence out of us, and can even close an open mind, and eventually girls start to get tricky as you try to navigate your personal compass of morality towards something with the potential to be the right answer.
The only trouble is, no matter how many times you reset your direction you always seem to get it somehow wrong! We all get snapped out of our daydreams and pulled into a reality where social responsibility is key.
Women need us to “assure” them and answer them so that their world isn’t full of daydreaming and non-responsive men.
We gain a time pressure from our social commitments and are forced to “take a position” on women before our time is up.
We don’t know much about girls so we freeze up and get out of it what we can and go on living life as we do.
Those that do well with girls start to flirt with girls at least a little and joke around, whilst the rest of us just kind of labour in the delusion that “any stance is good enough when it comes to girls”... and of course it isn’t.
Learning How to Talk with Women
In my life I ended up growing up a little bit, and flirted with girls here and there, and it began to open my mind inch by inch. Some hot girls even kicked and punched me, or joked about me right in my face, only for me to state that it was her magnetic attraction to me that had done it; you know what flirting is. My friends were genuinely shocked that girls paid attention to me and acted playfully aggressive to me, and if I am to be completely honest I didn’t know what was going on either - I just flirted blindly to blow off steam.
The thing that changed that was when I started feeling a bit insecure about never doing things with women, so my next step was to go to a shopping mall and ask someone to the movies.
At the mall, I saw this gorgeous girl and I figured that since I was really just trying to figure out if I could even have success with women that she would do just fine, because she was hot enough. I walked up behind her (she made my palms sweat just looking at her), I turned around, swallowed, and backed up into her to pretend it was an accident.
She stopped in a confused way and then didn’t pay attention to it, so I walked around the store and then did it again because I had no idea what else to do to get her attention; she coughed and looked at me as I pointed to a movie on the shelf and asked if she’d seen it. Shortly after a few more lines of dialogue she said yes to a movie and then quickly corrected saying that she wouldn’t be in town much longer because she lived in another city and was just visiting the area. I felt an unexpected surge of adrenaline and endorphins as I realised that technically she had said yes and that possibly I could do it again. My experiment to see if I could do something with women was a success.
The only problem was I didn’t yet have any results.
A few months later, I was walking along a beach in the afternoon and I heard all these guys shouting and going crazy. As it turned out two girls were topless coming out of the water headed directly on a collision course with where I was walking. “Crap, crap, crap” I thought as I tried to pull myself together to not look like a creep. I did what I could to rationalise a reason to be calm and not deviate course.
From their behaviour I discerned that they were rationalising their behaviour something like “hey, there is no big deal about swimming topless” so I matched their attitude and made a comment when I was close. I turned a little towards them and I said what was really only to ease the tension, I turned, smiled looked them in the eyes and said, “guys right? It’s like they’ve never seen anyone with a shirt off before” shaking my head. They responded with a giggle and tried to get me to stop and talk “yeah! Guys swim without shirts all the time, it is the same”, “well I wouldn’t know much about it, but there is no reason to get all crazy about it surely... You are cute girls, but I’m sure they don’t need to holler”. I didn’t for a moment look down, and they got dressed and started asking questions.
I noticed that the brunette one was interested in me. I was a consummate gentleman and I suddenly realised that I didn’t have a phone on me, so got her to write her number down on my arm. A little while after that I started to notice that girls would touch and grab me and stop me from leaving some conversations, and I started seeing a new and more spontaneous side to women... and to be honest, I liked it!
I soon knew girls that no one else around me knew, and these girls
started talking to other people about me with the inference that I was
a good guy who knew some things. It
was an eye opener, as girls might
invite me to a party or ask why I didn’t want to come whilst on the
inside I was just happy to be asked!
They wanted to keep me involved, and often their friends helped them.
Often their friend might ask me questions to see if I liked their friend, or I’d overhear comments from other guys who were acting jealous and wondering why the girls were talking to me.
I started seeing disappointment when I didn’t do anything with a girl, and started to see her smile when I eventually looked like I had decided to kiss her. Spontaneous involvement with women led me from my routine life and I started to see girls enjoying my company and missing me when I was gone.
Seeing them smile made it less about success to me and I was okay with just making girls happy, even though they started showing signs they wanted more. Girls started using tricks to get me to take things further. I transitioned very quickly from being invited out into having things expected of me. I of course did NOT know what I was doing but the girls seemed to not care at all.
Eventually the day came when I kissed a girl and the flood gates of deliciousness opened up. I saw wonder in her gently gaping lips. I felt her gentle clawing against my chest, I felt the world spin... They would stand there in front of me so sweetly, silently looking up into my eyes, and they would respond to the way I would move or hold myself; when I adjusted, they adjusted.
I came to a powerful realisation that women responded to the way I was being, and I noticed it wasn’t just physical; they followed the way I was acting, too. I realised that all my life women might have always been partially a reflection of where I was as a man. When I progressed, women changed for the better.
Evolving Perception and Reciprocation
The core of evolving our perception of women comes down to that idea of reciprocation.
In the beginning we are immature.
Then we don’t know what to do, undervalue ourselves, find life to interrupt our plans.
Then we start to notice the power of ourselves on the women around us.
The shocking twist to the story is not that women are gorgeous, but they become more so as you grow. There are harsh truths, and brutal mistakes that cannot be made, but after you sense that larger world you might realise like I did, that we can fight for a better perception of women and ourselves and by doing so improve how everything works for us. We are in some ways the seed to the beauty we find in our own point of view.
She whispered to me softly, a doubt lingering in the air as she questioned what she saw in him; she raised her hand to touch him; she wanted to see if what was in front of her was even real. As her hand slid up against his chest she sighed, and closed her eyes, sensing that it was real. His heart beat and his warmth responded to her touch and she felt a deep relief that it had not just been her imagination, or some kind of mirage. She opened her eyes and cleared her throat, lifting herself into composure before she spoke. She spoke softly and so tender, as if what was before her might drift away. As he responded to her, a gentle bass filled his voice, and as his softened words resonated in her mind, her hand squeezed into his shirt. What had just transpired in these moments meant to her the fulfilment of a wish she felt would go forever unheard. She knew in this moment that she might attain something she felt she so deeply needed in her life, even if just for a while.
Women, in my experience, are desirable because we inspire them to be. Their deepest self, the side no one can see, is often a reflection of ourselves; the more we become, the more beautiful they are, until finally you wake up from the dream...
Our view of women will change because it is unwritten just how much beauty can be seen. Women’s deepest nature is like a well, and every day the water changes, just like the water within ourselves. There is no end to how deeply you can understand, just a healthy pragmatism as you learn to grow with women in the moments you share together.
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