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Chase's Guide to Time Management

I don’t like veering too far off-topic from seduction and relationships too often, since I’ve watched many a website, television show, or business slip into decline after losing its focus, becoming too scattered and spreading itself too thin with the material it covers. But, since a number of readers have specifically requested this, here’s an article on how I run my time management.

Personally, I’ve never given much conscious thought to time management. I’ve just always found myself with everything I need to get done done, and lots of free time to spend however I like – sometimes on personal development, sometimes on relaxation and recovery. Time management is more of an unconscious drive for me than anything. The past few years I’ve been busier than usual, since it’s been my trial-by-fire in learning how to build businesses (and having many of those businesses fail along the way), but even then, I’ve mostly gone through stretches of a few months of extreme busyness at the time, before correcting things and returning to a more balanced lifestyle.

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I haven’t read much on time management itself, because most of the people writing on time management I find are people who haven’t really done things with their lives that I’d care to emulate. It seems like most of them spend their time writing books about time management, and most of their productivity consists of writing books about productivity. However, I do come across bits and pieces here and there from various people that I find useful and incorporate, and that help make me even better able to manage my time.

So, without further ado, and with no claims to being some great time management guru or anything of the sort, here’s how Chase Amante personally approaches the subject of managing his time; a companion piece to the one I did on time efficiency (you should probably read that one before reading this one, if you haven’t already read it).

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.

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Pedro Canteiro's picture

Dear Chase,

Thank you for your hight quality posts.
I'd like to make you a request for an article, in your fundamental posts, you've talked about facial hair styles and told us to get a cool hairstyle, but you haven't really talked about hairstyles, and I'dlike to get one.
Could you make a post about it, or recomend me some hairstyles?

Thank you again for changing my life every day.

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Pedro-

I have it on my list! It's a, um (excuse the term) "hairy" topic, with a lot more to cover than just facial hair, which is relatively simple by comparison, so is one of those things I've really got to have a lot of time and focus to cover properly in a post. It's at the top of my list as one of the "big" posts I have to put together at some point, though.

Meantime, one of the best things you can do for your hair (and something I'd put at the top of any hairstyle post) - find a talented stylist, and let him have at it with your head! Letting a professional shape your hair is usually the best option, because he will have a much better eye for what looks good on you than you will yourself.

Chase

Peacer's picture

Great...
I have no words to express my opinions about this one... !

Jones101703's picture

Hi chase,

I'm 18 years old. I met this girl named Kristina at a party, our interaction went pretty well. I than added her on facebook, shot her a message & then she began chasing me. It started with her investing in me. I didn't try to get into long text conversations with her, I instead told her to call me at night & so she did. I tried to set up dates with her, she lives 45 mins away. She claims to always be busy, & works 3 jobs. Her interest level seems to have gone down dramatically after three weeks of talking. She's cold in our text conversations & not very warm. I'm wondering should I persist or just give up?

Yours,

Jontre Jones

Anonymous's picture

check out the article on cluster b...it describe your woman behaviour

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Chase Amante's picture

Jontre-

Anon's recommendation is a good one - that article by the way is here: "Spotting (and Avoiding) Cluster B Women."

You can NOT let a woman dominate the interaction between the two of you if you want to be anything other than her texting buddy. If you can't be the cold, disinterested party who will only really engage with her in person, she will happily use you as a source for validation and lose all interest in you as anything else.

This one's almost certainly too late to recover, but I suggest reviewing this article for getting a proper grasp on where it went wrong, and what to do instead: "How to Text Girls: 20 More Tips and Techniques."

Sometimes you will meet women who want NOTHING from you but emotional validation; these girls will never come out to meet you, no matter how aloof OR how accessible you are, because the only thing they want is a conversation partner, and they have no interest in your as a lover or mate. With these girls, all you can do is offer to meet them, and if they're "too busy", tell them cool, get back in touch with me when you're freer. If they don't, they're not actually interested - and you've done yourself a favor by wasting no time on them.

Chase

Dave J.'s picture

Hey Chase,

I love this piece, and I'm so glad you wrote about this. I've just started a medical residency, and I am for the first time in my life working 12 hour shifts. It's grueling and I'm drained. For the next four weeks, I'm at the hospital from 6am-6pm or 7pm everyday, seven days a week. (It'll ease up after these four weeks)

I don't even have time to go to the supermarket or cook my own food. I used to go to the gym three days a week, but I can barely get it into my schedule. Anything you would recommend I do to ease things up? Perhaps, even mentally so I don't feel so drained for the next four weeks?

Thanks for the great articles and tips on living and dating!

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Dave-

Yeah, that's tough. Any time I've been on 12+ hour shifts, all I do is work, sleep, and eat. I quit all socializing, and the only girls I see are whichever girls I was seeing when the intense work schedule started; no time to worry about meeting new ones or scheduling dates that might or might not be fruitful or a waste of time.

If you can get to the gym early (many gyms open at 4 or 5 AM), and get to bed early enough that you can do this, that can be an excellent way to both get the gym in and start your day off with a lot of energy.

I'd also recommend daily morning and evening meditation sessions. Just focus on doing breathing exercises and clearing all the thoughts out of your mind. You will tend to feel that you are "too busy" and have "too much to do" to take the 10 minutes twice a day to do these, but when you DO do them, you walk away feeling completely destressed and relaxed, and it makes the rest of the day and night much easier. To keep yourself from burning out, this is pretty essential - I do this most of the time, Monday through Friday, but place a special emphasis on doing it when I'm working crazy hours, partly because that's when I least want to do it, and partly because that's exactly when I need it most.

If you want healthier food, I might suggest looking for meals you can prepare quickly that are also cheap. Lots of food you can order online - e.g., Amazon.com delivers a number of different groceries in many areas / countries, although you'd have to make sure you're home when you have it being delivered, which might be a problem. You could also hit Yelp and look for takeaway restaurants around you that serve healthier meals than the typical fast food fare. You can usually find a few gems you were't aware of previously that way.

Chase

Michael (from the boards)'s picture

Hey Chase

Gotta say, when I first started reading this article, and then when I switched over to the other one on time efficiency that you linked to, I was thinking, "you motherf***er", because of how easy things are for you. But I kept reading, and you made a great point in that other article about needing an emotional reason to actually want to be efficient. Then I closed my computer and got started on an assignment for my business class, because I want to get it out of the way and avoid the stress of a tight deadline and the sense of failure that comes with knowing I put myself there by procrastinating.

I think it's good to keep the site focused on the topic of seduction; but when you go slightly off topic like this every once in a while, you write some of the most helpful articles out there. Keep up the great work!

Michael

jatin's picture

gr8...i loved this post....thank you very much ...

Eric W's picture

So Chase, I know it's bad to care about my looks but how do I stop caring especially when I have to look at myself everyday and in pictures? I don't know how or how to learn to stop caring. Here's the thing though.. I've managed to change how I view myself and I've gotten to the point where most days I DO feel good looking (while the rest are bad). It's like the quote "there is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so." Since I haven't been able to stop caring and have been able to change my self image, is it ok to care about looks or am I setting myself up for disaster?

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Eric-

When you're very self-focused, it usually just means you don't have enough more important things to worry about.

e.g., when I was younger, I used to really care about all kinds of different flaws and whatnot with my body. Will girls like this? What if they think that's gross? What if some girl thinks I'm [fill-in-the-blank-not-good-thing]?"

These thoughts go away as soon as you're meeting enough women regularly that you're also meeting pretty girls who like you. It's pretty hard to not think you're hot stuff when really beautiful girls are chasing you, sleeping with you, and falling in love with you.

At that point, it can even be funny if you don't think you're that attractive - "Ha! I'm pretty average-looking but girls think I'm hot. Damn I'm good."

Focus on approaching more girls and getting more results with women, and less time looking in the mirror. Sure, handle your hair, facial hair, facial expressions, posture, body language, fashion, and the like - but refine all that based on women's receptions of you, not your own opinion.

The reason you worry is because you don't know. You're trying to guess how a million other women will think about you, and no matter how much time you spend staring in the mirror you will never figure it out. Stop wasting your time trying to guess how various other women you haven't met will feel about you - go meet them and find out.

Chase

Anonymous's picture

I really appreciate the recent articles on office politics and time management. I am reminded of a situation I experienced at work in the past when my manager and I were discussing a project and timeframes (and just general work speed in general). She wanted me to shoot for 5 hours worth of work to be completed in 2.5 hours. Having not done that work herself, she would not have known how difficult it would be to accomplish this. She acknowledged that it's better to set higher goals because she finds it improves your performance, which I'm sure has its merits, but as an employee I felt this would only hurt me. There's no doubt that setting high goals will keep me on my feet; as a manager you would want that from your workers. As the worker, I'm going to want to spend as less energy as possible while still maintaining a high standard of work. If I were to push myself to that degree, I would be more tired, the quality of work would probably decrease at least a little (though the tradeoff might be worth it to the company), and worst of all, it would set a bad precedent for the future that might hurt the company in the long run if I were to exhaust myself. In addition the idea of not achieving a goal seems not only demoralizing but also negative in the eyes of the manager. I ended up working my ass off, even off the clock and during lunch hours. I even took the initiative to conceive and create a few applications that I thought would be useful to the team (although I don't think the team was really all that interested in them). I was tired and too focused on meaningless work which I did not gain any useful skills from. I was also let go from the team soon after because the project that I was working on was complete since no additional work came in from the outside. Maybe this is what my manager wanted, but it was a terrible experience from me. I gave everything to that company and in the end I feel like it wasn't noticed or appreciated. Please share your thoughts on this situation and how to approach things in the future.

Thanks,
Mike

P.s. I hope you can write an article on how to deal with people in the workplace at different levels, how to build relationships with them and how to get things from them (like help or a good reference).

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Mike-

When people are making unrealistic demands, you MUST stick to your guns. You've absolutely got to. Whatever you agree to, that's the standard, and either you're going to beat it and look impressive, or fail to and look like a schmuck.

If a boss is telling you, "I need you to do this in 2.5 hours," and it's a 5-hour job, all you can say is, "I wish I could, but that's a 5-hour job at LEAST - probably more like 6 or 7," and she'll say, "Of COURSE you can do this in 2.5 hours!" and you'll say, "I really can't - there's no way I know of to do it that fast, and I know a LOT of ways to do it," and she'll say no, of course you can, and you'll say, "Okay, look - here, I'll explain it to you," and you'll go through each and every part, step-by-step, and explain it using "you", not "I", so that she relates to it, imagines herself doing it, and empathizes: "The first thing you're doing when you do this is you have to compile the database. You go here, click on this link, and just wait. It takes 45 minutes to do, and there's NOTHING else you can do until you have that data. The project doesn't even start until 45 minutes in. The next step is sorting everything into the right places in Excel so that the macro will work on it - even if you're booking it, that takes a solid 30 minutes to do because what comes out is in such a different order than the macro is set up. Now, we could take some time to rewrite the macro to read everything exactly as it comes out of the compiler, but that would take a couple of days to do, and that would mess it up for everyone else who uses the macro to sort data coming from other sources, and they use it more than we do so that doesn't make much sense. So, that's the first hour and 15 minutes. The next thing you have to do once you have the data and it's all sorted and the macro is run, which takes about 5 minutes, is to..."

Once you explain everything step-by-step like that, you educate the person, and 90% of people will get it, they'll say okay, and they now understand why you can't do it any faster (of course, if you DO do it much faster, they will think you were full of crap and will never believe one of your explanations again, so you'd be better be precise and accurate with your time estimations, and not do it any faster than you tell them the minimum is).

The remaining 10% that's totally unreasonable, and says, "I don't care; just do it faster," you have to throw your hands up and say, "Okay, I don't know how to do that; that's really just beyond me, and beyond what I know of as the limitations of the system. How do I do it? Can you show me how, so I can do it the way you want me to do it? If you can show me how to do it that fast, I will happily do it that fast, and I'll be thrilled to have learned something new," and put it on them to show you. I've had a few things like this, and unfortunately, if someone is TOTALLY unreasonable, you've really got to make it a fight with them so they understand how unreasonable they're being. If you aren't emotional or accusatory, but just straight with them, they may get flustered, but almost always they will come to grudgingly respect you after that and stay off your back.

Anyway, it sounds like the manager just had it out for you, and in that case, no matter what you did was going to work. In which case, you probably would've gotten a lot more satisfaction by sticking to your guns, even if the end result (getting laid off) was the same.

Or, perhaps, you might even have earned her grudging respect as a guy who genuinely knew his stuff, and stayed on the team. No way to know, but the next time you run into this - don't back down. Explain it to them, or, if they won't listen, make them show you how to do it at the speed they want you to do it at, so that they can see exactly how unreasonable they're being.

Chase

Anonymous's picture

Chase, HUGE HUGE HUGE favor to ask of you and I'm asking because I literally think you're a genius and I honestly think you might be the only person who can really help me achieve my goal. You're the smartest person I've ever come across by FAR and you have an answer for everything that's always right on point and so much more in depth than what someone else would say. I'm don't know if you were born that way but boy do I wish I could develop your skills. You also do it all in a classy way but enough with the flattering that's not why I wanted to write this comment!

I need a statement of purpose for grad school and I'm torn on how to approach it. It's a finance program at a good school. Ididn't get good grades during undergrad so I need a stellar essay and luckily I have several brand name employers and a plethora of other selling points--I just don't know which angle to take. Their guidelines are pretty vague and imo from the research i've done many essays that are considered "good" don't stand out. I'm very good at captivating people but the problem is my writing skills aren't the best and the word limit is pretty small (~600). I have so many things I want to say but there's no way I can create one coherent essay with so many themes. They ask me to introduce myself, why I'm interested in the program, how does my background fit in and how will it help me in the future.

My main concern is that I don't know what kind of person they are really looking for. Is it a baller? Is it a manager at a fortune 500? A research assistant? The next zuckerberg? Since I don't fit the traditional bill, do I need to take an even edgier approach? (If you could also explain your reasoning this would greatly help me understand value exchange in general when meeting or interacting with others and what's going on at a deeper level).

Here are some themes that I thought of including:

-Personal development and growth w/examples of things I've learned, how I've grown, emphasizing my potential and interest in development and business related skills (very much like the ones you teach). This also includes what I've learned about life in general and the curiosity I've developed about things; I used to be like a little boy who only cared about playing but now I have such a genuine interested in learning and understanding things which is demonstrated by improvement in grades and all the books I read.

sidenote: is it better to talk about developing confidence and clarity contrasting with the past or set a tone of confidence throughout my life?

-My interest in business and finance, which I can possibly intertwine with the first theme, explaining what I've taken away from each experience and how I've grown.
-The organizations I'm in and the people I know. How my interests and background are aligned and how it ties in with their goals. My mom says these schools like people with strong connections and wants me to reference them. Should I take a more "this is what i can do for you" vs. a "these are my qualifications" type approach?
-My personal qualities, great instincts and ability to make a difference for my employers. How I stand out from other people who are so cookie cutter.
-My passion to change the world and how I've been "unemployed" over the past few years so I could start a company which turned out to be a social web app. I don't know how much I should focus on this though since I haven't made tremendous progress although the vision and framework is all there.

There is also an "other" essay but I'm not sure if this is an essay or more like an explanation. I feel like I'm already addressing many of my weaknesses in the SOP.

So, like I said, there's so many things I want to include but I don't think I'll be able to effectively integrate each of those with such little space. Another thing I have to consider is how to give enough to pique their interest and then give more during the interview.

I only have a week left so I would TRULYYYY appreciate your help! I won't ask you for this kind of help EVER again I promise. Just let me know what I have to do to get your help!!! please let me know and thanks for your time and consideration :) YOU DA MAN!!!

-M

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