Carnival of Dating Advice, 25th Edition

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It's time now for the 25th Carnival of Dating Advice - our last.

In our final carnival here - wrapping up one full year after we got started - we have a grab bag of solid articles, focused primarily on having great relationships and avoiding the bad ones, but also on getting over a breakup, and dealing with self-doubt.

So dive in, friends, and get ready for a nice sendoff of the carnival.

Without further ado, your articles...


Don from How You Can Find Love presents "13 Relationship “Deal Breakers” to Watch Out For," listing out signs of a probable problem relationship you can (mostly) spot from a mile away, ranging from not knowing how to forgive to being underwater on debt. Bonus points awarded for using the word 'agro' in an article on dating. Don says about the article, "Everyone has flaws about themselves. We have to determine what flaws we consider to be deal breakers and what flaws are not."


Hailing from The Confident Man Project, Graham Stoney sends us "How to Overcome Self-Doubt." In this article, he lays out a series of practical steps to get you moving again in the face of uncertainty and hesitancy, saying, "To overcome self-doubt understand that it's normal, do what's important to you, break your challenges down, take the next step and deal with uncertainty."


Jana Moreno from Wisdom-Ink Magazine writes about "Two Reasons Why Relationships Fall Apart," giving two very succinct and matter-of-fact reasons for this. Jana says, "In this article, we discuss how often it is ourselves that screws up a relationship and not the other person (as we lead ourselves to believe). Here we delve into the two main reasons why relationships fall apart."

Erik Matlock of Becoming a Better Man shares "Responsibilities and Benefits," an allegorical piece about the man's side of things in maintaining a healthy marriage. I really enjoyed this one; it contains a message you don't hear quite often enough. Erik has this to say: "Thought you might like a slightly different perspective in there. I have been married 23 years. 20 sucked for her, 3 were hell for me. We are great now. Even 2 years after seeing divorce papers."

For the Ladies

Tipsy Writer's Tipsy submits "How to Deal with a Heartbreak Without Having Your Soul Crushed in the Process," a part-serious, part-whimsical write up on dealing with the trauma of a break up (that sounds exactly like what all my exes have done immediately following our separations). Tipsy writes, "An entertaining take on how to deal with heartbreak without getting your soul crushed - a good read for both those going through a heartbreak & those who are not."

Sulagna Dasgupta of Love in India sends in "9 Rules to Deal with a Cheating Boyfriend," a measured piece that balances having your facts straight and letting him say his piece with not rushing back into things too impulsively and giving yourself time to figure out what it is you want with the relationship. Sulagna says, "Your worst fears have come true. You've come to know that your boyfriend is cheating. Now what? This article gives you 9 clear steps to deal with it in the healthiest possible way."

Wrapping Up

... and that wraps us up for the twenty-fifth edition of the Carnival of Dating Advice.

Hope you found these articles fun and useful. Just because we've closed up shop on the carnival, however, doesn't mean no more great articles - all these sites and the ones from past carnivals are still out there, still publishing new material, and you can visit them any time...

... for more great stuff from around the Internet.

Chase Amante

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Hey Chase,

My best friend is currently below me at school so in September I won't get to see her the much because I'll be at college. So she both said that we needed to so stuff together without other people involved so I invited her out to hangout at the local park, instead she wanted to go to this football (soccer) area where people play the sport, so whilst we are there I was annoyed because she was just talking to loads of other people when she said that we can have a really chilled out afternoon together.

So I just said to her "I'm walking home", she said "why?". I replied "because this is shit". I walked home and I was expecting her to text me saying that she was sorry . She hasn't, even now.

We haven't spoken since and she keeps ignoring me on social networks and via text. My friend spoke to her and she said that "she'll speak to me soon", I'm confused on what's going on because she's acting like she doesn't care and I have loads of events, concerts and other places booked and planned with her for next year.

Please can you tell me how to fix this issue because I honestly believe I have done nothing wrong and she's being weird and ignoring me.

Thanks chase

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Sounds like it may be the case of you taking the friendship more seriously than she is, or she's just branching out to meet more people since she knows you're leaving soon and she needs new friends.

You gave her a clear sign you were annoyed with her and wanted her to chase after you, and she didn't. The communication there is pretty strong that she's not investing much into the friendship anymore and isn't going to lose her shirt if it washes away. This is a very natural thing with friendships - most of the friends you make throughout your life will drift apart over time. Sometimes they drift back together again, sometimes they don't; depends on where your and their lives take you.

I know it can be hard letting go of friends, especially if you were close, but you'll be starting something new in a few months and meeting loads of new people (and you'll be around her very little). Maybe the best approach is the one she's taking - view this as a great friendship that's largely run its course (at least for now), and place your new focus on starting this new adventure and meeting lots of great, new friends who are going to the same school you are, and are right nearby.

You never know whom you might meet.


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