Book Excerpts: 11 Things Women Find Attractive in Men

attractive in menRounding out this week's posts on what girls look for in men and what they value in men come 11 universal things women find attractive in men.

It's easy once you've been at this for a while to lose sight of explaining to guys how to attract women - like, what actually gets girls going and feeling some desire for a guy? Once you've got it down, it gets automated - and then your focus turns to, "Okay, now what do I do with it?"

It's also a lot faster to teach guys what to do with women they've already got attracted - they just have to throw a few steps and procedures into the mix and *BOOM!* - they're getting results. It's a lot longer of a process for a guy to internalize all the things women find attractive and begin morphing himself into that kind of guy (note: there're a lot more benefits to adopting these traits than simply wooing women - the traits that are about to follow are attractive in men for a good reason... namely, that they're extremely beneficial traits that help you succeed more in all kinds of life's arenas).

That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, though. In fact, it's an essential element of getting truly good and consistent in picking up and getting the girls you want - ultimately, the more attractive you make yourself as a man, the more women you'll find want to get to know you better, and the easier your job (whether that's meeting THE girl of your dreams, or meeting a LOT of girls of your dreams) becomes.

Today's excerpt from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams lists out 11 things women almost universally find attractive in men, and the descriptions for each of those things.

So, you won't need to guess about what women find attractive - I spell it out for you in my book, and I'm going to share part of that spelling-out with you here.


Excerpt: 11 Things Women Find Attractive in Men

Here are some relatively universal traits of an attractive man.

  • Pre-Selection – a man is desired by other women
  • Social Proof – he is sociable and draws people and friends to him and around him
  • Protector – he has the ability and inclination to protect those around him
  • Social Grace – he holds his own in social situations and gets what he wants
  • Resourceful – he has exclusive knowledge and resources
  • Witty – he’s able to make clever remarks without being goofy or over-the-top
  • Fashionable – he dresses attractively
  • Confident – he’s self-assured and knows he’ll get what he wants
  • Successful – he’s staked his place in life and has achievements
  • Comfortable – he’s relaxed and in control of the situation around him
  • Effortless – he seems to get what he wants with a minimum amount of effort.

Earlier this week we discussed social proof in depth (pre-selection is closely related, and discussed in that article too). Effort we discuss in the posts on the Law of Least Effort and sprezzatura, and social grace you'll see discussed in articles all over this site. The rest you'll find either covered on the site or in the book, and there's plenty of information to be had on each.

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The important thing to be aware of with all of these is that you can learn and use them all - some more quickly than others though, of course. If you've been dressing in work boots and baggy clothes and your friends have been too, learning to be fashionable's probably going to be more challenging for you than someone who's already around a lot of fasionable people by default. Yet all of these traits that women find attractive in men can be picked up - you've just got to spend a little time and a little energy focused on getting these areas handled.

And once you're committed to turning yourself into a more attractive man, you'll want to grab a copy of my eBook. In it, an incredibly comprehensive, 406-page how-to guidebook on picking up and getting together with girls, I break the process down step-by-step into the most minute details so you understand everything, and then I sum it all back up again in an easy-to-remember, easy-to-follow and dead simple to use process to get you getting wild success with the girls of your dreams today. If you haven't picked up your copy yet, you owe it to yourself to go here and download it right now:

Catch you on the flip side,
Chase Amante

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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skinnerjay's picture

Hi Chase,

I am from Kenya and I have been reading most of your articles in the past one month.It's amazing how I have been doing much of the stuffs you mentioned here in getting ladies way back before I even knew this website existed. I must admit that my approach has improved after reading most of the insights here.

Anyway I got this weakness of exuding low confidence whenever I am approaching a lady whom I perceive to be more pretty and classy.I always do well with average looking females though.


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