2013: The Year in Review + 49 Top Posts


It's been a prolific year for writing on Girls Chase - we've seen 250 new articles hit the site this year, from 10 different contributors. If you're curious about individual tallies, we're at:

  • 2 articles by Eric Reeves on power dynamics

  • 2 articles by Ross Leon on getting in great shape and stopping judgment

  • 3 articles by J.J. Jones on getting investment and being attractive

  • 6 articles by Richard Weddel on cold reading and various other techniques

  • 7 articles by Cody Lyans on low-profile under-the-radar seductiveness

  • 12 articles by Alek Rolstad, on sexual frames, threesomes, and sex reports

  • 12 articles by Drexel Scott on NLP, frame-setting, and threesomes with girlfriends

  • 14 articles by Peter Fontes on social circle and various topics

  • 25 articles by Colt Williams on everything from sexting to entitlement to party sex

  • ... and 167 articles by me, Chase Amante, covering the full gamut of things we cover on this site (and a few topics we usually don't)

(links to each writer's list of articles when clicking on his name above)

2013 year in review

Since I don't want to appear biased in deciding, but also since I personally have 3x as many articles on here this year as everyone else combined, I've decided to split a "Best of 2013" list into two lists - 17 of the best articles by our other authors out of the 58 they've written, and 32 of the best articles out of the 167 I've put out. I tried to narrow it down more than this, but this is about as whittled down as I could get this list - descriptions for each article follow links, to help you choose what to read right now.

Unless you've read everything on here as it's come out, you're likely to find at least a couple of gems in here you haven't yet read - and even if you have, there are probably a few you'll have forgotten about, but will be happy to stumble across once more.

Here we go.


2013 year in review

Here are what I've deemed the 17 best articles of 2013 written by our various writers, in order by date of publication:

  1. How to Build a Male Body That Drives Women Crazy: Ross Leon gives you a full set of work out and diet advice to help you build your body into crazy shape in no time.

  2. How to Power Shift with Social Cunning and Savvy: an article by Eric Reeves on taking social power in settings in which that power starts off stacked against you.

  3. Meeting Women via Social Circle: The Pros and Cons: Part I in a 4-part series on social circle game by Peter Fontes.

  4. How to Demolish Approach Anxiety Forever: Colt Williams's comprehensive post on trouncing trepidation around the approach once and for all.

  5. Dance Floor Seduction: a guide to drawing women toward you on the dance floor like moths to a flame by Peter.

  6. Girls, Girls, Girls! How My View of You Has Changed: Cody Lyans's first article on Girls Chase, and one providing a peephole view into how his way of seeing women evolved as he became more experienced with dating and sex.

2013 year in review
  1. Threesome How-To: Step-by-Step to Get Two Girls: a riveting, lengthy how-to article by Alek Rolstad on pulling off a cold approach threesome, interwoven with a report of how he did the same with two girls he'd only just met.

  2. 9 Terrible Excuses Men Use to Avoid Meeting Great Women: if you've been avoiding meeting the women you most want to meet, Colt has a loud and clear message for you in this piece: knock off the excuses.

  3. Turn Your Bachelor Pad into a Seduction Spot: Peter provides three simple but excellent tips on giving your place that special touch that makes women all the more liable to melt there.

  4. How to Use Sex Talk to Set a Sexual Tone and Mood: Alek shares his approach to using sexual conversation to make women hot and bothered.

  5. How to Have Sex with Brazilian Women: the lead piece in the "How to Have Sex with [X] Women" series, Colt shares his experiences with Brazilian women in Brazil and elsewhere, and tells you how to get them.

  6. Last Minute Resistance from Sexy Women: Treating It and Beating It: another lesson + report piece by Alek, this article discusses how to overcome last minute resistance to sex, and takes you through a pickup of his, from meet to resistance - to breaking past that resistance.

  7. How to Arouse a Girl with Sexy Nonverbals: a fascinating piece from Richard Weddel that puts a magnifying glass on some of the science behind sexy.

  8. Social Order, Sexual Restriction, and the Secret Society: Alek's secret society exposé, see why the men of society force women underground with their true natures - and how by showing women you aren't like those other guys, you get a pass to help them let their hair down, in all the most rewarding ways.

  9. Spotting (and Avoiding) Cluster B Women: Drexel Scott cautions you against winding up in relationships with cluster B women - those women who are narcissistic, histrionic, and, above all, borderline personality disordered.

  10. Risk Taking and Your Defining Moment: J.J. Jones's deep and inspirational piece on realizing your defining moment, and using it to unlock your ability to take the risks that lead you to a better life.

  11. Sexuality Game: Making Her Wet with Words: an article by Drexel on using neurolinguistic programming (NLP) to create sexual excitement in the women you meet. The first installment in a two-part series.

There's a wide range of subjects covered there, and I hope and think you'll agree that the new writers we've had join the team this year have contributed a lot of great posts.


2013 year in review

What follows here are what I feel are the 32 top articles I've written this year, in terms of usefulness and also attention they've received via comments or social media:

  1. How to Pick Up Girls in Bars and Clubs: a post covering the various types of nighttime venues you'll encounter, which ones are the best for meeting new women in, and how to work these places.

  2. I Don’t Chase 'Em, I Replace 'Em: a message from the Notorious B.I.G. on dating - and why you ought to follow his mantra, even if you aren't gangsta.

  3. How to Be Vulnerable, Enchanting, and Alluring to Women: exploring the concept of the Byronic male: what makes him so attractive to women, and why are they so helpless against him?

  4. Operant Conditioning in Your Romantic Relationships: while it isn't possible to completely change someone into someone else, it is very possible to extinct out bad behavior, and encourage good behavior, through the tenets of operant conditioning.

  5. Having a Male Scent That Fills Women with Lust: in the quest to tickle women's olfactory glands, I spent years combing through the research and trying out different scents, before settling on an unexpected conclusion.

  6. How to Tell a Story that Rivets and Captivates: an article that details how I put together both my writing and my verbal tales, woven within the structure of a story itself.

  7. The Purpose of Life from a Practical Point of View: if you aren't a God-fearing man, or even if you are, you need a firm handle on your purpose in life if you are to accomplish the things you wish to do.

2013 year in review
  1. Fashion for Men: The Primer on Looking Amazing: readers had been requesting this article for years; here, I finally sat down to deliver it.

  2. How Much Do Looks Matter for Romantic Success?: a debate between a friend of mine and I about how large a role looks played in sexual success turned into an article that dove deep into the scientific literature, and took a walk down anecdote lane.

  3. A Devil May Care Attitude: What It Is & How to Get It: the concrete description of that ephemeral "something" the most alluring men all have in common.

  4. Lower Your Standards (and Date Hotter Girls): wakeup call to those dragging their feet waiting for "someone who excites me" to come along.

  5. Make Her Orgasm Hard from Sex in 8 Minutes or Less: after a few years of deliberation, I decided there really probably wasn't much harm in releasing my special sex position - one aimed at producing resounding female orgasms from penetrative sex in the easiest, most efficient way possible.

  6. How to Meet Tons of Girls on Plenty of Fish: a detailed and (I'm told) humorous foray into composing an effective online dating profile for the website POF.

  7. Having Lots of Dates in Short Amounts of Time: you can't always make it happen in the first date - sometimes you need more. But if you're going to take multiple dates to land a girl, no one ever said those dates had to be stretched out over a lengthy period of time.

  8. Why I Quit Dating Girls Who Club, Party, or Drink: party girls are barrels of fun - just, not in relationships.

  9. How to Be Decisive: unsure whether you ought to read this article? If you answered "yes"... then just click it already.

  10. Emotional Contagion in Seduction and Socializing: all about the transference of emotions: how this works, how you can generate it, and various tips and tidbits for pulling it off.

  11. Dating Younger Women: Does It Make You 'Dirty'?: the first in a two-part series on dating younger women, kicking off with a piece dealing with the social stigma seemingly present in the West against men dating below their age brackets.

  12. Time Orientation and Suitable Romantic Pairings: whether you're past-oriented, present-oriented, or future-oriented - and which brand of each of these you are - has a huge impact on what you like... and what kinds of people you get along with.

2013 year in review
  1. Do You Really Need to Learn Game to Get Girls?: a reader balks at how difficult this whole "learning to get girls" thing is, and asks why he can't just have women like him for him.

  2. Social Styles as a Tool in Sales and Seduction: are you a Driver, Analytical, Expressive, or Amiable? No matter which you are, you're best served learning to be able to change and adapt your Social Style to best match that of the person you're interacting with - whether you're a salesman or a seducer.

  3. Why Madonna/Whore is Intimately Linked with the West: the tendency to view women as either "good girls" or "bad girls" is particularly entrenched in Western culture. But why?

  4. You Really Should be Having Sex: I know, I know... she's cute, but not THAT cute, and you're just not all that excited. Your last girlfriend was way hotter than her. Here's why you still ought to sleep with her anyway.

  5. It's Not Your Investment in Her; It's Hers in You: common among the mistakes men make is to assume that if they just DO more, GIVE more, and BE more accommodating, women will come to appreciate them. But it isn't how much you do for someone else that drives her appreciation of you; it's how much she does for you.

  6. What’s the Difference Between a Lover and a Loser?: a reader asks that if being a lover is all about dropping as much of the qualities that would make a man an outstanding provider - things like having a great job, a stable life, and a tendency to look out for others and stick around - then what's the difference between a lover and a loser?

  7. Being Happy with an Unconventional Life: a handbook on leading a rewarding life outside the mainstream.

  8. How and Where to Move Overseas as a Single Man: there are better prospects abroad... and if you haven't tried, here's where to think about going (and what you'll need to make the jump).

  9. Why Cold Approach Works Better Than Anything Else: a reader asks whether cold approach (approaching women you don't know through friends / classes / work / social circle) is effective. My response is that approached correctly, it's more effective than anything else there is - by a very wide margin.

  10. The 9 Male Identities and How They Affect You with Women: what's your identity? If you haven't taken the time to figure it out, this article will help - and, it'll help you decide whether this is an identity you want to continue to build up, or one you want to steer away with and into something else.

  11. How to Be an Asshole – and Become Adored by Women: being an asshole isn't about needlessly being a jerk; rather, it's about being in control of the situation and not doing things you don't want to do, first and foremost.

  12. Dating and Relationship Precedent: Why It’s So Very Important: sometimes it seems like a lot of people think they can just do things wrong in the beginning and straighten it all out later - only, the precedent you set is the precedent you must live with, so long as you keep the person you set it with in your life.

  13. How to Be Street Smart & Handle Life-Threatening Situations: for all those dark alleys and dangerous parts of town you'd rather not go down, here's how to give yourself the best chance of walking out unmolested when you do.

... and that's all from me!

That wraps up our year in review. It's been a great year with a number of solid contributions from everybody - my thanks first to all our subscribers and program buyers for making it all possible - there wouldn't be a Girls Chase without you - and of course to each of our talented writers contributing fantastic pieces to the site. Finally, thanks to everyone on the support team, in customer service, article preparation, and IT - I couldn't do it without any of you.

We've got some great things in store for 2014, and I'll be discussing those a bit more once we're around the bend.

For now, stay tuned - and Happy New Year!

Chase

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Comments

Sam 123 's picture

Happy New Year!


Dear Chase,

Congratulations to you and all the other writers on a fantastic year! I can't even begin to tell you how much you've all helped me grow each day on my path to becoming the man that I want to be. Here's to an even better 2014 for girlschase. Happy New Year!

Sam

Anonymous's picture

Happy New Year Chase!!!


Chase,
Thank You for all the stuff you have written about and shared on your site....thanks for all your help through this site...........really fantastic job you're doing.....Happy New Year Chase, have a great one.

Matt C's picture

Thanks


Chase,

Thank you very much for everything you've done for me.
I'm pretty sure you have no idea how much of an impact you had on my life... I started following girlschase about a year a ago and I have evolved in many ways. One of them is my view on women, dating, sex and relationships.
I began to understand basic social interactions with the knowledge from this website and realized that you were right with the investment, value, etc.

Thank you for providing me and everybody else with information and knowledge that is so simple, yet so precious and rare in our daily life.

Happy New Year!

Sincerely,

Matt

RJ's picture

Mystery


Great year for myself and great year for Girlschase.com

Chase,
I work in a fairly stable job, looking likely to be a long term position as it stands, in my spare time I'm a gym fanatic and street dancer. I keep most of my private life away from work and don't mention it. (I'm fairly private as it is)
I've worked up incredible social skills, all the guys respect me and all the girls like me because Im mysterious, fairly masculine (after reading those body language tips on here - GOLD)
What identity would be best for me? Naturally I feel I have the confidence of a rebel and can stand my own ground etc, and also, can we get an article on being mysterious? As in how can you be mysterious without giving away too much (boring), or giving away too little (slightly reclusive)

Hope this makes sense, wish the best for your new year also.

Chase Amante's picture

Re: Mystery

Author

RJ-

You know yourself better than I do - if you feel like rebel could be a good fit, that might be it, then. It's really more about interests and personal values and beliefs than it is the things you do - I could pick out an identity for you, but if it doesn't fit with what you've got under the hood, it won't work. That one's highly subjective and personal to your own style.

Re: the article on mystery - I've got it noted down (and it's been on the list for a while, too). I might recommend this one as a jumping off point in the meantime, though: "Using Intrigue to Get Girls Chasing You", and this one, if you haven't seen it yet: "How to Be Vulnerable, Enchanting, and Alluring to Women."

Chase

L's picture

Touchy subject of jealousy and dating multiple girls


Hi Chase,

I have read almost all of your articles and I must say they have been very eye-opening and spot on, very impressed. Lately something has been on my mind, and it’s the situation when dating multiple girls at once I have found that at one point or another (usually sooner than later) the girl playfully asks something along the lines of “is this where you take your other girls?”.
Now I don’t lie to girls, so I wont hide the fact that I am seeing other people, however I am unsure of the best way to deal with such a question. Now im not saying that question in particular, but moreso, the best way to be honest with a girl in this regard without making her go into auto-rejection, consider you a player and put up [sometimes more] walls or decide to then also date other guys to avoid getting hurt (and hence more competition for you).

Now I usually blow it off with a comment like “the others usually get drive-through ;)”, but I was wandering if you could write an article on the touchy subject of showing that you have more options without making the girl retract. So basically how to allow her be somewhat jealous but not so much that she backs off, and how to let her know you’re dating other girls but keep her feeling special and most importantly, how to deal with this topic with inexperienced girls as opposed to a more experienced girl.

Reason why this has been on my mind is because it has become somewhat apparent to me that girls will usually only date one guy at a time, and if they date more than one then its usually because they are 70% invested in the one guy and then have another at 30% which they can go to as backup in case the first guy screws up or loses interest. And therefore telling them you have options could potentially change the above % against your favor. Just a thought!

Cheers

Chase Amante's picture

Broaching Options

Author

L-

Noted on the touchy subject - that is an important one to cover, yeah.

The balance you want to strike is ambiguous, and one that neither elevates her status, nor the status of the other girl(s). So by way of an example, in response to, "Is this where you take your other girls?" you'd respond with something like, "Only the ones I really like."

She gets to smile briefly, and think, "Wow, he really likes me!" then say to herself, "Wait a minute... how many other girls that he really likes has he brought here?"

Ultimately, leaving that question unanswered.

I'll dive more into it in a post - maybe sometime soon, I like this topic!

Chase

Nate's picture

Off topic


Chase,

This is a bit random, but can you do a post on astrology? Lately i've been fascinated by how accurate zodiac signs can be and the possibility of it showing how compatible you are with certain personality types. Obviously there's gonna be some exceptions, but from what I've noticed they are often dead on. It would be interesting to see how well they correlate or if they just create some weird prejudices.

I've seen you mention it in a few of your posts and just wanted to see your take on it.

Nate

Chase Amante's picture

Astrology

Author

Nate-

Sure thing - I've got it noted down!

Chase

The M's picture

Happy new year!


Thanks again for posting so many insightful articles. Looking forward to a wonderful 2014 on GC!

Best,
The M

Yink's picture

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!


Hi Chase,I just want to use this medium to say a VERY BIG thank you for giving us advise on how to improve ourselves and achieve success in dating and life.You will never know how much you have impacted our lives.Though I'm not where I want to be yet in terms of success with women but I'm far better than where I was before I discovered this site 2 years ago and I know that with more hardwork,I'll soon be where I want to be.I wish you and GirlsChase more success this year.More Grease to your Elbow Chase.HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Troy's picture

Hapy New Year!


Happy New Year to the girlschase team and everyone on here! :)

I thank you all writers for the great articles, the replies to my email, the free newsletters and getting started eBooks, replies to my comments on the articles and everything else you do to make this blessing site in my life possible.

We looking for a new better 2014 on girlschase and in our own self-improvement. so...

Cheers to a turning point this year for everyone! (this article is 251 article for the year 2013 actually)

Troy

Ariel's picture

Thank you!


Chase happy new year! If it wasent for you I wouldn't be where I am today. Your amazing for what your doing to help guys like me out when we don't know the answers (that goes to your other writers too). Your a role model, leader and a great MENTOR and wanted to thank you making my life so much better with WOMAN, work and everywhere I go! Take CARE and will be looking forward to your articles in 2014!

Cheers

Ariel ")

MarkyMark's picture

Saved my marriage


Chase, this site probably saved my marriage this year (bet you don't hear that every day). Attraction is attraction is attraction - it's universal, and the concepts (and practices) don't change: it works just as well on a 40-year old wife of 16 years who has fallen out of love with her husband, as it does on a doe-eyed 22 year old fresh out of college.

These articles have made me take a long, hard introspective look at myself. I came up lacking - lacking on fundamentals, lacking on what makes me, a man, attractive to women (most importantly my wife), what women are looking for, what I bring to the table, and so on. Not only am I light years away from being able to pick up any doe-eyed 22 year olds, I'm also pretty sure I couldn't even number-close on my own wife.

Reading these articles over the past months has given me concrete goals. I now know what to do to make her attracted to me again. I have a lot of work to do, but failure is not an option. Just remind me to be patient - Rome wasn't built in a day.

BTW, yes, I do share a lot of these articles with my wife (well, maybe not the threesome article!). I can tell you for a fact she strongly agrees with almost all the stuff on here, once we shift the context around a little to better represent our current situation. All the manly traits articles, what women actually respond to vs. what they say they want, and so on - according to my wife, it's spot on accurate.

PS: 22 years ago when I met her, I came on as dominant and leading (without even realizing it), moved her ridiculously fast (compliance on steroids), and slept with her within about 3 hours of meeting her. After I left the next morning, she rolled over, called her best friend back home, and point-blank said (and I quote), "I just met the man I'm going to spend the rest of my life with." No joke.

So, thanks again - to EVERYONE who contributed to GirlsChase, even if it's from a slightly different perspective than might be expected. I know this is a long comment, thanks for letting me share, and thanks for the site. Seriously.

Chase Amante's picture

Re: Saved my marriage

Author

Mark-

That's fantastic to hear! Turning things around is one of the most satisfying things you can do with this skill base. Going out and meeting someone new is easy, compared to resurrecting a formerly good relationship that's hit the rocks, patching up all the bad spots, and get back rolling in a good direction again. So long as no uncrossable lines were crossed, if it's rather been just the gradual death of attraction, that's one you can ramp right back up when you realize the causes and systematically address them.

Your youthful personality sounds as though it was a dominant one, which means getting your house back in order is kind of like getting back to the gym after a long absence - some of the strength may have disappeared, but it comes back fast once those muscles are being put to good use again.

Women have a natural tendency to work to tame and take power over their settled partners over time, and that's usually the main cause of attraction loss in long term relationships, as the man has no strong agenda anymore (he's achieved what he set out to achieve), but the women continually pushes to have more security, and more, and more. You can't win on defense, and that's what most guys end up being in marriage: playing defense to their wives' offense. Your biggest objective needs to be reestablishing control and direction of the relationship and the important things within it - once you have that, your wife's attraction will follow suit.

Chase

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