2013: The Year in Review + 49 Top Posts | Girls Chase

2013: The Year in Review + 49 Top Posts

It's been a prolific year for writing on Girls Chase - we've seen 250 new articles hit the site this year, from 10 different contributors. If you're curious about individual tallies, we're at:

  • 2 articles by Eric Reeves on power dynamics

  • 2 articles by Ross Leon on getting in great shape and stopping judgment

  • 3 articles by J.J. Jones on getting investment and being attractive

  • 6 articles by Richard Weddel on cold reading and various other techniques

  • 7 articles by Cody Lyans on low-profile under-the-radar seductiveness

  • 12 articles by Alek Rolstad, on sexual frames, threesomes, and sex reports

  • 12 articles by Drexel Scott on NLP, frame-setting, and threesomes with girlfriends

  • 14 articles by Peter Fontes on social circle and various topics

  • 25 articles by Colt Williams on everything from sexting to entitlement to party sex

  • ... and 167 articles by me, Chase Amante, covering the full gamut of things we cover on this site (and a few topics we usually don't)

(links to each writer's list of articles when clicking on his name above)

2013 year in review

Since I don't want to appear biased in deciding, but also since I personally have 3x as many articles on here this year as everyone else combined, I've decided to split a "Best of 2013" list into two lists - 17 of the best articles by our other authors out of the 58 they've written, and 32 of the best articles out of the 167 I've put out. I tried to narrow it down more than this, but this is about as whittled down as I could get this list - descriptions for each article follow links, to help you choose what to read right now.

Unless you've read everything on here as it's come out, you're likely to find at least a couple of gems in here you haven't yet read - and even if you have, there are probably a few you'll have forgotten about, but will be happy to stumble across once more.

Here we go.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.

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Sam 123 's picture

Dear Chase,

Congratulations to you and all the other writers on a fantastic year! I can't even begin to tell you how much you've all helped me grow each day on my path to becoming the man that I want to be. Here's to an even better 2014 for girlschase. Happy New Year!

Sam

Anonymous's picture

Chase,
Thank You for all the stuff you have written about and shared on your site....thanks for all your help through this site...........really fantastic job you're doing.....Happy New Year Chase, have a great one.

Matt C's picture

Chase,

Thank you very much for everything you've done for me.
I'm pretty sure you have no idea how much of an impact you had on my life... I started following girlschase about a year a ago and I have evolved in many ways. One of them is my view on women, dating, sex and relationships.
I began to understand basic social interactions with the knowledge from this website and realized that you were right with the investment, value, etc.

Thank you for providing me and everybody else with information and knowledge that is so simple, yet so precious and rare in our daily life.

Happy New Year!

Sincerely,

Matt

RJ's picture

Great year for myself and great year for Girlschase.com

Chase,
I work in a fairly stable job, looking likely to be a long term position as it stands, in my spare time I'm a gym fanatic and street dancer. I keep most of my private life away from work and don't mention it. (I'm fairly private as it is)
I've worked up incredible social skills, all the guys respect me and all the girls like me because Im mysterious, fairly masculine (after reading those body language tips on here - GOLD)
What identity would be best for me? Naturally I feel I have the confidence of a rebel and can stand my own ground etc, and also, can we get an article on being mysterious? As in how can you be mysterious without giving away too much (boring), or giving away too little (slightly reclusive)

Hope this makes sense, wish the best for your new year also.

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RJ-

You know yourself better than I do - if you feel like rebel could be a good fit, that might be it, then. It's really more about interests and personal values and beliefs than it is the things you do - I could pick out an identity for you, but if it doesn't fit with what you've got under the hood, it won't work. That one's highly subjective and personal to your own style.

Re: the article on mystery - I've got it noted down (and it's been on the list for a while, too). I might recommend this one as a jumping off point in the meantime, though: "Using Intrigue to Get Girls Chasing You", and this one, if you haven't seen it yet: "How to Be Vulnerable, Enchanting, and Alluring to Women."

Chase

L's picture

Hi Chase,

I have read almost all of your articles and I must say they have been very eye-opening and spot on, very impressed. Lately something has been on my mind, and it’s the situation when dating multiple girls at once I have found that at one point or another (usually sooner than later) the girl playfully asks something along the lines of “is this where you take your other girls?”.
Now I don’t lie to girls, so I wont hide the fact that I am seeing other people, however I am unsure of the best way to deal with such a question. Now im not saying that question in particular, but moreso, the best way to be honest with a girl in this regard without making her go into auto-rejection, consider you a player and put up [sometimes more] walls or decide to then also date other guys to avoid getting hurt (and hence more competition for you).

Now I usually blow it off with a comment like “the others usually get drive-through ;)”, but I was wandering if you could write an article on the touchy subject of showing that you have more options without making the girl retract. So basically how to allow her be somewhat jealous but not so much that she backs off, and how to let her know you’re dating other girls but keep her feeling special and most importantly, how to deal with this topic with inexperienced girls as opposed to a more experienced girl.

Reason why this has been on my mind is because it has become somewhat apparent to me that girls will usually only date one guy at a time, and if they date more than one then its usually because they are 70% invested in the one guy and then have another at 30% which they can go to as backup in case the first guy screws up or loses interest. And therefore telling them you have options could potentially change the above % against your favor. Just a thought!

Cheers

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L-

Noted on the touchy subject - that is an important one to cover, yeah.

The balance you want to strike is ambiguous, and one that neither elevates her status, nor the status of the other girl(s). So by way of an example, in response to, "Is this where you take your other girls?" you'd respond with something like, "Only the ones I really like."

She gets to smile briefly, and think, "Wow, he really likes me!" then say to herself, "Wait a minute... how many other girls that he really likes has he brought here?"

Ultimately, leaving that question unanswered.

I'll dive more into it in a post - maybe sometime soon, I like this topic!

Chase

Nate's picture

Chase,

This is a bit random, but can you do a post on astrology? Lately i've been fascinated by how accurate zodiac signs can be and the possibility of it showing how compatible you are with certain personality types. Obviously there's gonna be some exceptions, but from what I've noticed they are often dead on. It would be interesting to see how well they correlate or if they just create some weird prejudices.

I've seen you mention it in a few of your posts and just wanted to see your take on it.

Nate

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Nate-

Sure thing - I've got it noted down!

Chase

The M's picture

Thanks again for posting so many insightful articles. Looking forward to a wonderful 2014 on GC!

Best,
The M

Yink's picture

Hi Chase,I just want to use this medium to say a VERY BIG thank you for giving us advise on how to improve ourselves and achieve success in dating and life.You will never know how much you have impacted our lives.Though I'm not where I want to be yet in terms of success with women but I'm far better than where I was before I discovered this site 2 years ago and I know that with more hardwork,I'll soon be where I want to be.I wish you and GirlsChase more success this year.More Grease to your Elbow Chase.HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Troy's picture

Happy New Year to the girlschase team and everyone on here! :)

I thank you all writers for the great articles, the replies to my email, the free newsletters and getting started eBooks, replies to my comments on the articles and everything else you do to make this blessing site in my life possible.

We looking for a new better 2014 on girlschase and in our own self-improvement. so...

Cheers to a turning point this year for everyone! (this article is 251 article for the year 2013 actually)

Troy

Ariel's picture

Chase happy new year! If it wasent for you I wouldn't be where I am today. Your amazing for what your doing to help guys like me out when we don't know the answers (that goes to your other writers too). Your a role model, leader and a great MENTOR and wanted to thank you making my life so much better with WOMAN, work and everywhere I go! Take CARE and will be looking forward to your articles in 2014!

Cheers

Ariel ")

MarkyMark's picture

Chase, this site probably saved my marriage this year (bet you don't hear that every day). Attraction is attraction is attraction - it's universal, and the concepts (and practices) don't change: it works just as well on a 40-year old wife of 16 years who has fallen out of love with her husband, as it does on a doe-eyed 22 year old fresh out of college.

These articles have made me take a long, hard introspective look at myself. I came up lacking - lacking on fundamentals, lacking on what makes me, a man, attractive to women (most importantly my wife), what women are looking for, what I bring to the table, and so on. Not only am I light years away from being able to pick up any doe-eyed 22 year olds, I'm also pretty sure I couldn't even number-close on my own wife.

Reading these articles over the past months has given me concrete goals. I now know what to do to make her attracted to me again. I have a lot of work to do, but failure is not an option. Just remind me to be patient - Rome wasn't built in a day.

BTW, yes, I do share a lot of these articles with my wife (well, maybe not the threesome article!). I can tell you for a fact she strongly agrees with almost all the stuff on here, once we shift the context around a little to better represent our current situation. All the manly traits articles, what women actually respond to vs. what they say they want, and so on - according to my wife, it's spot on accurate.

PS: 22 years ago when I met her, I came on as dominant and leading (without even realizing it), moved her ridiculously fast (compliance on steroids), and slept with her within about 3 hours of meeting her. After I left the next morning, she rolled over, called her best friend back home, and point-blank said (and I quote), "I just met the man I'm going to spend the rest of my life with." No joke.

So, thanks again - to EVERYONE who contributed to GirlsChase, even if it's from a slightly different perspective than might be expected. I know this is a long comment, thanks for letting me share, and thanks for the site. Seriously.

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Mark-

That's fantastic to hear! Turning things around is one of the most satisfying things you can do with this skill base. Going out and meeting someone new is easy, compared to resurrecting a formerly good relationship that's hit the rocks, patching up all the bad spots, and get back rolling in a good direction again. So long as no uncrossable lines were crossed, if it's rather been just the gradual death of attraction, that's one you can ramp right back up when you realize the causes and systematically address them.

Your youthful personality sounds as though it was a dominant one, which means getting your house back in order is kind of like getting back to the gym after a long absence - some of the strength may have disappeared, but it comes back fast once those muscles are being put to good use again.

Women have a natural tendency to work to tame and take power over their settled partners over time, and that's usually the main cause of attraction loss in long term relationships, as the man has no strong agenda anymore (he's achieved what he set out to achieve), but the women continually pushes to have more security, and more, and more. You can't win on defense, and that's what most guys end up being in marriage: playing defense to their wives' offense. Your biggest objective needs to be reestablishing control and direction of the relationship and the important things within it - once you have that, your wife's attraction will follow suit.

Chase

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