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If she likes you, but opts not to hook up with you, what does it
mean? Why, it means you’ve failed her Chad test – and now she’ll make
you wait.
You’re back alone at your place with a girl. What you know about her: she’s adventurous, independent, and, by all indications, probably has been with her fair share of men. Perhaps she’s shared some of her old war stories with you: guys she’s been with, wild hookups she has had, sordid escapades gone by.
For some reason, it feels slightly off. You feel like she likes you, it’s just... her walls are up.
You decide to go for it anyway. She’s near you on the couch, with her body turned slightly away from yours. Her arms are folded, her expression slightly tensed. “Come here, you’re so far away,” you tell her. She scoots a little closer, but she doesn’t seem excited to do it. You put your hand on her chin to turn her face toward yours. She stops you.
“I don’t feel ready for that yet,” she says. You feel let down. After all that talk about all her crazy past hookups... and now she “isn’t ready?”
“I should probably go,” she tells you. You figure she’s blowing you off. And to be honest, you’re not really feeling it yourself either. Her defensiveness has killed any interest in her you had earlier. You walk her to the door. “I had fun,” she says. “We should hang out again soon.” You grunt a response and let her go.
Two weeks later – you haven’t bothered to message her – she texts you, asking what you’re up to and why she hasn’t heard from you. It seems so weird... this girl resisted intimacy when you brought her back, but she still wants to meet up anyway. Why? For what?
Slowly it starts to dawn on you: she likes you... just not enough to make you one of the men she gives it up too fast.
You have, in other words, failed the Chad test.
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Chad test vs Rejection
I don't know whether I really got your point at all.
Basically every woman does a Chad test but basically every guy gets rejected in his life a few times or even more. So where do we draw the line between being Chad tested and just being simply rejected? We don't really know our romantic, platonic and sexual value, if we haven't had sex with a woman who we just met.
What I am saying is, maybe a Chad test helps women figure out our value for them but I can't see what it does for us at all. Maybe we got rejected but we never were Chad tested in the first place.
What's the Use of the Chad Test for a Man?
BMontana-
Any time a woman likes you enough to keep you around, but not enough to comply with you / go to bed with you, you have value for her, but failed her Chad test.
Or another way of putting it: she likes you enough to keep you around, but not enough to shag your brains out purely for the heck of it. Value test passed, Chad test failed.
A man who is unequivocally rejected by a woman you wouldn't say "Chad test failed" about. He just got rejected.
However, she friend zones you? You failed the Chad test.
She boyfriend zones you? Failed the Chad test.
Pigeonholes you into her "my wonderful, platonic mentor" box? Failed the Chad test.
The usefulness of the Chad test paradigm (at least to me) is recognizing when a woman views you as useful enough to keep around, but not someone she'd climb into bed for.
It's a way to be able to say "She sees me as having value. Just not Chad value."
It's also useful for reminding yourself that just because you may have failed her Chad test doesn't mean every other guy out there has. Lots of guys think "Well, she's not hooking up with me because she just doesn't hook up with guys." Or they think "It doesn't make sense at all! This girl hooks up with EVERYONE - why wouldn't she hook up with me?"
If you internalize the "Chad test" model, those previously confusing situations become a lot clearer. It's not that this chick doesn't ever hook up - it's just that you failed her Chad test, so she's not going to hook up with you (unless you either get her to see you as a Chad, or you make it through the Boyfriend Vetting Process). It's not that she arbitrarily shut you out of her hookup zone, despite the fact that she's banged all your friends - it's that your friends passed her Chad test, but you did not.
To me, that's the primary value. Making confusing or unclear value situations clearer.
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