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Tactics Tuesdays: Move Girls

move girlsIf you've been reading this site a while, I'm sure you've seen me recommend again and again that you move girls to get them committed to the interaction with you.

You might have wondered exactly what that meant though, or exactly how to do it.

It's a surprisingly simple piece of advice - "move girls" - but it makes a huge difference in how your interactions go. In fact, it's hands down my favorite exercise to do with coaching clients. Typically we go out, work on a little basic opening, some initial conversation, and then, the meat - I tell a guy, "All right, next, I want you to start moving these girls."

I've seen this called "isolation" in some places, "extraction" in others. It's been given lots of longwinded technical explanations, like you need to move women in order to get them away from their friends, who'll interfere... or something like that.

This is not so. Friends don't make much of a difference. What DOES make a difference is getting girls to commit to talking with you - and following your lead.

And that's necessary for a couple of different reasons.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.

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Anon Guy's picture

Chase, hey,

This is an awesome post and I am religiously reading your down-to-earth blog.

I have a dilemma of not owning my own pad (yet), and if we propose that it is a zero-sum game, and that it all boils down to sleeping with her for the two to become lovers, do you have any practical advise on guys who do not own a convenient, private space to make the magic happen?

I guess back seat of my car could work, but it's not really private, and will probably be a million times harder to pull that off.

But based on countless posts I've read so far from you, it seems like the only way is to bed her some way or another.

Let me know. Thanks!

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Chase Amante's picture

Hey Anon Guy,

You're basically talking about what I refer to as logistics on the fly - making things happen when you don't have a ready answer for logistics.

In fact, the back seat of a car isn't impossible - in some ways it's even better than a bed! Girls tend to figure out pretty quickly that bed = somewhere they should be on-guard, so you'll get more resistance (see "How to Get a Girl in Bed" for more on that one). Whereas, in the back seat, they don't have that built up autopilot resistance, so it's oftentimes smoother sailing.

I have a Book Excerpts post I was set to have up in a few weeks on logistics-on-the-fly from How to Make Girls Chase. I'll put that one up tomorrow instead, and push the rest of the schedule back a week. Check back tomorrow!

Chase

Just Dave's picture

Hey Chase,

I've been having constant results with getting with girls for over the past two months after reading your blog and your book. One thing I want to put emphasis on is never getting too comfortable with a girl before you commit. I almost ran into snags with a girl I've been hooking up with for awhile now. We're not in a relationship or anything like that, she hasn't even questioned what we're doing yet. However, even though I slept with her just the other day I almost missed opportunities to move her. This would be times when I was getting out of class (I'm in college). Even though I moved her eventually, had I waited a little longer I would be paving the way to friend zone or boyfriend zone. I think it would be helpful if you could make a post about keeping hook ups going with constant consistency. I've been keeping logs to ensure, I keep from getting sloppy.

Take care,

Just Dave

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Chase Amante's picture

Hey JD,

Great to hear about the consistent results you're getting now, man.

That's a good point you raise. You're basically talking about keeping sexual momentum alive with a woman you've already slept with - a crucial part of maintaining any kind of sexual relationship, from the most casual (like yours) to the most formal (like a marriage... many of which become sexless and dead after a while).

That'd make for a good post, yeah - I'll see what I can do.

Chase

Maximus's picture

Hi Chase,

Great content all over this site! I've been reading for a few months & spontanesly meet Ricardus in person a couple weeks ago too. Clearly this is the ideal source of wisdom for me in this area of pickup & women.

That said, I totally agree with just Dave that an article on maintaing Sexual Momentum would be valuable! Like you said both for casual & formal relationships.

I'm currently talking with a girl again that I hooked up with - on the 1st night we meet utilizing some of what I learned from you. The thing is this this was a couple months ago & after meeting up a couple times I wasn't sure how to maintain the momentum which lead to us not talking again till now.

Any feedback on how I/we could not have to come to this by maintain momentum, & maybe also on how to pick up the momentum again if its dropped?

Thanks for sharing with all of this!

All the best Brotha,
Maximus

nit-picker's picture

Hey, Chase,

I have been reading your articles for a week or two and have really enjoyed them! Thanks a lot for all your insight and advice.

You probably won't read this as this post is quite old, but I wanted to mention that I think you're using zero-sum in the wrong way here. Treating picking up women as a zero-sum game would mean that you sleeping with her means that you won and she lost and her rejecting you means that she won and you lost. Sleeping with her should be thought of as both of you winning (hence the sum of your "score" is not zero). Zero-sum is a very adversarial way to look at pickup and goes against the general viewpoint of these articles I would think.

I get what you mean, though, about restricting your goals down to just one: get her home with you.

Cheers,
nit-picker

Anonymous's picture

OH, the "move" thing! That's the link that missed in my flirting chain!

Mark123's picture

Hi Chase,

I'm just wondering if you could give a few more examples of a "moving" scenario?

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