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How to Stop Playing Games (in Your Relationship)

stop playing gamesWe’ve used frames a lot for the sake of getting sexually intimate with women quickly… now let’s look at the power of frames in the context of exclusive relationships a bit more.

Let’s take the example we used in our last post, "How to Not Fall in Love"… she’s not texting you, and you’re starting to freak out a little.

Does she not miss you?

Is she with another guy?

What is going ON?

The first thing to realize is that one of a million things could be going on…

  • Maybe she’s busy
  • Maybe she’s asleep
  • Maybe she’s out of phone credit
  • MAYBE SHE’S TRYING TO MAKE YOU WANT HER MORE

The last one is the biggie… and if she’s really into you, then that’s probably the one you’re facing. As I said, women read dating advice too… from the gossip with her girlfriends to the women’s magazines she reads on a regular basis, she’s being primed for playing the GAME like a PRO.

But as I mentioned above… if you’re trying to move things forward, from dating to a proper relationship, you want to stop playing games; to get rid of all games you guys are playing with each other.

Of course, it’s easy enough for YOU to stop playing games if you so choose.

The question is, though… how can you stop HER from playing games?

How can you disarm them before they even come up?

And THAT is an excellent question.

Ricardus DominoAbout the Author: Ricardus Domino

Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. He is most remembered for his “Are you single?” opening line. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.

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Aaron's picture

I have recently been discussing this with fellow senior college PUAs, there is a small group of us that have been very active in the game the past at least 3-4 years. My girlfriend (21) of 6 months is very aware of the game and believe that is how she attracted me; however I do find her playing games and can almost predict what is coming. I've called her out a few times and pin pointed what she's doing and about knocking it off because I don't do it to her. I feel as if I have taken a similar approach to yours but keep finding myself dealing with it specially more frequent since we have been living 3 hours apart all summer. I feel like if I don't get rid of this in the next few weeks its going to be an issue when she returns for fall semester, any suggestions

K's picture

May I apologize for this comment, but I have a problem too.

I'm in crush with a girl in my class, and I only see her only one day per week. Last week, I ask her to go out for a drink, and it was really fun. Along the conversation, she told me to make a painting for her (we study in the Art school). And 5 days later, It's her birthday, I keep my word. paint a picture and give it to her. and she just take it home, didnt say anything. didnt text anything even when I try to send a message.

What is wrong happening? could you tell me please!

Phil's picture

I think the problem here is that you have invested a lot more in her than she has in you. You have worked hard to please her by painting her a picture. Also, she told you what to do and you did it.

She may therefore believe that you are easy to get and are chasing her. Read what Chase has to say about "The Law Of Least Effort" and "Attainability".

Bob Handy's picture

I have a really difficult situation. Out of all the girls I've ever tried for I have only been turned down a few times (so getting women isn't the problem). I have never had affection for a girl until now in my life. I'm currently 29 and dating a girl that is roughly 9 years younger.

She matured quick due to struggles in life she has been through, so intelligence wise we are very much on the same level. So here's where the problem comes in. When we are together everything is perfect, we hang out for hours (5+ usually) and time flies because we enjoy each other so much. We have lots in common and both like a challenge. She does live about 30 miles away from me which I don't mind picking her up. She tells me she misses me, can't wait to see me again, etc (which we are also very affectionate when together). So here's where I'm stuck.

We always hang out 2 days a week; but I would like to see her more and this is where the issue starts. She doesn't like to plan because she has family that she helps out; like watching their kids. She is usually true to her word, so she doesn't like to say something and not follow through.

I get off work slightly after noon (so I wake up early). She goes to work for a few hours and is usually off by dark. It always ends up being an issue collaborating things on the days she does work (we usually hang out on the days she has off).

So in your opinion/experience do you think this is just due to age and not having a solid foundation (because she hasn't dealt with the "if I don't do this responsibility the consequences will be life change" part of life yet)? Or is there something else I should be looking for?

anonymous's picture

This girl, loves me, but i couldn't figure out how to stop the game playing.
I will frame this with these approaches and mindsets. 2 years ago, I read the how to get into the game first, now I'm reading how to stay into the game.

This is exactly the situations I'm going through. She loves me like crazy, she texts me that she misses me and all that, and I have no idea what kind of games she's playing, so I guess I want to confront her, but yes as an alpha I'm always thinking, I can't do that since its irrational and weak. I always approach with a strong head. I got lost for a little, I agree, and I let her games get to me, make me FEEL but luckily not give in and act weak. Relationships, they are amazing at teaching you about life, yourself, and your insecurities.

Cheers, Chase

Tic's picture

Wow.....hit the nail on the head with this one Ricardus! How very insightful. And finding the right girl for this is PARAMOUNT. I can't stress this enough. I have a counseling background when it comes to marital/long-term relationships, and it truly is refreshing to see someone else telling the truth about how important it is to be open and honest in such a relationship. (This does NOT, however, translate into being weak and spineless on the man's part...) I fear long gone are the days when the men in this country lost thier dominance and grit. Women started walking all over us as long ago as the forties, and it has gotten steadily worse since then. And the worst part...they (women) resent us for it! But I suppose I'm starting to digress a little.
Perhaps not....
Showing a woman you love that she is being insecure when she should'nt be may be the man's fault for not expressing the things he needed to earlier...but calling her out on it when she does is equally if not more important! After all, men make the worst mind-readers on the planet. But with pros like you'll find here, they will help you sift through the signals and mystery. Thanks again!

George Stobbart's picture

This homepage and its writers are the best example for bringing PU to a whole new, authentic level.

Lately, PickUp felt like a dead end for me.

You guys are really edge-cutting. Never read of something like a "team frame" in pickup forums. I reconsidered this and realized, that I've used the team frame many times in real life (unconsciously) and how good it worked.

Ricardus, this is my third article you wrote I stumbled upon and I already feel you know your business. What I've read from you and Chase was great so far.

PickUp now feels like it's a starter. This site feels like mastery. Don't get smug! :D

Ashley's picture

Trying to get my nice guy bf to manipulate me with games, ironically.

lucifer's picture

Don’t ask her, “Why didn’t you send me a text… don’t you miss me?”
Instead, ask her, “Why didn’t you send me a text… are you afraid that I don’t miss you?”
BAM!!!
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This website is just amazing, but some of these old articles are lame and the content would gain if they were to be purged.

"say this, reply that, put on this frame.. " this is cheap and gamey it seems to be reading Neil Strauss' book

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