How to Ask a Girl Out and (Almost) Always Get a “Yes!”

chase, i may not be as knowledgeable as chad with all the dating advice, but whatever chance you get when you want to ask out a girl, ask her in person. its not only more meaningful but girls think it's "cute" or "courageous" but if the girls in like, a different country or somethin, my guess is you probably ask her out the same way you do in person on skype or email. just type everything out though. also say something about how much you wish you were with her or you miss her. stuff suchas that

Hey I'm new in a school and I like this girl if I ask her out tomorrow do u think it'll work out I read every thing u wrote

so i havent askdd anyone out before and im a little confused. im good friends with thr girl i like so i should ask her out in the middle of a good conversation where we both seem to be enjoying it? it would really help a lot to have clarify that.

theres a girl i really like, i asked her out, were really good freinds, she said no, i tried the being "cool" about it and it was still a no. we ended the conversation on good terms but i wanna ask her out again, is there anything i can do that might get me a yes without jeprodizing our freindship?

so... there's one that always talks to me when she can. We're good friends and she always talks as much as she can to me (leaves her group and steps maybe 20 feet away to come to me.) She literally said ,what you would imagine, "I wish all of us were in the same classes." But i assumed it was just them and i said," Like that wouldn't drive Mrs. ____ crazy." She then said, well you'd be in it too, and THAT would get us crazy." "Why?" Cause your so much fun." Boom knew it. liked me liked her. so, next day (she had to leave earlier) she was by my locker. ME: "Hey! ____" told ya i was ___. what are you doing here?" "Waiting for allysa, what are you doing here?" "Thats my locker." She jumps right in front of it moving left and right. "Idk which one so I'ma move around ha ha." ME:"Left, left, not that far left, right a couple, no no right one more, no that was three. I'm jk i'm just making you move." "Aww, little devil!" ME:"Here face the locker.... 28-10-26." (she opens the locker.) "so.. wow neat one. what do you need?" (She had her arms around the sides of the locker.) boom came up and hugged her (mildly). o, it was a yes.

hey chase what do you do if you really like a girl and she is older then you by two years and is your sisters bff

So I really like this girl, I'm a year older than her, we have a lot in common and she seems to like me. My problem is a few things. I am terrified to ask her out. Not because I think she'd say no, it's just that I'm shy, and it's not really something I'm comfortable with. Also, my friend really likes her, but that won't happen, as said by the girl I like. Plus I dated her older sisters best friend and her older sister kicked me in the nuts becauses it seemed as if I didn't care that my gf had moved (not completely my fault, as I didn't know my gf had moved, and thought she was sick. I knew it was coming I just hoped it would have been later) so what do I do. I'm stuck in a pickle. The signs that she likes me are there. She's always near me and laughing at all my jokes (even the terrible ones) but on one hand, there's her sister, and on the other there is my friend. I spend a lot of time with her because of drill practice and competitions. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Thanks, I will now ask the girl I like! Thanks again for the tips.

Hey guys I've been talking to this girl online for some time now and I really want to meet her in person. Should I tell her that we should meet up? Or what do I do. Thanks!

hello, I was texting a girl and she missed one of my texts and she kept saying sorry then she offered " what can I do to make it up " what should I say in reply?

I just recently started liking this girl in my class, and we used to talk all the time. One of my friends found out I liked her and told her, and ever since then she has been awkward around me. What should I do, should I ask her out or should I just forget about it best I can.
PS. I am 13 so I don't have much experience with asking girls out

Quick question. Is it too soon to use your methods of asking a girl out on the first conversation ever held between me and said girl? If so, how long into the initial friendship should I wait? Also, I want to be sure I don't do the opposite by waiting too long.

hey chase so I'm interested in this girl from work and know for a 100% that she is interested in me. I am about 4 years older than her however (she's 18 im 22). So i tried not to get involved with her at all but she kept flirting with me and following me around and so i decided to ask her to go on a date. Right away she said yes and i could tell was very excited that i asked. The next morning however she texted saying that she thought about the date and she wanted to go but it wouldn't be a good idea because she didn't want to ruin our friendship. So is this her just being immature about the whole situation or perhaps her parents told her she couldn't go? And should i even try and pursue anything more or just let it go?

My three rules for dating are:
1. Don't make it a digital relationship. Try to say stuff in person. If not, call, not text. Also, I added at least for myself that breakups are to happen in person. They will not be acknowledged if done via phone or text.
2. Follow the baseball analogy for relationships and follow it slowly. If you want to know what I mean, google 'baseball analogy for relationships'. They tend to say different things but the idea is the same.
3. Never give your heart to the same person twice unless you are CERTAIN that things have changed and its going to go better this time

I had this girl that i really like that i was getting ready to ask out. I had sent her a flower, that she would get five days later, then my friend asked her out and now they are dating. Do you have a good excuse for why i sent her the flower

Just stumbled on this page and I am amazed. All of this is spot on, every part. Whoever you are, you REALLY understand women! I will just add that girls like to be asked out. It's flattering and really boosts our confidence. And we understand that it takes a lot to put yourself out in the open like that, so you look brave, too. Good luck with your girl!

There's this girl i want to ask out but she might already have a bf but I'm not positive. What is the best way to find this out without making it awkward.

OMG!!!!! I love this page, works sooo well!! :D just got a date with THE HOTTEST girl in my school... she's a professional model, an actress, ballerina, jazz dancer, and super smart.... and she's from spain!!!

Alright, the main thing is simple dates, ask pretty early on after meeting her( 5-10 days later), and obviously after talking A LOT to her, and ask her casually. Just make sure she shows some of the signs of being into you...

Ask quickly, simply, and make sure you try to go by her schedule. Don't dominate, but obviously don't bend over backwards to her every whim.

Anyway, thanks for the help Chase!!! :DD best page eve and soo true
Peace and love everyone!!

this girl wants to be around me abandones her friends to be with me compliments me stands really close to me and doesn't want to leave me does she like me

Yo i really like this girl in my school and I dont know how i should ask her out ive liked her for about 3 weeks everytime i see her i feel like i should do something with my hair and clothes then i realise re were uniforms so the clothes thing is fine what should i do.

Hey I'm gonna try that and see if it works

Hey Chase
There is an amazing girl i asked out two years ago but i made the mistake of asking her this after she had a recent break-up. She told me that she wasn't looking for a relationship yet and that she wanted to wait a while. Lately, I've been talking with her again and its brought back some previous thoughts and feelings. How do you think I should treat my situation? I don't want to do something stupid and ruin my chances. I kind of really need help. I'll take anything i can get in terms of advice.
-Wayne p

This stuff is really helpful, i am going to try this...

A good friend of mine from my old school who I hadn't talked to in a couple of years found my number from somewhere and texted me. Of course we hit it off straight away and started talking about what life had been like since I moved schools a few years back. Then we found each other on social networking sites and I saw a picture of her. She was beautiful and I instantly began to like like her because she was amazing and so great to talk with. Then she began to tell me that we needed to catch up, and if I could think of a way for us to meet in real life. She kept telling me this, and I thought she wanted me to ask her out. Then I realized that Valentines Day was in like, a day or something, and I got really happy that it seemed perfect. I was going to ask her out on V Day. So after school, I texted her "Happy V Day!" and she said "haha thx you too :)" and I was just about to ask her out when she told me that at school she had been asked out by some other guy and had said yes. Inside I died. But I kept it in and told her congrats and things like that.. But I'm so down right now, and I figured that after she broke up with him, and if I told her the truth if she'd feel the same way, and if she didn't, if our great friendship would be ruined. Damnit! :(

hey chase i really like this girl and i'm going to take your advise but i wrote her a poem should i give her it when i ask before i ask after i ask? help me out please thanks

Here is my problem. I think I missed the window. This girl I was interested in, might have been into me. She had sided with me in arguments with our common friends, she laughed at my jokes, said I was smart, and on one occasion meowed at me repeatedly. I don't know how to interpret this; an attempt to get my attention or simply being social? Anyway it has been awhile since I've talked to her and I don't know if she is or ever was interested. If she was, is there any way to recover from missing the window of opportunity.
There is also a second girl. I'm a little more nervous to talk to this girl because I don't know her name and I have really no insight to wether she is single or dating someone.

Hey Chase, What a great article. I wanted to ask a girl I fancy out, and the conversation went as follows (as she was leaving a concert with her (girl)friends):

Me: How about Sunday are you free?

Her: mmmm text me ;)

That is a yes, no? Should I text her straight away?

Hey Chase,

Great article! Definitely some good stuff here. I was wondering if you could help me out. There is this one girl that recently got hired at my work. I've gotten to know her and we seem to have quite a bit in common. I don't think I've ever met a girl with so many little things in common. However, sometimes she just ignores me completely or says very little. Next day she won't want to stop talking to me. I feel like she is giving me mixed signals sometimes. I really like her and want to ask her out. But just can't seem to tell if she really is interested in me. To make matters more confusing, she will respond to my text messages instantly at times and then not at all at other times.

I've tried listening to some of my friends and just give her space and leave her alone and see what she does. She comes and finds me and starts up a conversation or she will come and won't say anything. Its like a game of cat and mouse. I don't know if I should just ask her out or what. I know maybe asking out someone that I work with is not the ideal situation, but it has worked out with two of my friends. So I wonder maybe it can work for me too! Any suggestions??

Look forward to your response! Thanks!!!

Hi Chase,
Honestly I'm terrified of asking a girl out. I've been in so many situations where I was feeling confident and had no trouble asking and somehow, something always got messed up, most of it having nothing to do with being rejected or the girl's emotions towards me. A good example is the one time this girl I really liked started crying and calling herself stupid over and over as she was telling me she changed her mind about being in a relationship because she worked full time and was enlisted for school.
I mean come on! What does a guy have to do to keep his head straight after getting similar results 7-8 times in just a few years? All the courage I had is gone because of that and I pretty much feel hopeless and have given up on the idea of being comfortable with myself and sharing myself physically with a girl.
It just makes me depressed now when I like a girl because of all the effort it takes just to end up feeling worst.
What should I do? I need physical attraction just like anyone else, I hate one night stands, I am tired of feeling overwhelmed. Please share a few words of advice and I will be forever grateful!

What if she says "I don't know"?

All of this is gold. A club movie theater any other place like that says I am a boyfriend material. but there is something fun about having long drawn out seductions. I know your concerned with emotions of the women after which is a cherry on top and good policy but I read your article about becoming what she wants and if you do that effectively you can pull almost anywhere. Your stuff is mentally stimulating and you have taught me a lot. Hindsight is 20/20 and those missed opportunities are tough to bear. I consider you to be my guide so I never have to look back and think about how much of an idiot I have been. I now know that what I want is there if I look for it

I fell in love with this girl a grade above me and she seems to like me but im not sure and if she says no it will tear me apart. Im just gonna take ur advice and ask her. Thank you so much for the advice I realized ive been waiting, just like u said. Everybody should take chases advice because hes helped me realize so many mistakes ive made

So I read your article and I've been doing all of what you said with a girl I like but I just can't get her alone so I can ask her but when I do it feels awkward. What do I do?

Theirs a girl I know I like and by what I know I think she likes me. ONE PROBLEM THOUGH! the girl I know has a friend that I also know (as much as her) and I think she likes me too. I really want to date her but i'm afraid that if I date her her friend will be pissed or talk her out of the date. I dont know what to do and I need ur help! should i still try to ask her out or just "go for another fish in the sea"

What's up so I was recently in a 10 year friendship I asked this girl out but was friend zoned and she won't speak to me anymore but I met this 16 year old girl I'm 18 and I'm 19 I'm June she is 17 also in June she's really cute and I really like her but Im not sure she like me back not in that sense anyway, she does a lot of music and drama and books she's crazy about iron man also I was thinking about taking her to a restaurant and than iron man 3 but like you said movies aren't for communicating but I want to show her that hey I've been listening to what you've been saying, just today she randomly said that it's okay for a 20 year old to date a 17 year old I'm just wondering if this was sometimes of Hint hint or might she like me back were both Christian go to the same church we love Jesus and I really love that about her too I know that she loves god too much to do something ungodly neither of us have had our first kiss were saving it for marriage to whoever it may be cause from what I heard a weeding day is so much more beautiful when it's there first I can't stop thinking about her man I haven't told my friend yet but I'm sure he knows

lol i love when Christine said sunday afternoon was fine you said "Cool Beans" cool cool beans beans cool beans. ahh i love that movie

I'm starting to like this girl, but I kno that she started liking already a long time ago. I get the feeling that she still likes me but we hung out alot and we are good friends, idk how to ask her out.

Hey Chase, I know this girl that's leaving the state in about a month, and I also happen to know that she likes me, but doesn't want to start a relationship before she leaves. Is it possible to ask her on a date, but as friends, not as a couple and go from there? (If possible, I would like a asap answer since she's leaving soon).

Thank you Chase, you are making a great difference in the world.

Hi Chase,

I really like this girl at school. She sometimes talkes to me and askes if her outfit is slutty. I don't know what to do because I recentley broke my ankle and on crutches till the end of school. What should I doo?

Thanks

Hey Chase, you talked about what to do if the girl you asked said no, but what if she says nothing, and sort avoids the topic? I've liked this girl in my Spanish class for months, and we had a big test coming up. Generally, we talk about the course material and other school stuff, but on this one day, the day before our Final test, she was telling me how worried she is for the test. I'm pretty good at Spanish, and I figured this could be my chance to ask her out, so I say, "Hey Haley, if you're worried for the test, I could help you study for it." I figured she would say yea to this, and then I would plan with her on a place we could meet to study and talk, maybe over some lunch. I mean, she sounded pretty stressed and I figured she wouldn't turn down some help, especially since she often asks me for help in class. But,. Instead of a yea or even a no, she just kinda looked at me as if she wanted to say something, and after an awkward few seconds, changed the subject! I have to admit, I hadn't asked her at the "emotional height" you spoke of, but still, no answer? I don't know if this means she just isn't interested, or if she just didn't know how to respond, but I would like your advice please.

Great advice but why is a movie a bad first date option

first dates let her talk ask questions than talk about you
second date bring her to lunch
than shell decide if she wants to chill in a movie meaning third date

or grab a coffee and talk meaning maybe third date

i think she said maybe after the test because befaure that she would be more nervous ps ask her after the test

Hi I'm new to this.

Today my crushes friend asked me if I like her. Does that mean that my crush likes me too. If no please tell me why. I really like her and I never get to see her except during lunch but she never leaves her friends and I don't want to ask her out in front of anyone.

Please give me tips on how to do this and I will be eternally grateful

Hi, chase
I will really appreicate, if you can help me out.
So I like this girl who I see around the campus (In college right now). So I wanted to ask her out, but I just waited too long for a good chance to talk her to happen (which is not good, according to your advice from the article). Now, I feel like I should atleast ask her out rather than giving up thinking "oh well, I screwed up by waiting too long". I want to give a try, so I need some advice.
So I have been seeing her around the campus many times. It seems like she have noticed me also. But I am not sure if she noticed me in similar way as I see her, or she noticed that I have been staring at her a lot and think i'm creepy. I think the chances are half and half.
Anyway, I see her a lot in the cafe eating alone. So I'm planning to go up to her and ask her out saying something like "hey! This is going to be weird, but I think your are cute and I want to know more about you. Would you like to have a cup of coffee with me when you are free?" Then if she is struggling to find a word to say (there is a lot of chance that she will be since she seems pretty shy), I will say "We can have a lunch or dinner, if you don't like coffee." to just ease the tension.
What do you think about this? I am not sure if this is a good way to approach to her. If this seems really bad, what will be a good way to talk to her?
p.s. If anyone who read this has an idea for me, I will be glad to hear thx.