Girls: Silly and Cute

Don’t forward this post to any feminists.

There’s a lot of animosity among men in the West toward women these days, and a lot of it, I’m quite sure, ties back to the efforts women have made to change their image. Fifty years ago in America, if you watch old television shows, women are quite often depicted as silly and cute; they did and said the darnedest things, and men would look upon them with expressions that said, without words, “Aw.. ain’t she just so silly and cute?”

Nowadays, a woman being depicted that way on television, and a man looking at a woman that way, would be demonized as outdated and humiliating. “Women need to be taken seriously,” we’re told; “that’s the only way they’ll be treated as equals.”

So most men in the West no longer view women as silly and cute. Instead, they view them as scary, intimidating creatures who will bite their heads off should they dare to view women as anything less than ferocious beasts and equals; “men in skirts”, if you will.

And, as a result, men resent women. They complain about them, harbor negative feelings toward them, and think poorly of them. And as a result of that resentment men harbor for women, women come to resent men. They complain about not being able to find a decent guy, relationships breaking down everywhere, and not even being able to find a guy they’re interested in sleeping with.

The Unaffected Man

There are, however, a few men who don’t buy into the message that women should be viewed as and treated like men in skirts. Mainly, these are the men who’ve unplugged – who’ve quit TV, stopped reading magazines, and largely removed themselves from pop culture. If you haven’t done this yet, I recommend you do.

Unplugging is one of the best things you can do for your mindset. It allows you to start thinking for yourself and stop thinking whatever the dominant mainstream culture in your society thinks. Because generally, dominant mainstream culture caters to average people; and I very much doubt that anyone reading this blog aspires to an average existence.

So yes, unless you want to feel weak and frustrated and confused like most men portrayed on television are, I recommend you do yourself a favor and unplug from that acculturation device, and step away from movies and music with crappy messages too. I sat and thought about it for a moment, and I realized I don’t know a single strong, independent-minded dude who watches TV, in fact. TV’s the worst for free thought; radio is number 2. Movies, at least, you can pick and choose what you watch. For instance, I’ve had a few girls try and get me to watch a movie called She’s Out of My League with them; the title of the movie alone already makes it sound like something filled with the kind of thinking I don’t want being beamed into my skull.

I was thinking about this last night as I sat at a bar looking at a table full of girls dressed in skimpy little Santa suits for Christmas day. I smiled and laughed a little and thought how cute and silly those girls were. Then I stopped for a moment, and thought about how most guys would react at seeing a table full of girls dressed in skimpy Santa outfits with their legs and the tops of their breasts on display; most guys, I thought, would probably think, “Wow, oh my God, those girls are so hot and sexy!” And I found this thought kind of funny too.

Later I was sitting at another bar in the same nightclub, on the upstairs level. There were two girls sitting a few seats down from me, making out with each other for a picture. I smiled and thought about how silly and cute they were. Then I thought about the Santa girls earlier, and realized that most guys would probably be flipping out if they saw the two girls making out that I was watching. Why is this?

It ties back partially to having an abundance mentality, in part; when sexy girls are a part of your life, they stop seeming so amazing. It also ties to being used to pretty girls doing sexy things; once you’ve seen it enough times, it stops being so mind-blowingly incredible and just becomes something you’ve seen a hundred times already. So part of it’s just exposure.

What it really comes down to, though, is being able to smile at girls’ antics and think to yourself, “Girls are so silly and cute.” Because, heck – they are! Girls do the silliest, cutest things – they dress up trying to look cute and sexy, in silly little outfits; they’re kind of clumsy, and drop things or run into things or break their heels; they scream and yell and make a lot of noise and dance and generally act like little kids trapped in grown people’s bodies. Girls are silly and cute.

How This Mentality Helps You

I actively worked to develop this mentality in myself. A few years back, when I didn’t have it, I’d make myself watch girls doing crazy things, force myself to smile or laugh a little bit, and think to myself that girls were silly and cute. These days, I genuinely do smile and laugh, and genuinely do think girls are silly and cute. Training myself to do so helped me get there.

This mentality is actually immensely helpful. The same girls whose sarcasm or aloofness scares off lesser men seem silly and cute to you with this mentality, and you treat them as such, and they respond as such. It actually sets up the proper dynamic that should exist between men and women: you, the man, see a girl dismissing weaker men left and right, and think to yourself, “She’s so silly and cute,” and you treat her like she’s silly and cute when she tries being dismissive to you, and she melts and treats you like the strong, self-assured man she realizes you are. You were the only guy to see through her tough girl façade and treat her like the girl she is.

You’re also better prepared to shrug off minor indiscretions. If a girl makes a mistake, or says or does something mildly offensive, it doesn’t bother you and you chalk it up to her just being a silly girl. When she tries to apologize, you dismiss it, because you know she was just being a girl and it doesn’t really matter.

This is one of those things that might be considered an “intangible” in seduction. You don’t see immediate results that you can say beyond a shadow of a doubt, “Okay, this and this and that happened because of my ‘girls are silly and cute’ mentality;” rather, you see an overall improvement of your comfort with women and their attitudes in their treatment of you.


So, should you see any girls dressed as sexy Santas this holiday season, it’s my suggestion to you that rather than bug your eyes out and think, “Oh my God, those girls are so hot!” instead, you look at them, let a sly smile spread slowly across your face, and think to yourself, “Girls are so silly and cute.” You’ll get yourself thinking about things the right way – and I promise, except maybe for a few of the feminists, all the rest of the girls you meet will like it. But actually, so long as you don’t go and tell them what you’re thinking, I’m betting those feminists will like you treating them like you think they’re silly and cute too.

Merry Christmas!


Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Anonymous's picture

This actually is a good post, and harbours much good message. Meanwhile reading it, really made me at least for NOW feel much easier to approach women.. And never thought to try this approach on those tough cases. But have to go and try with it next time :)

Franklin Falco's picture

I understand what you're saying. I don't resent women. I have a deep respect for them. I get the same feeling when I look at a pretty girl that I get when I'm looking at an adorable innocent little kitten. Women throughout history have been seen as evil, but that's simply not true. Women today are either portrayed as mean or victims. I like princess movies and other cutesy things because there is a certain innocence about them. I recently got in a bit of trouble for tugging gently on a girl's shirtsleeve. I hope that she wasn't hurt before which is why she was so wary. I literally go around asking girls to be my girlfriend. They all say no, but it's just nice to watch some of them giggle. Pin-up artists and tasteful nudists seem to have more respect for both women and men than the mainstream media.

DjMag's picture

I Agree the silly and cute thing works well Amante, There is just something Ive been struggling with lately. I almost have resentment towards girls that do that and love the attention. I actually get angry, Ive been trying my best to let it go, because what does it matter to me? I dont know where this bitterness has come from. I want to learn to Love women again. Any advice is welcome.

Anonymous's picture

Hello there,
It's still possible to call girls cute when for example you know that one girl slept with about 25 men and became a lusty woman, who wants the D?
Because you know – cuteness very often binds to innocence.
It's rather hard to call prostitute "cute"...

Anonymous's picture

Bro what are you talking about? Who's talking about hitting on prostitutes? lmao

Anonymous's picture

Bro what are you talking about? Who's talking about hitting on prostitutes? lmao

He isn't dummy!! Read what he said properly!!

He's using the metaphor of a hooker to describe some women that shag around a lot. What he means is how can you call a slut or a hooker cute?

As much as I admire Chase's comments he seems to be missing the harder truth that deep down on a primal level women are nor silly and cute, quite the opposite, this isn't to say they are bad, it's just nature's way of weeding out weak men.

Read what Errol Flynn though about women and Franco's ( the Italian Natural)material.

Be forwarned!

bjcrispi's picture

Hey Chase!

Thanks to your site, I managed to meet a really cool girl (I moved and just left high school, so 'dating' is fresh and not to common)

I have the 'silly and cute' mentality, but what would you consider treating her like she's silly and cute.

"and you treat her like she’s silly and cute when she tries being dismissive to you, and she melts and treats you like the strong, self-assured man she realizes you are."

Thanks a lot!

chrisc's picture

This is an excellent article for trying to pick up women or flirt with them. However, in the workplace I would not recommend viewing women in this manner as it will ultimately backfire. Remember, in the workplace women are a whole different animal. Proceed with caution.

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