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9 Great Tips for Dating in College

dating in collegeI tend to keep my focus on this site primarily to things that are as broadly applicable as possible -- things you can do no matter who you are or where you are in life to do better with women.

But the other day I had a reader write in asking about dating in college, and I thought the topic might be on worth getting a post up on. He writes:

Dear Chase,

First off, terrific website. I haven't found anything on the web like the quality of articles you write and the depth you explore.

I'm 21 and I've finally finished university and I'm back at home. I recently got out of a 3 year relationship which lasted all the way through my time at college. A lot of the growing pains of being a young single and meeting girls has passed me by in this time. I've been on 2 dates in my whole life - both when I was 17 years old.

For a 21 year old guy, what is the best way of throwing myself into single life? Much of the dating advice out there seems aimed for an older audience than myself. It's unlikely I'm going to find girls my age doing the weekly grocery shop for example!

Thanks for any help!

I shot him back a reply highlighting some of the things I'm going to touch on in this post, but I think there some advice here I can offer guys in college that'll help them meet more girls and succeed with more girls.

And if you're not in college, well, you might just want to give this one a read anyway -- a lot of the things I'm going to recommend you don't necessarily need an alma mater to pull off.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.

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Anonymous's picture

First off I wanted to say great site. It has been nice to have a place where I can get information that is actually helpful and free. This article in particular was helpful because I am at this crazy point in my life but don't have much success with girls. I have been trying to apply what you have suggested in many of your articles but I have come up with some questions in some areas. I seem to remember seeing two different articles one about picking up girls in classes and one about street approaches but maybe I am imagining things. If you have written these could you please link to them if not I have a couple questions. What would you use as an approach to meet a girl in a class so that you can signal your intentions without it being awkward or her just thinking you want to be "study buddies"? Also what tips do you have for making a successful street approach and getting a number or more from it? My final question is in relation logistics in bringing a girl home. I live roughly a 25min walk from where I might meet girls and I don't have a car and can't afford a taxi every weekend. So my only options are a 15min bus ride+plus wait time or a 25min walk and in the spirit of moving fast this doesn't seem ideal...whats a solution?
Thank you for the help

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Hey Anon,

All solid questions. You sound like a guy who's actively working on getting his stuff down.

I do have a post up on street approaching (albeit at night) -- it's up here: "Nighttime Street Game." Much of it applies to daytime as well, although you should often focus more on taking the girl somewhere during the day (ice cream, coffee) before looking to get her home (or else just grab a number fast and move on).

For class, rather than try and grab a number as the objective, take the objective of trying to get a date. So go up, start talking to a girl, "Hey, so what do you think of this class?" joke around a minute, then ask her, "Hey, would you like to grab an ice cream with me?" This is both pretty harmless and pretty straightforward at the same time. If she likes you, game on; if she doesn't, no harm done.

Logistics, depends how adventurous you are :) There's often park benches and dark alleys you can make use of... but failing that, check the girl's logistics (maybe she lives closer and doesn't have roommates, or she does but they aren't home), or just take her on the walk home (tell her it's about a 15 minute walk, and keep the conversation light and flowing as you go. You'll get pretty good at this after a couple of such walks).

Cheers,
Chase

Izzy 's picture

Hey Chase,
Just want to say thanks for the site because of you I was complete able to turn my dating game around and harness my potential. I have been on four dates in the pass two days, all because of your site that I've been reading for the pass two weeks.

walter's picture

For most of my life I have been pretty shy and nervous around girls despite the fact that many girls appear to be interested in me. Like you said in your anxiety article, a shy disposition allows you to become great at picking up on body language but you never approach the girls that show signs of interest. As a freshman in college, I have just recently begun working on my game. Getting women is something I have never conquered and I want to get over my fear once and for all. The problem is that at my current school I feel restricted by my reputation because first impressions are so powerful and after only a few months I am already known as a non-powerful man. Is it worth changing my environment and starting over once I've learned and practiced the skills? Thanks. At this point, having confidence in myself is as important as my grades because school has always come easy to me.

- walt

Daisy's picture

Hey, this may be a little out of your territory, but as a woman, how can I let guys know that I'm not interested in sex? I'm tired of being approached on nights out by skeezy guys trying to get off with me, and sometimes I don't realise they just want sex until they've been hanging around for like half an hour. For instance, just last night my friend and I were dancing with a guy on and off all night until he eventually propositioned her, and then got mad at her for "wasting his time". I've heard stories of guys getting violent in situations like that too which I really want to avoid; I just want to go dancing, I'm not looking for sex! How can I communicate that to guys before they approach me?

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Hi Chase, I've been reading quite a bit of your material lately, and I've even started going through your beginner's package (i.e. doing the homework and everything) and I think most of your material is unique and worth its value in the real world.

However, I've recently read an ebook by Mark Redmen called "Conquer your Campus" its basically all about dating in college. A lot of its material is very contradictory to yours, and I wanted to know how you would reply to it.

Basically, the main premise of Conquer your Campus is that college is in a sense one huge social circle. That is to say, everyone knows everyone else (either in person, or through reputation), and it is very much a tribal community. As a result, Redmen suggests that "game" and "cold approaching" has almost no value, and can even be perceived as creepy (he spends quite a while explaining exactly why that is! I can summarize it in a reply post if need be.).

Instead, Redmen believes that the best way to meet girls in college is to break into and become the leader of said social circle (thereby achieving preselection).

The main contrast between the two of you is that, in quite a few of your articles, you suggest that "social circles" are best avoided altogether. Redmen would say that is difficult or impossible in college if you want to meet girls (or people in general for that matter).

Also, Redmen suggests that its best to be the all smiles, "fun" type of guy (mixed in with dominance, leadership and the ability to be laid back). While the two of you more or less would agree on the other three traits, I feel like your material is more geared towards being smooth and mysterious as opposed to "fun".

So, my questions are: How would you reply to these things? What role do you see social circle to play in College?

If this post intrigues you, and your reply would be too long, feel free to send me an email.

Also, completely unrelated: how do I take care of logistics in college? I have roommates who may or may not be home, so, needless to say, my apartment isn't always an option

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