I have something to admit.
I love Latinas.
From the first time I set my sights on meeting women of any kind, I
loved Latinas; they are my favorites.
Latinas are exotic and beautiful bar none; they have bodies that ooze sexiness from every pore… they’re spirited lovers, of personalities emblazoned with fiery fervor… they’re loyal beyond compare… they’re a challenging segment of women with well-worth-the-trouble rewards.
But, who are these women?
And how can you get your hands on one?
Not long ago, while out and about, I
walked into a bakery not far from where I live, wishing to satisfy a
sweet tooth. Little did I know that pastries weren’t the only things
there that would make my mouth water that day.
I made bought a few Danishes, and made some small talk with the store’s
owner, a kindly middle-aged Latin woman, when, just as I was about to
leave, in the back of the store, I saw a beautiful woman taking off her
apron… I was stunned.
I asked the owner who the girl was, and found out she was the store
owner’s daughter. The girl walked out from the back of the store with a
in her step, the smile of a goddess on her lips, and a glint of fire
in her eyes. I had to have her.
After a few minutes of conversation, the girl agreed with me to take
a break from work and accompany me to a nearby park, where we sat and
under an old oak tree for a time. Her speech dripped with passion, and
her dreams came spilling out like water from a burst dam. A
rough-and-tumble childhood had shaped her
desires into missiles fueled by adversity and setting her firmly on a
stark path to achievement. This was no unambitious girl next door.
In a moment we shared our first kiss, filled with whirlwinds of emotion, her soft lips against mine, and she retreated… bowing her head in shyness.
Two dates later, we ended our courtship with a night of passion-drenched, mind-blowingly good sex, and now, even as I write this, this girl from the bakery is sitting on my lap, recounting me with her perspective on how things came to be. She’s already punched my shoulder a couple times, and no doubt will do so more and more as I continue to write, but that’s okay - I’ll pay her back later. (keep that in mind, babe!)
And this is part and parcel with the whole Latina experience - this is what it’s simply like with Latinas: passionate, fiery, challenging, dreamy, emotional, and wonderful.
What’s Great About Latinas
Ask a thousand different men this as a question, and you’ll get a thousand different answers.
I’ll tell you this though:
Latina women, no matter what kind of man you are, will satisfy your taste.
- If you love the thrill of a challenge, look no further
- If you love a partner who is loyal to the hilt, look no further
- If you love a gorgeous body, look no further
- If you love fiery, heart-racing, passionate sex, look no further
I don’t know about you guys, but I’m a man who loves all of the above.
But that’s the beauty of Latinas: they come with their own set of challenges, but they’re well worth it.
I am by no means a man who will commit myself to a relationship with just anybody. The Girls Chase discussion board members here will attest to that, yet it is a Latina who is with me now. Let that alone serve as a testament to their awesomeness.
A Warning About Latin Women
Before we get into the thick of it, let me share with you the challenges Latinas pose:
- They’re the flakiest women in the world
- They’re easily bored if you are too stagnant
- You must be dominant with them
- You’ll have an easier time with a little language skill - it goes a long way
- Again, stressed for importance… Latin
women flake, ALL the time
If you haven’t read it yet, read this article posthaste: “What to Do When Girls Flake.”
You’re going to need it dealing with all these flakey Latin girls
(actually, I’m pretty sure when Chase wrote that piece it was during a
So what’s the deal with all this flaking?
Well, normally, most people want options. If you’re looking for a job, you want to have a few companies to choose from. As a high school student, you want to have a few colleges you can select among. As a lover of either sex, you may well want to have options for whom you head out with on a given night (or head home with).
No culture gives weight to this desire more than the Hispanic culture, and I think it’s quite genius, actually.
Naturally, with wanting to have options, flaking becomes absolutely essential for two purposes:
- It weeds out the bad apples, and
- It ensures high quality dates
Latin women are crafty little devils. Ingrained into them by their culture is the want for a macho man, a dominant male, or an alpha male.
By flaking on you, they’re actually testing you, and gauging your attraction based on how you react to that flake.
Do you overreact and fly off the handle? Do you call her out on her flake? Do you give in to her flake and let her go? Do you handle it like a dominant man would and still push for that date (hopefully yes)?
It takes a certain amount of social skill and a been-there-done-that mentality to successfully handle a flake, and women know that. So essentially, them flaking is a test of your dominance, rather than a lack of interest on their part.
Keep this in mind: if you’re able to get her
number, she’s interested
in you. Latinas will not give out pity numbers; they’re used to
handling the average man, and you must stand out to get somewhere with
them. They have no problem saying no
if they’re not interested.
I adopted this same flakey method myself to weed out bad girlfriend
candidates, and it’s become a great qualifier in my arsenal - think
about adding it to yours, if you haven’t already, fellas... it’s
effective, and lots of fun.
Let’s have a look now at what the tools you need to succeed with Latin women are.
I’ve broken them down here into four distinct categories:
- Dealing with Flakes
- Avoiding Stagnancy
- Being Dominant
- A Little Spanish
Here we go…
Dealing with Flakes
My now-girlfriend (still looking over my shoulder as I write this) gave me some fantastic dates, but she certainly didn’t make it easy for me setting those dates up.
In fact, trying to set up the first
date bordered a bit on the ridiculous. We’d set up a date, and a few
it came around, she’d text me telling me she couldn’t make it for
whatever reason it was. Then we’d set up another date, and again, she’d
have to cancel.
I’d pick up my phone, read the message, and just laugh about it, thinking what a clever shrew she was.
When a woman is interested in you, she will make the time for you, regardless of how she composes herself. I finally used that to my advantage, and once I actually got her on the date, it was pretty smooth sailing thereafter.
To her, as she tells it to me now, I stood out against the other men who tried and failed to land her because I was persistent. I responded to her flakes in a dominant and calm way, and persisted. Her and I are sitting here arguing about how things went down, but text history doesn’t lie, and finally lining up the date with her went like this (I’m looking at the text messages in front of me):
Her: Sorry papito, Thursday is a no-go because I have class til 10. I’m so sorry =(
Me: [at this point, I’m done with the ducking and dodging - it’s time to nail something down for real] Okay. How about tonight instead?
Her: I’m working at the shop til 9.
Me: Then I expect you out this way by 9:30 ;)
Her: Te pequeno Diablo. I really can’t… but how about Friday instead?
Me: I’ll be a little busy on Friday, working on the car and all… tonight’s about the only night este pequeno Diablo has free, take it or leave it.
Her: I’ll be there… but I may not look my best, you haven’t given me any time to go home and change.
Me: 9:35 it is =P
Her: See you then =D
Me: Yup, cya later.
Persistence, and a little flaking of my own went a pretty long way. But that’s what you’ve got to do: be persistent yourself, and flake when she re-offers another date.
If the two of you had a date established, she knows what she agreed to. Remember, she’s a pro at this type of game, so she knows perfectly well what’s in her schedule and what’s not… even more so than other women.
Avoid Stagnancy, and Be Dominant
I’m combining these two, because they go hand in hand perfectly.
Ever heard anything about that age-old stereotype that Latin women love to dance? Well they do, and the constant motion and energy that Hispanic dancing brings... transcends into their very lives, from their dates to their sex.
This is where you combine the two ideas, because you’ll want to lead her through the date, and have each venue be a high octane kind of place, OR through a series of places that take her through a range of emotions.
Some ideas could be:
- From the beach
- To a club
- To a coffee shop
- To your house
- From the jazz club
- To your local favorites
- To the ice cream shop
... and so on.
The point is: lead her through the date hitting up multiple places, and she’s yours for the night.
Funny enough, hitting up multiple places has a two-fold effect: it builds bounce compliance (she gets more invested in you and more comfortable following your lead as she follows you from one place to the next), and showcases your experience both leading and in knowing the fun places to go inside and out.
Bounce compliance, for a bit more description, is roughly a “ladder” built on a girl giving you compliance. When you move her from place to place and she complies with you, she’s a lot more likely to keep moving with you than if you stayed put for a long time.
So, if you hit up three places then offer to go back to your place, she’s already much more primed to comply and agree to it than she would be normally.
It also exposes your dominance/experience because you’re actually able to successfully lead her through a number of places, opposed to the cliché "modern idea" of a date being nice dinner at a restaurant reserved for two.
It’s refreshing, and it shows that you’ve done it before (giving you a little implied preselection), because you know of so many places to go for a good time and you are able to move her effortlessly.
Two-fold purpose, fellas.
Un Lenguaje Poco Va Un Largo Camino (A Little Language Goes a Long Way)
By no means are you to commit yourself to learning her entire language, because that’s got chasing written all over it.
But, if you know a phrase or two, this will go a pretty long way, too.
Now, being that we’re talking about Latinas, if you can speak some fluent or semi-fluent Spanish, you’re in good hands, and you’ve got a leg up on the competition.
In the capitals of Latin America, or the more populated areas of Spanish-speaking countries, you’ll run across some broken English, and women will know enough to have small conversations, so make up for that gap a little bit and learn a little Spanish.
A trick or tip (call it what you want) you can use with Spanish speaking women is ask the crucial questions in Spanish.
- Instead of “What’s your number?” ask “Cual es tu numero?”
- Instead of “What do you do for fun?” ask “Que haces para divertirte?”
And commit a few general responses to memory so you have an idea of what she’s talking about. No point in asking a question when you can’t understand an answer.
As a side note: if you really want to turn your Latinas on in the bedroom, definitely pick up some dirty Spanish phrases, it seriously drives them wild. Generally, the more Latin women you’re with, the more dirty Spanish you’ll pick up. It’s nice to go in already knowing a phrase or two, though.
I’ve already touched on a couple things that will help you out above, but before we get into the how-to portion of this article, here’re another two things that I know with absolutely certainty help. I’ve heard numerous misleading things from other men, like Latinas are hygiene crazy, or they won’t be with a man with facial hair... crazy, crazy things I tell you.
The two things that I know with absolutely certainty help are:
On looks - one race of males has an innate advantage over the others with Latin women as a result of the cultural stratification built up by the post-Colonization rulers of Latin countries. Anybody want to take a guess which race this is?
Caucasians have been the predominant leaders of Latin America and Latin countries, and as such, white males innately have some innate higher status/value for Latinas, since they resemble those with prestige in these girls’ home countries.
On the other hand, Latin women can tend to be rather racist toward
black men and, less often, Asian men, although you will certainly meet
plenty of exceptions to this. And, of course, once your fundamentals
are tight enough, race stops being much of an issue, in comparison to
all the other good stuff
you’ve got going on - but you must get those tight fundamentals first.
Clothes, as always, are a big part of the picture. Pick whatever style works for you, but, if you dress sharply, then presto, you’re more attractive.
If it looks like you spend a decent amount of money on your wardrobe, or if it looks like you focus some attention on your fashion and the way you look, Latin women will be attracted to you a little more.
On stability - remember that the majority of Latinas are passion-driven.
For this reason, the crazy
passionate men that more placid Northern/Eastern European and East
Asian women tend to find so captivating don’t affect them quite as much
- just as a passionate man
complements a stable woman’s less exciting world, so does a stable man
level out a passionate woman’s
more chaotic world.
Stability here can mean financial stability, though it doesn’t have to. That doesn’t mean burn a hole in your wallet on dates; simply showing that you have your money situation in order is more than sufficient.
However, some folks (myself included), aren’t exactly swimming in
cash, but don’t be worried - you show your stability another way.
Having plans in life that you’re working to achieve is frequently all
the stability you need, at least with younger Latin women.
Latinas are very supportive and family oriented, in addition to being passionate and sexual, so showing your stability is actually showing them that you can take care of them, but they won’t ask you to do so. More of an insurance policy; a just-in-case degree of reassurance to set their minds a bit more at ease.
In this case, because Latin women are coming from poorer environments, the risk of not getting sex because you’ve been placed into the boyfriend zone is lessened; instead, when you seem like a reasonably stable mate, you’ll actually see your odds go up - rather in contrast to what you see with Western women.
Trippy, isn’t it?
Approaching a Latin Woman
Approaching a Latina is actually quite a lot of fun.
If you happen to be in a Latin country, or in a Latin area of the world (e.g. much of Florida, or just about any city in California), then you’ve got a couple options.
One I’m partial to is asking Latin women to teach me to dance like
a Hispanic. None of that techno dancing, or raving, but traditional
Latin dances - salsa, merengue, or mariachi, for instance.
Literally, that can be your opener at a club:
“Hey, I saw you out there on the dance floor. You should teach me to step with a little Hispanic flavor.”
Works like a charm, especially if you throw in the “little Hispanic flavor” bit; I haven’t had a girl pass up the opportunity to teach me to dance.
They see it as cute, and respectable, too, because you’re taking an interest in their culture, and you want to join them in their world of dancing. No Latina is going to pass up the opportunity to dance - not a single one.
Other openers that work in Latin countries where you’re new to the area are:
- “What clubs around here play XYZ kind of music?”
- “Where’s the nearest kick-ass, high energy club around here?”
- “I haven’t eaten at all today, where’s the best (country you’re in -- Cuban, Puerto Rican, Mexican) food?”
Again, show a little interest in their culture or their country and you’ll be rewarded for your efforts... at least until you get into the flaking anyway.
Sex with Latinas
We’ve covered how to get the date, what to do on the date, and now it’s time to wrap things up.
My first bit of advice is goes back to language, because nothing turns a Latina on more than hearing some raunchy sayings in her native tongue.
A couple of my favorites are:
- “Yo te quiero que devorar tu chocha!”
- “Yo te quiero que dame una mamada! Ahora mami chula!”
- “Me encanta como lo siento adentro de ti”
- “Tus labios son tan suaves y sexy”
- “Tu quieres mi leche en tu boca?”
Copy and paste into Google translate if you’re interested in what they mean.
My next piece of advice is to let her lead you.
A little bit different I know but trust me and let her show you how it’s done. It doesn’t matter if you can work her like a gymnast, let her do what she needs to do, and she won’t disappoint you.
If you absolutely must be in control sexually (I sure as hell don’t!), then she will still sleep with you, but it won’t be as good as it would be if you would just let her do her thing.
Walk into your room and she’ll push you onto your bed, and lock your door for you. She knows what she’s doing guys; let her reward the both of you for a wonderful date.
My next bit of information is: expect to be teased, expect to be tormented sexually, and expect some foreplay.
Absolute masters of foreplay are Latinas... ‘nough said.
You won’t have to persuade her or coerce her into giving you oral sex before sex; she’ll do it without asking. Reciprocating that love isn’t essential, but if you don’t mind doing so ( I sure as hell don’t!), then I advise you to do so, because she will definitely keep it in mind when she’s pleasuring you next time.
Expect to be messed with though, and if you want to really spice up the raw sexual energy, tease her back.
Whatever you’re doing with Latinas, keep these points in mind:
- Be the dominant man
- Lead Latin women through a few venues on dates
- It’s okay to be a sexually passive
- Learn a little Spanish
Whether you’re meeting Latin women in who’ve transplanted themselves to your town, or you’re meeting them on their turf in Latin America, Latinas are truly amazing women, and a kind of woman that’s not to be missed.
If you haven’t tried your hand personally with Latin women - whether because you don’t know any, or aren’t so sure they’re suited to your tastes - I urge you to give Latinas a try.
You guys won’t be disappointed, I promise. In fact, you may just
fall in love.
Hasta la proxima (until next time),