How to Have Sex with Latinas

latinasI have something to admit.

I love Latinas.

From the first time I set my sights on meeting women of any kind, I loved Latinas; they are my favorites.

Latinas are exotic and beautiful bar none; they have bodies that ooze sexiness from every pore… they’re spirited lovers, of personalities emblazoned with fiery fervor… they’re loyal beyond compare… they’re a challenging segment of women with well-worth-the-trouble rewards.

But, who are these women?

And how can you get your hands on one?


Not long ago, while out and about, I walked into a bakery not far from where I live, wishing to satisfy a sweet tooth. Little did I know that pastries weren’t the only things there that would make my mouth water that day.

I made bought a few Danishes, and made some small talk with the store’s owner, a kindly middle-aged Latin woman, when, just as I was about to leave, in the back of the store, I saw a beautiful woman taking off her apron… I was stunned.

I asked the owner who the girl was, and found out she was the store owner’s daughter. The girl walked out from the back of the store with a bounce in her step, the smile of a goddess on her lips, and a glint of fire in her eyes. I had to have her.

After a few minutes of conversation, the girl agreed with me to take a break from work and accompany me to a nearby park, where we sat and talked under an old oak tree for a time. Her speech dripped with passion, and her dreams came spilling out like water from a burst dam. A rough-and-tumble childhood had shaped her desires into missiles fueled by adversity and setting her firmly on a stark path to achievement. This was no unambitious girl next door.

In a moment we shared our first kiss, filled with whirlwinds of emotion, her soft lips against mine, and she retreated… bowing her head in shyness.

Two dates later, we ended our courtship with a night of passion-drenched, mind-blowingly good sex, and now, even as I write this, this girl from the bakery is sitting on my lap, recounting me with her perspective on how things came to be. She’s already punched my shoulder a couple times, and no doubt will do so more and more as I continue to write, but that’s okay - I’ll pay her back later. (keep that in mind, babe!)

And this is part and parcel with the whole Latina experience - this is what it’s simply like with Latinas: passionate, fiery, challenging, dreamy, emotional, and wonderful.

What’s Great About Latinas

Ask a thousand different men this as a question, and you’ll get a thousand different answers.

I’ll tell you this though:

Latina women, no matter what kind of man you are, will satisfy your taste.

  • If you love the thrill of a challenge, look no further
  • If you love a partner who is loyal to the hilt, look no further
  • If you love a gorgeous body, look no further
  • If you love fiery, heart-racing, passionate sex, look no further

I don’t know about you guys, but I’m a man who loves all of the above.

But that’s the beauty of Latinas: they come with their own set of challenges, but they’re well worth it.


I am by no means a man who will commit myself to a relationship with just anybody. The Girls Chase discussion board members here will attest to that, yet it is a Latina who is with me now. Let that alone serve as a testament to their awesomeness.

A Warning About Latin Women

Before we get into the thick of it, let me share with you the challenges Latinas pose:

  • They’re the flakiest women in the world
  • They’re easily bored if you are too stagnant
  • You must be dominant with them
  • You’ll have an easier time with a little language skill - it goes a long way
  • Again, stressed for importance… Latin women flake, ALL the time

If you haven’t read it yet, read this article posthaste: “What to Do When Girls Flake.” You’re going to need it dealing with all these flakey Latin girls (actually, I’m pretty sure when Chase wrote that piece it was during a Latina-dating phase).

So what’s the deal with all this flaking?

Well, normally, most people want options. If you’re looking for a job, you want to have a few companies to choose from. As a high school student, you want to have a few colleges you can select among. As a lover of either sex, you may well want to have options for whom you head out with on a given night (or head home with).

No culture gives weight to this desire more than the Hispanic culture, and I think it’s quite genius, actually.

Naturally, with wanting to have options, flaking becomes absolutely essential for two purposes:

  1. It weeds out the bad apples, and
  2. It ensures high quality dates

Latin women are crafty little devils. Ingrained into them by their culture is the want for a macho man, a dominant male, or an alpha male.

By flaking on you, they’re actually testing you, and gauging your attraction based on how you react to that flake.

Do you overreact and fly off the handle? Do you call her out on her flake? Do you give in to her flake and let her go? Do you handle it like a dominant man would and still push for that date (hopefully yes)?

It takes a certain amount of social skill and a been-there-done-that mentality to successfully handle a flake, and women know that. So essentially, them flaking is a test of your dominance, rather than a lack of interest on their part.

Keep this in mind: if you’re able to get her number, she’s interested in you. Latinas will not give out pity numbers; they’re used to handling the average man, and you must stand out to get somewhere with them. They have no problem saying no if they’re not interested.

I adopted this same flakey method myself to weed out bad girlfriend candidates, and it’s become a great qualifier in my arsenal - think about adding it to yours, if you haven’t already, fellas... it’s effective, and lots of fun.


Let’s have a look now at what the tools you need to succeed with Latin women are.

I’ve broken them down here into four distinct categories:

  1. Dealing with Flakes
  2. Avoiding Stagnancy
  3. Being Dominant
  4. A Little Spanish

Here we go…

Dealing with Flakes

My now-girlfriend (still looking over my shoulder as I write this) gave me some fantastic dates, but she certainly didn’t make it easy for me setting those dates up.

In fact, trying to set up the first date bordered a bit on the ridiculous. We’d set up a date, and a few days before it came around, she’d text me telling me she couldn’t make it for whatever reason it was. Then we’d set up another date, and again, she’d have to cancel.

I’d pick up my phone, read the message, and just laugh about it, thinking what a clever shrew she was.

When a woman is interested in you, she will make the time for you, regardless of how she composes herself. I finally used that to my advantage, and once I actually got her on the date, it was pretty smooth sailing thereafter.

To her, as she tells it to me now, I stood out against the other men who tried and failed to land her because I was persistent. I responded to her flakes in a dominant and calm way, and persisted. Her and I are sitting here arguing about how things went down, but text history doesn’t lie, and finally lining up the date with her went like this (I’m looking at the text messages in front of me):

Her: Sorry papito, Thursday is a no-go because I have class til 10. I’m so sorry =(

Me: [at this point, I’m done with the ducking and dodging - it’s time to nail something down for real] Okay. How about tonight instead?

Her: I’m working at the shop til 9.

Me: Then I expect you out this way by 9:30 ;)

Her: Te pequeno Diablo. I really can’t… but how about Friday instead?

Me: I’ll be a little busy on Friday, working on the car and all… tonight’s about the only night este pequeno Diablo has free, take it or leave it.

Her: I’ll be there… but I may not look my best, you haven’t given me any time to go home and change.

Me: 9:35 it is =P

Her: See you then =D

Me: Yup, cya later.

Persistence, and a little flaking of my own went a pretty long way. But that’s what you’ve got to do: be persistent yourself, and flake when she re-offers another date.

If the two of you had a date established, she knows what she agreed to. Remember, she’s a pro at this type of game, so she knows perfectly well what’s in her schedule and what’s not… even more so than other women.

Avoid Stagnancy, and Be Dominant

I’m combining these two, because they go hand in hand perfectly.

Ever heard anything about that age-old stereotype that Latin women love to dance? Well they do, and the constant motion and energy that Hispanic dancing brings... transcends into their very lives, from their dates to their sex.

This is where you combine the two ideas, because you’ll want to lead her through the date, and have each venue be a high octane kind of place, OR through a series of places that take her through a range of emotions.

Some ideas could be:

  • From the beach
  • To a club
  • To a coffee shop
  • To your house


  • From the jazz club
  • To your local favorites
  • To the ice cream shop

... and so on.

The point is: lead her through the date hitting up multiple places, and she’s yours for the night.

latinasFunny enough, hitting up multiple places has a two-fold effect: it builds bounce compliance (she gets more invested in you and more comfortable following your lead as she follows you from one place to the next), and showcases your experience both leading and in knowing the fun places to go inside and out.

Bounce compliance, for a bit more description, is roughly a “ladder” built on a girl giving you compliance. When you move her from place to place and she complies with you, she’s a lot more likely to keep moving with you than if you stayed put for a long time.

So, if you hit up three places then offer to go back to your place, she’s already much more primed to comply and agree to it than she would be normally.

It also exposes your dominance/experience because you’re actually able to successfully lead her through a number of places, opposed to the cliché "modern idea" of a date being nice dinner at a restaurant reserved for two.

It’s refreshing, and it shows that you’ve done it before (giving you a little implied preselection), because you know of so many places to go for a good time and you are able to move her effortlessly.

Two-fold purpose, fellas.

Un Lenguaje Poco Va Un Largo Camino (A Little Language Goes a Long Way)

By no means are you to commit yourself to learning her entire language, because that’s got chasing written all over it.

But, if you know a phrase or two, this will go a pretty long way, too.

Now, being that we’re talking about Latinas, if you can speak some fluent or semi-fluent Spanish, you’re in good hands, and you’ve got a leg up on the competition.

In the capitals of Latin America, or the more populated areas of Spanish-speaking countries, you’ll run across some broken English, and women will know enough to have small conversations, so make up for that gap a little bit and learn a little Spanish.

A trick or tip (call it what you want) you can use with Spanish speaking women is ask the crucial questions in Spanish.

  • Instead of “What’s your number?” ask “Cual es tu numero?”
  • Instead of “What do you do for fun?” ask “Que haces para divertirte?”

And commit a few general responses to memory so you have an idea of what she’s talking about. No point in asking a question when you can’t understand an answer.

As a side note: if you really want to turn your Latinas on in the bedroom, definitely pick up some dirty Spanish phrases, it seriously drives them wild. Generally, the more Latin women you’re with, the more dirty Spanish you’ll pick up. It’s nice to go in already knowing a phrase or two, though.


I’ve already touched on a couple things that will help you out above, but before we get into the how-to portion of this article, here’re another two things that I know with absolutely certainty help. I’ve heard numerous misleading things from other men, like Latinas are hygiene crazy, or they won’t be with a man with facial hair... crazy, crazy things I tell you.

The two things that I know with absolutely certainty help are:

  • Looks
  • Stability

On looks - one race of males has an innate advantage over the others with Latin women as a result of the cultural stratification built up by the post-Colonization rulers of Latin countries. Anybody want to take a guess which race this is?

Caucasians have been the predominant leaders of Latin America and Latin countries, and as such, white males innately have some innate higher status/value for Latinas, since they resemble those with prestige in these girls’ home countries.

On the other hand, Latin women can tend to be rather racist toward black men and, less often, Asian men, although you will certainly meet plenty of exceptions to this. And, of course, once your fundamentals are tight enough, race stops being much of an issue, in comparison to all the other good stuff you’ve got going on - but you must get those tight fundamentals first.

Clothes, as always, are a big part of the picture. Pick whatever style works for you, but, if you dress sharply, then presto, you’re more attractive.

If it looks like you spend a decent amount of money on your wardrobe, or if it looks like you focus some attention on your fashion and the way you look, Latin women will be attracted to you a little more.

On stability - remember that the majority of Latinas are passion-driven. For this reason, the crazy passionate men that more placid Northern/Eastern European and East Asian women tend to find so captivating don’t affect them quite as much - just as a passionate man complements a stable woman’s less exciting world, so does a stable man level out a passionate woman’s more chaotic world.

Stability here can mean financial stability, though it doesn’t have to. That doesn’t mean burn a hole in your wallet on dates; simply showing that you have your money situation in order is more than sufficient.

However, some folks (myself included), aren’t exactly swimming in cash, but don’t be worried - you show your stability another way. Having plans in life that you’re working to achieve is frequently all the stability you need, at least with younger Latin women.

Latinas are very supportive and family oriented, in addition to being passionate and sexual, so showing your stability is actually showing them that you can take care of them, but they won’t ask you to do so. More of an insurance policy; a just-in-case degree of reassurance to set their minds a bit more at ease.

In this case, because Latin women are coming from poorer environments, the risk of not getting sex because you’ve been placed into the boyfriend zone is lessened; instead, when you seem like a reasonably stable mate, you’ll actually see your odds go up - rather in contrast to what you see with Western women.

Trippy, isn’t it?

Approaching a Latin Woman

Approaching a Latina is actually quite a lot of fun.

If you happen to be in a Latin country, or in a Latin area of the world (e.g. much of Florida, or just about any city in California), then you’ve got a couple options.

One I’m partial to is asking Latin women to teach me to dance like a Hispanic. None of that techno dancing, or raving, but traditional Latin dances - salsa, merengue, or mariachi, for instance.

Literally, that can be your opener at a club:

“Hey, I saw you out there on the dance floor. You should teach me to step with a little Hispanic flavor.”

Works like a charm, especially if you throw in the “little Hispanic flavor” bit; I haven’t had a girl pass up the opportunity to teach me to dance.

They see it as cute, and respectable, too, because you’re taking an interest in their culture, and you want to join them in their world of dancing. No Latina is going to pass up the opportunity to dance - not a single one.

Other openers that work in Latin countries where you’re new to the area are:

  • “What clubs around here play XYZ kind of music?”
  • “Where’s the nearest kick-ass, high energy club around here?”
  • “I haven’t eaten at all today, where’s the best (country you’re in -- Cuban, Puerto Rican, Mexican) food?”

Again, show a little interest in their culture or their country and you’ll be rewarded for your efforts... at least until you get into the flaking anyway.

Sex with Latinas

We’ve covered how to get the date, what to do on the date, and now it’s time to wrap things up.

My first bit of advice is goes back to language, because nothing turns a Latina on more than hearing some raunchy sayings in her native tongue.


A couple of my favorites are:

  • “Yo te quiero que devorar tu chocha!”
  • “Yo te quiero que dame una mamada! Ahora mami chula!”
  • “Me encanta como lo siento adentro de ti”
  • “Tus labios son tan suaves y sexy”
  • “Tu quieres mi leche en tu boca?”

Copy and paste into Google translate if you’re interested in what they mean.

My next piece of advice is to let her lead you.

A little bit different I know but trust me and let her show you how it’s done. It doesn’t matter if you can work her like a gymnast, let her do what she needs to do, and she won’t disappoint you.

If you absolutely must be in control sexually (I sure as hell don’t!), then she will still sleep with you, but it won’t be as good as it would be if you would just let her do her thing.

Walk into your room and she’ll push you onto your bed, and lock your door for you. She knows what she’s doing guys; let her reward the both of you for a wonderful date.

My next bit of information is: expect to be teased, expect to be tormented sexually, and expect some foreplay.

Absolute masters of foreplay are Latinas... ‘nough said.

You won’t have to persuade her or coerce her into giving you oral sex before sex; she’ll do it without asking. Reciprocating that love isn’t essential, but if you don’t mind doing so ( I sure as hell don’t!), then I advise you to do so, because she will definitely keep it in mind when she’s pleasuring you next time.

Expect to be messed with though, and if you want to really spice up the raw sexual energy, tease her back.


Whatever you’re doing with Latinas, keep these points in mind:

  • Be the dominant man
  • Lead Latin women through a few venues on dates
  • It’s okay to be a sexually passive
  • Learn a little Spanish

Whether you’re meeting Latin women in who’ve transplanted themselves to your town, or you’re meeting them on their turf in Latin America, Latinas are truly amazing women, and a kind of woman that’s not to be missed.

If you haven’t tried your hand personally with Latin women - whether because you don’t know any, or aren’t so sure they’re suited to your tastes - I urge you to give Latinas a try.

You guys won’t be disappointed, I promise. In fact, you may just fall in love.

Hasta la proxima (until next time),


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Anonymous's picture

By far this is the dumbest article I've read in my life! You generalize like if you were an expert by just going out with one Latin girl a couple of weeks? It really shows your lack of experience with women and Latinas in general.

Chase your stuff is awesome, but I don't know about this guy he does not sound like he has the experience or knowledge to be giving out advice, just because he is active on the boards does not make him an expert or experienced.

Richard's picture


Thanks for the feedback, Anon ;)

Or should I just call you by your name, Estate?

xcrunner's picture

Hey Zphix, nice article. Since you mention a lot that your girl is watching you write this, how did you tell her that you learned your stuff from a "pickup" site? Obviously I think this is more than that, but girls might not. Most girls I know wouldn't think less of a relationship if they found out that their guy learned all of his stuff from something else. How'd you frame it to work?

Richard's picture



Didn't frame it to work, and didn't even frame it at all.

I got an email from someone sending me a PM, showed up as, I told her to open it for me and see what it was about, and her curiosity was piqued. So, I gave up small pieces of information and she put those pieces together.

From there, I explained my story, and she knows I'm exclusive to her, despite me having practiced PU and such.

So, I didn't frame it, just happened to understand the levels of trust in the relationship, and was comfortable letting that bit of information out. It hasn't changed anything, and I doubt it will, but even so, I don't recommend exposing it outright to a gf.


Nicholas's picture

Some unconventional tips in this here article.

I noticed that understanding a little bit of a girl's language helps in ways others won't compensate for - mystery, charm, and a feeling of understanding (like you two are the "insiders").

Anyways, fantastic article!


Edward Walve's picture

Hey Richard,
First of all excuse me as I'm getting off track of the topic here. I have read your articles and I believe that you're capable of handling every situation.
Keeping in mind-moving fast strategy how to deal with a girl Richard who actually likes you but takes deliberately long time to reply text messages and the texting is currently only way of contacting?
What one should do to make her reply normally (without deliberately giving late reply).
I believe you know the solution man & that you'll share with me so
Thanks in advance.

Richard's picture



I'll split this response up into two parts for ya.
Generally, if a girl isn't texting you back sporadically, 5 minute responses here, and 2 hour replies there then she’s not that interested (usually). Nobody is perfect, so nobody is going to text like clockwork. Nobody is going to text back consistently in the same time frame (ie 1 hour per reply, or such and such), people just text back in their leisure through the day.

Now, in a situation like this, it’s usually best to drop it altogether because she’s deliberately playing hard to get, or being stubborn, and it won’t change, so dropping her altogether is an option.

But, you said she’s definitely interested in you, so I’ll offer you this.

When texting, it’s best to keep your texting to a minimum anyway, maybe only 3 or 4 to establish a date (give or take a few texts), and not too much texting outside of establishing a date. So, if she’s still complying with you (agreeing to dates and meetings) then keep doing what you’re doing because results are what matter…

But, if she’s not complying with you, and not agreeing to dates or meetings or whatever, then you’ve got to get her chasing you. To do that, you need to follow these principles:
-Law of Least Effort

So, if you’ve been texting her pretty quickly after she finallllyyy texts you, then stop rewarding her with a quick response. Rewarding her with immediate texting ensures that her deliberately long texting will continue. If she’s taking a long time to text you back, then when she finally does, take longer than her to text back, or do what I do, don’t even reply that day.

Give her radio silence for a couple days and see if she decides to text you first during that silence. If she’s interested in you, she will definitely wonder why you’re not texting her, and will wonder what happened to you (that’s her chasing you). ;)

Hope this helped,


Edward Walve's picture

Hey Richard,
I did decide to reply you after implementing your advice to let you know "current conditions are the desire ones".
Thank you so much. I didn't text her back. I knew was getting desperate and will reply me anytime. And after a week she finally did reply.
Now I'm not going to reply her but wait for her to text me again.
Waiting for your next article;)

Anonymous's picture

Dated a super hot Peruvian and your comments about Caucasians (yes I am), blacks, dominant, bored, multi venue, loyal, dancing, and bedroom are all spot on.

One very big one you missed is hot temper. Be very careful where you tread or you unleash the fire and passion in a whole new way that you do not want to be on the receiving end of.

Richard's picture


Veeerrryyyy true, sorta.

My first girlfriend was a hot-blooded Puerto Rican... made for great sex, but really bad fights, and her being a controlling hedenist. But man, I loved that girl, haha!

And most of my pick-ups after that have been Latinas across the spectrum, from Mexican to Puerto Rican to to Chilean, and only about half of them had the typical "temper."

Either way, it makes for great sex, and I just generally avoid fights, and handle drama properly as it comes and goes ;).


Anonymous's picture

I agree! I have dated a few Latinas and these are the most passionate women available in my opinion. Strong, passionate, confident, and like to do interesting, cultural things. I also met a couple Italian women that were just as alluring. I lived in New York for 6 months and the puerto ricans and dominicans there had the wildest attitudes of all Latinas in my opinion tho, when pissed off. But I think in general that might be a New York/New Jersey thing :) you just gotta be strong dude to deal with some of those chicks...

To those aspiring young black seducers out there, some Latinas do like blacks and some don't. Sometimes the issue is that a woman has to deal with her parents and her family and their prejudices, so alot of times even though they might be attracted to a black man, they know they have to suppress it because they know what will happen (with their families) if things with them and a black guy got serious. But if you're a confident black dude and you don't mind trying to mack on a woman who thinks your race is the scum of the earth then it won't be too bad. You just have to have a thicker skin than's one thing if a woman doesn't like you as a man, but it's another thing if you come to learn she doesn't even like your race. But whatever there's billions of women available.

I'm black, and real-talk, most women of other races/nationalities that I've ever taken as lovers have told me that they feel much stronger raw hot sexual passion with me (or black men) than they ever have with white men. But likely those were guys who didn't read this site! Women sometimes ask me, so is the rumor true. There's so much ways to respond to that!

I've spent some time in Rio and Sao Paulo and I've met some very beautiful women in Lapa in Rio. I reccomend to any man on this planet, especially a seducer, to spend at least 1 week in Rio de Janeiro. And Brazilieras are bolder in my opinion than North American women. Like if a Brazilian woman likes you, she will stare at you dead in your eyes. Basically she tells you without telling you to approach now dummy! And all you gotta do is smile and go talk to her and be warm with her. No need to be aloof and call her names and all of that bullshit.

You can compliment her on her beauty, body, and it's not the kiss of death like here in North America. Here in North America some girls like to pretend like they don't see you, or they can't hold eye contact with you (look away when you look at them), or they don't smile at you when you smile at them. I'm not from North America so I didn't grow up learning game here, but after learning and mastering game in North America, generally I think you'll be confident enough to deal with women elsewhere on the planet. Brazilians are warm though, and if a woman likes you, she will charm you, make you feel like a king! Emotionally expressive, she tells you how you make her feel! This is what seduction is all about, feeling like a fucking KING when you get the girl. Most North American women I've met I've never really felt all that special with not that I need them to validate me but after my first Brazilian it was like night and day in terms of how they convey their feelings and emotions and how they let you know they appreciate you... all done with confidence and feminine charm. Delicious!

Anyways guys, great article. Continue the good work!!

Richard's picture


Anon -

Man, oh man! Talk about nostalgia, haha!

My first GF was a Puerto Rican with real fire, and I've been hooked ever since. Like you said, approaching women in the United States just doesn't have the appeal that Latinas or Brazilians have.

What I love most is they are playful too, in addition to that passion and bold personality, Latinas love a good laugh and make things really easygoing (when they like you anyway ;)), and that really gets to me =P.

Other than that, they're personalities and "traditional" morals really compliment my own personality/ approach to life, and that's actually why I love them so much!

Simply perfect for me, and I've picked up all cultures and types of women, Latinas firmly stand out for me!

Appreciate you sharing your stuff man,


Anonymous's picture

I am multiracial. A lot of people tell me that I am black. I think that has more to do with their desire to feel one up, when they are feeling two steps behind. I have very rarely experienced racism in Latin America. When it does occur, the person who behaves in a racist fashion is typically of a darker complexion than myself, and it is a test to see how I respond to their stupidity. That said, there is far more racism in the community of foreign tourist, as one would suspect. Probably somewhat less than 20% of that crowd, and they do tend to stick together with other tourist, are going to be racist. The rest of the group are going to be seriously put off with their attitude. I don't agree with Latin women and Latin culture being racist. In fact, if you look at the photos of the Latina, (mestizo), women accompanying the article, then you should realize, if you are honest with yourself, that there are black women in the USA, Europe and Africa, who could pass for their body doubles. The natives of Latin America were not fair skinned people. And relatively very few Spaniards arrived to colonize. There are a few white guys who will all up openly declare themselves as the prize to be won, and you will notice that they are often paired with the darkest skinned girls. Latin guys will compete with one another for fairly chunky white girls, whom they regard as easy conquests. When I am eyeballing slender, tan and attractive Latinas and then I see a woman with a very light complexion walk by, the woman with the light complexion will barely receive a passing glimpse from me. Though, she may give me a prolong glance and a smile. Her hamster can keep spinning it's wheel. Light complexions are found to be attractive in Latin America, probably because it is relatively different. A lot of the dominant economic and political actors in Latin America actually are of Middle Eastern origin, and they tend to have swarthy complexions. Carlos Slim comes readily to mind. There is a generally positive perception of fair skinned individuals, though. As far as hatred of blacks, that is odd, because a significant number of Latinas have all but proposed to me. I can readily recall having lunch with a Caucasian from the States, who told me, in a spellbound tone, that the waitress who had just served our meal, was staring at me as if she were offering me her whole heart and soul. He was likely correct in his perception, but I tried not to notice. I could easily pull hundreds of women if that were my objective. Why don't I? That's a good question, and the answer is fairly complex. I will tell you this, though. The women who are going to look at you as if you are the scum of the earth are women who are in auto reject, they are full of spite and contempt in their bitterness. These are typically physically unattractive women. You cannot return their nastiness with any sign of disgust, because everyone understands that these are bitter women, and they would view any hostility you displayed towards these women as unnecessary cruelty. And yes, attractive women in the States can flare up at you when you approach them, as if they were all tooth and claw. And it is a test to weed out weak men. But if she is attractive enough, then there is nothing to keep you from going at her like a honey badger, and simply deflecting her superficial hostility, with your eyes towards the prize. I would say that women the world over are basically the same; but women in the States, perhaps in any major metro area in the country, are a bit off upstairs. And when they go into auto reject, they can really fly off the handle. I have also noticed that fashion on a man can lead to women disqualifying themselves and hiding their interests, whereas the same women would show piqued interest in you when you are less well made up. I was surprised to learn that through experience a long time ago. If you go out in mismatched clothing and look like you just rolled out of bed, women view you as more accessible. Not so far out of reach, but just within their grasp. Also, if you feign to be less intelligent than you are women are not so intimidated. It really was weird when I realized that very attractive women were intimidated by me, in a good way. Sometimes a friend would lie to me and tell me that a woman had asked me to come over and dance with her. And I'd think of it as a challenge, because she was typically the hottest girl in the place. And she would all but melt on my body. No, if you are going to be concerned about racism, it is generally coming from guys who are afraid that black men are getting all of the women. If you don't believe me, you can visit some of the white supremacist websites for kicks. It is a dominant theme, black guys getting all of the highly attractive white women while white men starve go starving for kitty. I have met guys who think that way. They will tell you about the one blonde girlfriend who dropped them for a black guy, and apparently it was a traumatic experience which scarred them for life and drove them to hate all black men. I dated an Asian woman who asked me why black men seemed to like blonde women so much. I asked her why blonde women seemed to like black men so much. She replied that I had given her a good answer. All of that said, I have been introduced to Western racist on more than one occasion by young, attractive and naïve Latin American women, who were dismissed contemptuously as "genetic freaks" by the guys they looked up to and thought were their friends. I can only imagine that these guys were going into auto reject and feeling bitter and resentful once they saw me accompanying the girl. It is strange, but sometimes when I see a super hot looking girl, and I have to get a look at the guy she is with, the guy feels like his relationship is in immediate peril. It's all over his face and in his body language. It always strikes me as surreal, because I grew up being put down by a bunch of guys in my neighborhood, who were bitter about the fact that all the girls in the neighborhood found me attractive. I couldn't understand why all of the girls found me attractive when I had no social proof among my male peers. Did I ever have it ass backwards. You will have a very long road to travel attaining social proof from people who envy you maliciously. An English professor offered me a reading assignment, which he intended to open my eyes, "The Count of Monte Cristo". Another teacher held me in detention in order to open my eyes; there were four girls she was holding in detention as well. She had us sit down at the same small table, and then she excused herself from the room. In less than five minutes, one of the girls began staring at me and she would not take her eyes off of me for the longest time. She then turned to her friend and began to complain that she was suddenly feeling so horny and she didn't know what she was going to do about it... That teacher had recently suffered a devastating miscarriage, and she was trying to tell me to open up my eyes to the fact that girls and women found me very attractive and that I should reach out and pluck from the tree of life. Don't believe all of the racist nonsense. There are always going to be a handful of racist here and there, and they are going to try to discourage you any way they can, dampen your spirits and your esteem and speak as if you are unfit for association, anything they can in order to try to eliminate you as a competitor. My suggestion is that you walk right past them, and over to the cutest hot young thing you can find. And if the imbeciles start trying to cock block you, that is the perfect reason to take her off to somewhere private. The nasty people tend to have alcohol abuse or drug abuse problems, or family origins with substance abuse issues. Those are problems they have to solve on their own, or with professional help. Typically, though, it is more common to receive nasty looks from nasty looking women, and there are thousands in auto reject mode. Try not to notice them. There are also hopped up women who are probably high on diet pills, these will come up to you with lust filled beady eyes and ask you the time of day. Though I often feel like telling them that it is time they got a grip, the truth is that these women may have fine ass hell looking 20 plus year old daughters. If you don't intend on marrying her daughter, then you shouldn't let family genetics scare you away. There are also very attractive middle aged women, and women approaching middle age. There are also attractive older women. Some women do keep themselves up. Not everyone lets themselves go to the dogs. I sometimes think that women who let themselves go actually want to become sexually repugnant. Just like in the States, a new wave of hotties comes onto the mating market every year, and then there are the bitter hags and nags who glare and scowl at men all day when they aren't licking donut crumbs off the table. The long and short of it, young Latina women are hot, hot, hot. And just like everywhere else, men may age like wine, but women most often age like milk.

Diane's picture

I'm latina & I can say many latinas prefer caucausians, but I think africans are damn gorgeous.
I find this race thing in latinoamerica is very stupid, but there's also smart girls that love africans as well.

Anonymous's picture

Hi Richard,
Great article! I have a couple questions just to clarify some things you talked about in the part about flaking. How do you handle this without it looking like you're chasing?

For instance, last night at about 9:30 I texted a girl asking about her schedule this week so we could meet up. She didn't get back to me until 10 this morning and while the text was very friendly she said that she doesn't think she can this week because she's busy with finals. We know each other through mutual friends and I'm pretty sure she likes me. She said in the same text that maybe we'll see each other around new years when everyone gets together.

So what do you suggest I do here? Should I be more persistent and try to pin her down for a day this week? Or should I just not respond like you mentioned in a comment above? Thanks!

Jackie Gonzalez's picture

I'm surprised of how well you know us Latin Women everything you wrote is 100% Accurate. I want Man like you as my husband.. Maybe one day. Great blog though.

Richard's picture



I was linking this article to the discussion boards and just saw your comment.

Thanks for the comment ;)

My knowledge of you Latina women has only increased since I first wrote this piece.


Anonymous's picture


I was wondering if you had a moment to chat offline? I'm currently dating a beautiful Latina and I have some questions I'd like to ask if you have time?

white male So-Cal's picture

I am currently dating a Mexican - American woman. She has known me for over a year and always flirted very hard with me saying, "she wants her next child to have my eyes", constantly telling me I look cute or handsome, so on. I never thought much of it because she is very flirty with many other guys until I kept hearing from mutual friends how often she talks about me and loves my eyes and thinks I'm super sweet. I finally got the courage to ask her for her number and we hit it off texting and talking nearly every day. She finally agreed to meet for drinks and it went great besides the date getting cut a bit short (long story). It took three weeks for her to finally commit to a second date still flirting talking and texting during this period. I even told her she's lucky because most guy's would have given up by now, she just smiled with a seductive devilish grin. I then told her she is worth the chase a real catch. She loves when I talk to her this way and never pushes me away. She also will delay hours even a day to reply, but the always answers my calls and talks for a long time with great friendly flirty conversation. She Always Replies Faster when I flirt in Spanish via text. I think I may have bored her a little the first date. Thanks for the insight on the second date. I do plan on taking her to a nice dinner, dancing, maybe go cart racing, keeping it action packed through out. Thanks!

Fresh's picture


Great post. I have a similar post to Anonymous above re Persistence vs Chasing. I've hung out with this Mexican girl 3 times now (always a group setting or double-date). Tried to build some rapport over text but she's been slow-texting me the entire time. Last time we went out on a double-date, and she was showing major signs of interest, repeatedly touching my arm, putting both of her legs on top of mine, touching my face while we were eating dinner, sharing her drinks with me and asking me to share mine with her, feeding me bites of her food during dinner in front of the other "couple," and she even gave me a little dance show/lap dance during a couple of her favorite songs at a lounge. I didn't really grasp all the general concepts of attraction until after meetup #3, and am slowly realizing all my major mistakes in meetups 1 thru 3 (playing it safe, not trying to close the deal, etc.). I should've tried to close the deal on meetings 1-3. But now I'm trying to setup a 1-on-1 date to try to "fix" the situation, and she is slow-texting and flaking on me big time. So far I've managed to keep some semblance of balance, with a slip-up here and there (I texted her twice in a row this past weekend, but then she reciprocated later when I didn't respond to her next text). Can't get her pinned down for a 1-on-1 date. What do I do now? Wait it out like Chase's article on "What to Do When Girls Flake?" Have I already blown it (3 in person group meetings, no kissing and no solid attempts to get her to my place)?

Fresh's picture

Nevermind. She agreed to go on a date with me. Disregard my earlier confusion and blatant AFCness in the post above.

- Fresh
Current AFC/Non-AFC Wanna-be

James Moler's picture

I'm treading thin ice with this girl I met. It was totally an example of being in the right place at the right time that day. I was out running a few errands on this Sunday morning, when I noticed a what looked like a cute hispanic girl walking down the side walk. The weather was cold and overcast, and it was lightly raining. I turned the car around and got up beside her, offering her a ride. She agreed, and told me she was going just a little further down the road. I asked her for her name, and introduced myself. When we got to her house, nobody was home, and she was locked out. She asked if I minded to give her a ride to her aunt's house, where she could wait until somebody got home. I agreed, and mostly just had small talk, while driving to her aunts house. When we got there, their was one car in the drive way, but no one answered the door. She then asked me again if I would take her back to her house, and she could wait on the front porch until somebody got home. I told her it would be no problem, but I just had to stop by the gas station to fill up my car. Once at the gas station, I offered to by her a soda or something, and we both got drinks. Meanwhile, I have still just be having small conversation with her. I did complement her at one point, and said how her boyfriend must be a pretty lucky guy. She was very cute, quite a bit younger than I was. She told me she wasn't with anyone at the moment, and how the last guy kinda sucked. I pulled into her driveway, and as she started to get out of the car, thanking me for the ride, I couldn't help myself. She seemed very cool, and receptive in the conversation we had, so I just asked her. "Have you ever been with an older guy before?" Her first response was, "what do you mean?" Then I elaborated a little more, not openly saying "sex", but putting the suggestion out there. She did say anything, for what felt liked an eternity, and then she asked if I had a condom. I told her "No", but I could get one. We ended up have some pretty awesome sex in the backseat of my car, in a secluded area. It was awesome. I didn't get her number or anything, and went on my way. I do have a girl at home, but I really have a thing for hispanic girls, and she was pretty hot, with a smokin body. About a week later, I ran into her again walking home. I offered her a ride, which she agreed, and found out she was on her way home from work. I did get her number that day, and asked if she wanted to hang out again sometime? She's told me on more than one occasion,how good I supposedly was, but every time we were supposed to get together, she had an excuse or was a no show. Before hand, she say stuff like, "I can't wait", "you're so good", but it would never actually happen. First it was, she was on her period, then it was she unexpectedly had to babysit her cousins kid, and the third time she just disappeared. She wouldn't answer my texts or anything. A couple of days went by, and I ran into her again walking home from work. It was that day I found out that she has a boyfriend, but they seem to fight a lot. The day I first met her, and when had sex, they had a big fight. He left the house, she left the house, and I just happen to be in the right place at the right time. She said she really enjoyed the sex, but she was feeling guilty about what she had done. I told her no pressure on my part, but I am still interested. Last week I didn't overly text her, but we did talk. I asked more questions about where she was from, she's mexican, and about her. We had some pretty cool text conversations, and she seemed to be opening up to me. I told her how I had been to Mexico twice as a kid, and said it was a very beautiful country. Gave her a few sweet complements about her eyes, and sweet personality. It seem to be going well. The last time I heard from her was Friday afternoon. I ended the conversation by saying that I hope she had a nice weekend, and that I would talk to her next week. Her response was, " I'll definitely talk to you later". I thought we were cool. So I tried to be a little more dominant today, which I was definitely more of the alpha male when we had sex that day, and told her I would like to go down on her, just let me please her. Well I've gotten no response? I don't want to do? I don't want to blow this, but I definitely don't want to be put into the "friend" category. I obviously did something right that day we had sex, she has mentioned it several times, but I don't know what to do next? The last thing I told her a few hours ago was that I apologized if I was being too forward, that she just seemed so sure before, and I was interested. I said she possessed natural beauty, with raw passion, with seductively beautiful eyes. Told her I was curious? I was going to wait a couple of days before texting her again, unless she was to text me first, but now what?????? Any suggestions would be nice.

Esme's picture

I am a native-born Peruana. The Spanish in this article is atrocious. If a man said anything on that list to me during love-making, I would laugh off my ass.
Want to know something we the Latinas hate the most? These gringos treating us all like clones of Sofia Vergara. All of us do not have bodies that ooze sex from each pore. We are humans. Very bad article. Sorry for the bad English.

Peruvian 's picture

I'm Peruvian as well and i have to agree that those phrases in Spanish are horrific!!!!. Those are mostly Mexican slang and very low class. Let me clarify:
“Yo te quiero que devorar tu chocha!” GROSSSSSS, disrespectful
“Yo te quiero que dame una mamada! Ahora mami chula!” GROSSSSSS, plus Mexican slang
“Me encanta como lo siento adentro de ti” I LIKE THIS ONE
“Tus labios son tan suaves y sexy” I LIKE THIS ONE ALSO
“Tu quieres mi leche en tu boca?” GROSSSSSS

PAPI is not used across the border in every Hispanic or Latin country. So don't expect all women using that word.

However, i must agree with the article, very well written, and shows a lot of understanding of Latin women.

Good job!!

youngbuay's picture

Latina women are some of the most vain, narcissistic women in the world (especially Colombian women). This is coming from a Latino guy. imo they are not the best for long-term relationships. They also cheat a lot, so don't go thinking they'll be loyal to you in the long run.

Natalu's picture

I'm colombian and if you had bad luck with one then sorry but you can't say all Colombians are the same.
I'm loyal, I don't cheat ever, I committ, yes we do love looking good cuz we are WOMEN, I take good care of myself and I won't stop doing it just cuz you think we are vain.. we don't like going to the supermarket in sweatpants, that's just gross, women should look good all the time and we Latinas love that. So stop your generalization and think that just because you weren't lucky with one colombian then we are all the same. It's like saying that all American women are whores.

Diane's picture

I'm latina & just came to this website, I can say... fuck man, everything you are saying is true !!
Hahaha (for some things I feel ashamed, just like the thing with the race), I am not like that but I know plenty of latinas that prefer caucasians.

No offend to anyone, I find beauty everywhere, africans, asians, caucasians, for me beauty can be found everywhere.
Richard, your article is wonderful, a great guide for men interested in latinas.

The Tom's picture

Latinas are indeed racists against Asians. Quite ironic.

charles's picture

I've been married to a latin woman from south america before and long ago. After we divorced, there was a plan to never get involved with another one, I live in California and like the article says, you find quite a variety here but mostly mexican woman. For years it never bothered but one day, on a phone call with a mexican lady, this trigger went off in my head and found myself f'n mesmerized byher, her voice just did it for me. Well, I saw a picture of her but it was black and white. She didn't look so hot in it, grainy picture, and weird eyes. If you ever tried to xerox a copy of a drivers license, you know what I mean. But after the second or third call with her, she stole my soul. I was ready to bang her sight unseen and live with her till the day i die, For once, a woman I did' t care what she really looked like, or that she was mexican (of all ethnics group to choose from I was least attracted to). Then one day, I get to see her. My mouth dropped and my brain stopped working. In my eyes, this woman was nothing like her picture. She was absolutely stunning, not the stereotype mexican woman that would be seen around the neighborhood. She has baggage that has made it complicated, but the point of this, what he says about latina's is true for the two I've really had some feelings for. They are flaky, they want you to chase them, they are loyal but when you have worn out your welcome and do them wrong, they can turn on you like the devil took them over.. This lady got so mad, or played hard ball with, that she wouldn't talk to me for over two months, but when I made the attempt to call her out and tell her where the relationship is, she took no time to hit me back up and take me up on my offer. And the caveat, she's married and completely loyal to the marriage (not necessarily to her husband). Knowing she won't stray when her husband is a complete douche, and her marriage is on the rocks, only makes her more attractive, if you know what i mean. And that for once, would make me do it all over again with a latina.