Carnival of Dating Advice, 21st Edition

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It's time once more for the Carnival of Dating Advice, this time the 21st Edition. As always, aimed at bringing you the 'Net's latest in thought-provoking pieces from across the spheres of dating, relationships, psychology, and socializing.

We're serving up four choice articles today: a primer/refresher on making a good impression, a primer on fighting and resolving conflicts effectively and well, a theory on approach anxiety and what you can do about it, and a bunch of fun little tricks you can do at bars (to the delight of any and all in eyeshot).

Let's have a look...


Dale Shanklin sends us from his self-named site an article entitled "How to Make a Good Impression," with 11 solid pieces of advice on how to make your mark early on, including my longtime favorite - know what you're there for.


Graham Stoney's back with a more serious piece this time from The Confident Man Project asking "Are You Afriad of Talking to Beautiful Women?" [edit: links to site removed per site owner's request due to search engine concerns; see comment section below] The intriguing premise of the article: that it all ties back to your mother, saying "If you're afraid of talking to beautiful women, ask yourself how you feel around your mother? If you had a controlling mother, you could be projecting your unresolved childhood fear of her onto hot women as an adult."


With a very practical post today is Jana Moreno from Wisdom Ink, here to talk about "How to Fight Effectively with Your Partner." Some of the eminently usable tips here include prefacing any criticism with praise, and discussing things from "I," as in, "I feel this way," rather than finger-pointing and accusing with "you."

Other Interesting Things

From a site called Barwhiz, David Bar sends us "Bar Tricks to Pick Up Chicks." While you probably want to stay away from magic tricks in any real / serious pickup, for generally enjoying yourself more at the bar and some fun little gambits to pull with friends (and, maybe the occasional girl you feel like messing with), these are sure to be a good time.

Wrapping Up

... and that wraps us up for the twenty-first edition of the Carnival of Dating Advice. If you're reading this and want to submit for next time, check out the guidelines here.

Hope you found these articles fun and useful. Tune in next time for more great posts from around the Internet.

Chase Amante

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Knight's picture

Hmm, knowing what something's purpose is a common thought process I have acquired from you Chase. Have a good one mate.

Humay's picture

Why would it be a bad idea to apply magic to the opener of meeting girls? I supposed if I magically caught a rose from behind her ear (or at least something like that), she'll melt like butter, no?

Chase Amante's picture



The only problem with being too "fun" is that fun frequently leads to you being "the fun guy" rather than "the sexy guy" or "the mysterious guy."

I talked about fun on dates here:

Why "Fun" is a Seduction Killer

... and on meeting girls in general here:

Reactions from Women or Results with Women?


Dale Shanklin's picture

Hey Chase,

Thanks for including my "Good Impressions" article in the carnival.


Chase Amante's picture


Absolutely, Dale - thanks for a solid submission!


BBJW's picture

Hey chase!

I've been reading your articles a lot lately and have found them quite helpful. This doesn't pertain to a specific article so i thiught i would ask it here. Anyway, a few months I started chatting with my middle school crush ( we go to different high schools) and we've had some good conversations. Over Facebook and texting when we chat she responds in-depth like she cares but never reciprocates questions... Is that a bad thing? Last week I asked if she wanted to hang out over spring break and she said sure so we went bowling with her best friend and a guy who is a mutual friend (we are all from the same middle school circle). Anyway, I realized that I still have feelings for her and almost asked her out, but didn't want to ask her out in front of friends. Same as back in middle school, there never seems to be a time when I can privately ask her out, but over the phone or text seems lame and unromantic... I don't know what to do, any ideas? I'm sure you get this type of question frequently, so sorry to pester you.

Thanks man,


Chase Amante's picture



Tough when there are friends around. If you'll see her again, and there's absolutely NO way to ask her out without someone else hearing, one clever approach you might take is slipping her a note on a piece of paper. Or, there was a really creative one I liked in one of the Harry Potter movies where a guy tosses a balled-up piece of paper at a girl and, when she turns to look at him, mouths out / gestures, "You - me - ball?" (a dance ball), and she says okay.

If I were you, I'd set up another group outing like this and do that then. Or, if your friend likes the other girl, you could always make it a double date - and just run it like you would a regular date. Pre-plan with your friend to divide and conquer if you can. If you're not that close to him and it'd be weird to try and plan that out, the note or another creative or nonverbal way of asking her out is probably ideal.


Graham Stoney's picture

Looks like Blog Carnivals are now bad for SEO. Who knew? To read more about this, see:

Can you please remove the links to from this article.


Chase Amante's picture


Hey Graham,

Hopefully that article you linked is misattribution of this guy's traffic (seems like everything gets pointed out sooner or later as both good and bad for traffic... kind of like "things that cause cancer"), but regardless, no problem - I've taken your links here down.

Anyone browsing through who's still interested in reading this article by Graham, I'd recommend copying + pasting the title into Google search and you should still be able to find it that way, as I don't believe you can yet be penalized by search engines for allowing your site to be indexed by search engines :)