Book Excerpts: Get a Sexy Voice
I'm launching a new blog series today that'll roll every Friday of each week, featuring selected excerpts from my acclaimed manual on meeting, dating, and succeeding with women. If you've already got a copy of the book, these should serve as nice weekly refereshers! And if you haven't gotten yours yet, here's a small sample of what you're missing...
Today's excerpt is on how to get a sexy male voice, from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams. Voice is one of those topics that's tragically under discussed; it's a huge fundamental, and (if Mehrabian's numbers are right) it comprises a whopping 38% of what you communicate to other people -- and women. Not your words, mind you -- your voice itself.
This is an area you should definitely pay a little attention to...
“Your voice is one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal. It can be used to attract, to seduce, to build intrigue and capture a woman’s interest.
If you listen to women talk, you’ll notice first off that some women have appealing voices; you’ll also notice that other women have unappealing voices. Some women have voices that make you think, “Wow, she’s cute, but she must be a nerd.” And other women have very sexy voices.
It’s the same with men. There’s a great deal of variation in voices; in fact, every man’s voice is in fact surprisingly flexible in how it can change and evolve. Your voice is most likely the result of the way people around you spoke as you were growing up. If you were raised in Northern England, vs. Southern California, vs. Australia, vs. South Africa, you will have a different accent, for instance. And within each of those accents, there are even different voices.
Before we get into the deeper stuff though, first let’s cover some of the vocal basics:
Basic Vocal Technique
Hyoid: Does speaking ever seem difficult or tiring, almost like you have to force the words out? You’re most likely depressing your hyoid as you speak. The hyoid is a bone in your throat – the only bone in the body that doesn’t touch any other bone in fact – that some people get into the habit of pushing down on with the back of their tongue while speaking. It has the result of making speech more work, and makes the voice “fuzzier” and harder to hear.
The solution recommended by voice coaches is to make or feel the back of your tongue floating upward. Then, while still doing this, begin speaking. It takes a little practice, but you can train yourself to speak without putting so much pressure on your hyoid. One side note: there is no way to not put pressure on your hyoid, but you can always train yourself to involve less pressure. So you can always be working on having a louder, clearer, more effortless sounding voice.
Purr: Sexy men have a certain guttural purr to their voice (as do sexy women). A good contemporary example in film of this is George Clooney. Listen to how he speaks, and the “purr” that seems to inhabit his voice. Add this to your voice, and watch women begin to swoon. You will likely want to practice deepening and slowing your voice down first, and add a purr or rumble to it after – and of course, be careful to avoid getting too guttural – we don’t want you sounding like a caveman! Throw a slight purr in your voice, and you’ll do great.
Depth and Resonance: When you speak, you should be speaking from the bottom of your chest and lungs. Focus on adding that depth and the resonance it brings. Your voice will sound much more masculine and intense, creating a more desirable impression.
Boredom: Again, a degree of boredom makes you sound more worldly and experienced. It also tends to unconsciously encourage others and compel them to want to impress you and keep you engaged. The way you make certain remarks – like, “Oh, really?” or, “Is that right?” – while someone else is speaking can quite often spur them to work a little harder to make you more interested. This technique is useful particularly if the conversation is about something uninteresting or that does not move the interaction forward in any way. It’s important to not overdo this, as you can run into problems with attainability (covered in the last chapter of this section). Use it as one of your tools, rather than the only one.”
If you haven't spent much time working to get a sexy male voice yet, you might be surprised to realize you can train your voice up, just like any other skill. Take the right approach, do the right exercises, and work on it consistently, and before you know it, you'll have achieved a voice that makes women's heads turn -- quite literally.
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