Female Psychology

One compliment is all it takes to deepen your connection with a girl. If it’s thoughtful and genuinely conveyed, it can really help move things forward.

Here’s a nifty little tool you can use on dates. It’s best used to manage your attainability on a date and show a girl that you genuinely like her. It allows you to accelerate the speed of the date and transition it into something more intimate.

However, the way you use it must be timely and carefully calibrated to the moment.

This is a tool that was taught to me by my friend Franco, Girls Chase board moderator, so all credit goes to him. It revamped the way I went about first dates, and my pull rate increased dramatically. It basically shifts any girl on a date into overdrive the moment you use it, but you must use this tactic at the correct moment to exploit its full potential.

Today, we’re going to talk about dates – specifically, first dates. You’re always going to be setting up your dates correctly using other Girls Chase-taught procedures no matter what stage you’re at in the courtship. You approached her, got her number, and asked her on a date. Now you’re going out together somewhere, so she’s invested in seeing where this is heading.

Your state of mind creates a vibe that can attract or repel women. Use these tips to develop an aura of love that attracts women like bears to honey.

Many years ago, I was on Vacation, visiting a friend from the PUA community. He lived in a small town in Northern Canada with a surprisingly big nightlife. After a long evening at the bar, he asked if I wanted to go to an after party. Of course I did.

“Here, take one of these,” he said, handing the group a bag of white pills.

“What is it?” I asked.

“MDMA.”

I’d only tried MDMA once, and it was a crazy adventure. So I decided to give it one more shot. I popped the pill and we headed out to the party.

MDMA basically turns your dopamine up from zero to twelve, and as our group walked to the party, we all started giggling like school girls. By the time we got there, we were tripping hard. I felt this incredible joy and love for everyone and everything.

I sat down beside this pretty girl, and in about ten seconds, we were making out. I don’t remember what I said, but I felt an intense attraction, mixed with incredible vulnerability. It wasn’t my words that seduced her, but my vibe.

The problem with drugs and alcohol is that they come at a cost. Alcohol causes hangovers that wreck your day. Drugs like MDMA are the same – you get an emotional hangover. What goes up must come down. I don’t advocate using hard drugs, and I haven’t touched them since. But I did learn something powerful that night: that whatever you feel, she feels.

Wouldn’t it be great if your partner behaved more to your liking? The Pygmalion Effect shows us how to shape the behavior of others in a subtle-yet-profound way.

This week, I’m taking a break from writing about polyamory. Reading my other articles is not a prerequisite to understanding anything in this one.

Though this article isn’t part of my Polyamory series, I’m writing it because I realized some people may be confused by what I wrote in my second article in the series, particularly about finding women with certain qualities. I want to clear up some misconceptions while giving you guys some tools to up your game even more.

What I failed to emphasize in that article was that I’m not just looking for women who already possess certain qualities. Sometimes, I’m also using real, psychological principles to shape their attitudes and behaviors to be more aligned with those qualities. In fact, none of the women I am currently dating identified as polyamorous before meeting me.

Essentially, I converted them, changing their attitudes little by little. In other words, if you want to be polyamorous, you’re not necessarily limited to a small dating pool of women who already identify as polyamorous or possess the qualities I told you to screen for. To an extent, you can “install” those qualities into beautiful women you’re already attracted to.

Many people will read my second Polyamory article and say “Those kinds of women are so rare! It would be so difficult to find those kinds of women in abundance – especially hot ones!” Well, think again. Many of you guys might bemoan that so many hot women you’ve met are selfish, inconsiderate, or otherwise the opposite of what you value in a partner’s personality, but this is just another obstacle you can overcome with the tools I’m about to hand you.

“Let’s head back to my place.” – a suggestion we wish girls would agree to more often. With this technique, you can drastically increase the odds that she’ll comply.

Hey guys. Today, I will get technical again. I know some of my posts may occasionally be a bit scary for beginners, but this one should be pretty easy to grasp.

It covers an issue many men struggle with, beginner and intermediate alike. Advanced players may also benefit, as they might not already use the technique I am about to share – perhaps they do, but they may like a recap or a new perspective on it.

So, here’s the problem we’ll be discussing: have you ever struggled to isolate a girl you like? Have you experienced difficulties moving her somewhere else in the venue, to a new venue – or, even better, back to your place?

In other words, have you ever had problems getting the girl to say “yes” to those yes-or-no questions like “Shall we go to the bar together?” “Can we go somewhere else? I know a place nearby with better drinks,” or “What do you say we go back to my place and continue this conversation with some good wine? I don’t live far away.”

If the answer is yes, then read on. The issue you are facing often relates to a lack of compliance. It could be that resistance is working against you as well. We will not discuss that here, but it is something you should take into consideration and read up on. We have many posts covering resistance here on Girls Chase.

Nevertheless, whether it is a lack of compliance (“attraction” is usually used instead, but I find “compliance” to be a better term) or simple resistance is kind of irrelevant because an increase in compliance – our focus today – can benefit you in every case.

Sometimes, if she is resisting, you can raise the level of compliance so high that you bypass the resistance. A combination of building compliance and removing resistance is the ultimate seduction weapon. I will also discuss how you can use this solution as a seduction technique.

Getting past a woman’s objections to sexual escalation can be as easy as showing you understand her perspective... then reframing it into something better.

Yes, it’s possible.

In this game we call seduction, it is possible to reframe, out-frame, and smoothly redirect objections in most of the situations or scenarios we find ourselves in, to better serve our purposes as seducers.

Now, before we get into the meat of this article, let’s have a look at what reframing is and point out some common situations and examples where reframing will come in handy, as well as the mindset you need to be in to use this skill properly. Once we’ve covered these necessary primers, we can get into the nuts and bolts of how to reframe objections to your advantage.

The specifics of this technique are fairly advanced, but intermediate seducers and even motivated beginners will learn a few things from this article. However, especially when it comes to the points on the right mindset for handling roadblocks and smoothly reframing objections, I would recommend coming back and re-reading this article later on in your journey.

Once you’ve handled your fundamentals and gained more experience with meeting and bedding women, you’ll be in a position to get the most benefit from this article.

In the dating world, neediness is poison. By giving her escape routes and keeping an open-door policy, she’ll discover you’re no ordinary sap… and start chasing.

Every day, I kiss the gods’ feet for allowing me to escape The Land of Incels. Did you know that 7% of men sleep with nearly all the world’s most beautiful women? I didn’t make that stat up. It’s hard science, like Newtonian Gravity. Indisputable.

Most men live in extreme romantic scarcity, an arid wasteland, devoid of connection with women – with themselves, even. They wander through existential deserts, seeking that Disney-esque moment when they’ll be introduced to some random, half-cut unicorn at the staff Christmas party. And that’s how it is for 93% of us.

Of course, this kind of introduction rarely, if ever, happens – well, not to me anyway. If they finally attract a hot girl, those ancient fears arise: losing her attention, sensing her attraction dipping. At her slightest withdrawal, they’ll claw desperately for it, like a puppy at a milk-loaded teat.

They don’t want her to abandon them, and the harder they grasp for reassurance of commitment, the weaker the strings of intimacy become. Until one day, they finally crumble, like bone dust through their heavily moisturized fingers.

In dating and seduction, neediness is poison, and abundance is honey. It’s contrary to everything we’ve been taught in the West: that the man who provides the most, who is the sweetest, most caring, doting, and available, will win the fair maiden’s heart for all eternity. This is fake news. It’s a load of rubbish and doesn’t work for the average guy.

Women are repulsed by neediness. They want a man who challenges them to be their best selves. They should feel as if they have just enough of your attention, and if they were to slip up, you could fall for another girl. She needs to chase you.

It’s natural to want someone if you find them attractive. But keeping a girl cornered, psychologically or physically, is not only poor game but relationship blackmail. It will always have the opposite, paradoxical effect. Approach game requires some push-pull, some abundance mentality – as do longer relationships.

In the A-to-Z of seduction, the girl must feel she’s in a relationship out of choice – that she’s better off with you than without you. Whether it’s one night or for life, she’s invested, not coerced or manipulated. The more she invests, the bigger the loss if the prospect were to collapse.

Making fun assumptions, storytelling, and gambits go hand in hand with building intrigue. Here’s how to use these tools to showcase your attractive qualities.

Hi, and welcome back.

Last week, we discussed intrigue and how it can be used to mentally stimulate a girl and increase your chances of hooking her into your interaction so that you can get settled in and buy time to convey your attractive personality traits.

Today, we will put the concept of building intrigue into context. You may have understood the concept, but when and how will you use it? The obvious answer is “wherever and whenever you want” – it can be used anytime, anywhere in the interaction.

However, knowing the concept during the early phase of the interaction won’t help you if you don’t have great material to use it with – i.e., techniques that can be used to hook girls in. That’s what this post is all about: putting the concept discussed last week in context and examining how you can use it in conjunction with other great material.

Before I move on, it is imperative for me to state that the list of techniques that I am about to share are great techniques that I personally use to hook girls in, but it is not a full list. Lots of other techniques and gambits can be used – some aren’t listed here but are great anyway (see Part 3 for other suggestions.) Let’s get into it.