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In the first part of my Day Game series, “Day Game 101, Part I: Basics and Fundamentals”, you learned all of the fundamentals of meeting women during the day time. In the second part, “Day Game 101: A New Way to Open”, you learned how to overcome one of the biggest hurdles: how not only to approach women, but approach them in the most optimal way possible, i.e., by making it seem like it was fate.

I really hope you guys have been approaching women and working on the fundamentals. If you want to master day game you really need to focus and grasp those fundamentals!

While the fundamentals are highly important, it’s also important to have a plan on what to do once you are actually talking to a beautiful woman during the day. That’s where Part 3 comes in. Hold onto your seats because we about to go on a wild ride...

Whether it is better to actually seduce women with your words or just stay quiet and escalate physically is a commonly asked question. Different schools of thought will tell you different things and might even confuse some of you in the long run.

Some claim that it is better to use physical escalation – as in touching her and looking at her deep in the eyes and cutting the physical spaces between you and her. Others claim that is it the things you say that matters most; that you attract women verbally. It is also common to read about seduction systems that entail both verbal and physical game.

Personally, I have tried it out both ways and I find both equally good. At least that’s how I feel. They are both fun to pull off in practice in their own ways. One gives you an adrenaline kick (physical game), whereas the other gives you a feeling of creating deeper connections with girls (verbal game).

In this post, I will discuss the pros and cons of both ways so that you can make a more informed decision as to which one suits you better.

I am not sure how many of you studlings are interested in the kinkier aspects of sexuality. Perhaps you’re just here to get a girlfriend, a wife, or get better at the process of picking up in general – and more power to you!

However, there are others among you who like to see what the limits are, explore everything, and learn from experience what you like and dislike.

For those of you on the more “exploratory path”, you will eventually find yourself interested in topics like threesomes, open relationships, bondage, swinging, and things of that nature.

Fortunately, there is a wide variety of cool sex stuff to discover, and every interesting thing you do makes you a more knowledgeable, experienced, and stimulating person.

It is the goal and dream of young, middle-aged, and seasoned men everywhere. In fact, I am convinced that 90% of the time that males go out it is for this purpose: the one-night stand.

There are few things more satisfying than going out, meeting a new sexy girl, executing your game perfectly (or probably just good enough), and then taking her home for a one-night stand.

But on the flip side of this coin, it can be an extremely disappointing feeling to go out with the intention of getting a one-night stand and then, sadly, falling short. And droves of men unfortunately experience this frustration on a nightly basis.

Fact is, most guys have only the haziest of ideas about how to get a one-night stand.

There was a period of nearly 10 months where I slept with quite a few girls, and every single one was a one-night stand. During this period, I learned a thing or two about really fine-tuning my process to this end.

And now I’m pleased to share with you what I’ve learned about getting a one-night stand with sexy girls.

I hope you get a lot from this article, but the key take away should be this: in a one-night stand, your process and decision-making are just as important as your appearance and game. So keep that in mind.

If you’re like most men, the women you end up with are, by and large, the ones who put themselves on your radar:

• The girl who sits near you in the library or coffee shop

• The one who dances next to you at the bar or club

• The one who glances at you while waiting for the bus or train

These girls signal you, they toss approach invitations your way, and you get up off your butt and go meet them.

If you think about most of the girlfriends you’ve had, they probably fall into this category. Unless you’re a regular street gamer or mass approacher, my guess is most of the women you’ve slept with fall here, period.

Yet, are these the best quality women you can get?

Or are you missing the choicest fruit high up in the trees, for the fruit that’s easier to get, lying readily in reach upon the ground?

In the last couple of posts, we have examined the series of events that had to happen both logistically and emotionally in order for an escalation to progress successfully from meet to mate.

We understand that logistical escalation refers to, from a simplified perspective, where to do something, while emotional escalation refers to when to do something.

This information is important to understand, as the majority of time spent during your learning curve when approaching and socializing will be learning when to do (or say) whatever it is you do (or say).

In other words, when you are in an interaction with a woman to whom you are attracted, you will learn, through trial by error, to recognize the signals that she is communicating to you (mostly non-verbally), as to when to ramp up, or slow down your escalation.

Women are all different, so when you are able to recognize the emotions a woman is experiencing, you will be able to connect with her quickly, effectively, and then build upon this connection to guide the interaction to the Optimal / Desired Reality.

A good way of looking at emotions is to view them as filters. These emotional filters are the keys to decoding her communication.

Last time, to celebrate your successful completion of the fundamentals of communication series, we grew our conversation outline to include what to say next – for now anyway ;-)

Applying your conversation outline during your interactions will allow you to internalize your fundamentals by diverting your focus from what to say next to what to do, and not do, right now!

In turn, this will allow you to determine which of your habits (read: subconscious instinctive behaviors) are effective, or ineffective, at helping you successfully escalate an interaction logistically, physically, and emotionally. Then, simply replace your ineffective habits of behavior with your knowledge of the fundamentals (read: effective behaviors) and experience the difference firsthand!

In this new series, to gain a better understanding of how to effectively escalate an interaction from meet to mate, we are going to breakdown the process both logistically and emotionally.

As I explain this information, you will notice that some of it will seem very abstract, so I will attempt to give concrete examples whenever possible. However, at the same time, understand that the more experience you gain, the less abstract this information will become, as you will internalize these effective mindsets and behaviors.

So let’s get started!