Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

29 Things that Make a Woman Resist or Rebuff You


woman resist youIn my article “Why Leadership is so Key to Seducing Women”, a reader asks the about what the causes are of women resisting or rebuffing you:

Howdy Chase, I would personally like to thank you for your writing. Truly inspiring and life-changing for me.

Your leadership advice has reminded me of your “Tell if her walls are up” article and its pertaining point of avoiding red flags that provoke women’s walls. However, I am clueless what triggers women’s walls. Would you mind elaborating on those landmines? Best regards!

The article he’s referring to, about women’s walls, is this one:

Tell If a Girl Likes You: Are Her Walls Up Or Down?

So what does raise a woman’s walls in the first place?

Well, we can break them down into three (3) categories:

  1. Environmental triggers (stuff not related to you or her)
  2. Her default personality (i.e., it’s her problem)
  3. Things you are doing (i.e., it’s your problem)

Below, I’ll talk about each... plus the best ways for dealing with each.

Why You Ought to Reengage Women You’ve Met Earlier


Tell me if this sounds like you. You see a girl at a bar, you approach her, it goes okay, but you don’t have enough social momentum to get her to come home with you.

After a while you bow out. You proceed to meander around the bar for a couple hours, avoiding her and her friends like a social disease. Finally, after you talk to every girl in the club you leave alone, wondering what went wrong. What you did wrong is you didn’t re-engage.

reengage

The re-engage is a powerful weapon, because it changes your mindset. It changes your mind from needing everything to happen right then, to trusting that if it doesn’t happen now it will happen later.

It will allow you to go up to girls with zero expectations, and help you have a lot more fun. It will allow you to turn the whole club into your personal party. The re-engage can be used in a variety of ways. The wisdom of the re-engage works in many circumstances, from day game at a coffee shop to getting a friend with benefits back in your life.

The Young Man Seeking a Wife


Once upon a time, a young man prepared to leave home and venture into the city to find a wife. Before he left, his father, a simple farmer, gave him some advice: “Along the way, there are many who will want your ear. These will give you much advice on securing a wife, but the advice will not be for good for you, and it will not be good for your wife. The advice they give you will be based on fanciful ideas

An Intro to Logistics: Get Her Alone with You


Happy New Year!

I hope you are doing great. Today I will talk about a topic that is too often disregarded but that is KEY to seduction – perhaps one of the most important aspects.

This post is primarily an introduction to logistics. I will add a few links to other posts of mine (in addition to posts from other writers) that cover more in-depth stuff on various logistics related topics as we go along.

logistics

What is logistics?

Logistics is basically the scenario in which the seduction is taking place, e.g. your surroundings and the locations you will be working in. Knowing your surroundings and how to use them to their fullest will obviously be of great use.

Most of the time, when talking about logistics in terms of seduction, we often refer to it as a “seduction location” or “having a place to have sex”. And as this is what most people are focused on, so too will we focus on it in this post.

As such, this post is custom-tailored for anyone interested in getting laid, covering the fundamental aspects of logistics.

2015: The Year in Review, Looking Ahead


As with the previous two past years (2013, 2014), I’ve sought to review all our articles posted and list the top posts, in my opinion and from comments/shares.

This past year saw 241 new posts, down a bit from 2014, though we started off the year with an all-time high posting schedule of new articles daily for the first several months of the year.

This year saw:

  • Philip Etemesi’s 5 articles on getting girls in buses, at concerts, and in Africa
  • Drexel Scott’s 6 discussions of female nature and sexual selection
  • Ethan Fierre’s 6 essays on flirting, walking, and the romance novel
  • Joseph W. South’s 8 plunges deep into the female psyche
  • J.J. Jones’s 10 articles about deep diving, six-pack abs, and modern marriage
  • Colt Williams’s 11 tutorials on quick pickup and types of girls
  • Mateo Navarrete’s 11 introductions to openers, conversation, and escalation
  • Cody Lyans’s 17 explorations of focus, mental obstacles, and inner work
  • Hector Castillo’s 17 dissertations on dirtiness in bed and being a genuine man
  • Darius Belejevas’s 23 pieces on fashion, grooming, and social appearances
  • William Gupta’s 23 discussions of race, height, muscles, and intuition
  • Alek Rolstad with 37 articles on fast sex, sex talk, and dance floor game
  • And my (Chase Amante’s) 52 essays on pickup tech and relationship strategy

... plus four from George Russell, three from Jeff Stanton, a pair each from Francesco Toggianini and John Turner, and one each from Ben Harrison and Jerome Wu.

(the author links above link to each writer’s catalog of articles)

2015 review

I’ll also discuss plans for the business in 2016, what you can expect, and a little bit about my upcoming course.

5 Reasons to Approach Hotter Girls


Having experienced the power of cold approach and the value of doing it in a rather systematic and calculated way (you will probably hear more about this in the next articles...), I am a bit surprised that I am actually writing this article myself.

approach hotter girls

I am a big believer in the efficiency of talking to every girl that I find even remotely interesting, because doing so puts me in a good mood. And, when I am in a good mood, talking to hotter girls becomes easier. Those who are not new to seduction advice know this principle very well. It is called state-shifting, and it basically consists in warming yourself up by talking to girls who might not necessarily turn you on, but that still give you that rush of adrenaline (due to the cold approach) that makes it very easy to do the next approach with the hotter girl.

While I still recommend the state-shifting approach for beginners (as a beginner you are still dealing with approach anxiety and a lack of reference experiences, so being too fussy can actually backfire), today I’m going to describe the benefits of being very selective regarding the quality of the girls you are going to talk to.

This article can be of value to beginners as well, but it is especially designed for intermediate/advanced guys who already have at least 500-1000 solid interactions on the street with women through cold approach.

Beginners are more likely in fact to have the problem of too-high standards than too-low ones; if you are a beginner, you should probably read this article first.

Awareness Radius: Get Noticed, Reward/Punish, and More


There’s a forceful concept we haven’t touched on a great deal on Girls Chase before, and that’s awareness radius.

We’ve discussed it a bit in the articles on the bored look and the skeptical look, and we’ve mentioned it as ‘extinction’ in the one on operant conditioning.

However, we’ve not called it by this name... awareness radius.

awareness radius

If you’re good, you’re using awareness radius strategically already, without knowing it. Once you’re consciously familiar with the concept, however, you can use it consciously as well as on autopilot, which makes you more socially formidable.

Even if you’re still learning, I’ll bet you’ll realize you’ve used this one from time to time, and what an impact it’s made. Now just think if you used it strategically.

Because, you see, awareness radius is a tool for communicating your own value, in your mind, relative to others; it’s a tool for rewarding good behavior and punishing bad; and it’s one you can use proactively to increase how much attention others are paying to you and what regard they hold you in.

5 Factors that Give a Man Sexual Confidence


Hey everyone.

Today I wanted to discuss a very important form of confidence that is rarely mentioned, yet is a KEY factor in your success with women. We are here talking about sexual confidence.

sexual confidence

I will first discuss what it is and how it will affect your success with women, then I will give some suggestions on how you can become sexually confident – i.e., tell you how to get there. So this post will be a mix of theory and practical elements.

Why Women Misremember the Past


A reader commented on my article on backward rationalization about women’s frequent misremembering or twisting of past event details:

This is a great article. As a rational man, with integrity, I struggle with this all the time. Young women will routinely misremember things that they said and did, in a way that allows them to not accept responsibility. They’ll conjure up conversations, filling in my words, for their benefit. Very often it is to save them from losing face. Other times it is so they can avoid confronting the truth about themselves. To me, this is lying, but if I’m mad about it, it’s some “loss of frame”.

I had a post about this on redpill reddit a few months ago, asking if you should ever question a girl about why she was dishonest, as it seems pointless. The consensus seems that you just tell a woman what she did, and that it wont be tolerated. When she argues, you ignore.

What our reader here is remarking on is one of the core differences in how men and women perceive the world, and it’s one it’s tremendously important to have a handle on if you want to run your relationships with women well.

The understanding is this: how a woman remembers a past event has less to do with the facts of the event than it has to do with how she feels right now.

women misremember past

This sounds topsy-turvy and wrongheaded from a male perspective, because how on Earth can you expect to create a sane and stable world if the past shifts with the sands of your very emotions?

However, it serves a critical role in how women deal with the world, as well as with those around them.

Stop Auto-Rejecting Girls Who Like You


“You wannafourfour?”

Around a year and a half ago, this Tinder message buzzes my phone as I drive back to school. I’m returning from a trial shift at a club I hope to work at for the upcoming summer.

Despite my good mood, however, I’m confused. What the hell is “fourfour”?

self-auto-rejection

The girl messaging me is a cute blonde sorority girl who I’d set up a few dates with, but she always flaked. Save for a few run-ins on campus, we didn’t see each other much. Then we matched on Tinder, but it’d been days since I sent a message, with no reply. Now, at the tail-end of a Friday night, she’s messaging me to “fourfour”.

“She must be messing with me,” I think to myself.

As far as I can remember, I’ve always thought that the entire world was playing a prank on me. And women flirting with me and chasing me, well, that was just the cruelest of jokes. I feared that the moment I flirted back or asked them out, everyone around me, including the girl, would turn towards me, point their fingers, and laugh as they tease me “Oh you really thought she’d get with YOU?!” This was the insecurity that caged the seducer in me for far too long.

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