Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

4 Steps to Sleep with Women When You Travel Abroad


Being able to take home a kind, beautiful girl anywhere in the world is every man’s dream. And why wouldn’t it be? How amazing is the feeling of touching down in a completely new land, being mesmerized by a host of lights, sights, and smells, and locking eyes with a woman who had only traipsed through your dreams before that moment?

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It’s incredible. And I want you to be able to capture the feeling as often as you possibly can. But a lot of men make tactical miscalculation when they set out for the high seas (or skies). So let me share with you what I’ve learned from visiting six continents on this planet.

Dance Floor Game Tips #9: More on Handling Resistance


dance floor resistancePreviously I discussed a few important premises and techniques that will help reduce your chances of having to face resistance when you escalate physically – or at least will minimize the impact of the resistance.

Previous articles in this series here:

  1. Dance game foundations

  2. Warming up on the dance floor

  3. Dance floor target selection

  4. Opening on the dance floor

  5. Building attraction on the dance floor

  6. Physical escalation on the dance floor

  7. Handling her friends

  8. What causes resistance

However, even knowing what causes it and how best to avoid it, sometimes resistance will occur anyway. It’s far from uncommon. Even good seducers face resistance – although less often than beginners.

Before I begin, please note this: just because you are getting resistance does not mean you have failed to pull off the techniques (the preventive techniques against resistance) from our last post.

Some women are just harder cases than others, and that can either be due to the situation and her current mood or her personality.

Some women are harder to get than others – that’s just life.

From Hello to Good Morning: How to Talk Your Way into Her Pants


Whether you’re talking to a girl inside a club or inside your apartment, you are going to need to be an effective communicator.

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Conversation is not only something you do to bond with girls, but it’s a tool to get her back to your place. Not saying the right thing at the beginning could result in her never giving you a chance. A boring conversation could have her walking away from you mid-sentence. If you can’t get her to feel comfortable at your place, you could fail right at the finish line.

So here is my hello to good morning conversation guide:

Why Aren't You Arousing the Women You Meet?


One of the most common questions that I hear from guys is:

“How do I make her want me?”

But there’s always more to this question. They go on...

“You know, like want me so bad that she just can’t wait to get back to my place and rip my clothes off and will even make plays to move the interaction forward herself! I see this happen with other guys from time to time, so I know it’s possible... How do you do that?”

arousing women

Although what you are doing is important, it’s usually the things that you either don’t do or just do incorrectly that end up being the miscreant that stalls things.

Later I’ll explain to you in detail how to not only turn a woman on, but more critically, how to do it smoothly so that you don’t make mistakes and disappoint her somewhere along the way.

But first, let me tell you why this is even more important than you think it is.

Is There Something About Girls You Just Don’t Get?


A reader named Will makes the following comment on our discussion boards about the “secret society”:

I really don’t understand this concept of a secret society. One that all women and successful seducers belong to. Any society that over 50% of the world’s population belongs to is not a secret. And I’ve been with younger, slightly (or more than) crazy girls who in no way seemed to understand much about social interactions before, during or after sex – you can find that a little too often with internet dating, but I think it kind of disproves this secret society idea.

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I myself don’t use the “secret society” term for the same reason; it’s an older pickup term a lot of guys do like, but for many guys outside the pickup world, it can confuse... and makes the whole concept sound planned-out (when it’s actually more an emergent phenomenon).

Personally, “secret society” was one turn-of-the-phrase that always makes my brain have to pause a minute. For whatever reason, at least for me, the term makes the concept it describes pretty unintuitive.

Alek has already explained the “secret society” concept in-depth in a 2013 article here: “Social Order, Sexual Restriction, and the Secret Society.”

Today, I’d like to talk a bit more about what’s going on in women’s heads when they meet a guy who “gets it” versus a guy who does not... and how they figure out who’s who.

How to Juggle Women, Projects, Habits, Career, and More


Would you like to know what was, and actually still is, my biggest struggle when it comes to seduction? And not just me - this single aspect often ends up putting even the most prolific seducers on dry-spells and is the reason why so many men's "career" in having a promiscuous lifestyle only lasts a few years.

Do I have your curiosity?

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Alright, then I won't beat around the bush anymore - it is integrating seduction into your lifestyle and making it sustainable long-term.

You see,

Like many of you, I'm a man on a mission. I have great aspirations and goals for my life and, truth be told, racking up enough notches to give Jack Nicholson a run for his money is NOT one of them.

Don't get me wrong, I love our beautiful ladies as much as the next guy (maybe even more), and in this article I won't try to convince you that getting good with women is not a worthwhile goal - on the contrary, I will try to convince you that it's actually a necessary skill that will help you achieve other goals in your life more efficiently. But only if we're smart about it.

However, even that is not my main goal with this article.

Instead, I would like to share some ideas and strategies on how to incorporate meeting and sleeping with beautiful women into your life and make it sustainable. Or, if you're still struggling, how to get good with women without creating fires in other aspects of your life.

That said, as I will explain in a moment, it wouldn't be honest to say that I have it all figured out and that there's a clear-cut one-strategy-fits-all approach. The tricky part when talking about these subjects is that it takes years to really see if a particular approach worked and if it was even the optimal one to take in the first place.

Which simply means - be smart and try to critically think about what you are reading.

And now, the problem...

5 Ways Short Guys Can Do Great with Girls


I am an underwhelming 5 feet 9 inches tall. In the US and the UK, this is about four inches under the ideal height for a guy. I have girls tell me that I am too short, yet they still ended up coming home with me that night.

short guy

When you begin your journey dating as a short guy, you want to stack the odds in your favor. It’s easy to get disheartened and lose steam, and that’s why I have come up with this framework for shorter guys to game more efficiently at the beginning of their journey, so they can build their core confidence and have a long career of picking up women.

Modern Marriage, Part 6: How to Bounce Back From Divorce


Hey fellas, just a quick recap before we begin here:

In Part 1 of the series we explored all of the reasons why men get married.

Then in Part 2 we discussed what most men’s expectations for marriage are like, and why they most of the time are not very feasible.

Part 3 brought to us a laundry list of things that ruin marriages.

We then discovered what happens when your expectations of marriage fall short, and when and if damage control is needed in Part 4.

Most recently, in Part 5, we examined the divorce process and how to navigate it properly. Now it is finally time to figure out what the heck to do after it all shakes out.

So, welcome to the Grand Finale.

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Indecision is a Woman’s Prerogative (and She Likes It that Way)


Women are vexing creatures, aren’t they?

Men often find aspects of basic female nature completely perplexing. Women, for their part, often find many aspects of basic male nature an utter bore.

woman's prerogative

I talked about the multi-layered aspects of what women want before; today I’m going to talk about why exactly they make it so indecipherable what they want in any one moment for men (and frequently themselves).

Have you ever watched a man who is good with women? You’ll notice women do all kinds of womanly things around him that would make most men boil, while he just laughs.

How can such a man be so nonplussed around the madness that is woman?

We see men commenting on Girls Chase about this often. A guy comes on and rages about how women don’t make any sense and men shouldn’t have to change one lick for them. Shades of the good old fashioned “just be yourself and everything will work out fine” argument which took over popular thought sometime in the 20th century with its ineffectual pseudo-intellectual quips.

There is one element you see again and again that drives men to tear their hair out in patches though, and that’s this: women change their minds like monsoon season weather. One minute it’s pounding sheets of rain, and the next minute the sun’s out bright with nary a cloud in sight.

Most men do not understand this... while the men who are good with women just smile and laugh. “Girls are silly and cute,” such men say.

You may know this mentality is better intellectually, but perhaps you still find yourself bugged by women’s behavior emotionally. Happens to lots of guys.

With regard to the man irritated by women’s behavior, and the man at peace with it:

How can these two men have such totally different views on women – and what’s really going on in women’s heads that make them so darn flakey?

Dance Floor Game Tips #8: What Causes Resistance


resistanceWe are about to sum up this long guide on dance floor seduction. However, before we get into how to seal the deal, I believe it is key to discuss the potential pitfalls you might meet on the way and how you can deal with them.

In case you are just tuning in, the previous installments in this guide to dance floor game are here:

  1. Dance game foundations

  2. Warming up on the dance floor

  3. Dance floor target selection

  4. Opening on the dance floor

  5. Building attraction on the dance floor

  6. Physical escalation on the dance floor

  7. Handling her friends

Some of you might have gone out and tried the numerous techniques that we have covered so far. Those of you who have might have faced some resistance when escalating physically on a woman. I'll cover how to avoid and how to handle such situations in this post. There are numerous posts on this website on how you can handle resistance, including one written by me. This post can work as a recap, but I will also share some additional stuff.

Let us get right into it by first briefly explaining what resistance is and what causes it. After that, we will cover different ways to avoid facing resistance. Then next week we will be covering how to deal with it when you first face it.

Obviously, a lot of the concepts shared in this post can be applied to any seduction related situations and not only on the dance floor – for example when she is back at your place, or if you are meeting a girl in a bar or having an instant date as a result of a successful day game cold approach.