Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

How to Get Girls While Backpacking


Last summer I backpacked across Europe with my best friend. This trip took my game to another level. Towards the end of it, I started to really learn a system and how to take advantage of my current situation as a backpacker.

This post outlines the aspects of that system as I had it by the end of that trip, and should enable you to have a much easier time to get girls while backpacking too.

Seducing a Girl by Leading the Seduction Dance


Do you know what separates just a good male dancer from one who women love and just can’t seem to get enough of?

They both need to be good at leading and know how to use their body to the music; the difference, however, is that a good dancer will try to show off his own “moves” while the one who’s being asked out to dance again and again will use leading to make her look amazing.

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I remember an exercise we did when I started learning couples dancing, one dedicated to helping you understand how to lead – as a male partner you stand in place and while the song is playing you’re only using your hands to lead her and have her make the dance look great.

Can there be a more perfect analogy for seduction?

You extend your hand firmly to show what will happen next and even though she’s free to choose whether to follow your directions or not, if you do it right she will do so more often than not.

When she doesn’t it’s either because your extension wasn’t clear enough and she’s not sure what you want her to do or maybe she has her weight on another leg and the direction you want her to go would be too uncomfortable or even physically impossible to follow. Either that, or she simply doesn’t trust you enough to feel confident that you will make the whole dance look good.

At no point do you try to force her into a particular position though.

When she does follow through with your lead, all you have to do is stop for a moment and admire how stunningly sexy she looks while spinning, moving her hips, or gently falling into your embrace. Then you extend your arm and show her the next direction.

All this happens while you as a man stand firmly in your position.

The Ultimate “Get Girls on Dance Floors” Guide: Foundations


This May I will be talking about dance floor game. There is one obvious reason for this – the summer is right around the corner, which means a lot of girls are going to head out to clubs.

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The sun makes us horny and if you go out clubbing in the summer (which you should) you will see a lot of horny girls dancing around. And when you’re on the dance floor with them, knowing how to pick them up will obviously be very useful.

Secondly, I believe that the internet (including here on Girls Chase) lacks any deep dance floor guides (although we have a few great short guides on this site, we don’t yet have any deep ones). I have seen recently that many other posters have made longer guides, splitting them up into multiple posts, so I decided to do so myself as well.

I guess doing things this way is great because it allows us to really go in-depth with a topic. This will allow me to share more content without having to always introduce a new topic. It will also allow me to go straight into more advanced topics (in a single post) without having to (re)introduce the basics (because these will have been shared earlier on in the series).

Anyway, this post is meant as an introduction. I will share some elements of dance floor game that I believe to be crucial. Next week we will start discussing more practical stuff, such as opening. This post however will discuss some important aspects of dance floor game in general. I believe that understanding the dynamics covered here will help you a lot when you go out and hit the dance floor

Look at this piece as your foundation for dance floor game. I will approach this by discussing a series of common myths about dance floor seduction.

This way, not only will you think twice about any negative conditioning you might have about dance floor game, but you will also gain some knowledge about this type of seduction. Let us begin.

5 Tools for Obliterating Suppression and Anxiety


A lot of guys who ask for help with women suppress the value of the advice they receive in order to avoid a tender issue. In this article I am going to discuss the tendency to suppress new information in order to continue with old habits and the unconscious anxiety that fuels this behavior.

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It is about how suppressive behaviors empower anxiety into a chronic problem and inflate the ego so you never want to LEAVE.

The Genuine Man, Part 9: A Nice Jerk?


Welcome back to the journey, broskis!

So after covering:

We tied all the lessons up and took a peek into the mind of a man who has reached an authentic strength that makes him a man who is in the top echelon of the world’s population – or at least will be soon.

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Now it’s time to understand why this man must have been born out of the pit of intensity, intimidation, and whimsical power.

Secrets of Dating High Quality Women


Imagine that you are reading this article on the top floor of a high-end bookstore just a few blocks down from a prestigious law school. There is a lot natural light and the smells of cedar furniture and rain pleasantly tease your senses.

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As you glance out the window into the courtyard, you see a woman hurrying in the front door. Your jaw literally drops. She’s gorgeous.

You understandably decide that meeting her is far more important than reading my article and decisively rise to intercept her.

Having this sort of decisiveness is key if you are to even have a shot with a girl of this caliber.

And, though as of now you only suspect it, later you will learn that this woman is actually your dream girl.

She is mature, loving, and has no unmanageable hang-ups or neurosis. She also has easy access to an almost endless supply of high quality mates, her finances are taken care of, and she is popular and well-liked.

Yet, decisiveness alone is unlikely to win you this dame by itself. Even chutzpah will only get you so far.

Sure, by setting a sexy frame and being bold enough to ask for investment you may be able to become her lover, at least for a short period of time – but what if you want a more substantial relationship with her? What if you want to keep her around for more than the typical 3 months that a well-managed FWB lasts? What if you even want to keep her around for longer than even the typical 2 years of a long-term relationship?

What if you want to keep her around INDEFINITELY, without just counting on luck for that to happen?

If that is the case, then this article is for you.

Girls You’ll Meet in the Library and How to Pick Them Up


One day while studying in the library, I saw a beautiful girl sitting by herself. Things between me and another girl had just fizzled out and I was looking to get back into the game. I decided to approach the beautiful girl. I walked up to her, talked to her for a bit, got her number, and a few days later I pulled.

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Soon I realized that the library was the easiest place to pull in college. It provided me with a variety of women, which was something my social circle couldn’t provide. At the same time, it didn’t have the same social friction that my class pulls would encounter. Lastly, I didn’t have to compete with the environment. No friends pulling her away. There was no loud and obnoxious music playing the background. Just me and her connecting and talking.

This method has outlasted my college career. It is something I still do whether or not I’m attending school.

A Doomed Relationship is the Ideal Springboard


Note from Chase: this is our first article from George Russell, a writer from across the pond whose work I found refreshing and strong. He’s joined us for a four (4) article trial period, and if you think his stuff is good too, he’ll be back for more as a regular contributor. George’s first article is on using a failing relationship as a springboard for getting back into the dating game. Here’s George.


It’s circling the drain, she’s pulling away, there’s nothing you can do to stop it – you know, you’ve tried everything. She hasn’t left yet, but her eyes are on the exit sign and you know her destination.

Your relationship is doomed. Either you cling on desperately until the bitter end, or you break up with her now before you waste any more time. Right?

Not so fast! There are other ways to handle the end of a relationship.

In this article I’ll show you how to make a smooth and successful transition back into the single life, or straight into a relationship you really want to be in.

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The first step, of course, is to decide that you need to move on. It’s often tempting to give it just one more chance, but bear in mind that lingering in a bad relationship takes its toll. Among other things, it can damage your health, your happiness, and your ability to connect with other people.

If you’re unsure, I recommend you read more on knowing when to break up with a girl. As Chase points out in this article, ending a relationship can be tough. And it’s much tougher for people who don’t prepare for what they know is coming.

How to Set Up a Date with a Girl in 5 Steps


Today I will share some advice on how to set up a date with a girl... for all of you who like to grab phone numbers and have dates with the women you meet.

Now I know there are a lot of different systems on how to set up dates (which is the topic of today), and some might differ from mine on different levels.

How to Look Photogenic in Online Dating Photos: 6 Steps


A sexy photo is without a doubt the Holy Grail of online dating, and I’m not even close to overstating it. Regardless how sophisticated your online dating profile or how cool your byline in Tinder is, regardless how intriguing and innovative your opening message or how smooth your text game is, if you don’t have at least decent photos, you’ll be fighting with one hand tied behind your back.

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On the other hand, if you do have great photos (a single great one can be enough), you can piggy-back on it and get results despite major flaws in your profile, text game, etc.

For example, when experimenting with OkCupid a couple of years ago, at one time I had a profile that said:

On A Typical Friday Night: “Cover myself in paint, confetti, and perform ancient shaman rituals while “Highway to Hell” is blasting in the background.”

Followed by a “Do NOT under any circumstances message me…”

And I would still get unsolicited messages from women. Admittedly, those weren’t the most beautiful women in the world (usually not too shabby either though), but nonetheless, it does say a lot about how powerful great photos are.

Oh, and the first time I’ve experimented with Tinder I was pretty sure that the app was broken or something, because after a ~10 – 15 minute blitz that I did while waiting for my buddy to pick me up from the train station, I had the phone buzzing the whole day from being matched with someone (and several messages too).

I’m sure at this point you’re really keen to see the photo that’s been so freakishly effective and here it is:

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As you can see, statistically this photo should be a flop:

  • Looking straight into the camera (in reality I was looking just above the lens).

  • Smiling.

  • No pets / cool activities / cropped-out women.

  • Even clothes are not that impressive (other than noticeably good fit that emphasizes shoulders and color contrast to match with my natural features).

Despite that, it worked like magic. Which is to say two things:

  1. A solid photographer & looking photogenic is enough to get great results from online dating.

  2. My results were quite a ways from being optimal. Imagine if I knew any better then and stacked the odds further by using other strategies…