What do you do if you try to improve with women, but nothing
seems to work? There are 8 reasons this happens – and you can beat them
Girls Chase has been around for almost nine years. We’ve collected
hundreds of case studies, success stories, and testimonials over the
years, both solicited and not, from guys about all the wild successes
they’ve had with girls after finding this site. Our Field Reports board on the Girls
is a testament in its own right – just go through and read all the
(probably thousands now) lay reports on the boards. But sometimes, guys
Kalyan, longtime reader (and coaching student of Hector Castillo’s)
This is Kalyan, longtime GC fan, and I have a small issue. I am a
good-looking guy, I’ve got some of my vibe as a man down and I don’t
from people. I have good style and I am not afraid to walk up to anyone.
taking coaching from Hector and there are a bunch of things we’re
(I’m good but not perfect!), but there is something which is sort of
the past 2 months I did around 150 approaches. I’d set
goals and go at them. And typically I’d use direct openers. However,
out of these 150 approaches (mostly day game), I was able to get 8
dates or so, and
only like 4 make-outs (2 have been same night pulls).
Many girls would smile
at me when I asked for their numbers and give these happily, only not
to reply to
my first text. This happened like 60 times. Other times I get “I have a
boyfriend”. I would be frustrated at this, but when I go out, it’s a
I don’t carry it with me.
Now, most of the dates I got were girls who weren’t
really sexually interested in me, which suggests that the girls who are
interested in me sexually rejected me for not being sexual, so I have
sexual. Got it, working on it. But my point is, it really doesn’t make
to do such a huge number of approaches and not get any result at all –
sheer volume should be enough. I’m not saying that I “deserve” more; I
we need to improve, but something doesn’t add up here.
So I was thinking of:
– an article about “what it means when all your approaches don’t
bedroom” – or something similar
– advice or relevant articles on this subject (I’ll also
Kalyan’s not the only one I’ve heard from recently about problems or
frustrations. We’ve had guys both on the forums and who’ve left
emailed in recently to say they’ve been trying to use the material here
and just aren’t able to get it to work. Some of these guys
have been at it a few months; some of them say they have tried for
So let’s talk about what to do when things aren’t working the way
want them to work, expect them to work, or hoped they would work. This
post is for the guys at risk of being left behind. The ones
who’ve studied, labored, and sweated it out, but failed so far to
achieve the results they want.
This article you’ve opened up is 12,000 words long. That makes it
one of the five longest essays on Girls Chase as of writing (there are
over 1500 articles on this website). It took me six hours to write, and
another hour and a half to edit and
proofread. I wrote it for two reasons: the first is because we need an
article on here to be able to point guys to when they’re struggling.
The second is because, while I cannot personally ensure every guy who
comes here is going to succeed, I don’t want anybody failing who truly
wants this. If you’re putting the work in, I want you to win. I want
you to clear any hurdles and get the brass ring.
I can’t promise you this article will turn things around for you.
Much of that is going to be up to you. If you and I knew each other in
person, and I had enough time to spend with you, there’s a fair chance
I could put you on my back and carry you
to success. Yet there are tens of thousands of men who’d
like me to do that for them, to only one me... and the one me there is
is very busy. The best I can do at this
point is outline the common problems, lay them all out for you, and
hope that when you see them laid out here, some light bulbs go off for
you, and the gears in your head start to turn again.
So let me do my best to shine more light on the pitfalls for those
who are trying to climb their ways out.
Anyway, no further ado. Let’s dive in.