Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

Dance Floor Game Tips #7: Handling Her Friends

We have so far covered many aspects of dance floor seduction:

  1. Dance game foundations
  2. Warming up on the dance floor
  3. Dance floor target selection
  4. Opening on the dance floor
  5. Building attraction on the dance floor
  6. Physical escalation on the dance floor

In the two previous posts, we discussed escalation and attraction building on the dance floor. Escalation, although powerful, is not that simple - there are certain pitfalls you can face, and we will be addressing the following three of those today:

  • Her friends cockblocking

  • Her not feeling comfortable being touched publicly (afraid of how others will judge her)

  • Her need of you being accepted by her friends


We address these issues by first learning how to deal with her friends on the dance floor, and then learning how to isolate her when the time was right.

General resistance, either caused by anti-slut defense or lack of attraction, is the topic we will be dealing with next week.

Target Selection, Pt 1: Finding Sexually Receptive Women

target selectionThis is the first article in a two-part series about the importance of Target Selection. This first article talks about Target Selection as it relates to sleeping with new women; the second, Target Selection when it comes to relationship potential, as well as which type of relationship a girl is a fit for with you (FB, FWB, MLTR, LTR, OLTR).

As you'll discover in the next article, not all women are built equal and some are simply poor candidates for certain roles in your life.

Today we will discuss why it's important to choose targets wisely when hunting for new sex partners. The reason for this is simple: it is a giant waste of time to pursue women who are not interested or available. It will never "work", and even if you end up sleeping with such a woman, it will come at great expense to you and will not work out the way you want it to.

First, let's define the terms "interested", "available", and "interested and available".

Starting Quick but Getting Stuck? Here’s Why

If you are a technically oriented kind of guy who wants to succeed as fast as possible, here are a few tips on how to avoid getting stuck in a dead-end. Taking things slow and gaining wisdom can sound great in theory, but what if learning slow just agitates you too much and you can’t learn that way? Does it mean you are broken or need to learn another way of thinking and feeling?

How to Look Good Bald (and be Handsome as Hell)

There are many articles on the internet about how to get a haircut that suits you. Well that’s great for people with hair, but I know from personal experience that there are a lot of balding men out there and there are almost no articles out there on how to look good bald... and pull off the sexy and bald look.

how to look good bald

I decided to write this because I know how it feels to start losing your hair. Earlier this year I started shaving my head completely bald and I’m pulling more girls bald than I ever did with hair. This guide will enumerate the three must do’s to capitalize on your lack of hair situation and turn it into a strength.

But first we have to talk about a decision you need to make.

The Pickup Catch-22 of Ambiguous Value

In a thread on the discussion boards about negative mindsets, a forum member named Black writes:

But when I have to take action there’s this feeling:

- I have absolutely NOTHING to offer her.

- I have NOTHING to say to her.

- She’ll be creeped out just for me going out of my way to say anything to her. It’s crazy I’m showing my face anywhere at all to begin with.

- She may have accepted to hang out with me – but sex is completely out of her mind (because of this I stalled things with girls that were saying we should “hang out” sometime; they ended up dating another guy a week later).

- She will make a scene if I go in for the kiss, ask her out or try to lead her to a hotel; then she will tell everyone we know if it’s social circle (even if it does happen to a small extent, almost no one seems to care).

ambiguous value

You might think it’s just you when you’re just kicking off, but this is actually a surprisingly normal set of thoughts/emotions to encounter before you approach a girl (when you’re new).

It’s due to something I’d call ‘ambiguous value’, and the doubts you’ll have surrounding yourself because of it.

And it’s not even just a ‘meeting new girls’ thing... although that’s the context we’ll discuss it in today.

Using Your Reputation to Sleep with Lots of Girls

I messed up…

In a social circle where the stakes were high I failed to be discreet. No, I didn’t go blab about what happened, but instead, due to too much alcohol consumed, I failed to isolate and we were noticed.

sexy reputation

But an interesting thing happened:

Despite a couple of women from that circle seeing us and this being the gossip of the year, my indiscretion didn’t reach the ears of parties that could’ve blown the whole situation out of proportion and make my life truly difficult.

Those smart ladies decided to make a better call than I did and keep my little secret. Would you like to guess why?


Keeping the social circle healthy in general was definitely one of them, but one crucial piece of the puzzle was that they, consciously or not, decided that they didn’t want me to be kicked out of it.

You see, until that moment, despite openly being a sexual man and with my image and actions clearly communicating that I prefer a promiscuous lifestyle, I still acted within my code of standards that I talked about in my last article and in general wasn’t a social risk.

On the contrary, a sexual, attractive man who is smart about the way he does his thing can actually be a very valuable asset in a social circle.

In other words, my reputation saved my ass in that situation.

With this article I’d like to help you understand the benefits of having the right reputation within a social circle and afterwards we’ll cover how to develop your reputation as a sexual man so it works for you, instead of against you.

Dance Floor Game Tips #6: Physical Escalation on the Dance Floor

Previously we discussed how to build attraction by escalating physically. Today we will discuss this topic even further. There is a lot more to say about this topic. Consider this post an expansion of the previous one.

dance floor

As mentioned last time, this is just a toolbox. This means that you can cherry-pick the techniques you like and disregard those you don’t. It is not like you have to use every one of these escalation techniques to get laid – sometimes just following a basic escalation ladder is all you need, while other times more is required.

I do recommend you to try out all these techniques though. Field experience is the only true way to find out whether something works for you or not. Try them all out at least a few times and add those you like to your arsenal. However, never disregard any technique completely, as maybe on a future occasion you might find it come in handy (in such cases you can always review this post).

Now, let us start straight away into the good stuff:

Modern Marriage, Part 5: How to Handle the Divorce Process

Hey, guys. A quick recap of the series thus far, in case you missed any of the articles and would like to go back and read them to catch up with us:

In Part 5, we’re going to talk about what to do when your efforts to repair your marriage fail and a mutual decision is made to part ways for good.

Before we begin, I do want to note that family and divorce law varies significantly across not only continents and countries, but can even deviate a great deal within those (the degree of autonomy differs from country to country, but you get my point here).

handle divorce

Getting a divorce is extremely challenging in many ways, but probably the biggest hurdle of all is trying to work through all of the legal processes. Trying to accomplish all of it by yourself is overwhelming, and there will be many a decision that requires knowledge of the legal procedures and family law that is in place in your jurisdiction.

If you need legal advice, I strongly suggest you consult with a good family attorney with roots in your county/township/municipality who is highly familiar with the laws and processes of your local government.

So, you’re getting a divorce. It’s all utterly horrifying and you don’t know where to start! How do you manage all of this?

Take More Action

Quick post. Taking action.

One of our members on the discussion boards wrote about being depressed and not knowing what to do. My response to him was brief:

To build on what Ray said... start cranking the handle.

Whether you’re lifting weights in the air, writing pages for your next book, or talking to a pretty girl, it’s pretty tough to feel bad about yourself when you’re in action.

It’s when you’re sitting still twiddling your thumbs that all the bad thoughts creep in and take over.

Want fewer bad thoughts? Spend more time in action instead of thumb-twiddling.


A second reader followed up my post and asked me to write more on taking action.

So here it is.

Dating as a Short Guy: What to Know and Do

Note from Chase: this is our second article from Jerome Wu, a friend of mine originally from China, who has been living in the United States (and sleeping with girls off of cold approach in nightclubs, the street, and the beach) for many years now. Three years ago, Jerome talked to us about Asian guys and white girls; today he’s here to talk about another sticking point for many men: being short. Here’s Jerome.

To be tall and handsome, is that really the splitting image of every woman’s true desire? Let’s look at what it’s like to be a short guy in the dating game, and some strategies we can use to alleviate whatever shortcomings might be associated with being a short seducer.

I measured myself the other day, and I found that technically I stand at 5 foot 5 ½ inches. Mr. Chase has mention in some articles on this site that I am near 5’3” to 5’5” – I am hurt, butthurt that is, by the inaccuracy... LOL.

I was supposed to write this article in 2014 – I’m kind of late! I didn’t understand the question Chase presented to me. I just didn’t think my height was an issue until I researched it. I also wrote an article on being Asian. Writing all these articles on being Asian, short, and introverted has made me somewhat insecure. I never realized this was such an issue until now. I guess I’m totally late again, or perhaps I simply forgot about this issue, or maybe I’ve just been too busy living my life...

Anyway, let’s begin.