Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

3 Ways to Train Up Social Aptitude

Social aptitude is the ability to achieve social or romantic goals in a graceful way. There are 3 avenues to choose from to learn this.
Social Life

social aptitudeYou’re at a night school class you share with a pretty girl you’ve had your eye on. The semester’s only halfway through, yet you have a feeling this girl likes you, and you like her too. You’ve chatted a few times, and sometimes you sit near her or next to her, but not always.

One evening, your class lets out and she takes a long time to gather her belongings. Coincidentally (or not), two of you head out at the same time. You strike up a conversation with her on the way out, and she’s responsive, but the conversation quickly stalls out. She seems happy but nervous. You feel like she’s waiting for something. Then you think how awkward it would be if you asked her out and she said no, and now you’ve got to keep coming back to this class and it’d really suck if there was an awkward vibe between you and this girl you like.

So, you tell her well, anyway, you guess you’d better get going, and you peel off and head to your car. On the way home, you kick yourself for not asking her out.

There are some men out there this kind of thing never happens to – if they get a shot with a girl, they take it. They can’t even understand why this would even be a problem for guys.

For most guys though, this is something they’ve had happen once or twice (or thrice... or four times... or more times).

The difference between the man this doesn’t happen to, and the man it does, quite often, comes down to a difference in their general and specific social aptitudes.

Why ‘Walking Around’ is Great for Game (and More)

Something as simple as going for a walk might not seem like a pillar of good game. Yet the benefits it can have for your success with girls are not to be overlooked.
Dating Rules

Some of the most beneficial things you can do for yourself are the most simple and basic:

  • Drink lots of water

  • Get plenty of sleep

  • Be physically active

  • Spend time with friends and family

Yet of these activities, one stands out above the rest as particularly valuable for picking up women: going for walks.


If They Won’t Lead… Will You?

A pair of regrets, and a valuable lesson: if others aren’t taking the initiative, you must be the one to.

When looking back at all my experience with girls, there are a couple of events that still haunt me. Not because I got rejected, not because I bombed out, but because I was so close and failed.

The failure wasn’t due to there being poor logistics, nor was it a rogue friend that pulled her away. These failures were the result of me not standing up at the right moment and being a dominant man. I either pushed off the responsibility on one of my wingmen or the girl. Well, in life and in game, no one is going to do the work for you. This is why I have adopted the mantra “If they won’t, I will.”

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This post is going to be set up a little different from my other posts. I am going to bring up two instances where I failed to stand up and take responsibility. I hope the lessons from my nightmares can help your dreams come true.

Picking Up Women When You’re Feeling Low Energy

It’s hard motivating yourself to meet women when you feel down and out. Here are some tips to get you moving despite a sour mood.
Pickup Tech

Hey everyone. Having finished up my long and detailed picking up women on the dance floor guide, I've decided to write about something else.

I recently finished my degree, giving me a lot more time to head out. Lately, I've been going out every weekend. I also travelled to Spain and Bulgaria.

low energy pickup

In Bulgaria I met Chase. It has been a while since I have seen him. Chase hasn't changed much, apart from growing his hair - which looked great on him. We had a blast in Bulgaria - Chase is still an interesting character and it's always a pleasure to hang out with him. The discussions we had in Bulgaria were as interesting as when I met him years ago in China.

My idea is to write a series of posts inspired by my recent nights out; covering my observations and the lessons I have learned on the way. I will not cover every event - some are less interesting - for example the nights where I accidently bumped into a super horny girl who ended up back at my place within minutes are not that interesting.

I will also share some detailed reports as well (next week!) where you will see what I do step-by-step in-field, with my own personal notes. This way you will:

  • Get a feel on how things work together - most posts here at GC covers a narrow topic, but putting it all together is an art in itself.

  • Get an idea of how things are applied in real life.

  • Understand how I think in-field - my mindsets, beliefs, and reasoning.

  • Steal some cool lines - I will share some nuggets.

  • Learn a few cool tricks and tactics.

  • See how I handle different REAL life situations that occur.

Each post will have one main topic, but we will also discuss some other smaller observations that are of interest.

What It Means When She Says She Has a Boyfriend

Your heart may fall a bit when she says she has a boyfriend – but it need not. That’s because this doesn’t always mean what you think it means.
Pickup Tech

I had an interesting conversation with one of our senior members on the discussion boards recently. He’d approached a girl, really hit it off with her, until at some point she told him she had a boyfriend and started resisting him more.

It wasn’t a question of value or attraction. This girl clearly liked him.

Instead, in this case, it was attainability that triggered her bringing up the boyfriend.

has a boyfriend

Now, I know there are a lot of folks reading who are going to say, “Well, hold the phone – maybe it was just that the girl has a boyfriend and she isn’t going to cheat on him!”

We’ll talk about that below. However, odds are, taking things at face value with women is usually a sign there’s something you’re not getting... not a sign she’s among the 2½% of women who says what she means and means what she says.

How to Decipher Female Subcommunication, Part 2

Female subcommunication: a tool for separating undesirable men (who it frustrates) from desirable (who know how to play ball). Here’s more on how to do it.
Female Mind

In the last segment of the Practical Female Psychology series, we discussed how and why females developed the language of Subcommunication and how it gets used by women today.

We learned how women are often Ambivalent; that is, a woman will communicate in such a way so as to cause confusion in the male mind, make sure she keeps her options open, and attract resources and romantic affection from as many avenues as possible without crossing the line into social ostracism, where she risks getting labeled a “slut”.

We also learned how the men who best succeed with women understand this secret female language, and in turn have learned the art of Discretion, which is basically a conspiracy to allow females to operate in that certain way without any hindrance.


Today we’ll discuss Subcommunication as it relates to the dangers and opportunities surrounding dating in the workplace; why no matter how much you learn about females, you still want to talk like a man does; and some more practical tips for mastering the fine art of interacting with females.

The Truth About Big Muscles and Getting Laid

Lots of guys work out hard to get laid more. But does it help? Here’s the truth about how muscles affect your chances with girls.
Men's Style

When I was seventeen I overdosed on cocaine. I weighed 107 pounds and was 5'9" - needless to say, I was skinny. It's been eight years since that event and I now weigh 165 pounds and am around 7-8% body fat. I have been asked to be a fitness model and to competitively powerlift. My journey from being a skinny kid to a muscular bro was motivated almost entirely by my goal of bedding more women.

muscles get laid

And although putting on a lot of muscle didn't give me the results I had fantasized about, the journey helped transform my character and turned me into a guy who does in fact bed a lot of women. I'm writing this post because there are a lot of misconceptions about how being muscular helps you with women, so here is the truth about how being muscular will help you get laid.

Girls Chase Podcast Interviews Ep. 4: Joseph W. South

In today’s podcast, Joseph W. South discusses how he got his start, plus why any power over a woman is fleeting, what “sensitive man” really means, and more.
Female Mind

Today we’re serving up our fourth fantastic podcast interview, this time with Varoon Raja interviewing Girls Chase author Joseph W. South.

In today’s podcast, Joseph and Varoon discuss:

Developing Your Own True Independence

True freedom is mental freedom. But sex alone will not get you there. You must also be free of judgment, blame, and false autonomy.

Among men studying the social arts, women’s ultimate goal is often misinterpreted as the pursuit of sex.

developing independence

In this article I will describe their real goal and how it is often distorted by those in some form of a scarcity mindset. We will also go much deeper than this, as we will be looking at your real goal as well as women’s.

To begin this subject, I can’t really delay introducing you to the ultimate goal, so, in the spirit of openness, here it is. But before you make your judgement upon it, read the rest of the article and see how your view of it changes.

The ultimate goal (of women AND men) is to free oneself from becoming frozen in fear of judgement… and to do this without hurting or taking advantage of others for one’s own comfort and ease.

How to Get Rid of Jealousy (Mostly)

Jealousy’s one of those problems you often don’t even realize you have. However, it pays to get rid of – or, occasionally, to listen to.
Relationship 101

I came home in a blind rage. I had seen my ex-girlfriend out with one of my friends and was ready to end both of them. I walked into my house with my fists clenched and sweat dripping from my forehead. My dad noticed and immediately pulled me aside asking me what was wrong. I lied and said nothing was wrong. But after a few more pointed questions from my father, I finally caved and said why I was so upset.


“Son, you have a jealousy problem.”

“No I don’t Dad!”

There was no reasoning with me; the emotion had consumed the rational part of my brain. I wasn’t Will, I was Jealous Will. That night my dad imparted a great deal of wisdom to me. It took me years to fully understand it and another couple years to embody it. That’s not to say I never get jealous anymore. But my episodes are now nothing more than a passing inconvenience.

With the help of my dad and my life experience, I have figured out ways to discharge jealousy quickly. I have also adopted a philosophy that makes it very difficult to feel jealous in the first place.

Before I venture further, I want to establish what this post isn’t. This post is not a guide to “keeping your girl in check” or “when your jealousy is a clue that she’s cheating”, this is just about your internal state and how to have a life of less jealousy.