Some girls you do well with, some girls not so well. What’s the
difference? One of the big ones: do you treat her hot and horny, or not.
This post is probably best suited to men who are intermediate and up
with girls. If you’re just starting out, it’s still worth reading to
know what mindset to aim for, but you may not be able to implement it
just yet if you don’t have at least one type of girl you do well with
Commenting on my article “When She Picks You, It’s Vital She Feels
It’s Her Choice”, a reader named Asian Guy asks:
I sort of have a question I have been hoping to find the answer to
for a while but am not sure really where to look. I’ve bought your
spellbinding book and even looked at a how to date korean women book
done by one of your friends. However, to this day I am still not sure
how to go after korean women who are raised in a conservative society.
As an example, recently I met a korean girl and after going on a few
dates with her, she wouldn’t even try to really hug in public. I was
told by my korean guy friends that korean girls tend not to do anything
touchy feely public. After going out on 4 dates with her, I tried to go
to her place (my place not logistically possible). She hemmed and hawed
and said something like how she just moved in and her place isn’t ready
to have people over.
A lot of the techniques here are literal gold when it comes to
american women or americanized asian women, but for asian women from
asia, I am still having problems. For example, a lot of times when I
propose to go home with a conservative asian girl on the the first or
second date, they actually seem to get offended or completely creeped
out. This never happens to me with americanized asian girls, who “get”
the whole thing. I’ve never been able to date the more conservative
ones because they tend to be extremely cautious and the techniques that
would normally work for other girls fail here. It seems that they are
into a boyfriend candidate all the time. I have tried a lot to
disqualify, but these girls seem hard-wired to want a boyfriend, and
the moment I disqualify, they are gone.
I was curious if you had any ideas or experiences what to do here.
It seems with most conservative asian girls it takes up to 6-9 dates to
really go anywhere. I have recognized that there exist a lot of
conservative asian girls who do sleep with men fast, but it seems those
are the more rebellious type, which you can usually tell. For the ones
that tend to stay home, not drink, go to the library, etc, do you have
any ideas how or if you would tailor everything?
First off, although this comment is about girls from Asia (and Korea
in particular), it’s a microcosm of a phenomenon men face across their
courtships with all girls.
That’s because just like there are men who think Asian girls from
Asia are too conservative and too hard to get, there are men who think
they’re ridiculously easy. Just like there are men who specialize in
deflowering girls who’ve resisted sex with other men for years. And
like there are men who think X type of girl is easy, even though other
men think X type of girl is impossible.
So, I’m going to answer Asian Guy’s question. But in so doing, I’m
also going to give you a tweak to how you approach the girls you
approach that, if you implement it, will supercharge your
results with them.