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Tactics Tuesdays: Kisses for Good Behavior

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When a girl does something good, you can reward her with a cheek kiss… and open up the floodgates of romantic and sexual potential.

This is a fun little tactic I’ve employed over the years that does a lot of good things for you.

The tactic is simple: when she does something you like, give her a peck on the cheek, neck, shoulder, or lips.

There’s a little nuance to it, because the power of the kiss will be tied to the level of investment she gives you. The bigger the investment, the weightier the kiss. The lesser the investment, the lesser the kiss.

I’m going to do a quick section to tell you why this is good. And then I’ll give you a few examples of how and where you’d use it.

Becoming the Beast, Part 5: A Suit-Wearing Wolf

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Inside every man is a beast. Yet how to use this beast in the context of civilization? In civil society, the man must tame his beast – but not kill it.

The end is nigh.

  • In part 1 of this series, we discussed how we live in a primal and violent world that has little mercy for weakness.

  • In part 2, we talked about how you need to cultivate a primal ferocity if you want to survive in this world, let alone thrive. This ferocity helps you socially and sexually.

  • In part 3, we covered some habits and mannerisms that will help you cultivate and demonstrate your ferocity.

  • Then, in the penultimate article, we covered how to transmute this animalistic energy into the bedroom and make your girl’s bed rock like a Flintstone.

Now, for the culmination of the series, I want to cover how to be primal but civilized and how to understand the difference between cold, civilized power and primal power.

3 Ways to Use Social Proof to Be Scaldingly Attractive to Women

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Social proof is one of the most reliable ways to make yourself a total girl magnet. Best of all, there are 3 different ways to get it.

Hey, guys. Today, for the sake of variation, I will take a step back from the predominantly tactical posts (don’t worry, more tactical stuff is coming) and discuss a more theoretical aspect of seduction. Theoretical posts can be useful, as they can help you “make sense” of things and expand your understanding, which can have a practical impact. So, despite this post being mostly theoretical, you will discover there is an underlying practical touch to it.

Either way, today’s subject will be social proof. This subject has been discussed many times here (and sometimes also calledpreselection’), so I will not include an introduction. But overall, social proof in the context of pickup and seduction is one of the many elements that causes women to preselect men by observing them around other women and seeing they are desired by other women. We are more likely to like what others also like, right? In many cases this is true. And women, who are more prone to submit to group pressure and follow the pack, are much more affected by this mechanism than us guys.

The overall idea here is simple: you create attraction by being seen with other women.

Social proof is nothing new to the world of dating, pickup, and seduction. The effects have been discussed to death. How to generate social proof has also been discussed, although there is more to be said about this, I am sure. In this post, I want to present a new framework that can help us expand the notion of social proof in pickup and seduction. I think our current view and definition of social proof is oversimplified. I here present 3 categories of social proof, each with unique aspects that unfold differently and can be driven by different means.

I will discuss each category and how it is achieved. Ultimately, this framework should broaden your understanding of the concept, how it works, and how you can use it. I’ll also provide guidelines on how you can achieve social proof in the way you find most exciting and comfortable.

The three categories we will discuss:

  • Explicit Social Proof

  • Implicit Social Proof

  • Tacit Social Proof

As You Get Older, Should You Date Women Who Want to Reconnect?

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It’s been years… and now she wants to reconnect. Should you meet her? And beyond that, should you date her?

I received an email recently from a girl I hadn’t heard from in six or seven years.

I’d known her from social circle (back when I still maintained a social circle). She was skinny, fun, and cute, with an endearing California Valley girl accent (and all the expressiveness that entails). She also had that somewhat uptight air about her that can be a little off-putting but is really fun when you break through it and reach the real her.

Anyway, this was not a girl I’d hooked up with. Didn’t really have a good opportunity, and in any event I slept with other girls from that circle who were younger and didn’t have the same walls up she did. I met up with her various times in our shared social circle. Toward the end of my time in that circle, I scheduled a one-on-one meet with her but had to flake on it... and when she wanted to meet again I wasn’t able to make myself available for it. And after that we were in different cities and she fell off my radar. She was 29 years old back then.

So I got an email from her after more than half a decade, just saying she saw an event and wondered if I intended to go to it and asking if I was in town.

And the only thing I could think was, “Wow, 36 years old and still single, huh?”

Podcast with the Girls Chase Seduction A-Team: Lessons from Stockholm

Welcome back to another episode of Dating Mechanics! For this podcast, I have something different and special for you. A few of us Girls Chase authors met up in Stockholm, Sweden this past summer for a few days and nights. We met up with each other (some for the first time), met plenty of women, both during the day and

Tactics Tuesdays: Conversations Where the Girl Doesn't Talk Much

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Sometimes you’ll meet girls who won’t contribute to conversation. When this happens, you’ll have to step up and do the talking yourself.

One of our forum members by the name of Witcher had a few questions about deep diving, one of which was this:

Deep diving demand[s] from the seducer to ask girls a lot of questions, How to not make It look like an interview or audition? This is the impression I have doing it and It feels a little weird.

Of course, one of the keys to deep diving is that you not make it feel like an interview... which means past a certain number of questions, if she hasn’t begun to participate much yet, you need to turn your questions into statements. You can do this with cold reads (instead of: “What do you do for work?”, make it: “You look like either an anthropologist or an entrepreneur, I’m not sure which”). And beyond this, if she doesn’t get more involved, you will need to start to tell stories and otherwise steer the conversation with your own content.

The better your fundamentals, the faster you hook girls in... and the more likely you are to end up in conversations where girls pelt you with questions and/or open up about themselves from the get-go. Yet even if your fundamentals are in a class of their own, you will still encounter women who seem, for lack of a better term for it, ‘conversationally impaired’.

Could be she isn’t interested. Could be she’s not in a social mood. Could be she’s just a quiet person and not particularly talkative.

But if you find yourself in such a conversation, with a girl who sticks around and passes your compliance tests (so you know you’re not wasting your time on a disinterested girl), yet nevertheless doesn’t contribute, you will need another approach.

You’ll need to be able to run the conversation when the girl’s contribution is all or mostly absent.

Becoming the Beast, Part 4: How to Fuck Her Like a Beast

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Want your girl to shriek her lungs out in bed? Or have the most earth shattering orgasms of her life? Then learn how to fuck her like a beast.

Oh, I hope you knew I was making my way to this article. (here are parts 1, 2, and 3 if you’ve just tuned in)

Women love ferocious men, because we live in a ferocious world. And there are many steps you can take toward cultivating that ferocity and turning it into habit. When you have achieved that, you will become the man women love – the man who could kill his enemies and take what he wants without remorse. It is the most exciting thing a woman can perceive in a man. It reaches down and tugs somewhere on her animal spirit that only a fellow animal spirit could touch.

This desire culminates in the most sacred of all physical unions – that between cock and pussy.

But before we start, a few caveats.

One, we are assuming this woman is fully willing and interested in having sex with you. Do not turn this into something it’s not.

Two, if you are too rough and she seems to not be enjoying herself, stop.

Three, if you are too rough, she might love it on one hand but feel like a meat sleeve on the other. You can lose girls even after amazing, animalistic sex because they realize you are too crazy and primal for a relationship.

Finally, this is not the only way you can have sex. There is room for romantic sex and fun, goofy sex; but for the most part, you should be having hard, rough, animalistic sex.

Now that we’ve got that out of the way, let’s proceed.

The "I've Got to Wait for Girls to Meet Me" Thing

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Do you wait for girls to approach you? It may be scary to approach women yourself, but waiting for them to ask first is a losing proposition.

One of the members of our forum has talked about his strategy of waiting for girls to meet him, and then spitting game at them. It doesn't seem to work well for him, since he is perpetually single and has been hung up on the same girl for over a year, hoping every time she breaks up with a boyfriend that maybe she'll pay more attention to him.

Nevertheless though, he's committed. He ignores all the advice from every other member on there and from me that he forget this girl and go meet new ones. This is his strategy, and he's decided to stick to it.

I don't think there are a lot of guys who are 100% into this strategy of “I've just got to wait for women to come meet me”, like Neal is. But there are guys who slip into this some or a lot of the time. So we should talk about it.

Because even while objectively this is about as effective as thinking, “I've just got to wait for the money to come to me,” or, “I've just got to wait until a Ferrari shows up in my driveway,” subjectively it can feel like a valid strategy at the time when you're thinking it.

But it's not a valid strategy. It's a terrible strategy.

3 Sex Gambits: Good/Bad Sex, Sex is Unfair, and the Dark Side

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Use these 3 sex gambits in conversation with women you meet to put their minds squarely on sex… in a very good way.

Hey, guys. I hope you are doing great.

Today I decided it was time to get practical again and share some very simple techniques that will allow you to achieve so much – and be easy to pull off. Intermediate players should have few problems pulling these off, and beginners (as long as you are comfortable enough to keep a conversation going with a girl) should also be able to make some of these techniques work.

Now, just as every other technique I have shared in the past, these serve as examples. Yes, you may use the techniques shared more or less word by word – they have all been tested multiple times with great success – but the key thing is to understand the underlying principles and use those techniques as inspiration for your own material. If you want to use a technique as presented, that’s up to you, but I think it is key to understand the underlying concepts no matter what.

The techniques I am about to share will follow more or less similar structures and principles (I will cover all of them in a minute), and they should help you keep the conversation going – a conversation that:

Sound good? Let’s get on with it.