Each year, at the close of the old and the dawn of the new, we like to do a review post, to look at where we've been. We cover the best of the past year's articles (to make sure you haven't missed anything good), and talk a little about what's in store.
Don't make these mistakes in bed. Don't. Don't. Don't. Good sex is largely about avoiding mistakes.
And these 5, you DEF WANNA WATCH OUT FOR, K?
As seducers, we want to be noticed and make a great impression before we even talk to a girl. Good fashion accomplishes that, and here’s how I go about it.
Hey, guys. I hope you are doing great. Today I want to discuss style and grooming. Now, I am not hired as a writer here on Girls Chase to write about style, nor am I a professional fashion writer.
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But for years, clothing has been a favorite hobby of mine. I've discovered that how you dress is important when meeting women, but it is not like women will love you for your clothes.
However, dressing badly can be a game killer.
See, a woman cares about how she is perceived, and if you don’t dress well, she will not feel comfortable being seen with you. This could potentially ruin your chances of getting the girl. You may have read my earlier articles on female state control (FSC). I wrote articles about social value and how a minimum threshold of social value is required to avoid women holding back and resisting. Dressing appropriately is clearly one of the key fundamentals for success with women. Your fashion must fit the function!
You may also become a bit like me, who happens to be deep into fashion. That’s cool. Dressing crazy good can even get women to approach you on the street. But that requires next-level fashion skills that take much time and effort to acquire. It must become a full-time hobby.
I participate in fashion competitions and have won one so far. These usually take place at fashion clubs in big cities in Europe.
In the community, I’ve been known to be one of the most flamboyantly dressed players. That said, I will refrain from turning into a fashion blogger, although I will share some overall guidelines.
When other things in life take priority over meeting women, it can hurt you, or help you. Which depends on the vibe you give out and your ability to pick up on signals.
Sometimes you’re just not in the mood to get with new girls. It happens to all of us. People have slumps when they’re not succeeding with women, or they’re simply too busy with day-to-day life. Heavy work, social commitments, school, tests, or even extensive work travel can deeply interfere with your dating goals.
I’ve faced this problem often as I am now self-employed. Work travel commitments call, and while it opens interesting opportunities with women in new places, I can also kiss my regular dating life goodbye.
Cold approach success, whether in day game or night game, requires some consistency. We can best describe momentum as the consistency of success. It’s like being hot-handed in basketball; in momentum, you’re in a mental zone conducive to a winning game. Whether you call it a vibe or a state of mind, your decision-making and efforts are in tune, and everything you do conveys the winner’s attitude that women find very attractive in men.
When you experience low momentum and low desire, the results are different. Socialization, especially with women, might feel tedious in such periods. Your vibe is just “off,” as are your results. The good news is that all issues with low momentum and desire are solvable, and quickly.
It’s easy to shift out of it if you know how!
For efficient street pickup, it’s hard to beat areas near busy nightlife venues. While guys strike out inside, you’re snatching up girls as they stray from the herd.
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II. Downsides of Street Pickup
Street pickup is one of the most useful skills a man can develop. Just imagine the glory when you hop on a plane, land in a foreign city, and within hours you’re sleeping with a new, attractive woman you met right off the street.
That’s the dream, anyway. The reality is that street pickup, like all game, relies on skill + action + luck. It’s rarely easy, but the reward is great.
Not all guys are free to roam malls doing day game. They may enjoy bars and clubs but not enough to spend all night in them. For these guys, I recommend street pickup.
When I say “street” pickup, I don’t mean day game but rather situations at night, where you can pick up women during bar or club hours, without spending too much time inside said venues.
No Tinder, no escorts, no massive bar tabs. Just a bit of focus, work ethic, and confidence. Combine those factors with good logistics (sufficient time and a place to bring the girl for sex), and you’re set up for street pickup.
It’s possible. I’ve done it many times. Here's how it's done.
She’s not that kind of girl? Well, here’s a pro tip: all girls are that kind of girl. Those who say first date sex shouldn’t happen usually have ulterior motives.
I’m always surprised when men believe sex on the first date is unlikely, unnecessary, impossible, or even wrong.
I’m never surprised when women have this belief.
You see, when you spend many years with an enlightened view of women (like I and the contributors on Girls Chase have), it becomes your norm. Old and misguided beliefs you lost years ago or never had seem strange and foreign.
Sometimes men say they “want to take it slow” with a girl because they want something serious, or they might mention that she’s being a slut because she has sex on the first date. They might even say she’s a whore despite not sleeping with him on the first date. When I see this, I know that they are entangled in the Madonna-Whore complex, which is where this false belief originates. It’s the root of wrong views about quick sex.
Men lose so much from this ignorance.
However, when a woman says it, she has everything to gain and little to lose.
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To understand why women pretend to believe that “sex can’t happen on the first date” and why men fall for the lie, we will go through what motivations a man or woman might have for holding this wrong view.
In the sense of good and bad, it has very little to do with morality and instead is about the morality of status-gaining and control, and mate-screening.
Women rightly want what is best for them. They want the best man they can get. If we start with this simple premise, everything about the idea of “not having sex on the first date” becomes translucent. We see an innocent idea as something much more.
When you see this idea for what it is, you will wake up to a new view of women.
It is a liberating view.
You will walk around the world as a hunter, knowing that you can screw any girl, and I mean any girl on the first date.
I don’t care if she’s a Queen or just thinks she is one on Instagram, you can slay her on the first date.
Now, why might a man believe this romantically pernicious idea?
This Yuletide season, at a time of family, let's talk about maintaining a firm, guiding hand on your own relationships, so they do not slip away from you.
Because that is more difficult to do in our day than it has been at many points in history.
First off, let's address this: being 'controlling' in any sort of direct, overt way is completely forbidden in the modern West.
You aren't allowed to be controlling with friends. You aren't allowed to be controlling with employees. You aren't allowed to be controlling with children. And you especially are not allowed to be controlling with women.
Controlling women in any way is viewed at a societal level as the turf of weak, jealous, insecure men, who are unable to inspire devotion, and instead must use coercion.
Being 'controlling' is the domain of uneducated roughnecks, red necks, and ghetto hoods who lack the ability to communicate or empathize, who don't respect women, and who are, or inevitably will be, 'abusers'.
This article is not really about that kind of jealous, insecure attempt to control. Instead, it is about how to manage your girlfriend or wife in a way she benefits from and responds to, that makes your relationship healthier, and that meanwhile attracts as little social opprobrium as possible.
The “Sex Therapist” gambit focuses on cold reading and pacing. You guess something deep about her sexuality, then blow her mind with touch and sexual prizing.
Hey guys, and welcome back. Today I will share another pickup and seduction gambit. This one is called The Sex Therapist.
The reason I've been sharing these gambits lately (besides serving as personal notes) is to not only give you great tools to use but also show examples of how you can create your own gambits to fit your style and personality. You can follow the exact recipe, or just take the concepts you like and craft your own tools of deadly mass seduction. That's why I always share the mechanisms at play, which serve as key lessons. Sharing gambits gives an overview of how many concepts can play together.
These gambits should also serve as inspiration.
I do this myself. Sometimes I deliver a gambit straight from the script; other times, I use modifications. Sometimes I use simplified versions (when I lack time or prefer to focus on something else). So, I’m not a robot delivering the same gambit after gambit.
My interactions are typically made up of:
Scripted gambits
Freestyling conversations that respond to her reaction (and her words), with some improvisation and even some fluff in between
A variation of gambits calibrated to the situation and the girl
So, here is a gambit I use often. It is simple to pull off, accomplishes much, and also allows you multiple potential follow-ups.
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This gambit is slightly less complex to understand since there are fewer fancy concepts at play. It requires the player to have his fundamentals down to get great results (good news: we have TONS of articles on fundamentals).
I’ve only used this gambit in night game.
It works best on non-freaky girls. These are girls who don’t have an apparent sexual presence or sexual confidence. Sadly, it is not always easy to figure out who is really sexual and who is not. (The way they act and dress can be misleading, and many are attention-whores in disguise.) But don’t worry if you use this gambit on one of these types, as it still works on them with some calibration. If you know you are dealing with such a girl, you should use more juicy gambits like the orgasm-control gambit or the eight types of orgasm gambit.
This gambit works best on more ordinary and normal girls with an average amount of sexual experience.
What are you passionate about? Do you even know? Let’s explore what fuels passion and how to discover what drives and fulfills you in work, life, and love.
What does it mean to be passionate? And why is it important to have passion?
One of the biggest problems I see in 99% of guys I work with is not knowing what to say to women. When I ask them what they’re passionate about, they shrug their shoulders. They have no clue. It’s a question they’ve never been asked or really thought about. No wonder their conversations with women are as interesting as talking to a toaster.
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I. What Are You Passionate About?
II. What Does Passion Feel Like?
III. Why Do We Lose Our Passion?
Most of us are so addicted to consuming massive quantities of data from our smartphones that our brains become stuffed with garbage, most of which we can’t remember a few hours later.
It’s through sharing that we realize our passions, but we don’t share our thoughts in human, face-to-face interactions as much as we did before social media.
There’s a reason I make my coaching clients take notes, write field reports, and discuss their approaches with me and on forums. When you discuss things with other minds, you sort out the information and cement the lessons learned. When you get excited to share something with other people, that’s when you know you’re truly passionate about it.
So why is it important to feel passion, and to be passionate?
It makes life worth living
It’s a contagious and inspiring emotion that lifts people’s spirits and brings others closer to you
It’s a strong motivator for creating, exploring, and improving
It’s sexy
Getting into sex talk with a girl can be super easy and low-risk if you use proxies, which means talking about other people rather than what you want to do with her.
Hey, guys. Welcome back. Today I will try to share a simple way to use sex talk for pickup and seduction.
The idea is to add sex talk as a technique without triggering resistance. This is for advanced and intermediate players as well as those with less experience.
Sex talk, the act of talking about sex with women, can help us achieve many things, including:
Setting a sexual frame, creating an underlying sexual meaning to the interaction. It eases the escalation into sex and makes it happen more quickly with less resistance.
It arouses her. Sex talk is VERY stimulating to women.
It can allow you to display attractive traits, like showing openness to sexuality and that you have sexual experience (sexual prizing).
It’s a fun and captivating subject in itself.
Sex talk makes getting laid easier. But it can be a hard subject to get into, and perhaps a bit scary to some. You are prone to face resistance from her, usually in the form of anti-slut-defense (ASD). She may back off from your sexual advances to protect her reputation from the slut label.
So, as I present this sex talk technique, I have two intentions:
I want to make this technique low-risk.
It should also be intuitive to understand. It won’t require a ton of brainpower to learn or deliver properly.
Beginners typically prefer low-risk techniques because they may not have:
The confidence (yet) to deliver more ballsy talk.
The delivery skills that can help them get away with delivering bold stuff (advanced players on high momentum will notice they can get away with pretty outrageous things).
The skills (yet) to do damage control and recover from failed attempts.
I will tell you how risk-free and easy this technique is. This won’t require long and fancy transitions. You can quickly and easily get to the juice. It’s not prone to cause resistance.
Many beginners struggle to get into sex talk, and I can understand why, since I consider it to be one of the hardest things to do.
Let’s get to it.
