Female Mind

A look into the way women see love, life, lust, and relationships.

What Backward Rationalization is, and How It Affects You with Girls

Women frequently use backward rationalization to decide why something happened – even if their reasons aren’t the most accurate.
Female Mind

There’s a little-discussed concept in seduction called “backward rationalization”, where someone attributes reasons for a choice or action after-the-fact, rather than before it.

A simple example is you bring a girl home after a date and escalate on her, nearly to the point of sex. If you then have sex, there’s a good chance afterward she looks back and says, “Well, we had sex because he was attractive / charming / had a good body / etc.”

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If on the other hand you do not have sex, there’s a fair chance she looks back after and says, “Well, we didn’t have sex because I wasn’t really that into him.”

In both cases, it may have simply been that you pushed a little harder to get past last minute resistance in the first scenario, and in the second you got winded and gave up. But the narrative she retains about why you slept together or didn’t is completely different.

Backward rationalization can mean the difference between her thinking you’re great or her thinking you’re not... all due to the outcome you achieve with her.

How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 5: Taboo as Aphrodisiac

In part 5, we explore what makes taboo such a mighty aphrodisiac. Also: what are the limits – what should you simply just not do in bed?
Female Mind

Now that we have thoroughly explored the Temple of Debauchery, we can clearly understand some of the why’s and how’s of these darkly beautiful acts.

But as a reminder, here are the first four articles of the series:

  1. How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 1: All Women are Freaks
  2. How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 2: Beginners Guide
  3. How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 3: A Little More Kinky
  4. How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 4: Shagging Like a Pornstar

At the end of the most recent article, I suggested that while sexual creativity is infinite, there are some limits to what you should do with women. But first, some of you might be asking a very reasonable question:

“Will every girl do ‘X’?”


If the man (or men) is sexy enough and if non-judgment and discretion are assured, then, yes, girls will do just about everything.


What the Romance Novel Tells Us Women Want

Romance novels contained distilled versions of women’s deepest fantasies. So what do they have to teach us about what women want? Tons.
Female Mind

romance novelIn 2013, women purchased over $800 million worth of romance novels.

They’re not doing that because their desires for erotic stimulation are fully sated by their real-life encounters; they’re doing that because they are STARVED for it.

Whether she’s 15 or 55, a woman loves the thought of being swept up with a Rochester or a Romeo. Yet, as she ages, and life repeatedly denies her this, her faith in ever experiencing such a romance wanes, and she retreats further into a world of make-believe, out-of-reach eroticism.

The success of the romance novel directly reflects this general discontent women have with men in the Anglosphere; its popularity implies that women largely are surrounded by men who are not satisfying them on an emotional level… let alone a physical one.

Because of this, if you can teach yourself to be a man who CAN provide erotic stimulation IN REAL LIFE, your relationships will shine with mutual satisfaction.

Sound like a tall order? Perhaps it is. Luckily, there is a cheat-sheet out there that makes manifesting this reality a little easier:

Romance novels.

How to Use Pattern Interrupts to Bust Through LMR

Much of LMR (last minute resistance) is a woman’s auto-response to standard escalation. With pattern interrupts, you can circumvent this.
Pickup Tech

Hey guys. Today I’ve decided to share a practical technique that will allow you to minimize your chances of facing last minute resistance (LMR). Last minute resistance is basically when you have managed to open and bring a girl back home and she backs off at the last minute when you are escalating to sex – i.e., pulling your hand away often followed with something along the line “I think we should wait, “I am not that kind of girl”, or “Maybe another time”.

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I have shared numerous reports covering some real life seductions from A-Z. In the comment sections on these posts, some of you guys have asked me to write about last minute resistance. Unfortunately I was not able to write all too much about it in my reports, simply because I did not face any.

Now, if you do have some serious problems with last minute resistance, I would suggest you check out these posts first:

That being said, this post will help you avoid last minute resistance in the future and will be of great help if you are struggling with women backing off at the last minute.

How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 4: Shagging Like a Pornstar

The rabbit hole of depraved, debaucherous sex goes deeper: yet more things to do that make men shrink in horror, and women squeal with glee.
Relationship 101

Welcome back to the freaky deaky parade, my friends. Here’s the rundown:

  • In our first article, we discussed how all women are freaks, and why they therefore also love kinky men.

  • In the second article, we covered some introductory techniques, like dirty talk and spanking.

  • And in the third article, we stepped up our game a bit with some bondage, choking, and other more risqué techniques.

Now? Well, I’ve been quite graphic with this series, but this article will blow the rest away.


But before I get into the slimy details, let’s recap why you should do these things with women, even if you’re not that kinky yourself.

Girls Chase Podcast Interviews Ep. 6: Blackdragon

Caleb Jones (Blackdragon) goes deep on open relationships: how to start them, how to run them, and how to keep them going.
Relationship 101

Open relationships can be great fun and very freeing – but sometimes they’re dicey to run. In this interview Caleb Jones (Blackdragon) discusses how these work, and the rules you have to follow.

Varoon interviews Caleb on the following subjects:

10 Surprising Reasons Women Will Have Sex with You

Women have sex for plenty of reasons besides “liking” a guy or being “attracted” to him. Here’re the 10 most common ‘non-liking’ reasons.
Female Mind

reasons have sexThis should be a fun and enlightening article, I hope.

A few days back I answered a comment on my article about calling girls when texts aren’t doing the trick, and one of the remarks I made in my response is that the most fun lays you will have are the ones where:

  1. The girl really likes you a lot, or

  2. The ones where the girl doesn’t like you at all.

Some of the guys on the forums wanted to know what I meant by that second one. A girl’s got to like you to sleep with you, right?

Well... not necessarily.

In fact, sometimes it’s even better for your chances when she doesn’t.

So, in today’s article, I’m going to cover 10 situations in which a girl will sleep with you... even if she doesn’t like you.

Stop Making Women Not Want to Sleep with You

Ever have a girl seem like she wants to sleep with you bad, then you get her on a date and she goes cold? Why’d she turn off like that?
Female Mind

Hello everyone! Apologies for the delay since my last article; things have been pretty crazy lately. I have been looking through the forums recently and found my favorite thing in the world: a pattern between your sticking points.

The reason I love these so much is that, when I see a lot of people making the exact same mistake, it gives me hope that one small tweak to your perspective and behavior is all it will take for LOTS of you to stop dropping the ball and start getting laid instead.

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Today’s article will focus on something that has been coming up a lot lately. When you guys type the sticking point into the forums, it usually sounds something like this...

She showed me a lot of sexual interest, so I took her on a great date and then afterwards, she rejected me!


She told me she wanted to have sex, so we got a drink at a bar and started making out, but then she refused to come home with me afterward!

I realized that this is not something that I see talked about, almost ever, and am here today to shine some gloriously seductive light upon why this keeps happening to people. It certainly happened to me a lot back in the day, and so I’ve had to put myself back in somewhat of a “beginner’s mindset” in order to really make sense of what is happening here.

Girl Types: Geek Girls

Geek girls are growing common – and desirable. What’s it take to get them on dates (or in bed)? Openness, obviousness, and rapport, to start.
Female Mind
geek girls

If you still believe that geek girls walk around town with big spectacles, shaggy hair, and dresses that sweep the pavements, then your impression of them is woefully misguided. The stereotype of the dateless virgin bookworm is dated. But what’s the difference between modern and traditional geek girls?

Modern day geek girls are sophisticated. Not all of them study quantum physics though. Many nerdy girls now possess the kind of looks one normally associates with Miss World contestants and A-list Hollywood actresses. They now occupy a huge place on the spectrum of conventional attractiveness.

Unlike traditional geek girls who were rumored to do nothing but study, work, and eat junk food all day, modern day geek girls roll on the contrary. The girl with the highest IQ in your class or workplace now wears miniskirts, uses curse words, and posts bikini photos on Instagram with a plethora of hashtags. The only differentiator between her and the rest is that she prioritizes intellectual matters over social matters; she doesn’t have that much time for guys and merriment.

In the past years, there used to be a social stigma for both men and women attached to geekdom. Nowadays the tables have turned. It has become fashionable to label oneself a nerd. There might be a cavalcade of factors behind this evolution, but the rise of the internet and tech likely played a substantial role in the nerd’s ascent. Geeks have become the new cool. They are making significant impact in the world.

Back Pocket Mentality, Pt. II: The Holding Pattern

The ‘holding pattern’: that place where a girl acts like she wants to be with you, but just “needs time”. It’s a terrible place to be – but you needn’t be in it.
Relationship 101

holding patternA year ago, I talked about women’s back pocket mentality: keeping a man in reserve, his appetite wetted for them, thirst for them unquenched.

It’s part survival instinct, part choice maximization... the best position for a woman is to have a flock of interested men waiting for their shots with her, for a variety of reasons (most women greatly fear becoming unwanted or undesired).

Today I want to introduce you to back pocket mentality’s close cousin, the ‘holding pattern’. This is a more serious version of the phenomenon, where a woman strongly implies sex or a relationship is on the table and coming very soon, without delivering.

This is used when a man is on her shortlist, but she wants to experiment with others first. Just because you’re on her short list doesn’t mean you’ll get her – and all the time you devote to her while she enjoys other men and “makes up her mind”, you’re killing her attraction and respect for you.


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