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How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 1: All Women are Freaks

Years ago, one of my fraternity brothers compiled a survey for the rest of the chapter to complete. It was called the “Freaky Deaky Test” and it measured just how freaky you were in bed (or in bathroom closets). And we couldn’t complain, because we had unanimously elected him Freaky Deaky Chair of the fraternity.


What platform did he run on for this esteemed position? Well, he liked to have kinky sex. He would often tell us of his love for licking feet, bondage, girls spitting in his mouth, girls telling him he’s dirty scum while he railed them, etc. It’s the kind of debauchery that most American men would scoff at but secretly jerk off to in their dark rooms at 2 AM.

Around the time of him releasing this survey, I was still green to women and socializing. I’d slept with a handful of girls and was learning game naturally through meticulous trial and error. But I was a sexaholic. My girlfriend kept count of our sex and lost count after 1,000 times. And amongst this marathon of sex, I’d tried all sorts of things: spanking, choking, fucking on her period, putting a finger up her ass, and one of my all-time favorites, cumming on her face (i.e., the money shot).

But like I said, I was still new to the scene. So when I took the test, I only scored around a 7. Definitely not vanilla, but certainly not toe-licking-freaky.

If I wanted to be the man that women fantasized about late at night, I needed to change that score.

I had big shoes to fill, too. Women knew us as THE fraternity to have weird sex with, because our members were historically crazy and deranged.

And so, over the years, me and a few other gentlemen formed an even more select group of men known for their fun sexual habits. After initiating myself into this “Weird Sex Group” (yes, I heard women actually call us this), I had the distinct pleasure of hearing our “Freaky Deaky Chair” admit to me being weirder than him. Hoorah.

I’m still unsure what that says about my mental health, but it’s a testament to how far I’d go to satisfy my gooier lusts.

So, if you wanna transform into a man of this strange caliber, please continue reading (warning: this will be the most graphic article series ever written on Girls Chase).

Why the ‘Bid for Connection’ is Crucial to Your Relationship

“Any good dreams last night?”

“How was your day today?”

“You’ll never believe what happened to me.”

bid for connection

There are normal little communication bits and pieces you’ll encounter in relationships. They seem pretty small and trivial, and superficially they are.

However, these little questions or statements – called ‘bids for connection’ by Professor Emeritus John M. Gottman, Ph.D. – have big impacts on relationship health.

That’s because any time you make a bid for connection, or a gal you’re with makes one toward you, it goes one of two ways:

  • You or she accept the bid (Gottman calls this ‘turn towards’)
  • Or you or she ignore the bid (Gottman calls this ‘turn away’)

How often these little bids are turned toward or away from makes a world of difference, it turns out.

Women Will Date the “Wrong Guy” If the “Right One” Isn’t Free

Recently had a discussion with one of our forum members about some odd behavior he was seeing from a former girlfriend who works in his office.

They’d had a friends with benefits relationship for about half a year, before she broke things off with him to enter a committed relationship with another man.

What confused him the most, however, was that this girl had seemed to like him more, yet she still went off to date the wrong guy anyway. Her new guy has some pretty big downsides, too: he’s jealous and controlling. He’s forbid his girlfriend from having any contact with her ex from our forum, and monitors her phone calls and texting.

date the wrong guy

What this forum member asked me was, “Why would she date this guy when she already had me?”

The answer, of course, was that he wasn’t available for the kind of relationship this girl needed – so even if he would’ve been her first choice for that role, he simply wasn’t an option she could choose from on the shelf.

Dating Professional Women: The 3 Types You’ll Meet

I was doing some work at my favorite coffee shop when I saw an attractive girl sit down wearing a t-shirt with a university crest.


Pointing at her t-shirt I asked, “What school did you go to?”

She said, “Harvard Business School.”

I smiled to myself. “Did you have to choose between HBS and the GSB?”

She smiled. “Yes.”

I said, “What made you say no to Stanford?”

She replied, “The fact that it would have been more difficult to say no to Harvard.”

I invited her over to sit with me. I said the right things and we set up a date on the spot. On my way home I thought about how far I had come in my seduction journey. There was a time when hearing “Harvard Business School” would have intimidated me, but over the years I have learned a system for better relating with professional women. Knowing what to say to make them feel comfortable and makes you keep a good mindset so you don’t feel intimidated.

After dating doctors, lawyers, consultants, and investment bankers, I have noticed that even though their careers may look very different, their personalities are actually quite similar.

4 Steps to Give Women Orgasmic Anal Sex

anal sexI wasn’t always a fan of anal sex.

Used to be that when girls asked me for it, my erection would disappear and I’d lose all interest in sex of any sort after that. I mean, gross. And in any event, her pussy’s right there; why would I want to stick it in her butt?

As I got older, I became less of a stick in the mud and decided to give anal more of a chance. Eventually, I discovered that, done right, women absolutely loved it, and soon I enjoyed it a fair bit too.

The fear for her, that comes with accepting you into the wrong hole... the thrill she feels at doing something taboo... and the pure pleasure that comes with an opening packed to the brim with nerve endings swallowing up your manhood into it, its sanctity at the mercy of it... all these things contribute to the emotional and physical excitement of it for her.

And, if you’re executing anal sex technically correct, with an aim towards supplying anal orgasms, your member will be hitting her vagina from the other side, a truly intense and orgasmic experience.

As a man, there’s the sense that you’re dominating this woman in a way you’re not ‘supposed’ to do, and the sense that she is yielding her body to you in a way she hasn’t to too many (or perhaps any) other men. These things enhance the experience for her as well.

However, this article isn’t here to discuss the merits of anal sex (though I will cover that briefly towards the end) – I’m not here to ‘convert’ anybody.

If you’re reading this, I assume you’d like to know how to do it well, and not that you are recoiling at how gross it is (like I, well, used to).

So... let’s talk about giving her thunderous orgasms, through her back door.

DISCLAIMER: I did really try to find some non-NC17 images for communicating the ‘position’ part to you below, but found it next to impossible to locate any images showing the position I wanted to show at all, let alone any PG-13 ones. So, there are a couple of NSFW images near the end of this post – you have been forewarned. Don’t read at the cubicle, or on the bench in the park by the local kindergarten.

What It Means When She Says She Has a Boyfriend

I had an interesting conversation with one of our senior members on the discussion boards recently. He’d approached a girl, really hit it off with her, until at some point she told him she had a boyfriend and started resisting him more.

It wasn’t a question of value or attraction. This girl clearly liked him.

Instead, in this case, it was attainability that triggered her bringing up the boyfriend.

has a boyfriend

Now, I know there are a lot of folks reading who are going to say, “Well, hold the phone – maybe it was just that the girl has a boyfriend and she isn’t going to cheat on him!”

We’ll talk about that below. However, odds are, taking things at face value with women is usually a sign there’s something you’re not getting... not a sign she’s among the 2½% of women who says what she means and means what she says.

How to Decipher Female Subcommunication, Part 2

In the last segment of the Practical Female Psychology series, we discussed how and why females developed the language of Subcommunication and how it gets used by women today.

We learned how women are often Ambivalent; that is, a woman will communicate in such a way so as to cause confusion in the male mind, make sure she keeps her options open, and attract resources and romantic affection from as many avenues as possible without crossing the line into social ostracism, where she risks getting labeled a “slut”.

We also learned how the men who best succeed with women understand this secret female language, and in turn have learned the art of Discretion, which is basically a conspiracy to allow females to operate in that certain way without any hindrance.


Today we’ll discuss Subcommunication as it relates to the dangers and opportunities surrounding dating in the workplace; why no matter how much you learn about females, you still want to talk like a man does; and some more practical tips for mastering the fine art of interacting with females.

Girls Chase Podcast Interviews Ep. 4: Joseph W. South

Today we’re serving up our fourth fantastic podcast interview, this time with Varoon Raja interviewing Girls Chase author Joseph W. South.

In today’s podcast, Joseph and Varoon discuss:

Why It Feels “Off” to Her

feels off to herI recently addressed a thread on our discussion boards where a member reported on a couple of women who seemed to initially like him, and then backed off in a big way, telling him things like, “I’m just not looking for this right now.”

He’d suspected the issue was he just wasn’t doing all that well at targeting women who were going to be receptive to him, but in this case, the actual issue was he was jumping the gun and expressing too much interest without her giving him a reason to yet.

And what happened next was the girl started feeling like something was “off”.

As soon as that feeling comes up, you’re in bad shape.

And it isn’t always caused by missing a step here or there, either.

Everything I Know About Race and Dating Girls

My friend had just told me that he saw the girl I liked with another guy.

“I don’t get it man! I know that she likes me.”

“Bro, it’s because of this,” he said, pointing to his dark skin.

I responded saying, “What are you talking about man?”

“It’s because you’re black bro; girls like her only date white guys.”

race and dating

Until that point I had not looked at dating through a racial lens. But after that day I started to become more “aware” of race and dating. I started “seeing” that white guys had it easier when it came to getting girls. It didn’t matter that I had dated many different races of girls before. It didn’t matter that I ended up dating the girl that we were talking about. That conversation had given me the ultimate excuse: that if a girl didn’t like me, it was because of my race.

It took me years to get away from that particular train of thought. It still creeps in from time to time, but as soon as I catch myself thinking like that now I cut that line of reasoning. So I will go ahead and answer the question that is on a lot of your minds right now.

Does race matter when it comes to dating? Yes.

Does it matter as much as people think it matters? No.

In this post, I will answer common questions I get from guys about race and dating; some advice for getting over racial insecurities and some stories from my journey.

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