Meeting and attracting members of the opposite sex.
Where you put your focus makes all the difference in how fast (or
slow) you progress with dating. Should you booze, is it about the
hours, and what should your focus be?
Guys keep asking me how to get good with the opposite sex â fast.
Part 1 of the âmeeting girls in gay barsâ series starts off with
venue selection. Namely, the 4 best types of gay bars to meet women at.
Hey, guys. As promised, here is the first post of my series on how to game in gay venues. This will be an introductory post about the gay environment and the different venues out there. I will discuss how to pick the right venues and give some insights into the dynamics of each.
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I will leave the in-depth discussion about all the dos and donâts pertaining to seduction in these venues to future posts, because I believe an introduction to the gay environment is key. So Iâll start with that.
Also, before I begin, I have to share a disclaimer that I will include in every post in this series. You will quickly understand why I am doing this. Here is it:
Disclaimer: If you happen to find an awesome gay club or discover that gay clubs are good places to get laid, please do not tell of all your bros. Truth is, I have seen many great gay venues die because of this. They are something special for a reason, and if too many straight men come over, the vibe will be ruined and the venue will cease to be what it is. I have been hesitant to share the info related to âgay gameâ for this reason, and I hope you understand and keep this info for yourself.
It is in your own best interest, too.
Anyway, without further ado, let us get right into it.
Girls test when they want to gauge a man. But not every test
warrants the same response. Here are the 7 ways to respond in the face
of womenâs tests.
Tests are a major irritant of many guys new to dating. Yet despite covering tests extensively, and giving you plenty of tools to deal with them over the years, I havenât assembled a proper end-to-end guide on acing these.
If youâre new here or need a refresher, read these articles on tests (and why women use them) first:
The tests weâll deal with in this article are lighter tests. i.e., put-you-on-the-spot type tests. The kind where she is not trying to reject you yet, but she is turning up the heat. For recovery from hard tests â where she out-and-out rebuffs or rejects you â see this article:
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If sheâs testing you in any way other than ignoring or rejecting you, however, this article will serve as your guide to seven (7) terrific ways to hurdle over her tests without pulling your hamstring.
You will notice as you read through these a common theme to all but the very first and, to a certain degree, the very last way: you respond to her tests by teasing her. She tests, you tease. She tests, you tease.
When a woman tests, what sheâs evaluating is your reaction to her tests, to better gauge what kind of man you are. Do you flip a table over? Do you turn into a mound of jelly? Or do you brush her tests aside while you tease and flirt with her?
In all but the most serious cases (where she has raised a genuine problem), youâre best served to make light of her attempt to put you on the hot seat.
Now letâs unpack those seven (7) ways to ace womenâs tests.
There are four (4) ways to meet girls walking on the street: the
side stop, the circle stop, the wave stop, and the policeman stop.
Youâve gone out for a stroll on your city streets.
The sunshineâs shining, the birds are chirping, and youâre feeling grand.
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Then, you see her: Venus incarnate. A remarkably beautiful woman headed down the street, right to you. You know you have to meet her. There is a pull inside of you that insists on it.
Yet, you can think of no good way to say hi.
Sheâs striding along, mind on whatever itâs on, not having noticed you one bit.
How can you reach her in a natural, attractive way?
The way you do this is with something called the âstreet stopâ; that is, you will quite literally stop her on the street to meet her. There are many different street stops you can use. Today, Iâll give you the four (4) most effective stops I know of. Once you have these at your disposal (and donât shy away from using them), youâll be able to meet those stunning girls you see on the street... rather than let them walk on by.
It can be tough to start dating again once youâve been away from
the game. To do it, check your ego, switch off the porn, go out with an
excited wing, and youâll be set.
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In the last year, Iâve taken a hiatus from writing for Girls Chase, but the reason Iâve done that is because I havenât been doing much dating.
Iâve been focusing on other areas of my life and have let my dating life atrophy.
Now I am getting back into the swing of things and I have noticed some friction points that are keeping me from being successful with women. So I am going to write this post about how to get back into the flow of dating, what to expect, and how to deal with internal resistance.
Sexual tension isnât just good for turning her on. You can use it
to breeze past walls, resistance, and tests, too.
I know that after my report on sexual tension, I mentioned it would be the last post in the sexual tension series.
That was the original plan, but things â powerful things â that I left out keep popping up in my head. Anyway, here is one of those things.
Todayâs topic will be about sexual tension; however, we will discuss another use for it. Primarily we have discussed sexual tension as a tool to make her horny and attracted to you, hopefully leading the interaction toward sex.
This time around, weâll take a different approach. Instead of focusing on using sexual tension directly to make her horny, weâll focus on using sexual tension to deal with her âshitâ (e.g., resistance and tests), and in turn, make her horny. So today we will basically discuss how the different concepts related to sexual tension can be applied to dealing with her:
Shields (approach shields)
The application of concepts in each case will be more or less similar. However, we will discuss the subtle differences and try to exemplify the process for enhanced understanding. Let us get into it!
Your silence speaks volumes. But you donât just need to use it to
be serious; you can use it to increase sexual tension, for better
communication, for humor, and more.
Itâs where everything started and it is where everything will return to.
Silence is the sweetest sound in the universe. It is the language of God in purest form.
And you arenât using it properly.
In the past, weâve covered how to avoid saying something stupid by talking less. Weâve also covered how to use the pregnant pause. I also intend to write some pieces on concision and replacing words with non-verbals whenever possible; but for now, I simply want to talk about how and when to be quiet, and why it is so powerful.
You canât always be talking non-stop with her. So when itâs your
turn to listen to a girl, how do you do so in a seductive way?
After sharing 8 long, detailed articles on sexual tension and closing it all off with an illustrative report, I originally planned to move on to another topic. But apparently â and this was kind of expected â some of you guys brought up some good questions that need answering.
I also stated in my last post on sexual tension that, even though I kind of closed off the project, I would share more insights if something popped up. Well, your good questions have made those âinsightsâ pop up, so thanks again to all of you reading and leaving questions. Your contributions not only make my task as a writer easier, they also ensure my posts actually fit the audienceâs desires. Win-win indeed. So thank you again, guys.
A commentator named Mike asked the following question:
âHey there Alek, really great article. This kind of reports help tremendously much to show sometimes a bit abstract sounding ideas and techniques in an actual motion.
I got a question: could you elaborate a little more on the topic of seductive listening? I'm not sure I understand that concept correctly. You state that just sitting and nodding isnât sexy at all. But from the next paragraph where you actually describe your seductive listening thing, it basically sounds the same as just listening and nodding to me, just in a lesser frequency. Whatâs the difference between those two? How do you execute this without coming out as not really giving shit about what she has to say? Thanks!â
In my report, I did use the technique called âseductive listening.â I havenât written any posts specifically about this subject, as I thought the report would be enough, but I can now see that I was wrong, so I will dedicate this post to this subject by clarifying what it means to be a seductive listener.
Before I begin, I want to give all credit to 60 Years of Challenge, the pioneer of this technique.
Youâll meet 5 kinds of girls out on Cinco De Mayo. Which ones
should you take home â and how? Follow these 3 steps and the girl is
yours.
When you hear the words âCinco de Mayo,â what do you picture?
Is it:
Drunk girls?
Tequila?
Cheesy sombreros and guacamole?
Most guys assume that Cinco de Mayo is one of the easiest days to meet girls; however, the reality couldnât be further from the truth.
Itâs true that more women are out and willing to go home with a guy on Cinco de Mayo, but also consider that more men are going to be out and about, too. Your competition is up, and the alcohol is going to be flowing.
These arenât exactly perfect conditions to find a high-quality woman to take home.
However, there are a few things you can do to plan a Cinco de Mayo that ends in you getting the woman you want.
So today, Iâm going to show you exactly how to have the Cinco de Mayo you want.
Hey there! Varoon Rajah here. Welcome to the next installment of the Dating Mechanics Podcast.
