How to get a girl to kiss you first?
Sounds like a dream.
A lot of guys out there are going to teach you gimmicks. Tricks and tips.
Some of them can work under the right circumstances, but if you really want a girl to kiss you first, you need to create an environment for her where she will WANT to do it.
That’s the secret to getting a girl to kissing you first.
Make her WANT to do it and make it EASY for her.
You’ll see. Watch the video.
Today we're going to talk about how guys get the first kiss wrong.
We've had a slew of articles on Girls Chase about how to get the first kiss right.
It's a fairly long list:
How to Kiss Her: kiss basics
Manhandle Kisses: an aggressive, dominant kiss
Can't-Miss Tips for Getting the First Kiss with a Girl: tips for the first kiss
How to Kiss a Girl Like No One's Ever Kissed Her Before: step-by-step kiss guide
How to Kiss Girls in Public and Have It Go Great: kissing girls in public
How to Be a Good Kisser: 5 Steps to Confident Kissing: mindsets, techniques, and tactics for great kisses
Tactics Tuesdays: How to Make Her Kiss You Back: getting her to kiss you back when you kiss
The Kiss and Other Mouth Moves in Physical Escalation: using kisses to move the courtship forward
Tactics Tuesdays: The 5-Second Kiss: kiss a girl five seconds after you first meet
Tactics Tuesdays: Kisses for Good Behavior: reward her with a kiss
3 Legendary Movie Manhandle Kisses to Model Your Kisses After: examples of manhandle kisses in action, so you can see exactly what these look like
One subject we haven't delved into on kisses much though, is things to avoid doing with the kiss.
All those first kiss mistakes you can (and many guys do) make.
We've talked about some things to avoid here and there. But we haven't covered them all. And not all in the same place.
For this piece, I've compiled the top five ways guys blow the first kiss. They're all here in one place, for your easy perusal.
Note that I am going to leave out the most common way guys blow the first kiss, which is to not actually make the first kiss at all. Whether that is because they wait too long for the right moment, or they even feel the right moment but can't summon the courage to kiss, this is the most common way to blow it. However, we've addressed this mistake extensively in the other kiss articles (above). In this article I want to focus on things guys do wrong when they make the actual kiss (rather than wilt out of hesitation).
After we talk about each way to botch the kiss, of course, we'll talk about how to not blow these aspects of the kiss, too.
Here's the list of the top five biggest ways guys blow that first kiss (and how not to).
Many seduction newbies get sold on “natural game” because it seems so appealing and, well, natural. But its shortcomings vastly outweigh its value for getting girls.
Since we have been discussing the trends of inner game and debunking certain misconceptions, I decided to write a follow-up on a closely related subject that took the seduction community by storm.
The subject we will discuss is natural game – the idea that pickup and seduction has to happen naturally, depending on who you are, your vibe, and your personality.
Sounds appealing right? It surely does to many, but there are some flaws to this system. I see pickup and seduction as a skillset, with tools to use. Sure, long term it will affect you and how you see women and the world, but initially, pickup and seduction is – a skill.
Natural game looks very appealing to many newer guys for some reason. But there is a reason for why most advanced or skilled guys laugh at it.
In this post, we will try to understand its limitations but also why it became popular in the first place, to truly understand its roots.
Sick of one-night stands? When you have sex with a new partner, you can make it mediocre and never see her again, or make it so good she’ll want to come back for more.
Having sex with a new partner is supposed to be epic, fun, and a gateway to more amazing sex. But often the affair ends after only one session.
Personally, I am not a fan of one-night stands. Approaching, mesmerizing, and picking up very attractive women is no small effort. It sucks to put in all that work for one brief sex session. So why waste it? Sex with a new partner should be good enough for a repeat performance, if that’s what you want.
I’ve had quite a few girls shag me then ghost. Why? Maybe they just wanted an easy bang. Perhaps they had husbands or boyfriends and needed an adventure. Women love sex too, and it’s not difficult for them to find it. So if you’re spending months or years learning how to attract women, you should also learn how to shag them with enough skill to keep them around.
When you’re having sex with a new partner, you want to give her an epic time so she’ll come back for more. A man who is great in bed is hard to come by. If you can be that guy, she’ll still be thinking about you at night, long after your first session, and you’ll start getting those “What are you up to tonight?” texts more frequently.
Sometimes we put on facades because our genuine self sucks. Other times because we don’t want to appear ordinary. Can one become both genuine and extraordinary?
What is the difference between being the genuine article and being just a good fake? Before discussing this, let’s throw out the moralistic rulebook of society that says being a fake causes people to gasp audibly and say “Shame on you!” Instead, let’s be real here.
Putting on a facade doesn’t make you a bad guy. It doesn’t necessarily make you anything out of the ordinary, but therein lies the issue – the ordinary. In a world where ordinary often comes up short, is boring, and disappoints, it ought not be the aim, right?
For some, being ordinary is a shield; it is a way we can justify our actions and focus on activities that yield an ordinary result, but a result nonetheless. Ordinary is safe. We relax in the classification of our acts being ordinary because by default it means, no one SHOULD make a fuss, or else they are the crazy one, and if they act crazy trying to take you on, they act crazy trying to take on the whole world.
So it is no small wonder, then, that when we put on a facade, we do so with some sense of reassurance. Every other guy has done it, and if they haven’t, they either should have or are a liar trying to put rules on you they never intend to follow themselves.
And we all know that being the genuine article is preferable, but should we suffer while we try to get to that place more than we already do? Often the answer to this debate in our head comes to a close rather quickly – so quickly that it might not even be a conscious thought. We therefore hold no accountability for the choice and can leave it aside without worry of it ever coming back to bite us. Or can we?
Think back to your last session of hot make-up sex.
As you no doubt recall (and likely already knew), make-up sex is good.
It's among the best sex you'll ever have. It's incredible for women. It's incredible for men.
What makes make-up sex so deliriously good is the maelstrom of emotions that swirls about the sex. You've just had a big fight... perhaps broken up temporarily, or been just about to.
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1. 3 Major Cons of Make-Up Sex
And then, after both partners had considered or flirted with or begun the process of a split, you pull back from the brink, and get right back into the relationship again -- and right back into one another, with make-up sex.
As a relationships guy, I've had a love-hate relationship with the love-hate roller-coaster that is make-up sex.
I used to recommend against it completely. Engage in make-up sex, as we will see, and you risk encouraging more, increasingly dramatic fights... you risk creating a subconscious driver in both relationship partners (i.e., you and your paramour) to pick fights and even raise the intensity of those fights any time either of you starts to long for good, hot, incredible sex.
Yet after years of telling folks off of make-up sex, I modulated my position. Somewhat.
I switched to "make-up sex can be quite good... IF you know what you're getting into."
We're going to cover three (3) MAJOR 'cons' to make-up sex today.
And then we'll cover the seven (7) big 'pros' to it, right after.
The goal is to make sure you know what you're getting into when you get into make-up sex.
Girls like it rough. End of story.
It makes them feel dominated, small, and controlled… and they LOVE it.
Don’t believe me? Try spanking your girl during sex next time. She will love it.
If she doesn’t, you’re probably not doing it right, so watch this video to learn how to do it right.
Spank spank spank.
Tap tap tap.
The term ‘outcome independence’ has become a popular topic in the seduction community. But the concept is flawed, as it can trip you up when it comes to getting results.
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1. What Exactly Is Outcome Independence?
2. Outcome Independence and Ego
4. The Problem with Outcome Independence
Hey, guys. Today I’m discussing a common but tough mindset – outcome independence – the idea that the seducer must become stoic, and not care about his results.
I will play the role of skeptic here, as I have a few concerns about the concept. Mainly that I believe a lot of guys are taking on the mindset but not understanding how to use it properly to get results. Instead, they’re using the mindset as more of a cop out.
Nevertheless, I believe the mindset is well-intended. If the underlying mechanism is understood, it can make you appear cool and not needy.
In this post, I’ll explain why this mindset was popularized, delve into its shortcomings, and propose an alternative that I find superior for actually getting results.
You could have a woman seduced and ready to have sex. You two could even be naked in bed. But certain self-esteem issues can still make her bail if you’re not careful.
A woman’s self-esteem is one of her greatest assets – and it’s perhaps THE most important emotional state to keep in mind when pursuing a woman. It is self-esteem that is the root cause behind the notion of auto-rejection, the notion of reputation management, and even the role of backward-rationalization in the dating process.
“Do you really find me attractive?”
“What if the sex is bad?”
Quite simply, self-esteem plays in to how much a girl likes you based on how much validation you provide when you’re with her. And since almost no woman wants to feel bad about herself, the better you can make a woman feel, the more she’ll start to see you as a guy who makes her feel good about herself.
My purpose in this article series is to make you aware of different ways your seductions can go wrong – at any stage – if you’re not careful to manage a woman’s self-esteem. How a woman feels about herself with you determines how she feels about being with you and having sex with you.
And just to note before we get started, this is different from teasing and playful banter, which can be good to spark attraction and create sexual tension. What we’re talking about in this article series is how some things you do or say can make her bail on a date (or even from your bed) because she doesn’t want to risk damage to her self-esteem.
Feel like ditching the Western rat race for a more suitable dating environment on a perpetual working vacation? You’re not the only one! They call us ‘digital nomads.’
Would you like to travel around the world? Date sexy, exotic women? Live out of a backpack? Wash your bum with a hose? (It’s a thing in Asia, and I’m quite fond of it.)
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3. Not All Cultures Are the Same
6. Why It’s Easier to Get Girls out There
I suppose I’m what you’d call a “Digital Nomad.”
Many guys are interested in the “location-free lifestyle.” So I thought I’d share my experiences.
I’m currently living in Bali, Indonesia. Next month I’ll be in Chiang Mai, Thailand. After that, I’m heading to Eastern Europe.
I go where the wind blows and work out of coffee shops, hostels, guest houses, and hotels. I date exotic women and leave them when my tourist visa expires. Sometimes I come back; sometimes I don’t.
Why do I live like this? Well, after many “vacations” to beautiful countries, and having to go back home when I ran out of money, I decided to find a way to stay. So far, I’m paying my way around the world with Skype coaching, freelance writing, and the odd bootcamp.
