When you start to change your appearance or behavior, people can
you fake. Or you might even feel fake. Yet with Practice Mentality, you
can avoid all this.
In my August article on seven major dating mistakes, a
reader asks about
people who view (or attack) self-improvement efforts or general
behavior as ‘being fake’ or ‘not being real’:
is regarding barriers to improving fundamentals and improving your life
Did you notice how people label any potential improvement as fake?
If they improve, they think, people won’t like them for who they are
and that’s bad. For people who have had advantages for a long time it
seems like a natural part of them.
– Someone who is fat thinks that if he loses weight and
start liking him more, then they don’t like him for who he really is.
They are just a bunch of superficial cunts. But, if you’ve been thin
for a long time, it seems like a part of you.
– If you dress poorly, improving your fashion will seem as
Who cares how you dress? People should like you for who you are. But,
those who dress well will tell you it’s just a part of them – part of
who they are.
– Being famous or wealthy and getting great results with
also seems fake to many people (99.999% of people don’t have access to
fame or great wealth). So, you’ll hear terms like ‘fame-digger’ or
‘gold-digger’ used to describe those superficial women who like rock
stars, football players or bankers/CEOs.
– The same goes for learning ‘game’. If you’re learning it,
you’re just a fake manipulator.
What do you think about this phenomenon? Is it even real or am I
Well, first off, this is absolutely a genuine phenomenon, and it’s
something every man who sits down to improve himself in one dimension
or another encounters.
You start to change something about yourself, and somebody calls you
fake. Or you see others change their reactions toward you as you change
superficial details about yourself, and you decide they are fake. Or maybe you even
look at your outward displays, deem them nothing like whom you are on
the inside, and label yourself
I’m going to talk briefly about why people view people engaged in
self-improvement as fake, and then I’m going to give you a useful
mindset I’ve long used to not have to worry about this.
I call it the ‘Practice Mentality’. But we’ll get to that.