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Tactics Tuesdays: "She'll Probably Reject Me (So Let's Try)"

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By: Chase Amante

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An easy way to get your feet moving despite fears of rejection: just tell yourself "She'll likely reject me anyway... so let's go see what happens.

I just talked with one of our senior discussion forum members, who took on the 30 Days Invite a Girl Home Challenge. This is a challenge for advanced guys, where the singular goal is to invite a new girl home each and every day for 30 straight days. She doesn't have to say yes and you don't have to sleep with her, but you do need to invite her home to do it. The goal is to push a guy's comfort zone and open his eyes to what's possible.

In our forum member's case, his first day on the challenge ended up with the girl he invited home saying yes and going home with him. However, he liked this girl a lot, overthought things a bit, and escalated too timidly, despite feeling like the girl was quite into him.

He didn't get the lay (although he did get a nice start to the 30 day challenge!), and the girl left.

He tried to set a date up with her later, and she LJBF'ed him.

His escalation (too unaggressive for her level of horniness) was the immediate cause, he figured... but the root cause was that he liked her too much, which led him to go too slow for this girl's tastes.

Does he just need to convince himself not to like girls too much, he wondered?

That brought to mind a long-time technique I've used to overcome nervous hesitation with women, that might be useful to some guys.

It's this: you simply tell yourself "Well she's probably going to reject me, so let's try anyway and just see what happens."

14 Ways Social Control Is Used on You

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By: Hector Castillo

Social Control
For civilization to thrive, is social control a necessity? Perhaps, but we must be mindful of people and groups who seek to manipulate us to our detriment.

Social control. It sounds very 1984-ish, doesn’t it?

It is, in some ways. In others, it’s natural and understandable.

It's something that is always pulling at you – the social equivalent of gravity. Even from long distances, it has an effect.

And it comes from everyone.

When we think of “social control,” we get the idea that there’s some monolithic, maleficent force specifically targeting us and trying to get us to bend.

It is not so simple.

Yes, there are diverse and powerful organizations which are trying to control you. It could be a news station, a top-followed Instagram account, a religious body, or a government.

Those organizations include individuals, all of whom have personal agendas, both hidden and open.

Those people may all pledge allegiance to a common goal, but even then, the purity of their commitment to the group and their interpretation of that group’s goal may differ, person to person.

If a group of people aligns tightly with a singular goal, or at least the messages they deliver (e.g., a news station’s regular broadcasts) echo this singular goal or plan, the effectiveness of that social control is heightened.

Given your life experiences, and by doing some imaginative math about how many different groups are trying to control you, it is clear that you are being pulled in many directions.

The way I see it, even more confusing is that none of these groups are evil or good.

Of course, you have a moral stance and will judge various influences as good, neutral, or evil, but from a bird’s eye view, there is simply an array of consequences that occur because of your actions and everyone else’s actions.

I’m not here to moralize, but I am here to argue from the point of this website’s goals. There are social controls that inhibit your sexual freedom and ability as a man to forge his destiny.

I’m here to point out some of the biggest influences that attempt to control you, as I believe them antithetical to the goal of having a free and abundant position in the sexual marketplace.

There are hundreds of influences being thrust upon you every day, but here are 14 of the most powerful social controls that I believe you should be aware of and resist, as they inhibit your ability to be the best man you can be.

These social controls try to do one thing: convince you to adopt a belief.

If they can convince you that X is bad and Y is good, then you will follow their agenda or reinforce their worldview. It’s that simple.

To make you aware of social control, I will explain what “they” try to make you believe, the motivation behind that attempt at social control; I'll provide examples of who will try to convince you of this control. As you’ll see, “they” can’t actually stop you from doing what you want, and in most cases, they can only convince you – through shame and fear – how to act.

Using Glamorous Traits to Attract and Intrigue Women

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By: Daniel Adebayo

Glamorous Traits to Attract and Intrigue Women
Casting directors look for certain traits to fill roles for alluring characters. These same traits happen to be effective for building intrigue and attracting women.

Ever noticed a relationship between performing arts, show business, and getting girls? Sure, we’re all aware that some men in the entertainment industry enjoy lots of success with women. It’s been like this for most of modern history.

Celebrities, rock stars, actors, and leading men in Hollywood have been bedding beautiful women for decades. Passionate fans have been tossing their bras and panties at stages and music festivals for years.

Fame and worldwide recognition are incredibly potent aphrodisiacs. It’s worth mentioning that there’s more than what initially meets the eye when it comes to the nuts and bolts of what makes some of these men attractive and desired by absurd quantities of women than just simply being famous.

It’s called glamour.

Glamour is something distinguishable from fame.

Some famous people and celebrities are glamorous. Others not so much. For example, some actors we’ve seen in movies and TV shows just seem to have a special something. A certain, impressive, je-nais-ce-quoi which distinguishes them from their colleagues and fellow celebrities – even celebrities just as famous as themselves. And it’s not uncommon for a new, glamorous and thus sexually-exciting young actor to appear in a breakout movie or TV show, propelling forward from a position close to obscurity, becoming more and more famous until he’s a household name.

And these celebrities who happen to be both exceedingly glamorous as well as very famous are often regarded as sex symbols in popular culture.

Now, since we’ve established glamour as a quality that exists independent of one’s level of fame, it’s also worth mentioning that glamour and its thrilling effect on the women you meet can equally exist without any fame or recognition. You can become a seducer with an element of glamour.

So no, you don’t really have to be on the cover of a magazine or star in a blockbuster movie to be glamorous. Glamour is a learned quality, and you can definitely develop it, too. After all, there’s a reason why studying the mannerisms, facial expressions, and body language of certain actors and leading men in their movie and TV show seductions is a common practice here on Girls Chase.

Let’s see how these leading men seduce the objects of their desire on screen. Let’s pick apart, learn, and even adopt these attractive and exciting qualities which enable them to go beyond that and even seduce the camera as well as steal the hearts of millions of female fans.

As always, I like to go a step further – so in this article, you’re going to get an inside scoop. I’m going to share specific tips and tweaks I’ve learned from my time in show business – things you can do and add to your repertoire.

How to Avoid the Dating Pitfalls of Being a Good-Looking Guy

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By: Alek Rolstad

Avoid the Pitfalls of Being Good Looking
Good-looking men face particular challenges in pickup. How do you compensate when a woman acts weird around you or thinks you’re too cocky or out of her league?

Hey guys! Welcome back.

So, my two previous articles have been focused on debunking the idea that looks are the primary factor in success with women.

I have presented many different arguments for why looks are not that important. I’ve also given examples on how good looks can backfire, referring to the pitfalls and difficulties good-looking guys face.

And I think this was a good subject to cover. It is helpful for not-so-good-looking guys to understand the effects of looks and the place they have in pickup and seduction – and that looks are NOT everything.

The pitfalls good-looking men face is something VERY rarely discussed, and I believe it was a beneficial discussion. Admittedly, however, I have realized that in my last post where I covered the pitfalls and the difficulties good-looking men face, there was more of a pessimistic tone. As a matter of fact, it was far less than optimistic, and at the cost of convincing less-good-looking guys that being is was not always a good thing, I have probably left the good-looking guys feeling bad. The previous posts may in fact have generated negative beliefs about good-looking guys.

The truth is, being good looking has its benefits, but also its pitfalls. And like everything else in pickup, it is all a matter of calibration. If you are good looking, or even more importantly, good looking to her, you must calibrate accordingly.

So, to enjoy these benefits, you will have to know how to play properly, and this is what this post is about. Now, pickup in general is the same for everyone, and you mostly will have to calibrate according to the girl. However, this post can help you adjust your game to who you are.

Women Are Attracted to Men Who Show Sexual Desire

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By: Varoon Rajah

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It’s a misconception that women are not attracted to aggressive men. The truth: women go nuts for aggressive men who show their sexual desire in the right way.

Have you ever noticed how well some guys do with women? If you’re a nice guy, you might see these dudes and wonder what makes them so special, and why women like them so much. Maybe you’ve seen them at nightclubs with a stunner in heels, or maybe you’ve seen your natural friend pull girls over and over again.

The chances are that – even though I’m not talking about one specific man – you can still picture the kind of dominant, masculine, and ultimately aggressive guy that I’m talking about.

A key reason these guys get women is because they show their desire. At a very basic level, any guy who wants a girl must show his desire towards her. A girl may throw indicators of interest and other signals towards a guy, but if he doesn’t show his desire, girls often move on.

There’s another key facet here that separates the average guy from the guy who actually succeeds often. Naturals, players, and men who know how the game works understand that it is actually their aggressiveness that distinguishes them from most men. That aggressiveness – their willingness to take risks with women and go after what they want – draws women into their world.

Aggressive guys get girls more often. If you’re gaming and you want women, you must show the women around you aggressive desire, and go after them aggressively.

Day Game Tour with Tony Depp, Pt.5: Advanced Approach Techniques

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By: Tony Depp

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Let’s look at some advanced techniques for day game: how to get in the right state of mind, how to approach and not be creepy, and much more.

In Part 4 of my Day Game Tour, I covered what women want in a man, the three rules of day game, physical game, and logistics. For Part 5, I’m going to hit on more advanced tips to help you get better results.

First off, day game should not be advanced. It should be as simple as possible in theory and execution. I call it advanced in that for a newbie, everything is advanced, and for an intermediate day gamer, advanced techniques should already be common sense.

You should be following the 80/20 rule of 80% practice, 20% theory. So, for every hour you spend reading about pickup, spend three practicing, and you’ll be on the way to Jedi Knighthood.

On that note, here are a bunch more day game tips to help you with those beautiful day game babes.

How to Smooth Talk like a Pro

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By: Hector Castillo

How to Smooth Talk like a Pro
The gift of gab can be learned, but it involves more than just words. True smooth talkers master a range of elements that culminate in a complete performance.

Smooth talkers have a deep understanding of what makes a great conversation.

A conversation’s “smoothness” is defined by how it handles transitions – how it moves from one topic to another or goes deeper into a particular topic. It is also defined by how the conversation’s errors are handled (e.g., awkward points, miscommunications, etc.).

The fewer “errors” in a conversation, and the better those errors are handled, the more smooth a conversation will feel. But transitions must also lead somewhere – a conversation can be smooth but boring, and that’s not worth much.

Thus there should be good emotions involved. A conversation shouldn’t only be smooth and fun, but also enriching.

You want the other person – or people – to walk away having learned something, felt a great connection with you, and gained more respect for your character.

What’s difficult to teach about conversation, of course, is the details.

“What do I say?”

If you expect me to tell you what to say, you’ll be disappointed. What to talk about depends on the environment, the context, the people. The occasional anecdote can be great if the context is right for it. But going in with pre-fabricated conversations can backfire, because a good conversation is dynamic. Conversations are note speeches.

What matters most is being able to start a conversation, then keep it going no matter where it goes. Context is everything with a conversation. The ability to make the conversation interesting depends on your familiarity with the context, whatever it may be.

There is one secret that I learned to developing good conversational skills, but it is not in and of itself the answer, only a force that propels you. At the end of this article, I will reveal it, but in order to utilize it, you’ve got to know the basics.

So, to start, I will teach you a system to learn how to smooth talk like a pro. If followed properly, people will seek out your company, because they know the value and the positive motions that will follow in the wake of your presence.

Let’s get to it.

3 Very Different "Going Out to Meet Girls" Aims

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By: Chase Amante

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Every man's actions when socializing are guided by 1 of 3 core aims. The wrong aim can sabotage him in social situations… but the right aim will give him wings.

When a man goes out to meet women, he has a certain aim he takes with him. That aim might be a conscious one; an aim he knows he has. Or it may be unconscious -- he doesn't know what his aim is. Yet whether he knows it or not, he carries that aim with him.

The aim a man takes out with him colors his experience. It colors his actions and behavior while out. And it colors his perception of what happens while he's out too.

The right aim leads to progress with women, as a man hones his abilities to socialize or familiarizes himself with new venues, types of women, or techniques. Or the right aim might lead him to a lot of fun. Or to get dates, get laid, and meet a future girlfriend.

The wrong aim leads him to a disappointing outing. On the worse end, he may end up depressed, disappointed, or beating himself up over the outing. This happens when he has an aim -- conscious or not -- and fails to achieve it.

If he takes the wrong aim with him too often, and fails to achieve it too frequently, it can tank his morale and cause him to give up. Most guys who quit the game do so because they spent too much time aimed at the wrong place.

There are three easy-to-identify aims a man can take with him out into the field. All other more complicated aims boil down to these three. Two of these aims are self-focused, while the third is other-focused.

In this article, I'm going to argue that too many men go out with other-focused aims when they should take self-focused aims with them instead.

I'm also going to show you how many naturals and men who are good with girls go out with very different aims than what most less experienced, more aspirational men take with them.

How to Build a Harem, Pt 9: What Happens When Your MLTRs Meet?

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By: Varoon Rajah

What Happens when Your MLTRs Meet?
It’s vital that you don’t let your MLTRs meet each other! To illustrate, here’s what happened when I and 3 of my lovers showed up to the same Tantric seminar.

Welcome back to the Harem series! This year I’ve got more exciting insights and strategies to share about how you can date multiple women simultaneously with their implicit blessing.

One question that always looms in guys’ minds when they’re seeing multiple women is – what should I do when my girlfriends want to meet other girlfriends, or what if they run into each other by chance with you there?

We’ll cover how to handle both situations in this article and the next.

Back in 2017, I created an interesting situation for myself – I’d never tried this before and I was warned about doing it, but I tried anyway to see what would happen.

I invited three of my lovers/girlfriends with me to the same event at the same time. The event was an “Introduction to Tantra” class – and not only did all three lovers show up, but my hottest ex happened to show up as well!

So I think my account of how things played out should prove educational for you guys. So let's dig in.

Does Having Good Looks Come with Disadvantages?

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By: Alek Rolstad

Good Looks Come with Disadvantages
To combat the myth that “looks are all that matter” for getting laid, we examine several disadvantages of good looks you’ve likely never considered.

Hey, guys! Welcome back.

If last week’s post where we discussed the importance of looks in pickup did not convince you that looks actually are far from being one of the most important aspects in meeting women, then this post is for you.

So let’s quickly recap. Last week we discussed how good looks can:

  • Help you give a good first impression and get the ball rolling for you. This is key because you need to start somewhere, but a start is just a start. Much more than some basic early game flirting is required to get the girl.

  • Good looks allow a woman to accept and rationalize her attraction to you – however, there are other key factors that can help you achieve this.

  • Good looks are far from being a game winner, but really bad looks is a game killer.

  • In regards to the point above, better looks can be achieved. Most guys can reach the minimum threshold. Today we will discuss some other aspects of looks that you may not have considered.

To me, good looks is just another parameter one must adjust to. Same goes for average looks and bad looks. Personally, I have had times where I did not care about my looks, and even got fat. However, I presently spend lot more time getting in shape, dressing well, and taking good care of my hair and trimming my facial hair.

No matter what phase I was going through, I had an equal amount of lays. However, keep in mind that when I was less good looking, I had to “work” harder to convince girls to give me a shot, and the hooking phase was harder. But once in, getting the girl was not that much more difficult.

But wait! That’s not to say that good looks do not make it easier for you. In fact, I definitely got more hooks when I wasn’t fat… so appearance and looks are important.