Female Mind

If you’re a red-blooded heterosexual male who has ever interacted with a female, you will likely agree with the spiritual guru and relationship coach David Deida when he describes the differences between masculine and feminine thinking as like being in two completely different universes.

The good news is, for perhaps the first time ever, we can truly begin to understand how females think and the reasons why. We’ve learned to translate certain female thought patterns and actions into something much more comprehensible to the average masculine mind.

I would love to see the topic of Female Neuropsychology taught to men at school! Many marriages would be saved and many couples would be happier. While that’s not likely in the near future, let me try to shed some light on this complex topic for you.

Since the beginning of time, women have tended to be more refined in their understanding of male sexual neuropsychology; they simply needed such skills for physical survival in a world dominated by large, aggressive men. Women are usually completely silent about their deep knowledge of the male psyche and sexuality though. I believe this silence – playing the fool, as it were – is the result of two factors:

• The female need to manipulate the male into a Provider role for reasons of survival; and

• The female need for social acceptance, or “Social Status Preservation” (aka Anti-Slut Defense), whenever female promiscuity is punished. The corollary to Anti-Slut Defense in women is the Madonna/whore Complex in men, which I will discuss at length in a later article.

Chapter I – The Role of Evolution

When it comes to theories about the sexual behavior and choices of women, it’s good to keep in mind that these are theories and not absolute truth.

As Eckhart Tolle says, this knowledge should properly be viewed as signposts along your journey in life, and not necessarily a rigid, dogmatic morality. Theories can be valid and extremely useful in helping us create models of the world.

After having sex with over 100 women as I have, and having had platonic relationships with hundreds more, you can see how patterns of behavior fit together, and how female psychology becomes largely predictable – as Franco my co-author describes it – with mathematical precision!

In the last couple of posts, we have examined the series of events that had to happen both logistically and emotionally in order for an escalation to progress successfully from meet to mate.

We understand that logistical escalation refers to, from a simplified perspective, where to do something, while emotional escalation refers to when to do something.

This information is important to understand, as the majority of time spent during your learning curve when approaching and socializing will be learning when to do (or say) whatever it is you do (or say).

In other words, when you are in an interaction with a woman to whom you are attracted, you will learn, through trial by error, to recognize the signals that she is communicating to you (mostly non-verbally), as to when to ramp up, or slow down your escalation.

Women are all different, so when you are able to recognize the emotions a woman is experiencing, you will be able to connect with her quickly, effectively, and then build upon this connection to guide the interaction to the Optimal / Desired Reality.

A good way of looking at emotions is to view them as filters. These emotional filters are the keys to decoding her communication.

Note from Chase: this is our first article from Joseph W. South, a long-time staple in the seduction and men’s dating advice community who’s been helping men do better with women for quite some time now. Joseph’s in his mid-40s, and has a broad array of experience with women to contribute. He does a thorough job introducing himself in this article, so I’ll let him take it from here. Here’s Joseph.

Hey guys,
Since this is my first article for Girls Chase, I want to take a moment to introduce myself:

I was born in Toronto in 1969, which makes me 45 years old today. By the age of 39, in 2008, I was retired with over a million American dollars in the bank. By late 2012 I had lost every penny of it and I was completely broke and in debt. I’ve been on a steady path of recovery since I hit bottom, and today, my life and prospects have never been better. Going through that experience taught me humility and new wisdom, while also greatly clarifying the wisdom I already had.

I’ll try to add a personal story in every article I write, so you can put my advice into good context.

I discovered “the game” in 2003. Not the book, The Game by Neil Strauss, which was published in 2005, but the actual game of seducing women, having threesomes, hosting parties for hundreds of people, and juggling multiple girlfriends at the same time. I attended bootcamps, seminars, and voraciously read everything I could get my hands on in this genre. I had the privilege of meeting and interacting with many of the characters depicted in Strauss’ book: everything from brief conversations, to bootcamps, to interviews on my podcast, along with some great friendships that endure to this day. In 2007, I collaborated with Franco [editor: Franco of mASF fame, different from our Franco] and David Clare to produce Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man. For the sake of brevity I will refer to the book as “PFP”.

Previously, in “Escalation Series Pt. 1: The Logistical Timeline of Events”, we were able to breakdown and plot the series of logistical events that had to happen in order for the desired reality – consensual physical intimacy – to exist in an interaction that successfully progressed from meet to mate.

We also learned that, just as there were external (for example, logistical) elements that had to occur, there also were internal (read: emotional) elements that were needed in order for an interaction to successfully progress from the approach, throughout numerous moments of posting up and moving together, until eventually, and inevitably, leading to the desired reality of physically bonding together.

In part 2 of this series, to gain a better understanding of how to effectively escalate an interaction from meet to mate, we are going to take a closer look at this process by examining it through the lens of emotions!

Once again, as a bit of a disclaimer, understand that some of this information will seem very abstract, so I will attempt to give concrete examples whenever possible. At the same time, understand that as you gain more experience while internalizing these effective mindsets and behaviors, the information will become clearer and less abstract.

Let’s begin!

Many men seek purity in women. Some men view them as of higher value; as something beautiful. The idea of purity is very important, especially when a man is looking for a long term relationship.

Now, personally I do not care for purity – in fact, purity for me is unattractive in the sense that it is incongruent with sexual liberalism. I enjoy female sexuality; I find it hot, sexy, and mysterious. It gives me so many kicks, you have no idea.

Hi everyone. Today we will get less theoretical and more into practical seduction techniques, as I believe it important to vary the style of my posts.

Today’s topic might seem fancy, but it will cover a problem that seducers of all levels face: that is, female mental state changes (or “mood changes” if you prefer) – a problem that frustrates many of us.

No matter where you are in terms of skill, you have almost definitely on numerous occasions met women who seemed really into you at first but then suddenly turned ice-cold. It’s not uncommon and it happens to all of us.

What shocks me however is how rarely this topic is discussed. So that is why I’ve decided to write a post breaking it down for you.

Our approach today is to first discuss why this happens and then, in the second part, to talk about a few solutions to the problem so you know what to do the next time a girl begins suddenly to turn cold for seemingly no reason.