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Adapting Sex Talk to Lonely, Independent, or Older Women

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By: Alek Rolstad

sex talk for lonely and independent womenMore women today are lonely, isolated, and/or sexually awkward. They long to feel like strong and independent women — & good sex talk can GIVE them this.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

Last week, I discussed social change and how it affects game, particularly my favorite technique of sex talk, although you can use my observations to tweak other forms of game.

Today, the Western world is more sexually liberated, partly due to feminism and the LGBTQ+ movement (who may have moved from older ideals, turning to their own political ideology while maintaining the ideals of openness and tolerance). So, the old gambits that convey a sexually liberated and nonjudgmental attitude toward sex may be less efficient than before. These gambits may still work as the fear of slut-shaming is deeply ingrained in women and society, but the effects may be lower.

It’s true—unless you are dealing with a conservative girl or if she wants others to see her as one. If so, the good old stuff still works like a charm. It’s the same if you live in a more conservative country.

However, I have noticed that it is easier to get more explicit more quickly with today’s more liberal women. That doesn’t mean you should drop your calibration, though. Calibrating in real-time is what truly matters, but generally, you can get more explicit sooner. And the good old explicit sexual prizing gambits conveying that you are a good lover with plenty of sexual experience and knowledge—a man who can give her the sex she rarely gets and badly craves still works.

Due to the modern social climate, the primary issue younger girls face is a lack of sexual confidence and comfort. Gambits focusing on those work like a charm. It is like the new gold.

So, today, I’ll continue discussing social change, concentrating on how this affects modern world sex talk.

As we will see, recent social change has forged paths for new sex talk techniques. Today, we have themes that work better and new themes with great potential.

Women Today Are Less Worried About Being "Sluts", More About Being COMFORTABLE

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modern women aren't afraid of being called sluts; they're afraid of being uncomfortableWomen now are far less worried that men won’t accept their sexuality than they were 10 years ago. Yet what’s still key to them TODAY is sexual COMFORT.

Hey everyone. I hope you are all doing well.

Earlier this year, a forum thread by veteran seducer Skills discussed observations about social changes in 2023. He writes about this annually, summarizing social changes while explaining reasons and providing cues and inputs about calibrating to these changes.

In that post, he mentioned several topics, but one that caught my attention was using sex talk (what Skills refers to as second-generation verbals).

From Skill’s original post:

… Physical game and even to some extent dance floor game are 1000% back, More physicality, more people making out at clubs, more pulls when women [are] out... Physical game is back, last year 2021 coming back, 2022 almost 100% back, 2023 was 1000% back, the use of second gen was pretty much nonexistent last year for most people even in lay reports gone...same with dance floor game back…

It pleases me that physical and dance floor game are returning to pre-COVID levels. I used to be good at it, and I miss it. I have been using it here and there and noticed it is making a slight comeback. Other than occasionally, I don’t intend to return to that game style, but I am pleased to see that physical game is returning.

The second part of his comment may seem less hopeful. I know that Skills refers to sex talk when he mentions “second gen.” His observations are partly correct. I responded to that thread with a more sympathetic answer than what I am about to cover, and most agreed with me in the thread. This is not to say Skills was wrong, but that sex talk needs tweaking.

And that is what I will discuss today.

Wingman Guide, Pt. 7: Examples of Deadly Wingman-Combos

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TEXTWhat’s it look like when two skilled wingmen pick up girls together? Peruse these examples of skilled wingman pickups and get inspired.

Hey guys and welcome back to the final installment in this series on wingmanning.

Across this wingman guide series, I have shared posts on the fundamentals of wingmanning, an A-to-Z guide on wingmanning, from meet to pull, followed by posts about calibration and advanced wingmanning techniques that allow you to deal with trickier situations when out with a wing.

By now, you have more than enough material to have plenty of fun with your wing.

However, you may want to push it further. If you are both skilled seducers and want to perfect your wingman strategy, this post is for you.

Today, I’ll cover different wingman strategies for those with high skills. You have infinite ways to combine the skills of two expert seducers with unique strengths. The examples I’ll share will:

  • Display how combining seduction skills best work
  • Inspire you to “complete” one another

The idea is to provide real-life examples by providing entertaining stories to motivate you to work on and perfect your wingmanning skills.

Wild stories are fun. A wild story with a wing is godlike.

Wingman Guide, Pt. 6: Switching Targets, Alpha Females, & Big Groups

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advanced wingman strategiesIn this advanced wingman strategy guide, you’ll learn how to switch targets with your wingman… how to handle alpha females & big groups… and more.

Hey guys and welcome back.

So far in my now 6-part guide to wingmen, I have covered wingmanning fundamentals. Those posts should be enough to get you and your wing results—lots of results.

You can look at the previous posts as your A-to-Z guide on wingmanning. To review, we’ve covered:

Today, we will step it up a notch and discuss how to deal with trickier wingman situations. This and next week’s posts are for more seasoned seducers and work as an “expansion pack” to my previous posts. The strategies covered below build upon what we’ve discussed, so check out my past five posts on wingmanning. Even if you are a seasoned wingman, you’ll likely find some tips in those posts that you may have missed to benefit your wingmanning game.

Wingman Guide, Pt. 5: Calibrating to Your Wing

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wingman calibrationTo get the most out of picking up girls with a wingman, the wings need to calibrate to each other. That means working together – and balancing each other’s game.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Today, I want to discuss calibration and additional strategies you can pull off with a wing. This post is an expansion to help perfect your wingmanning skills. We will discuss everything from in-set calibration pointers to state control, and decision-making with your wing.

Up to this point in our guide to wingmanning, we’ve covered a lot of information that may seem exhaustive. Remember, a perfect pickup and seduction does not exist. You will rarely use all the material you know and pull it off perfectly. It’s good to know that often you won’t need it.

The goal is to strive for perfection by giving you as many tools in these posts as possible to get the best results, and you can add or subtract tips and techniques depending on how you and your wing work together. Some methods may suit you; some may not. You may need some strategies to solve potential sticking points, and you should focus on applying these depending on your situation.

So, let’s go through some valuable tips and tricks.

Wingman Guide, Pt. 4: Closing Girls w/ a Wing (Doubles)

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closing with a wingmanIt’s time to pull the girls you picked up with a wingman. Follow these battle-tested action plans to get girls out of the venue and alone & back home.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Previously, we have discussed wingmanning rules and strategies suitable for going solo and doing doubles, like split-pushes. This strategy is challenging and may not be ideal for beginners. We’ve also talked about the basics of wingmanning, from opening and hooking with a wingman, plus introducing your wing into the set, to running the set together.

If all goes well and the set is ready to pull, you must know how to manage this successfully. Sometimes, you and your wing may split up with each girl, going your separate ways. When this happens, it becomes a split-push, similar to solo game, which we won’t discuss today.

But often, when you have a set with your wing, you’ll want to take advantage of the double situation. Likely, the girls want to stick together, at least for a while, and you will most usually pull together.

How do you best seal the deal in these double situations? That’s what we will discuss below. You’ll learn how to handle those times when you and your wing are together with your girls until you are all at an afterparty. Sure, you may split up before then, and that’s completely fine. We will assume this does not happen so I can break down everything from meeting (see my last post) until she is in your bed (today’s post).
So, let’s assume:

  • You’ve opened the girls.

  • You and your wing have hooked both girls.

  • You both have an interaction going, and all is going well.

Wingman Guide, Pt. 3: Opening & Hooking Girls w/ a Wing

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opening with a wingmanOpening girls with a wingman (and hooking them) is an art. With this guide, you’ll have the most effective ways to get them roped in and talking.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Previously, we discussed easy-to-pull-off wingman strategies: “split-push,” when you and your wing split and do your thing, not requiring wingmanning techniques like calibration and synergy with your wing. Doing “doubles” when you and your wing actively seek to meet women together, run the same set, and go for one girl from the same group is much harder to pull off than the split-push strategy. We also went over hybrid approaches that use split-push as a starting point, with the possibility of doing doubles later.

In some situations, you need to do a double:

  • Two-sets (hard to deal with solo, especially with isolation)

  • Sets when both you and your wing get a hook

  • Sets where you need assistance (only if your wing is skilled)

Some guys, like me, love doing doubles with a great wing. You get a special ego boost when you and a wing pull your own girl together. The vibe, the talks, and the laughs the next day are priceless. You must experience it to know it.

Today, I will go through basic techniques to use when doing doubles, whether you end up in a hybrid style by chance or actively go for it with your wing. These techniques can increase your chance of succeeding. Note that today’s post serves as a basic guide. I will get into more advanced strategies in a few weeks for more seasoned seducers (or curious beginners).

Wingman Guide, Pt. 2: 3 Potent Wingman Strategies

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wingman strategiesGoing out with a wingman is good. What strategy should you employ while out though? There’s a lot more you can do than just “two guys approaching girls.”

Hey guys, welcome back. Last week, we discussed wingmanning and the basics of choosing a good wingman, which is critical. It can make or break your future interactions. We reviewed key rules to ensure smooth cooperation, which is equally critical whether you are a beginner or a pro; many underestimate this element.

Today, I’ll discuss strategies and give my take on wingmanning. I will start by debunking some misconceptions about winging by pointing out the flawed perspective that wingmanning is about you and a guy hitting on two women in the same group. Wingmanning can be this, but it is so much more. The classic view of wingmanning is the most complicated method to pull off and requires good overall pick up and seduction skills. I may sound slightly negative initially, especially if you are not at the level to pull off the “classic” wingmanning style. However, I will suggest different strategies that are easier to use but not necessarily less efficient, whether you are a pro or a beginner. These are especially convenient if you are a beginner or an intermediate player.

However, if the old school, hardcore style of wingmanning (“doubles”) is your thing, then similar to my previous post, this post is also for you since you will find helpful (and essential) information here. Worry not, I will soon have posts on doing doubles because I love it and have perfected it with my main wings.

Wingman Guide, Pt 1: Intro to Wingmanning – Basic Rules

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wingmanning: introductionA wingman can be a great asset when you go out to meet girls. But the wrong wingman can play saboteur. Follow this guide & these rules to pick a GOOD one.

Hey, guys. In my last few posts on selecting nightlife companions, I’ve discussed going out with others versus going out solo, a subject discussed often. We’ve gone over selecting the number of people to go out with and choosing the right people to tag along with you.

We briefly mentioned wingmanning, and I decided not to delve too far into this discussion then. Those posts covered going out with people who may not desire to cooperate in your women-hunting endeavors because they are not wingmen but cool people who know many others, look good, and can increase your mood and value.

We concluded that it is best to:

  1. Go out solo.

  1. Go out in a larger group.

  1. Avoid going out in groups of three whenever possible.

  1. Avoid going out with one other unless he is your explicit wingman; otherwise, he will be in the way.

So, in this post, we will discuss the basics of wingmanning and the criteria for choosing the right wingmen, then go through different wingmanning rules. In the coming weeks, we will discuss more strategies and techniques to use with your wingman.

The Ideal Male/Female Ratio for Your Going Out Group

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male-female ratio in going-out groupsWhen you go out to nightlife (especially if to pick up girls), you want a good male/female ratio in your group. And the truth is, there IS an ideal ratio!

Hey guys and welcome back.

Today, I will conclude my series on selecting your peers and who to allow in your group when attending social gatherings.

How many people should you head out with? In my first post, we concluded that you should:

  1. Go out solo

  1. Go out with larger groups

Groups of two and three are not ideal, though groups of three are usually okay, and groups of two are good IF and ONLY IF that person is your trusted wing. Going out with a girl (as a pair) is not a good idea. I’ve explained why in previous posts.

Last week, I shared factors to consider when selecting who to go out with. My criteria are:

  • People who know a lot of people
  • Socially savvy people
  • People with an edge
  • People with money
  • People with a good reputation
  • People who look good
  • People who dress well