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Is She Shy or Does She Just Want Attention?

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By: Alek Rolstad

is a girl shy or attention-seeking?It can be tough to determine if a girl is interested but shy… or just wants your attention. Use these telltale clues to figure out which camp she falls in.

Hey guys, welcome back.

(Advanced guys will benefit the most from this post).

Last week I discussed hooking and dealing with positive, neutral, and negative responses to your openers and hook gambits.

I mentioned situations when the girl responds positively, yet not as favorably as you’d like: not positive enough to make you feel comfortable escalating the vibe (touching, sexualizing, etc.).

Perhaps the vibe is great. The girl is smiling, laughing, and displaying many signs of interest, yet you feel stuck and unable to escalate.

She is so hot and cute. You think, “Finally, I am meeting a girl who seems interested!” You want to play it safe and not make a move.

Right off the bat, let me say that this is a terrible strategy.

Remember, any interaction that stagnates and doesn’t move forward will erode. The only exception to this is when the girl is part of your social circle, in love with you, and things will work out anyway. And even then, a stagnating interaction is potentially dangerous.

Consider those typical “all-nighters” with a sweet, compliant girl you believe is genuinely into you. Both of you spend time together, laugh and have fun, only to face major resistance the moment you try to escalate. The best-case scenario: you part ways. The worst-case scenario: some random jerk picks her up.

Never let the interaction stagnate. You have two choices:

  1. If you make a move, things either work out and go uphill or not work out and go downhill.

  1. If you make no move, things will not work out, deteriorate, and go downhill.

Why?

  • She will get bored eventually. Women love the tension and stimulation from interactions when men escalate or attempt to escalate the vibe (assuming they are interested in the guy).

  • If you do not make a move, you disqualify yourself as a confident, sexual man; therefore, she views you as an unsuitable lover. Bad.

  • The frame becomes less sexual as the interaction progresses. But if the frame becomes more sexual, you are less likely to face resistance, including last-minute resistance the moment you try to escalate. The resistance from her cognitive dissonance is caused by experiencing two different perceptions that clash.

So, to calibrate, you need information. When she reacts positively, it’s a reaction you can calibrate to. You can calibrate differently if you receive a negative reaction. If the interaction stagnates, you get no reaction and no information you can calibrate to. You will be in the dark. Not ideal.

You can find more information here: If You're Stuck in a Seduction, Do This.

Let’s say you followed my advice and received a somewhat positive response from a girl (but not as positive as you’d wish, or she is not showing obvious signs of interest). Yet you make a move on her.

But some resistance occurs. Let’s go over four causes of resistance and how to deal with each.

First, a few words about compliance for review.

What to Do When the Girl You Open Is Neutral or Negative

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open a girl who is neutral or negativeIf you open a girl in conversation, but her response is neutral or negative, what then? Follow these steps when you get less-than-stellar responses to your opens.

Hey all. I hope you are doing fine. Today I will resume where we left discussing opening and hooking. Last time I mentioned how some openers contain embedded hooks while others do not and reviewed factors defining whether your opener can lead to a potential hook and when you should focus on hook game.

Today I want to drill down further on opening and hooking. One of my experienced students pointed out that despite his level, there is no such thing as “talking too much about opening and hooking,” and I fully agree.

So, let’s discuss what to do when the hook is absent and the response is negative, neutral, or not as positive as you’d like after you deliver your opener.

The negative response sucks; usually, it’s a rejection, and there’s little confusion about what is happening.

Neutral vibes are confusing. Should you stay, or should you leave? The “not as positive as you’d like” response is likely the worst because you feel a sense of hope, yet the vibe is not positive enough to move, isolate, escalate the vibe, and push the interaction forward. It’s a common situation. You feel that things are working out, the girl seems positive, yet it seems like the interaction is going nowhere. Most men start believing that as long as they keep interacting, sooner rather than later, she will crack, and she just needs more time.

Not so. In those situations, it is better to make a move at the risk of losing the girl than be stuck in an interaction that goes nowhere. So, make that move!

I have more to say but thought it would be better to dedicate a post (next week) because this situation is one many men face, and it is not necessarily all about the hooking phase.

With that said, let’s concentrate on hooking and how to handle positive, neutral, and negative responses.

Hooking a Girl Into Talking with You at the Opener

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openers and hooksStarting a conversation with a girl gets easier when you can hook her right at the opener. Certain openers let you do this… as can sufficient attraction.

Hey guys, welcome back.

Today I’ll discuss a topic that is never over-discussed: hooking.

What is hooking? It is immersing the girl in the interaction. You start as a stranger approaching her and become a guy having a mutual exchange. I wouldn’t say it is “knowing” her, but you are moving closer to that point. You become a cool, interesting, and sexy guy who she is okay talking to, her peers are okay talking to, and who she pays attention to.

A successful hook gives you the feeling of being “in.”

I have written many posts about this subject. Some call it the “transition phase,” the phase after the opener when you move from breaking the ice to having a conversation. I prefer the word hooking.

There are several techniques to help you hook:

The list goes on. You have many options.

How I Seduce Girls Without Sex Talk

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seduce girls without sex talkSex talk isn’t the only way Alek Rolstad seduces girls. Discover his full repertoire for picking up women without using his famed weapon of mass seduction.

Hey guys. I hope you are all doing great.

I was chatting with Chase the other day, discussing future articles. I share article ideas with Chase (he is better suited to tackle some topics since they are within his field of expertise) and other topics I may have more to say about.

And this is great because I am often unaware of what subjects might be interesting, and others can point out areas to discuss that I might not think of.

Here’s what Chase suggested:

It might be interesting to see “Alek’s game if sex talk doesn't take.” If a girl is highly resistant or immune to sex talk, what do you do? Just bail? Run a different type of game? If sex talk doesn't work with her, does that mean she'll be closed to sex with you, or do you need to run things with her differently?

It’s a fascinating subject because, after all these years, people know me as “the sex talk guy,” and rightfully so. I do not mind being known as this guy.

Clearly, after 15 years in this game (this summer, it will be my tenth year at Girls Chase—I started writing after being active in this field for five years), I know a bit more than sex talk. Sure, I have perfected this technique since I am undoubtedly one of the inventors. I did not invent using sexual frames, though; many great seducers have inspired me. They’ve used techniques that helped me build my methods, so my repertoire is vast.

And, if I were to use sex talk in all my interactions and outings, I would be bored to death with seduction. I use sex talk less these days, to the detriment of my success, since I consider it a weapon of mass seduction, a super powerful tool with a high hit rate. In my eyes, it is still my best weapon. But I refrain from using it more often than not because, after all these years, I am a bit bored of it. I want seduction to feel fresh and exciting. The truth is, there is a lot of great and exciting material out there.

Some material is good, some amazing, and some as powerful as my own “sex talk,” even though it will always give me superior results because I’ve mastered sex talk at its highest level.

I like to focus on different material because, to my surprise, I can use other material in combination with sex talk. Imagine adding some push and pull—showing mixed signals between sex talk gambits! It can help you “set the scene” or create the ideal setting for a smooth sex talk game (isolation, a great hook, a good social frame, and high comfort levels).

Ironically, I have become increasingly curious about material other than my own after all these years. The irony lies that I should have been curious and open-minded during my early days, not now. I would have gained far more from it back then! But I was too obsessed with sexual frames then, and the desire to create my individual style, so that I would shed away tons of great material would have worked better in many settings than my sex talk, for example, in loud clubs.

From the two previous posts discussing my earlier and recent inspirations, you can likely tell I possess a massive repertoire. Sometimes I like to switch back and forth between various methods. Some are better suited for specific settings (loud clubs, small clubs, big clubs) and others for certain dynamics (all interactions are different, and some benefit more from different approaches).

Some nights, I attempted to get girls by using pure Mystery Method, demonstrating social value and following the M3 model. (If you are not familiar with the Mystery Method, familiarize yourself with it!) However, this was more for giggles, but I made it work. For fun, I have tried using the good old-school Speed Seduction style, also for giggles, and I made this work, too.

However, I use certain styles in combination with my typical sex talk style, and I will describe those below.

Influences on My Seduction Style, Pt. 2: Later Inspirations

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Alek Rolstad's later seduction influencesAs Alek Rolstad has progressed as a seducer, he’s continued to incorporate facets of other seducer’s concepts and material. See his later influences here.

Hey guys, welcome back.

Today is part two of my posts on my inspirations. Last week I covered my early inspirations, and today I will discuss my later inspirations.

After nearly 15 years in this field, I have seen it all, including most material. I rarely discover anything new. Sometimes I stumble upon an old post that I missed back in the day or revisit an old post and read it from a more mature and experienced point of view.

So even if I say later inspirations, they are still from my formative years. So, last week’s post covered my earliest inspirations from 2007 to about 2009, and my later inspirations are from 2009 until 2011.

Even if the seducers and methods mentioned here and my last post served as early inspirations, it does not mean that I received what I needed, never to return to it again—I constantly revisit this material.

In 2018, almost ten years after being introduced to Mystery Method, I returned to it, and read it differently. Not only did I understand the concepts better and how they apply in-field, but I saw the method in a new light, emphasizing techniques I had discarded or neglected (often unwillingly) then. Some examples: qualification, body rocking, and locking-in. If you are familiar with Mystery Method (and you should be!), these are not the first techniques that come to mind; it is usually “negs” (backhanded compliments), DHV-Routines (demonstrating high value), and opinion openers. I don’t use those. Unlike what many believe, they do not make up the core of the Mystery Method.

The same can be said for real-world seduction by Swinggcat. I revisited it not long ago. I grasped this method very well, and my interpretation was pretty accurate even back in the day. One can add much fine-tuning to real-world seduction, such as different timings and contextual factors, enhancing the method’s effects. And this is how I used it.

PS: everything will be enhanced if you time the material well. Timing is everything.

Of course, I have revisited the material and methods discussed here often. Some have inspired me in my later days (even recently). Worry not; I will let you know when that is the case.

Influences on My Seduction Style, Pt. 1: Early Inspirations

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seduction inspirationsAlek Rolstad details the early influences on his style of game. Which seducers had the biggest impact on him? See which styles inspired his seductions.

Hey guys, welcome back.

Today I want to talk about my early inspirations and the people who inspired me that formed the foundation of my game. Next week I will discuss my later inspirations.

I’ve developed my own style, honed from creating many techniques, including sex talk. I‘ve developed strategies and concepts like FSC (female state control) and more.

But I have been influenced by other great seducers. Some have inspired me to create my own stuff, others have provided the basis for my material, and some have offered techniques and theories that help my game even today.

I will list my main inspirations from my earlier days, adding what they have contributed to my game. I will critically discuss each contribution by pointing out the flaws in each method (my personal opinions) and how I counteracted these to help my game.

So let’s begin with my first love.

Picking Up Women in After-Hours Venues

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picking up women in after-hours venuesThe regular nightlife’s over, but the after-hours venues are still on. How do you pick up women from these places – and not risk late-night rejections?

Hey guys and welcome back.

In my last article, I gave an overview of after-hours venues.

These venues remain open after the general nightlife closes. They are the clubs that people go to if they want to party more. They usually attract more of the power-going crowd, like ravers and clubbers. Those may make up half the crowd. The rest will be regular people who have no idea how they got there.

I recommended opting for gay-friendly after-hours places or straight-friendly gay places. They tend to have the most girls with less male competition (most men there are gay).

Gay-friendly after-hours places are not unusual because those places are known as party scenes, and nobody parties harder, longer, and more seriously than gay people. They will readily go to the after-hours venues. Most after-hours venues that are good have a gay clientele.

Those that don’t tend to be sausage fests with primarily straight men.

You may see more men, but most don’t “count” because they are gay. This is even more so in gay venues open to straight people. Even more interesting is that gay and gay-friendly venues often have more girls than those that do not attract the gay crowd.

And no, they are not lesbians.

What Makes a Good After-Hours "Pick Up Girls" Spot

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after-hours pick up girlsWhat makes an after-hours venue good to pick up women is not just that it’s open after hours. Some after-hour clubs are awful. Yet some can be gold mines.

Hi all. I hope you are all doing great.

Today I want to discuss a topic that hasn’t been discussed yet on the site—how to pick up in after-hour venues.

The truth is, picking up girls in these venues is not the same as picking up girls in “normal hours” venues. You should consider many factors and calibrate depending on the venue type.

After-hour venues are unique with their own vibe, rules, and universe, whereas regular clubs are open during hours when people usually party. But after-hours venues are open when people typically leave for home or start heading to work around 8 am. I know of a place that closes at around 11 am! When you exit the club at closing time, it is daytime, and you may see families out and about, and you are dressed flashy and all looking like a mess. Good times.

And yes, it is possible to pull even at that hour! I will get into why shortly. I have taken girls home at 10 or 11 am! I cannot guarantee they will always be the best regarding looks or personality. At that later hour, these women are usually “damaged goods.” Be warned.

We have a lot to discuss. First, let’s look at social dynamics to understand each venue type. Next week, we break down a potential game plan.

Do Drugs Help You Pick Up Girls?

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drugs and picking up girlsDrugs are becoming increasingly popular in today’s nightlife scene. But if you’re on the prowl to pick up girls, are drugs a help – or a hindrance?

Hey guys. I hope you are all doing well.

Today I want to discuss a sensitive topic: drugs and seduction. William Gupta, one of our writers, addressed this topic a while back The Truth About Taking Drugs and Hooking Up with Women. I decided to give my take.

Why this post? I am a night gamer, and it is no secret that the nightlife has more drug consumption than elsewhere else. However, be aware that high drug consumption does not define all venues. This past weekend, I went to a club filled with students. Drug consumption was low. Compare this to a music venue (house music clubs and raves are known for high consumptions of MDMA and Ecstasy) or a high-end club (cocaine), and you will notice they are worlds apart.

Honestly, I prefer venues where drug consumption is low. It is easier to run game. MDMA makes everyone behave weirdly, and running good game becomes challenging. Cocaine turns people into loud jerks: girls are bitchier; men are loud and annoying. Drug consumption is a huge problem in my book.

I felt the need to write this post because I’ve noticed that the threshold to try out and take drugs is lower these days. When I started out clubbing around 2010, you seldom saw much drug use in clubs, and if it took place, it wasn’t that visible.

I have noticed that drug use has normalized in the last few years. Seeing lines of cocaine is usual. Lines of 3mmc (a cheaper substitute to cocaine) is not out of the ordinary, and MDMA use at a venue with great music? Well, obviously, you must do that! Who can have fun without it?

I can’t go to ANY venues without girls and guys asking me if I have any or know anyone selling. I know club owners who are frustrated with all the drug sales and usage in clubs. They get in serious trouble if the authorities find out that their venue is a junkie fest or if anything bad happens due to drugs, including rape, overdose, and even death—the latter happened in Paris clubs a few years ago.

I’ve been clubbing for a while and have tried different drugs. I will only talk about drugs common in clubs and those I’ve tried.

I will discuss my experience with them in the context of seduction. However, I will not discuss the following:

  • The dangers of drugs; they are well known. Most are illegal and made in shady labs. You do not know about composition and manufacture. Being a questionable business, they often cut the drugs with dangerous stuff.

  • The illegality of drugs: you commit a legal risk by carrying, offering, and taking drugs. I will not discuss this element.

  • The cost of drugs. Yes, they are expensive.

  • Getting busted taking drugs in a venue. Bouncers will kick you out (rightfully so), and you will be banned from the venue.

These factors are real. You should consider each in your assessment.

  • I will also not discuss alcohol and pick up as I have covered this in a two-part series.

When discussing these drugs, I do so objectively given my experience and avoid moralizing, or at least I’ll try. I think all drugs circulating in clubs lately are annoying and kill the party. At the end of the day, it is your body and your choice.

Here are my experiences with each drug.

Tips to Pick Up Girls in Venues with Bad Male-Female Ratios

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pick up girls despite a bad sex ratioFound yourself in a venue where the male-female ratio is no good? Too many hot dogs, not enough buns? Here’s how to pick up girls there anyway.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week I discussed the men-to-women ratio when you are out, how it affects the social dynamics, and the difficulty level you will face, thus, your results.

Dealing with an unfavorable male-to-female ratio (more men than women), whether at a party, club, or social gathering, will always make pickup and seduction MUCH harder for you. It is unbelievable how much effect this has, and odd why it is talked about so little. I know Chase has discussed it from a different, broader perspective before.

A bad ratio can redefine your night and make it more challenging because:

  • You face more male competition (women will raise their standards).

  • All men are valued less (a high supply with a low demand will lower the value of ALL the demand).

  • Women have a stronger frame because they are in a position of power. This means more testing, jealousy plots, and other annoying hoops to get through.

  • Women will turn into attention-seekers because men lose their value.

  • If you manage to hook, you have more men constantly bothering you.

Yes, a bad ratio is a significant factor.

Last week we discussed how too many girls can be problematic because of the pendulum effect: girls will eventually get bored and leave, turning the tides in your disfavor.

The IDEAL ratio is when the ratio is balanced, preferably with a bit more girls, 55/45 or even 60/40. Beyond that, the pendulum will swing in the wrong direction. For more info on this, check out my previous post.

So today, I will discuss how to deal with a bad ratio. We will cover how you should approach bad ratio nights and how to do damage control, but first, we need to discuss preventive measures.