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Chase's 14 Basic Approaching Rules for Pickup Newbies

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By: Chase Amante

man feeling anxious about approaching woman on the streetWhen you’re new to approaching women, it can be tough to know which girls to meet. Use these 14 basic approaching rules to know when to go in and what to do.

The other day I wrote an article with a few rules on how to start doing day game.

It was clear from the reactions that there are newer guys who struggle with some of the most basic rules around approaching. I haven’t really gone into a lot of these before because:

  • I just figured these rules out naturally as I approached and I find guys who are doing the fieldwork tend to figure them out naturally too, and

  • These rules can be bent or broken as you get more experienced, so why write a list of rules that are only worth sticking to for new guys? I don’t want to give guys more rules that become constraints later on

But it occurs to me now that guys who are pretty new maybe want some constraints to better focus their approaching to get more from it coming out of the gates.

In the past I’ve talked a fair bit about having an overall process for approaching, such as in my article on how to approach a girl… but I haven’t really talked about some of the most basic rules of beginner-level approach targeting.

So I’ve conjured up the most basic approaching rules I could… and I’ve assembled together a list of 14 basic approaching maxims I recommend pickup newbies to follow.

Nightlife Staff: Least Important to Most Important

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By: Alek Rolstad

TEXTSome nightlife staff are more worth knowing than others. So who do you really need to know? The DJ? Bartender? Promoter? The right connections make nightlife much easier…

Hey guys and welcome back.

Last week, I discussed how to deal with meat markets, and the week before, I went over how non-selective meat markets compare to selective, higher-end venues.

It would have been natural to follow up on how to pick up in higher-end venues since this would be a good contrast to how it works in typical meat markets.

But today’s post is not about that for a couple of reasons:

  • What is the point in discussing those venues if most of you are unable to get into them?

  • Getting in, as well as “gaming” in those venues involves social circle game. You need to know some staff or key contacts to get in. Knowing these people will greatly assist you.

Therefore, I decided to write two posts before getting to my “how to pick up in high-end venues” guide. First, I’ll cover dealing with venue staff, and next, how to get into these selective places.

Today, let’s review how to deal with the venue’s staff. Whom should you befriend? How do you befriend them?

This post will not cover much revolutionary information, but it will contain many tips you can implement today.

The list below ranks venue staff from least important to most important.

How to Start Doing Day Game & Meet Girls by Day

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TEXTNew to day game? It may seem scary to begin. All those girls rushing around during day… And no natural, unawkward way to meet them! Fortunately, it’s easier to begin than it seems…

We’re just about to rerelease our killer day game course “Meet Girls Everywhere” (or MGE), with expert day game coach Hector Castillo. MGE’s an awesome training course you’re sure to love if you’re at all interested in meeting girls by day.

Today I figured I’d talk a little about first starting day game, because it’s one of the common hurdles guys new to day game face: “How do I begin doing day game?”

Going to parties or nightlife is one thing. You’ll have anxiety around approaching there, but pound back a few brewskis or get your wingman to cheer you on or pull you into one of his sets and before you know it you’re talking to girls.

Day game is different. There’s no social atmosphere there. Women aren’t standing around waiting for an approach. Many of them are busy, many are distracted, and few are expecting to talk to someone. It can feel ‘wrong’ striking up a conversation with a stranger… isn’t doing so intrusive? Aren’t you supposed to not talk to strangers? You’re supposed to go to special walled environments like bars to do that, not outside in the open air!

It's a little silly when you think about it, because for millions of years of hominid evolution, we sure didn’t have rules of “you cannot talk to women outside of walled edifices serving fermented hops.” For one, we didn’t have walls… For another, we also did not have barrels of fermented anything, let alone ice cubes and little umbrellas to stick in them.

Getting started with day game is thus a bit like becoming an evolutionary throwback… One leaves aside the polite rules and unspoken strictures of modern society, and becomes a little bit of a caveman roaming the streets 10,000 years into the future.

VIDEO: How to Pull Off Same-Day Day Game Lays

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The rerelease of our vaunted day game course Meet Girls Everywhere is just around the corner (it rereleases this Saturday).

Yet before it premieres, we’ve got one more video to show you… on pulling off same-day lays.

A same-day lay is any pickup where you first meet the girl and sleep with her on the same day.

This is a little more “order of the day” in night game, where one-night stands are common, alcohol abounds, and many women present are there specifically to meet a man to go home with.

Choose Your Romantic Strategy: Alpha, Friend, or Outsider

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By: Chase Amante

romantic strategiesFriend, high status male, or outsider: every man must choose one of three romantic strategies to follow. The choice he makes determines the game he runs and the girls he gets.

As I read the fascinating book The Mating Mind by Geoffrey Miller, I continue to have nice highlights and wonderful little insights.

(previous installment: “Males of Every Species Must Learn Game to Mate”)

My latest highlight comes from this passage by Miller, discussing scientific research into primate (including human) mate selection preferences:

Three kinds of female preference have been reported in primates: preferences for high-ranking males capable of protecting females and offspring from other males; preferences for male “friends” that have groomed the female a lot and have been kind to her offspring; and preferences for new males from outside the group, perhaps to avoid genetic inbreeding.

And it’s a good insight and lets us split up the three different types of men women go for and the different ways they get together with those men. We have of course:

  • High status “alpha male” type partners

  • Kindly “friend zone” type partners

  • Outsider “sigma male” type partners

Anyone advising any man on dating will have his preferences about which of these romantic strategies he recommends as the ideal path to follow… but it will always be one of these three.

Today I’d like to have a balanced look at the differences between these three kinds of men a woman will date.

Picking Up Girls In Meet Markets

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By: Alek Rolstad

woman looking over her shoulder and smiling in nightclubMeet markets can seem like appealing places to head to to pick up girls. But how do you up your odds here without relying just on luck?

July was an amazing month in Paris. Tons of tourists merging with the Parisian local population generated an amazing nightlife.

After the COVID lockdowns, I am finally settled in this beautiful city and have access to great venues.

One is David Lynch’s club, Silencio, one of Europe’s, if not the world’s most exclusive and hard to get into places: amazing crowd, crazy hot girls, and good venue logistics. I’ve been there three times and pulled twice, which is a good score for any venue.

I frequent selective clubs, which usually have pickers selecting the crowd. I prefer these venues to the typical “meet markets” because they have a higher concentration of hot girls plus a good women-to-men ratio—very beneficial. They typically have better in-venue logistics than meet markets, which often consist of one big room, much noise, and chaos, although there are exceptions.

VIDEO: Switching to Picking Up Girls BY DAY (from Night Game)

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We’re just a week away from rereleasing Hector Castillo’s groundbreaking day game training “Meet Girls Everywhere”… this time even more good stuff.

Something a lot of guys struggle with when new to day game is making the switch from picking up girls at night to picking them up during the day.

Nightlife has its own benefits and its own challenges. Yet stylistically it’s different from day game. If you try running day game exactly the same way you run night game, you’ll flop.

Negative Social Proof: 9 Anti-Social Signals NOT to Send

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woman rejecting a man at a bar, giving him negative social proofWhen you go out, look lonely, and pile up obvious rejections, people notice, especially in social places. What can you do to avoid this ‘negative social proof’ while out?

You’re likely familiar with the concept of ‘social proof’.

Social proof is the principle whereby people like, trust, and feel more comfortable with people and choices that are already approved (proofed) by others (social).

Social proof is a useful advantage to have. While the concept can seem a little abstract, its real world results can be vast. Good social proof can lead to:

  • Much warmer receptions from those you approach

  • More ‘slack’ cut for you in your interactions

As good as social proof can be, it’s a double-edged sword, yet its other edge is little discussed: the woman-repulsing bane of negative social proof.

WATCH: Make Day Game Efficient (& Get More Girls for Your Time)

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Are you ready to unlock unlimited romantic possibilities and begin bringing the types of women you want into your life?

As we approach the rerelease of our trajectory-altering day game course “Meet Girls Everywhere”, we’re putting out a series of free videos with some of Hector Castillo’s day game tips.

 You can watch Hector’s first video, on making your day game EFFICIENT, here: