Hi guys,
I'm new here, and this is my first post, but something that recently happened to me made me want to post this first.
So a week ago I was out with some buddies drinking hard, and we ran into a huge group of women also drinking way too much. I was chatting with most of the ladies trying to become a better conversationalist using the blog posts I've read from Chase (just bought the book today, plan on reading it tonight and tomorrow; I've read tons of the blog posts over 2012). Anyway, all of the ladies were giving me just yes/no responses. It was getting kind of frustrating because I couldn't figure out how to deep dive properly with such cold responses. However, the one lesbian in the group was chatting me up a mile-a-minute. Because I was drunk, I decided whatever and went for the kiss. We ended up making out without any hesitation from her, and afterwards she initiated us swapping numbers. We both had to part ways though because of our friends.
Naturally, I thought this was a fluke, but then later that night and all this week she's been texting me. I've purposely been trying to keep the texting short after reading the blogs, but I couldn't help try and build a tiny bit of rapport (I know this is a cardinal sin!).
For back story, I have never kissed a lesbian; this was the first and only time. In fact, whenever someone has told me they are a lesbian, I immediately try to turn flirtation down low. I imagine lesbians get tired of guys hitting on them, and I want to respect that. Also, I have been best friends with a couple of lesbians (long-time partners) for a few years now, and they have always told me that even lesbians like to "bone" occasionally. For me, that never made sense, and I just wrote it off. Surely a woman would say "bisexual" instead of "lesbian."
However, just a couple days ago, I read https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-first-date-sex-girls-every-date, and the part about women using emotion but dressed with logic lit a light bulb in my head. If a woman has sex with mostly women (but still has sex with men), then they probably still consider themselves a lesbian. It's kind of like if for the most part you are good (haven't killed someone, stolen, etc.). So if someone asks you "are you a good person?", you would probably say "yes" assuming that people just know that you have done bad things. Women perhaps just assume you understand what they mean by "lesbian" based on society, vocal tone, facial expressions, etc. I don't know, maybe I'm just rambling here.
Anyway, she has been texting me, but the texts feel like "buddy" texts to me, not texts coming from an interested girl. There have only been a few "suggestive" texts. It's not a big deal to me if this goes somewhere or not, but I'm wondering what advice you guys have for lesbians if any? I've never seen a blog post about it (or I missed it). Should I try to meet her one-on-one (like after work) before the group thing tomorrow night? What do you suggest I try tomorrow night? Do you think it's possible for me to go in for the kiss again?
Thanks!
I'm new here, and this is my first post, but something that recently happened to me made me want to post this first.
So a week ago I was out with some buddies drinking hard, and we ran into a huge group of women also drinking way too much. I was chatting with most of the ladies trying to become a better conversationalist using the blog posts I've read from Chase (just bought the book today, plan on reading it tonight and tomorrow; I've read tons of the blog posts over 2012). Anyway, all of the ladies were giving me just yes/no responses. It was getting kind of frustrating because I couldn't figure out how to deep dive properly with such cold responses. However, the one lesbian in the group was chatting me up a mile-a-minute. Because I was drunk, I decided whatever and went for the kiss. We ended up making out without any hesitation from her, and afterwards she initiated us swapping numbers. We both had to part ways though because of our friends.
Naturally, I thought this was a fluke, but then later that night and all this week she's been texting me. I've purposely been trying to keep the texting short after reading the blogs, but I couldn't help try and build a tiny bit of rapport (I know this is a cardinal sin!).
For back story, I have never kissed a lesbian; this was the first and only time. In fact, whenever someone has told me they are a lesbian, I immediately try to turn flirtation down low. I imagine lesbians get tired of guys hitting on them, and I want to respect that. Also, I have been best friends with a couple of lesbians (long-time partners) for a few years now, and they have always told me that even lesbians like to "bone" occasionally. For me, that never made sense, and I just wrote it off. Surely a woman would say "bisexual" instead of "lesbian."
However, just a couple days ago, I read https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-first-date-sex-girls-every-date, and the part about women using emotion but dressed with logic lit a light bulb in my head. If a woman has sex with mostly women (but still has sex with men), then they probably still consider themselves a lesbian. It's kind of like if for the most part you are good (haven't killed someone, stolen, etc.). So if someone asks you "are you a good person?", you would probably say "yes" assuming that people just know that you have done bad things. Women perhaps just assume you understand what they mean by "lesbian" based on society, vocal tone, facial expressions, etc. I don't know, maybe I'm just rambling here.
Anyway, she has been texting me, but the texts feel like "buddy" texts to me, not texts coming from an interested girl. There have only been a few "suggestive" texts. It's not a big deal to me if this goes somewhere or not, but I'm wondering what advice you guys have for lesbians if any? I've never seen a blog post about it (or I missed it). Should I try to meet her one-on-one (like after work) before the group thing tomorrow night? What do you suggest I try tomorrow night? Do you think it's possible for me to go in for the kiss again?
Thanks!