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How to Dress Case Studies, Pt. 3: Tall and Artistic

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By: Darius Bright

It's time for our last article in the “How to Dress Case Studies” series. Just in case you are just tuning in, you can find Part 1 and 2 right here:

For our last case study, I wanted to pick someone taller in height, since elongating the frame has been a big focus point in our first two articles. This time, we’ll let our subject do that on his own.

An interesting fact about T – our case study for this article – is a few years ago he was one of my first consultation clients and, as you’ll see in just a moment, he’s already rocking an exceptional style and gets the flattering feedback that is expected when you’re doing a great job with your image.

This also means that even though I’ll cover the basics throughout this article to make it helpful for guys who are just starting to improve their fashion game, a major focus throughout this case study is going to be tackling tougher issues, such as how to approach your image to get the maximum advantage.

We’ll also get a bit pedantic with the little details. It might feel like overkill for some, but once the fundamentals are covered, being mindful about these little details leads to disproportionately big results.

One last thing that makes this case study fascinating is that we’ll discuss how we can – and whether we should – adjust our image over time as our goals and priorities start to change.

With that said, let’s meet T.

Tactics Tuesdays: Where to Post Up in Bars or Clubs

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By: Chase Amante

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Guys often post up in all the wrong places when they hit the club. This is the guide to posting up right: all the best spots to nail down in clubs.

If you pick up girls in bars and clubs, one of the issues you will soon run into is where to post up inside these venues. You’re not going to be walking around non-stop for four hours straight, for instance. And you likely won’t meet your girl for the night soon after you enter the venue, and grab a seat with her, then leave. It happens sometimes, but usually you’ll be there for a while.

Thus comes the strategic consideration of where to post up. Where are you going to position yourself when you aren’t circulating through the crowd or chatting up a girl?

This sounds like a minor point. Just pick anywhere to hang at for a while, right?

Yet if you’ve spent any amount of time in bars, lounges, or nightclubs, you’ve already seen many a ‘bachelor’s row’: that long line of lonely men, standing alone or in pairs or trios, shoulder to shoulder, clutching their drinks and watching the crowd. Finding the right spot to post up at is not something that comes natural to most men.

If you don’t want exile in bachelor’s row (and you definitely don’t want exile in bachelor’s row), you’ll need to pick better post-up spots to bide your time at.

The Tao of Seduction

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By: Michael Chief

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Tao is the Eastern philosophy of emptying one’s cup. It has a lot to teach about seduction… Namely, about domination of seduction, vs. submission to it.

Editor’s Note: this is our first post from Michael Chief, a long-time veteran of the seduction community. Michael kicks off today with an inner game focus, about the Tao of seduction. Please let us know if you enjoy inner game oriented articles like this in the comments below the article, and if so we’ll try to do more of them. –CA

Every seducer worth his mettle knows that great Casanova quote: “I don’t conquer, I submit.”

We know that the true power of seduction is to submit to the higher power of nature within us as opposed to trying to control nature with our own will. But that somehow paradoxically gives us greater seductive abilities, or so it seems.

Seduction is full of paradoxes like this, such as the ever-famous paradox of desire: the more we want something, the more difficult it is to obtain, and the less we want something, the easier it is to obtain. In pick-up, we translate this to mean that neediness is unattractive and that women are more attracted to us when we practice non-attachment and are genuinely not needy.

While such paradoxes can often prove to be challenging to understand, let alone understandable enough for us to use them to guide our lives, there is an ancient philosophy that gives us a tool to help us in our quest to become the best seducers and lovers we can possibly be.

That ancient philosophy is called Taoism, and the tool is called Wu Wei.

Why It's a Bad Idea to Take Your Girlfriend to Nightclubs

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By: Chase Amante

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It’s fun to take your girlfriend to the club. Yet, the negatives (guys hitting on her, her becoming a clubber, unfavorable comparisons) aren’t zero.

There’s a habit among guys who like to frequent nightclubs.

And in fact, sometimes it catches on among guys who aren’t normal nightclub patrons too.

That’s the habit of regularly taking one’s girlfriend out to the club.

It’s a strange phenomenon, when you think about it. Nightclubs are primarily places for single people to go dance, talk, and hook up. They’re sexually charged environments that serve as platforms for mate selection and mate competition. Why would an attached man bring his girlfriend here?

A variety of justifications exist for taking a girlfriend to a nightclub:

  • To inject excitement into the relationship
  • To provide cover for your own clubbing without her
  • To demonstrate how secure you feel in the relationship
  • Because you think she wants or needs this
  • Because you work in a nightclub

This article applies to parties too, to a lesser extent. It’ll apply to lounges, and some dance and popular bars as well, though not as much to dive bars that are more laid back and aren’t meet markets. Anywhere you take a girl with drinking and people hitting on each other a lot falls under the purview of this article, in essence.

If it’s a place people aren’t as sexy and no one’s flirting with or hitting on anyone else, you can safely leave it out of consideration for the purposes of this article.

So today, I’m going to talk to you about why taking your girlfriend to meet markets is bad and why you shouldn’t do it. Or at least, I’m going to give you the downsides to be aware of – that way, should you choose to take girls to these places anyway, you know the risks going in.

Advanced Ways to Touch Her on Dates and Pickups

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By: Alek Rolstad

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Mutual escalation, 2-steps-forward-1-step-back, and fractionated escalation: all ways to use touch that drive her absolutely wild.

Last time we discussed some basics of escalation from a practical perspective: how to touch, how to calibrate, and how to smoothly follow a ladder – basically Touching 101.

In case you are just tuning in, here are the first two installments in this how to touch series:

  1. Why Touch is Vital to Girls and Dating
  2. Calibrating Touch to the Girl You're With

Today we go deeper, and I will share a few more advanced escalation techniques so that you can increase your effectiveness.

Some techniques here are more advanced than those covered in my previous posts, but still not too hard to pull off. So, this post is a good fit for basically anyone, no matter what your current level is.

This post will function as a toolbox for efficient techniques that will push your escalation to a whole new level. Enjoy.

Without further ado, let’s get right into it.

Online Pick-Up: The Full 2017 Guide to Getting Dates Online

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By: Davi Diluna

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Picking up girls online works different from meeting them in real life. From how you frame yourself to when to seed the date, it’s another game.

If you’ve been reading Girls Chase for a while, you’ll have noticed a lot of articles by Chase and other contributors talking about online pick-up: message writing, Facebook pick-up, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, and broad online dating related topics such as profile pictures and other details.

However, every day we see new websites, dating apps, and new social networking apps; we also see old apps/websites getting new features. All this impacts online pick-up, and sometimes it’s hard to adapt in stride with the growth of these platforms. Luckily, even though the tech evolution has changed the medium of dating, the principles of seduction remain the same!

In this article, using an extremely pragmatic approach, I’m going to cover what it means to use online pick-up. We’ll go over some basic concepts that don’t change over time. Then we’ll analyze four guidelines that you should always keep in mind during your online approaches and see how we can adapt this to the tech evolution.

To tie it all together, we’ll show you how to formulate a proper process for your online pickup.

Finally, I’ll share a word about the worthiness of doing online approaches, even if I end up writing a whole article about the relationship between the seducer’s role and technology.

Let’s get to it, shall we?

7 Reasons People Will Try to Tool You

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By: Chase Amante

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People will tool you for a variety of reasons. You don’t belong, you’re a soft target, you’re a threat to a member... and other excuses.

"Hey dude, nice hair! Did you cut that yourself? Ha ha ha!"

"Hey man, can you move over? You're taking up too much room."

"Excuse me bro, but your girl is seriously cute. How long have you known each other?"

Whether it's in the schoolyard, the nightclub, the public bus, or the office, other people trying to tool you is a mondo bother. Your threat radar should have perked up going through those lines above. They state a guy's intentions to rain on your parade... And whether you see him as a threat or not, you're going to have to deal with him one way or another.

Now, note right up front: this article is not about HOW to handle threats like this; for that, see the articles below. In these, I've given you a full complement of tools to dispose of challengers like this in a split:

Rather, what this article is about is what causes challengers like this to swarm over to you.

What incites them to veer off of whatever it is they were doing, and come approach you... Whether to feel you out, test you for weakness, or even launch a full on social or romantic assault against you.

Because once you identify the primary reasons other people try to tool you, you may then take steps to avoid the need to even deal with these disruptions in the first place.

So, I present to you the seven (7) reasons people will try to tool you... And what steps to take to discourage them from trying.

In we go.

Tactics Tuesdays: 2 Techniques that Let You Read Minds

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By: Denton Fisher

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What if you could read a girl’s mind? It’s possible to get inside anyone’s head – but you’ve got to know the techniques.

It is uncanny how some people seem unnaturally good at getting into your head. They can understand your needs and wants. Know when you are feeling a certain way. And do it as if they possess a weird sixth sense that lends a window into your mind.

Sometimes it makes you wonder if these people are born with a special ability.

But, as cool as that sounds, I do not believe in ESP.

What these so-called mind readers are incorporating – either consciously or subconsciously – is a set of techniques that allow them that extra edge. What are these techniques, and how can you master them?

Through my adolescent years I was caught in a social fog, unable to read people or their feelings, let alone their thoughts. I struggled and grasped at seemingly nothing, trying to find a firm hold on what was going on around me. Interactions with my peers seemed to buzz by me in a flurry, and I just could not keep up no matter how hard I tried.

People utterly baffled me. After several years, amazing mentorships, and loads of experience, I can say now that I am no longer that confused kid. Now a veteran seductionist, I am in the top percentile of social acuity. But it is not because I was born this way. It is because of the tricks and interactions I have accumulated in my five plus years picking up women.

With this learned knowledge and skill, I can cold read someone with 85-90 percent accuracy using what I am about to teach you.

You and Your Game Attract a Certain Kind of Girl

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By: Chase Amante

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You attract the women you’ve tailored yourself to attract. But that’s not all: the women you do well with tailor you further still.

I’ve talked about this over the years in various articles. However, it’s worth giving its own proper treatment, if only to make sure everyone who reads here gets this message.

There are some girls who are going to like you more. Some girls who will like you a lot more. And there are some girls who are going to be less excited by you.

Who these girls are is determined by two (2) things:

  1. You (and your fundamentals), and
  2. Your game

If you’re great with athletic girls who love the outdoors, for instance, you’ll tend to struggle a lot more with bookworm girls who are well-read and love to bury their noses in tomes. If you do awesome with alternative-scene girls from electronic dance clubs, you’ll usually struggle more with flashy, aloof girls at high-end nightclubs.

The better you are with one demographic of girls (i.e., the more you specialize), the worse you will tend to do with other, dissimilar demographics to her. Great fundamentals and game will take the edge off specialization (so the penalties for specializing are not as severe), but it never goes away completely.

Why should this be so?

I’m going to take you through the ‘why’s. Then, I’m going to help you decide what to specialize in... and whether to resist too much specialization and be a generalist instead.

5 Things Every Guy Should Do Before Inviting a Girl Over to His Place

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By: Guest Contributor

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It’s the end of the date and she’s come back to yours. How do you up the odds she ends up in bed, and not leaving early?

It’s the end of the date, and things seem to be going well.

You made all the right moves, she laughed at all your jokes, the night is winding down, and she hasn’t checked her phone once (OK, maybe once when you went to the bathroom).

You knew this moment was coming… and now is the time.

“Hey... you said you like white wine, right? I have a bottle back at my place. Want to come over for a glass or two?”

You hold your breath… and she says yes. “Score!!!” you think, giving yourself a pat on the back.

Walking up to your door, she’s giving you all the right signs. Her eyes are lit up and she can’t stop smiling at you.

But when you walk inside and sit down on the couch… things seem to cool off a bit. She’s a little icier – somehow more distant.

After about 20 minutes of small talk (and half a glass of white wine), out of nowhere she looks at her phone and says, “Oh crap, I forgot I have to wake up REALLY early tomorrow... maybe we can do this another time?”

Has this ever happened to you? Well, you’re not the only one.

So, why do women do this? If the date is going so well, why would she get so icy when things are supposed to be heating up? Even if there’s plenty of attraction, emotional connection, and things have escalated physically, a dwelling in disarray can really throw a woman off kilter!

Today, I’m going to show you why what you have in your home can help you avoid hearing the words “I forgot I have to wake up early” ever again.