Articles by Alek Rolstad | Girls Chase

Articles by Alek Rolstad

Calibrate to the Venue: The 3 Styles of Night Game

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Different types of nightlife venues require you to switch up how you approach new girls. The social, sniper, and fire-at-will strategies all work best in different settings.

Today’s subject is something I have been thinking about a great deal lately, something I have noticed that has had a great impact on the way I do things. I have been travelling a lot this summer – ranging from Stockholm, Oslo, Bucharest, to Krakow. As a result of these travels, I had to deal with different cultures, girls, and social codes. But what is of more interest is how I had to deal with new clubs.

A very common tendency for us night gamers is that we find a few spots we happen to truly like, then we refer to those as pussy goldmines. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this in regards to the actual “getting laid” process, but it can limit your learning curve. Being able to deal with different venues is key, and you learn a lot from it. This posts is about those lessons.

Before I move on, I want to make it clear that there are no perfect venues – all venues have their “shit factor”, but some venues are simply easier and better than others. I have written numerous posts on the subject before. I suggest you check out these links as well:

This post is more about how one can calibrate to different venues. Yes, different venues can require a whole different approach. I have discussed this before regarding big vs. small venues and chaotic vs. more chilled venues, and I concluded that chaotic venues will affect a girl’s state, which may make her horny from the get-go, but they can also cockblock you as a result of the many wildcards caused by the chaos. I have also mentioned how big, chaotic venues can make girls more defensive. You there have to either:

On a side note, smaller, more chill venues allow for a tighter form of game. Girls are more open as they are more in control over the situation; they can see where their friends are and do not have to be afraid of losing them. They also feel their friends are nearby and within their periphery, which creates a form of control. Additionally, as a result of being more relaxed and less chaotic, there are fewer wildcards. This allows you to go in more smoothly. Going in smooth is not something you CAN do, it’s something you MUST do, because as a result of people being more aware of their surroundings, a rejection can lead to negative social proof, as people can see you strike out. On a different side note, successful approaches can create a snowball effect.

Keep all this in mind throughout this post, as it will be key info for what is to come. I believe there are 3 different ways to approach night game:

  • Social game

  • Sniping

  • Fire-at-will

Different venues will allow for different modes. I will break each of these down, discussing what they mean, then cover which types of venues fit for each strategy.

What Energy to Approach Girls with (High or Low?)

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The energy you approach a new girl with can make the difference between acceptance and rejection. So should you go in high energy or low?

Hey, guys. Today we will discuss more practical stuff that can have a tremendous effect on your game and your overall interactions with women. Many guys believe that the difference between a good seducer and a bad one is some magical technique – well, usually it is not. The devil is in the details – and the small subtleties.

That is what this post (and last week’s post about using pauses) will help you with. This post focuses more on calibration. Good seducers are smooth and tight, intermediates are less so, and beginners, well, you get the idea.

So this post is about calibration, focusing on the nature and level of “high energy” you should employ when approaching girls. This is a topic with a lot of misleading – and often contradictory – information. Some claim you have to be high energy; others claim low energy is better. They are both right and wrong at the same time – it depends on the context. Either way, this post will cover the pros and cons of each approach and give you guidelines on how to make the tightest approaches.

The following 3 factors build the foundation for calibrating your energy level for an approach:

  • The social setting

  • The girl(s)

  • The phase of the interaction

Let’s begin by discussing the crucial aspects of the social setting.

The Conversation Pause as a Mighty Tool of Seduction

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A pause in conversation is a simple tool to use. But don’t let its simplicity fool you: it is a potent tactic in your seduction arsenal.

Greetings, good people!

Since I am travelling, I will make this a quick one. I will cover just one simple piece of advice that will have a tremendous effect on your interactions. Please guys, do not make the mistake of believing that simple tools cannot be powerful. This is a simple one, but it’s so powerful. This is one of the small details that usually sets great seducers apart from intermediates – they apply pauses in their interactions.

We have many readers here on Girls Chase who have different desires and different goals regarding pickup; some want to do night game, some prefer day game, and others like to work through their social circles. Sometimes, you’ll get advice that applies only to some types of game; however, what I will be discussing here is valuable for all interactions. It doesn’t matter what type of game you prefer, adding pauses to your interactions will simply make ANYTHING you say more powerful.

We will cover the basics first, then I will move into a short, advanced section. By the end, you will hopefully understand why pauses are so powerful and get a grasp on how to use them to deadly effect.

Social Proof in Nightclubs: Jumps, Momentum, and Girl Circles

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Social proof is an exceptional tool to use in nightclubs, but it can be tricky. With jumps, momentum, and girl circles, you’ll woo women in no time.

After discussing some recent changes in night game over the last couple weeks (how nightlife has changed: part 1, part 2), I have decided to make another night game post. I am trying to inject some variation in my posts, providing a mix of analysis and techniques. I’ve posted a few cool routines and gambits lately, and today I will discuss more general strategies.

(And guys, do not hesitate to give me feedback and let me know what types of posts you prefer to read)

The idea of this post is to break down the idea that there is such a thing as night game. Well, yes, there is such a thing; it is all about meeting women at night, sure, but there are many VERY different night game methods and strategies you can employ to reach your goals.

Now, besides the obvious aspects, we need to consider the demographics of clubs, as in:

  • Ratio: how many men vs. women there are in the club – a larger ratio of men requires a more passive and safe approach, as more men will be hitting on the girls, which results in those girls turning up their defenses)

  • The type of people frequenting the club (the stereotype) – subcultures have different codes to which you must calibrate (think of an indie club vs. a hip hop club)

But the layout of different venues – how they’re built – allows for totally different strategies. Additionally, you can also pick up girls outside the clubs! Our dear Chase Amante has long been a fan of that!

There are many ways to approach night game, and some venues allow for certain strategies that others don’t. Some allow for multiple strategies.

Let us discuss one of the many ways you can approach the nightlife besides the typical “run in cold” and hook. Basically, that’s what I usually do; I go into a club, see a girl, try to trigger an approach invitation, and go straight for it, delivering my best game in order to hopefully get laid. Here I present a different way of doing it.

How Nightlife Has Changed, Part 2: Good and Bad Changes

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The nightlife scene has changed. But it hasn’t necessarily gotten harder to sleep with women at night… It’s only gotten different.

Last week, I shared a post about how the nightlife has changed in most of the Western world (can’t say too much about the world outside of that, as I have not visited it lately). I explained how girls are dropping the club as a hook-up spot for quick sexual satisfaction, and heading for Tinder, an app that allows them to do their business in more or less total secrecy.

For finding quick and available dick, girls have found an alternative to going out – so when you see girls out these days, it’s probably not because they’re hunting dick. Those were the freebies back in the day – girls you would spot (if she didn’t spot you first) who seemed to be available for quick, NSA penetration. They’d sometimes even open you and touch you in provocative ways, or seem very sexually available from get-go. Those were the freebies, and now they are gone from the clubs, only to be found on Tinder.

The nightlife has therefore changed – typical meat market places have died off (they have become sausage fests), and all the girls there have turned into purely status hunters, going out only to have fun, meet “cool” people, and get male attention to validate themselves. Now, this is not necessarily a bad thing, as pointed out, because this means all the girls are more or less stuck at the same places, and the girls in those places are hot. Only these days do I seem to find venues packed with only hot women – those did not truly exist back in the day (except super high-end, invite-only clubs).

But apart from this small positive aspect, my previous post seemed a bit negative, and things were presented as rather pessimistic. Are things really so hopeless these days? Is there any hope for aspiring night-gamers? I would say so.

However, before I get to my reasoning, I think that men these days have a tendency to cry and make excuses and blame external factors for their lack of success instead of trying to figure out how to solve their problems. The nightlife has changed, but in my humble opinion, it hasn’t become that much harder, overall – it has just changed. Some elements have become harder; others have become… easier… way easier. Don’t blame the changes for your lack of success; focus on how to change things up to match the changing environment.

How Nightlife Has Changed, Part 1: 2009 to 2017

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Nightlife is not the same as it used to be… the font of easy lays has dried up. But there’s a silver lining to this, and it’s not as bad as you think.

Alright guys, after going kind of overkill with my technical posts these last weeks, I have decided to make a theoretical post.

Even though I believe it is key to put a lot of emphasis on technical stuff, as it is most crucial when it comes down to getting direct results (i.e., getting laid), one should not disregard theory, which can give us deeper insights into our field of battle.

This post will be another of my sociological observations of the meat market. The purpose here is to give you an idea of the status quo regarding the dynamic in nightclubs. Things have indeed changed in the last 10 years. I started reading about seduction and joined the old mASF forums 10 years ago (which is where I first encountered our dear Chase). I was very young, so I did not go out clubbing right away. But two years later, I started clubbing, which gives me 8 years of clubbing experience – and I have gone out almost every weekend, with the intention of meeting women.

And I can tell you this: things have changed. This post will cover the changes of which I speak – and their causes. We will also discuss the pros and cons of the changes and see whether things have become more difficult. A new generation is taking over the night life, and they’re having an impact on the dynamic.

Either way, enough fluff – shall we begin?

The Mirror

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With the Mirror Gambit, you hold a mirror up to a woman’s sexual side... and suck her into her sexual self.

Previously, we discussed how pacing can help you crack her shield and build rapport and connection while positioning yourself as an authority figure in her reality – a guy who truly understands what it’s like to be her. The idea with pacing a girl’s reality is that it becomes much easier to lead her in the direction you desire – to bed.

This is what one refers to as pacing and leading. We covered pacing in the previous post, so now you guys may be asking: how about leading? What does “leading” really mean in this context? Leading is basically anything that can lead her from point A (where she is currently) to Z (where you want her), physically or emotionally. In other words, leading can involve isolation, extraction, verbal escalation (sex talk), non-verbal escalation (eye contact, touching), etc.

Basically, once you have paced her, she will be softened up and open for you to take the lead – which is the second step.

Today I want to show you a way to use pacing and leading – with the most focus on pacing, because I find that to be the most interesting aspect here (there are many existing posts on “leading” material, and at the end of the day, physical escalation remains one of the most powerful “leading” tools in seduction).

So, like my previous posts, I will here share a gambit you can use in your seductions or as inspiration to create something of your own. It can, like always, help you see how you can construct some juicy material. As usual, this gambit will be filled with other goodies that will have an impact on the receiver – and of course we will break it all down.

This routine/gambit comes up in my Night Game podcast with Varoon Rajah when I share one of my adventures. So check that podcast out if you want to see this exact gambit being used (and how I followed up) and get some ideas of the context in which you can use it.

Instantly Connect with Women You Meet via the Use of Pacing

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A true observation about a woman immediately makes her feel like you’re on her wavelength. Use these truisms to disarm and connect with her.

Hey guys, and welcome back. So after having written 3 very practical articles, sharing some more or less advanced techniques – the last post being particularly advanced – I decided to give you something that can benefit everyone, including fresher players.

That said, the technique I am about to share, although simpler, is still very powerful (things do not always have to be super hard and complex to work like a charm). I am sure many intermediate and advanced players will enjoy this post and benefit from it.

The topic of today is about pacing – pacing HER ongoing reality. Now, what does that mean? Pacing is all about displaying an understanding of how it feels to be in her shoes, in her world, in her body.

Allow me to demonstrate with an example (more examples to come).

Alek: You know… (pause) … there is… something I find extremely fascinating.

Her: And what is that?

Alek: What it must feel like to be out here, surrounded by weird, creepy men, almost to the point of losing all hope of finally finding someone (point to self) who can take you on that adventure that rocks your world.

Her: True.

Alek: And yet here you are, still hoping for that one chance in a million that you will finally get to experience those adventures you truly seek.

The previous example may be a bit advanced, I agree, but do not worry – here is a simpler example:

Alek: I do find it interesting how the mere fact that standing here with that goofy yet tasty cocktail in your hand must feel classy in a way, and that every sip of that cocktail reminds you of good times – of leisure and freedom.

Her: -What-ever-

Now, in that example, I did not assume too many things, but I used a lot truisms, such as her holding a drink, enjoying freedom and leisure (club bars are known to provide those experiences). How can she really disagree with me?

I will give you more examples in a bit, but let us break this down.

How to Use "Weasel Words" to Implant Ideas in Her Head

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How do you make a woman feel what you want her to feel? One way is with weasel words – phrases you slip into speech designed to elicit specific emotions.

Hey guys, and welcome back. Previously, I shared a sex-talk routine based on orgasm control. We discussed the underlying mechanism that made it work, the particular aspect of sexual prizing, and how the gambit I presented helped us generate that form of attraction.

Today, we will discuss the different verbal tools that I used to spice up the whole gambit and make it sound more exciting, all while stimulating her emotionally (even further). Many of these techniques will be covered here. This post basically covers all the “spices” of the gambit, whereas the previous post covered the “meat” itself.

Before you read this post, grab yourself a cup of tea or coffee – because you better be awake.

All of the material below is just icing on the cake, really. It is for you who want to take things to the next level. We will cover a bunch of concepts from neuro-semantics and even hypnosis. You have been warned.

Talk About Orgasm Control, and Turn Her On

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Just met her in the bar, and want a fun way to take things sexual fast? Break out the orgasm control routine – and watch her get hot in a hurry.

I’ve decided to write a follow-up to my tantric sex gambit. The idea behind that post was to not only give you a powerful gambit to play around with, but also give myself an opportunity to share the principles behind it, so you can learn from them. In other words, those principles serve as examples of how certain concepts can be used.

In the previous post, we discussed how the tantric sex gambit would:

  • Display sexual prizing – by showing your knowledge related to sex and framing you as a good lover

  • Introduce the topic of sex in a low-key, not overly-explicit way – tantric sex is hot, but it’s not very explicit. We also discussed how using a proxy could allow us to introduce the topic with more ease (e.g., “I read somewhere that…”)

  • Force some touching (and eye contact) – when doing that quick demo, you hold hands and face each other, looking each other in the eyes

  • Provide an easy way to get her entranced – by breathing together

  • Incorporate other minor stuff, too – rich descriptions, commands, and so on

This time around, we will focus on more explicit material and communicating even more sexual prizing – how to talk about sex and really communicate that you know your shit. So this time, our focus will be:

  • Sexual prizing (again)

  • Making her horny by being more explicit

  • Contrasting – to set us apart from other men and other people, framing ourselves as sexually superior

  • How to use fractionation to create anticipation and amplify everything

  • Using more amplifying language (e.g., “more and more”)

These things can all seem very difficult to grasp by simply reading about the gambit. There is so much to remember, and if you are not used to using advanced verbals, this can seem overly confusing. However, my experience tells me that once you see it exemplified in light of the explanations, it should make more sense. So we will exemplify things before discussing the concepts used.

Remember, practice makes champions, but the first try may be a bit off (I highly doubt you will experience any major side-effects from doing this wrong). With practice, you should improve your flow and experience these awesome techniques at full power.

But again, I will not lie, this post is made for intermediate to advanced players. Feel free to read it if you are a beginner, but do not expect to get too far with this stuff right away unless you have your fundamentals in check (at least) and preferably have some experience with women. Either way, let us get on with this technique.