Your and Her Expectations in Dating and Seduction
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from Chase: Richard is one of
our more active members
right now on the Girls Chase discussion boards.
He recently put a post up on expectations that was quite good, and a
number of other members of the boards suggested he submit this to the
article side of the site - and I agreed. If you like Richard's writing
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I give you Richard.
Men new to seduction will frequently fall short of their expectations of what is to come, at first anyway. Chase touched on this concept in his article on lowering your standards. Now, aspiring ladies' men often create, or set very high, expectations for themselves early. Goals like "nail a perfect 10 early on", or "only approach perfect women" (or seemingly perfect, anyway). Most guys hear about the prospects of pick up, hear about the glory, the stories, the seduction of pick up, and hear about how it easy it can be, and immediately set high expectations.
Rather than propel them to the
vaunted halls of legendary success in their dating lives, though, these
early unrealistic standards can hem in and hobble them.
I fell to this tendency and could not have even begun to have told you about how crippling this truly is until today, now that I’ve moved past it and understand the inner workings of this twisted phenomenon, but that’ll come later.
When you set high expectations for yourself early on without having the proper skill to acquire them, as you start to fall short of your goals, depression sets in, and, oftentimes, you start to work on approaching girls and working to improve with women less and less, and may even quit altogether... like a couple of people I know have.
The remedy for this though, is to step-stone your way up to your expectations. Create smaller goals for yourself, and work your way up that ladder. If you want to nail a 10! Start with 5s, then 6s, then 7s, and so and so forth.
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