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How to Build a Harem, Pt 8: Non-Monogamy and Revolving Doors

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non-monogamy and revolving doors
Non-monogamy can make a woman feel trapped, but if she’s free to sleep with other men and exit the relationship with your blessing, you’re more likely to keep her around.

One of the more peculiar aspects of this non-monogamy relationship style is that you allow your women to sleep with and date other men. You will also have that ability – to sleep with as many women as you want – with your girlfriend’s full consent (but lack of knowledge about the other women).

We are talking about an implicit, non-monogamous, multiple-partner structure here. The main difference between this system and one-sided or implicit monogamy is that you allow your partners to pursue relationships with other partners as well.

With implicit monogamy, the guy forbids his girl to sleep with other men, while he sleeps with other women freely. This always sounds great to guys – needy, possessive alphas push for this the most – but women fear it and feel trapped in such setups. The implicit non-monogamous system grants women more security and freedom.

We’re going to talk about the implications of this because they are quite extensive in terms of how they impact your dating life in the system. All these concepts tie back into everything else we have discussed so far in the Harem series.

Varoon RajahAbout the Author: Varoon Rajah

A New York City native, Varoon’s studied under many of the seduction industry’s leading instructors. His specialty is direct day game, where he meets girls on the street, on the subway, and in coffee shops. Varoon is the host for the Girls Chase Podcast, available on iTunes or via SoundCloud.



Runnings's picture

Varoon this is super interesting! I try to adopt these concepts to my own situation. There seem to be some tradeoffs we can't escape completely.

It's always about ballancing variables. Abundance prevents you from dry streaks. On the other hand you have to invest a lot of energy into the maintenance of the system, that gets more complex with every new women involved.

A strong sexual drive needs to be met, despite the risks of STDs and the dangers from interacting with other people. I don't skip oral sex. A skin disease like Papilloma has the potential to drop ones obvious marketvalue significantly, for a long time. And has tough moral implications for future unprotected sex.

For me personally I consider to go with monogamy for practical purposes and energy management, at least for a while. But I intend to have these concepts at the back of my mind. My game and state constancy are strong enough to not suffer too much in a breakup. And I plan my financial abundance and security with the woman leaving at any point in mind.

Women enjoying nonmonogamy for not being trapped fits with my experiences too. Great food for thought! 


Damien1's picture

Hey Varoon,

Very nice article! Implementing some of it and it works great. You are saying that when a girl leaves your system you keep in touch with her but at the same time you say that you should not contact her for 6 months. So by keeping in touch  you mean only responding? Would be great if you could clarify!



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