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how to ask a girl out

Every guy's beaten himself up over how to ask out a girl he likes.

She's there, she looks great, you want to ask her out... so bad... but you just can't form the words. Or maybe even approach her in the first place.

Making the ask, as hard as it seems now, is, in fact, remarkably easy to do once you have a few simple tools to do it...

However, you can spend endless amounts of time stressed out over it when you don't.

So let's give you some AWESOME tips to making asking girls out SIMPLE.

Before we get to tips, a quick story.

When I was 14 years old, I asked a girl out for the first time.

I walked up to her in front of the whole school (her name was Sarah), and flat out asked her to go to the school dance at the end of the year with me.

She was the prettiest, most popular girl in school (not to mention head cheerleader), and she'd flirted with me and chased me hard for a year.

In fact, she'd asked me out about 6 months earlier (but I was too scared to say "yes")!

Yet by the time I finally asked her out, she'd given up on me -- the window had passed, and so had my shot with Sarah.

At the time I didn't know you only had a certain window of time to ask a girl out in... though I guessed something like that might be the case.

I soon found out it definitely was.

You only have a certain window of time to ask out a girl you like. Miss that window, and your chance with her drops to almost zero.

As you could've guess, Sarah said "no" to me, albeit in a very gracious way.

She told me she wanted "to be friends first", which I knew meant we weren't going to the dance together.

I never got a date with Sarah.

However, in the many years after, I eventually asked hundreds of girls out on dates. Some said no... but many more said yes.

And along the way, I've learned a thing or two about how to ask a girl out and get that "yes."

I've planned to write on how to ask girls out for a while now. However, a reader just wrote in asking about asking girls out specifically -- so, it's time to cover it. Our reader says:

“Man chase I really have been in a funk lately. I'm back in school and I feel like a social retard now lol! I need some advice, I really need help with asking girls out on dates and what that actually looks like you know? I'm reading your articles and a lot of it is making sense but closing the deal and getting dates is weird for me. I guess I really haven't actually asked a girl out on a proper date before my last GF I got with because I was able to escalate things with her fast.”

To answer our reader's question, I've put together this guide to asking women out.

This guide will teach you -- emphatically, unequivocally, and without fluff, huff, or pomp of any kind -- how to ask a girl out... and always (or almost always, anyway!) get a "yes."

Comments

Sam's picture

first off, i liked the article and it was extremely helpful.

situation:
i want to ask my best friend on a date. we are in college and live in the same building. i have social anxiety disorder and for the past 3 months, i have been trying to ask her out. youd think we were twins because we act almost exactly alike. we're both really nice, funny, a little shy, but like to do the same things. a lot of people thought we would make a cute couple. problem, i cant because i get too nervous. right before im about to do it, i get nervous and flake out.

problem:
im nervous. also, im not sure if she likes me. i mean we kind of flirt, but i dont know. i havent asked out a girl before partially because im nervous, but also because it has never been that important to me.

questions:
-i dont know what to say either. people say "just ask her out", but what exactly do i say? people say to do that, but dont be upfront about it.
-if i ask her to go/do/eat somewhere, is it an implied date? i mean people say if i ask just her, it is, but how do i give her the impression at least that its a date?
-lastly, im nice and people (especially my girls friends) tell me how nice i am. and girls like nice guys. since she is my best friend, how likely do you think she will say "yes" if i do ask her out?

sorry for the length, but to anyone who answers, thanks in advance!

Joshua Thompson 's picture

Hi, there is a girl that I've been chatting to recently and I really like her and really want to ask her out. However, it's hard to find time alone to ask because she's surrounded by her friends that don't really like me that much. Plus some other 'popular' guys hang around with her and they don't like anybody of my current social standing. How do I get her alone and what do I do when I do? Cheers

Anonymous's picture

What do you do if she agrees to a date but something comes up and cancels on the day of the date

Anonymous's picture

I really like two girls in my class but i dont know how they feel about me. I often catch them looking at me and smiling. But whenever someone talks to them about who they like, they quickly say no one and change the subject.

Does this mean they like me or do they truely not like anyone?

Mark's picture

so i met this girl (we are both 20) in my class along with a group of a few others. we have had several study sessions or times where we would meet up at the local Denny's to grab some food and study/do homework. (twice it was just me, her, and her (woman) friend) we ended up not even studying, we were talking and laughing the whole time and i could tell that i made her laugh a lot. then she vaguely mentioned something about a guy that liked her (without mentioning any negative/positive feelings towards him). she keeps eye contact with me whenever she talks to me. not if she's interested in me or if she is just treating me as if i was only a friend. I want to ask her out soon because i dont want that other guy to ask her first and get a "yes".

N4mel355's picture

I'm a mid twenties male who has pretty much no experience with relationships or picking up woman because for the last ten years I suffered from severe social anxiety and depression and am an uber science nerd. I finally confronted those and dealt with those so in the last year have become much more confident and social and also started doing some light weights at the gym. All of a sudden I have been noticing female that are flirting with me. I'm average looking and have always been fit but in the past I have been too retarded to understand female body language and signs indicating interest.

However, recently there is this girl at the University I study at that seems to be very interested in me.

Tell tale signs have been excessive hair flicking when we talk, glancing at me every couple of minutes in our classes or any time were in a room (we sit on opposite side of a table less than a meter apart so I am fairly confident she is looking at me), she flat out asked me what my "relationship status" is and when was the last time I had sex, and revealed to me that the last time she had sex was in September (not to sure If I should believe that though). I don't know her that well so the question was kind of surprising, I simply answered "I'm single'" and "over a year ago", respectively.

She is an attractive woman with an interesting personality and I automatically assumed that she was out of my league so have shown no interest in her till now so I don't really want to stuff this up. I am not too sure what my next move should be. I am assuming that I should ask her out for beer or coffee? I'm don't have a clue what too do as I have only ever been on a date once (didn't even now it was a date at the time).

I need some advise, should I ask her out the next time I see her, or should I indicate my own interest in her first and see where it goes from there?

Anonymous john's picture

but, she is almost always around a friend who does not like me 2 much.what sould i do?

Anonymous's picture

I met a girl at my work. I found her interested in me. We talked a bit and she was fun sending me text etc. Then I asked her out she said in 2 weeks. But during those 2 weeks I realised but strange things as she does not answer my texts or anything.

Sometime I dont even I have time to talk to her. Maybe she felt I am ignoring her or dont giving her enough attention. But what ever happens I don't do it intuitionally its just the surrounding I feel awkward.

Now I,m not sure if she is still interested in going out with. Or she lost interest. I really liked her but now really confused don't know what I should do.

Any help. Thanks

Anonymous's picture

I just met this girl on a group date a couple days ago.... We were making jokes getting each other laughing.....Later that same day all of us went to go see a movie... and ofcourse i sat next to her.....Halfway through the movie i reached over and held her hand....She didnt move...So this is a good sign...The problem is i Dont quite know how to ask this girl out...
Also great post chase it had a lot of good tips and tricks :)

Anonymous's picture

Hi Chase,

I have just read a few of your articles and already I have been learning plenty of useful information and I thank you for that.

Now I have an issue. So there's this girl that I know, I don't know her more than that, but a year or two ago we met and we kinda had this "connection", but nothing happened due to my failure to read signals. So after that moment we kind of lost touch until recently.

Last week she posted on my Facebook wall saying she missed me. So I didn't do anything of it at first but then she messaged me online and we talked a bit. She told me right of the bat, that she broke up with her boyfriend for whatever reason in a happy tone. So I asked her about it (not in detail of course just the general idea of it) and teased her a bit saying that "on the bright side she was single now ;)" and the convo kept going until she logged off a bit later without saying anything.

So this week I asked her to meet up so we could catch up and she said she would love too, but now my only issue is; how do i make my intentions clear. I don't want to end up in the freind zone. I want to make it clear that I'm interested in her and not just being a friend. Do I just use the deep dive method and flirt with her? I was just wondering if you could give me a few pointers.

Anonymous's picture

Hey,

This is a long story, but I'm in serious neeed of advice.
About two years ago I met a girl at a seminar, it's safe to say that it was love at first sight (for me), she had a boyfriend, who happened to be a friend of mine (not close, but still friends). So I obviously decided not to make a move, after the seminar was over we didn't keep in touch, though we had each other on facebook. A year later she broke up with her boyfriend and he moved to another city.
One day, I went out with a girl (another girl, lets call her B), while we were talking she mentioned the first girl (The one I liked) and how they were friends, this made me remember how much I liked her the first time, so as soon as I got home I decided to text her, she was a bit surprised about my message, but she's a very cool girl, we started talking A LOT, but everything was via text message, this was in April of 2011, at the time both of us were very busy and nothing happened, she got transfered for 6 months (June-December) to Switzerland, while she was over there we continued to text each other.
She came back in January 2012, we continued to text (I know it's lame that all we did was text), I asked her out a couple of times, and both of the times she said NO, she even said to me that she wanted me to meet all of her friends, that maybe I'd hit it off with one, I got mad at this because I thought she was just playing me, so I stoped talking to her for a while.
Eventually we started texting again, only this time it got more intense, we staretd talking about more serious stuff, she even beggan to call me on the phone to ask me questions, to ask for job advice and a lot of other stuff. I finally got the courage and invited her yet again, this time to a wedding, this time she said yes, we went ant actually had a great time, he didn't dance a whole lot, her dress was a bit uncomfortable (it was too long and everyone kept stepping on it, she looked smoking hot btw), but while we werent dancing we stayed at the table just the two of us, we talked and talked and talked, she told me everything about her family, I told her everything about mine. The wedding finished and I took her home.
Next day she texts me that she had a great time, I told her that me too, that we should do something again soon. She said, "sure, we'll talk".
I don't know how to ask her out again, I'm a bit nervous and self conscious that she'll say no, I mean I have this memory that we had so much fun at the wedding and I don't want that to go away. I have this feeling that I want to talk to her all the time, I want her to talk to me about what she does, how was her day, I want to be with her every moment that we can, but I don't want to seem too intense, and scare her off. Should I play it cool and keep my distance? Should I text her sometime this week? Call her? Ask her out? What should I do.
As long as I'm getting it all out there, I should probably tell you that even though I think she had a great time with me at the wedding, and that she likes talking to me, and asking me things, something tells me that either she's not that into me, or she's just more distant than I am (I am a hopless romantic), so it would be safe to asume, that she doesn't want a real relationship with me (I DONT KNOW THIS), but I wish she did.

Anonymous's picture

hey man, it's easy for me to get women and all but when i saw this girl, it's like i dont even know how to ask her on a date. it's been a week since i have seen her and i still dont have her number ( i didnt even ask yet). she told me where she lived (oddly enough lol) but it was when we started talking for the first time. i was going to ask her on a date today but when she walked in the break room, i just could'nt get up the guts to do it. So instead of asking her i just had a short convo with her, made her laugh, and i went home. Do you think i still have a chance? and if so, what do you suggest i do? i really need your help on this one man.

ajbatman07's picture

there is this girl i really like we don't talk much since she is around friends alot and class. i want to be her friend and then hopefully boyfriend but can you help me with that.is there any hope for me and her?ty

Ashley's picture

I read your article because I'm really shy and I have always had a hard time asking girls out. I've had two girlfriends and both of them just kinda happened. I was wondering if you had any advice on a girl hitting on a girl, like things i should say, how i should act since I think it's a little bit different for guys wanting to date a girl instead of a girl wanting a girl. So, you have any advice? How i could maybe attract lesbian or bi girls? I'm bi, but just wanting to date girls kus the guys i've dated have been D%#ks >.> So any advice? If anyone has any?

Anonymous's picture

theres a girl i like and i think I'm ready to pluck up courage and ask her out.However her best friend is always with her and i don't want to make a fool of myself what should i do.Thank you for any help.

Sir Ryan's picture

So I asked this girl out about a week ago and she said she would think about it. Then today we were texting and she told me that she didnt want to rush into things but that she really likes me and asked if I would wait for her. I asked "wait till when" and she hasnt replied. Btw she is a good christian girl who has never had a boyfriend and I'm almost 3 years older then her. Does anyone have a thought about what she is thinking?

bill preston's picture

Okay so after reading a couple of articles here I finally figured out a way to ask out this girl out that I have had a thing for for a couple of months now.
In the past there was always small talk but I always had to keep it short due to the customers in line at the bank that she works at.I always make eye contact with her and would always smile during the chats and a couple of times I would notice that there was no ring on any of her fingers. So I made it a point to go in in the middle of a work week so it wouldn't be busy and after the transaction I smiled at her and confidently said
" I know that I am taking a huge risk here,and I am trying to do this without sounding like a creepy customer. but I have wanted to ask you out for a couple of weeks now and I was just wondering if I could ask you out sometime?"
she kinda blushed and made the typical aww sound then very very quietly (in almost a whisper which I could barely hear ) she said that she had a boyfriend, Then while she was still blushing she purked up and in a normal voice said "but you're okay" then she shot a smile back at me and repeated "you're okay" before I left the counter I wished her a good week then I had to leave.
When I got home that night just out of curiosity I looked up how long the average relationship lasted (some said 3-9 months others said 2-3 years)
The problem is that I am only in this particular bank about 2 times a month but at least now she knows that I like her and I am always clean cut and well shaved when I go in there ( thanks partly to my job.)

I have liked her for a couple of months now and there really isn't anyone else lined up,
should I stay the course and continue to attempt to sweep her off her feet the 2 times a month I am in there, not knowing what the status of her relationship is or how long it has been going on for, and figuring that most guys cheat when the relationship sours or peaks.
any advice or ways to really sweep her off her feet?

Anonymous's picture

Thank you soooooo much!!! She did say no :( but like you said I'll keep trying (rinse and try again :)

Anonymous's picture

The post that you wrote was wonderful espically when you said(do not wait for the right time to come because there might not be one. Well i just so happend to do that and at the end of the school year i wasnt so happy about what i did. I had a crush on one of the most beautiful girls i've ever seen her name was nina and i had the biggest crush on her and the only thing that was keeping me from asking her was of course she was way to pretty and popular. The first thing that popped in my head was wow man i would love to go with her but she's wayyy out of my league but after the months went by i started to become friends with her, but to shorten the story i ended up doing something so stupid(I showed her to my friend) and after while they started talking to each other but she never liked him, so then it became a competiton between me and him. Every single day i would try to prep myself up to ask her out but i NEVER did because (i was trying to wait for the right time). I dont know if she flirted with me are she was just being friendly(pushing,bumping,smiling,telling me to ask her before she changes her mind.) she also would give me a big grin whenever i turned my head are made a crazy remark. Does she like me are not. Sorry for the big comment but i really like this girl and now i cant see her ever because im going to a different school next year

Walter's picture

There's this girl I really like, Rachel, and she's sort of a redneck-fun-and-exiting-and-most-likely-seductive kind of girl, but I spend all of my time either on the computer or inside doing something else. But I do have lots of free time. How do I fix this barrier of interests? And by the way, me and her are both 12 in middle school, so we most probably can not do any cafe. Probably a park, though. But I want it to be even more private than the park, if you know what I mean. *raises and lowers eyebrows in quick succession*
How do I ask her out at school more privately? Every time I see her, there's always people around. I've tried to hang out with her, but my douchebag friend Ethan keeps barging in on our conversations. When we're alone, and talking, she always keeps eye contact with me at about half a foot away. This makes me slightly nervous. I've been recently writing a song for her, but I never have the time or place or situation to sing it to her. We've flirted by notes, joking around about accidents we've had and one time even sex. She kissed me on the cheek once, but has never ever asked me out or shown that she truly loves me. Can you please help me find a better place, time, and way to speak to her about my feelings for her?

Eric's picture

Hey Chase! Thanks for all the advice. There is this girl that is one year older than me (I'm a soon-to-be sophomore) and I believe that she likes me. She is shy and her and her friend were looking at me a couple days ago and I smiled at them (kinda like a "Ooh!! She is checking me out!" kinda smile, if you catch my drift). After reading this page, I think I'll actually grow a pair and ask her for ice cream (and we've known each other for quite a while and our backyards connect), and kinda show her that I like her, too. I might try that tomorrow and I was going to go to her house and ask her. If she says no, I'll brush it off. Buuutttt if she says yes, then I'll still act cool and stuff. Please reply ASAP. Well, again, thanks for the advice! Bonne chance à moi et vous, aussi!

-Eric-

Mark's picture

What if you ask her to go somewhere with her (a local cafe for me) and she says "sure, with who." what do u do. this meaning if she thinks u mean with a group of friends as a friendly thing what do i do plz help??

Anonymous's picture

Could you tell if she was saying it jokingly? If not she's either plating hard to get or sadly, may not be interested.

Anonymous's picture

Ok so my conversation went something like this:

[high note point in conversation]

Me: hey so i dont know what your plans are next weekend but i was thinking we could meet up and do something at some point. What do you think?

Her: it's quite possible.....but i never make plans until a day or two before lol. I'm terrible like that

Background: She has said that we should definitely meet up a few times when I have suggested it in the general sense

So do you think this is this her way of saying "maybe" ie "not gonna happen" or is this her way of saying "give me a call closer to the date"? Should I be persistent?

Connor's picture

Me and this girl are like best friends ever and i really like her. We always talk and i make her lol. How do i over come my shyness and ask her out.

Anonymous's picture

Alright, so theres this girl i like. we like to play card games and just that, but ive never been to her house, and she's never been to mine. shes 2 years older than me. and one day, out of the blue, her brother asked if we were dating. i said "no" and she just didnt say anything. What the frack was that all about?!

James Madero's picture

Hey Chase,
I really like this girl at my school right and she leans on me, hugs me and said she was my best friend and all that stuff, but she told me that she likes another guy and that she doesn't like me? Do I still have a chance?
Please reply, James Madero

Anonymous's picture

What if the girl doesn't know you very well or at all? Then what?

Fooman's picture

Hi, I met this girl about a year ago now. We've talk a lot and I think that she's the right one for me. The thing is I am extreamly shy and have always been . I have never had a gf and never known how to approach her or any other girl that I've liked. I ended up not knowing how to ask her so I thought maybe asking her on facebook would be the way for me... I was Teribly wrong she didn't respond. So one of my other friends talked to her and she said she to him that she really liked me and wanted me to ask her out in person. But for some reason I never got the balls to do it. Now that all this time has passed she has told me that she just wants to be friends and doesnt want to mess up our friendship and wants to stay friends. But I want to go farther then this. I don't know what to do and i think about her every day. I'm lost and depressed and need your help please email me if you still read these things... My email is dr.zoidburg95@gmail.com. Please help

Anonymous's picture

Hi
i have known a girl for little over 2 years and i find her very attractive and other characteristics that make me like her. She also glances at me and says hi when ever we see eachother and would touch my arm and smile (not sure if this is just a way of her saying a friendly hi). We also text eachother and have good conversations and she laughs at my jokes and riddles that i give her. Here is the problem i dont know if she thinks of me as a friend or somthing more + she is 1 year older. should i ask her out and how should i
thanks

craig Smith 's picture

Hey chase,

I was wondering when there right time is to make the first move? Like Should you lean in for the kiss ending of the first date? Or maybe middle of the second or something. If you have an article on this it would be very helpful.

Anonymous's picture

I'm 24 years old & have never had a relationship or a date before but i don't really allow these factors to affect me badly. I just feel a little nervous to approach girls, not afraid. I'm also not into any of the bad habits such as smoking, drugs, or excess alcohol & have various hobbies such as expanding my general knowledge, listening to vibrant bollywood music & tasting/preparing cuisines which keeps me happy & content. Once i'm introduced into a conversation, I can integrate myself properly into it. As a person, I haven't found much cause to complain about myself although i do admit there is room for improvement as i'm an average-looking man. I will admit it does sting from time to time that i'm single though i do keep it to myself & not let it affect others' moods. I'm much more focused & concentrated on important things then when i was younger & understand the importance of good people in my life. Some people tell me what a good heart & sweet nature i have & any girl wud be lucky to have me, whilst others tell me i have to flirt to attract a girl, although i do not have much flirting knowledge. I can talk to girls about my hobbies & interests but i don't know if that counts as flirting. My mum says my confidence is right on track although it cud be better (which is important to attract girls). Do i necessarily need to flirt to attract a girl's interest? Even though i'm not clingy or obssesive, the only thing i'm worried about is reading the signals wrong/getting led on by a girl & her not being attracted to me. How will i realise that a girl is genuinely interested in me for me & not for looks/anything else like that? . My dear ones say the right girl is out there but i can't bear the thought of being alone until the right person comes along..I can be very out-going and am always willing to earn new things. I'm also not the type of guy who treats a girl like crap but will cherish her instead.
..I'm an outgoing person in the sense that i love hanging out with friends, talking to them about anything, visiting cinemas, nightclubs-although i take care not to get drunk or disorderly, coffee places, book-shops etc to have a good time.

Daniel's picture

Hey Chase,
I sent a note to this girl I'm into. She said no, and I want to know how I should go about taking it slow and being friends again. Ever since I asked her she deleted me from her skype account.

WHAT SHOULD I DO!!! I must be friends with her by the time school starts, so I can ask her to homecoming!

Phil's picture

You need to read Chase's article on here called "How to get a girl back". The most important thing I can tell you right now is DO NOT CHASE HER.

craig m's picture

theres this girl in my grade that i have like FOREVER. but as soon as i start liking her, she stops. sometimes i ask her who she likes and she says kinda me still. i did ask her out when she liked me and she kept me waiting for 2 monthes until i forgot about it. she said she did like me but she was waiting for another boy to ask her out, but she would have said yes. but she tells some of my friends that she doesnt like me and never did like me. i dont like her anymore but i still ask her. so i was wondering if you could post something about what i should do next time if she does this. thanks

Wing Yang's picture

Hey, I'm Wing.

I have a crush on this girl, but every time I try to ask her out she barges me out of the way and screams. She does have anger issues but I don't know if she'll take me seriously or beat me up.

Please help as i have only 18 minutes to ask.

I'm in the school library and my girlfriend wants to use the computer.

Yours,

Wing Yang.

Richard's picture

Hey James,

That EXACT SAME THING happened to me. It is the girl I wrote about in my last story. She would lean on me, hug me, say she "loved" me, and say I was her best friend. However, when I'd ask her out, she would always say no... She was dating another guy at the time, but then they broke up and got back together a bunch of times. I'm with you man. I think some girls just like to make other guys jealous by teasing us and then when you ask them out, they just slam the door in your face (that was a play on words). I think this because she new I liked her and I think she liked me, but when I would ask her out, she would only say no.....

Hopes this helps,
Richard

Allen S.'s picture

Hey Chase,

I really like this one girl at work, but seems she is giving me mixed signals. Early on when I met her she mentioned she had a boyfriend who was a lawyer (not sure she's telling the truth) during a casual conversation, but I wasn't being forward or even flirtatious. However, we have had pretty some pretty good conversations where she would smile and laugh pretty consistently at various jokes I made, and we even have one very specific thing in common; we LOVE this one particular television show and have talked about it plenty. It was a decently popular show where not too many people watched it, so it wasn't as if EVERYBODY watched that show and I'm just one out of the bunch. Anyway, she has also mentioned she has a brother who attends Princeton (again, not sure she's telling the truth seeming we live in Texas) so I'm not sure again if she is a habitual lyer or not.

One moment however, I mentioned that I was supposed to leave that job because I was not supposed to stay there too long and she jokingly mentioned, 'you're staying because of me,' When I jokingly rubbed her off, she mentioned it again.

Please help me here Chase. I also may have fallen into the 'waited too long to ask her out zone' in which her potential attraction level of me may or may not have fallen. Thanks for any advice you can give me.

Anonymous's picture

im having problems asking a girl out that i really like but she just got out of a relationship. i dont know if i should ask her out or wait for a while.

any advice you could give me.

Anonymous's picture

I have a question. What about Facebook. You see an attractive woman on FB. You friend request her or message her or whatever. Then what? Little help here.

Thanks

Anonymous's picture

Theres this girl at subway that I want to ask out. Recently I told one of my friends at work about her and he proceeded to try to get her number HISSELF! Shes turned him down a few times, now I have no idea how to approach her without looking cheesy, or more importantly, seal the deal. How should I go about don't this successfully?

Anonymous's picture

see i met this girl when i was with a friend and we saw the girl and her friend ( who ive known for years) i just met this girl about 5-6 times, each time for a few hours, and weve always had people there with us, i know she likes me and i like her and we sometimes both lay down on the grass by her house and look up at the sky and turn our heads and gaze at eachothers eyes so im pretty sure shes interested, weve also madeout twice and like just kissed 3 times, we also are really comfortable with eachother, including physical contact, like she lays down on the couch and rests her head on my stomach and i stroke her hair(and vice versa, because she loves my hair), we also text a lot and our conversations are more i guess "lovey dovey" than my convos with my last gf but she says she doesnt like relationships, i dont know what to do because i really like her and i dont want her to lose interst or if i should just wait a little longer for her to be ready

Noah H's picture

Hey,i dont know if this will work for me.The girl i like is the first girl i truly like and respect.She has known i have liked her for 3 years,but we have never said so in direct conversation.I want to ask her to the county fair.Is this a good idea?

Steven's picture

Hey Chase...I work at Victoria's Secret and I want to start asking the girls that come in there, out. I don't know how to go about this considering I'm pressed for time because I'm working and don't have a long time to get to know them. How would you go about this?

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I've been stuck in the friend zone with this girl that I like for quite some time now. When I first met her, I was already in a relationship, and by the time that relationship had ended, she had began one and is still in the same one. She's really into theater/show choir, so I took my chances in doing "Footloose" with my highschool and she got the part as Rusty, and I actually got the part as her boyfriend Willard. Surprise surprise for me. I didn't even know I could sing Haha. But the main point is after footloose was over, we really connected and she treats me as her absolute best friend. But her boyfriend on the other hand is being a real... for lack of better terms, just a straight douche. I mean he doesn't even talk to her, wont hang out with her, and isn't the nicest to her. On the other hand, im the one she turns to, talks to, and wants to hang out with, while she's still with him. So its like she's using me to be the boyfriend she wants, without having to call me her boyfriend.? What a weird situation, any way out/around this? Thanks.

Anonymous's picture

Hi chase,
This is a long storey but here I go; met this girl two years ago and was instantly attracted to her. She felt the same & we got chatting. I didn't think anything of it & emailed her a month or two later. I knew she had a bf and asked her to meet up, we did and made out etc. we did this for about two months. After some time, my feelings for her grew stronger and I said the words "I love you". After some time she broke up with her boyfriend and we were kissing off and on. I wanted her as my girlfriend and she knew that but was confused. Somewhere in between we talked about marriage & I said lets get married. She brought it up and she would not give me an answer. She said it didn't frighten her but I'm guessing it did. After a year of this she told me that she wanted to go overseas for 1 year and that's it has been always something that she has wanted to do before settling down. I was upset that it came to this and I was not even an option. So she left and we emailed and kept in contact which she did now & then. I always told her what i wanted and told her she was who i wanted to be with. During this period she came home to see her family and we met up. She said we were kinda together before leaving again. During this time I stayied single and was holding out for her. Then she email telling me to move on so I did as I deserved someone that would love me as much as I loved them. So, I cut off all contact & I dated two girl and then she text out of the blue wanting to meet up as she was home again. This however fell through as her aunty got a heart attack. I was pissed off but could do nothing and we didn't meet. She has gone overseas for one more month and I have asked her to go out when she comes back for good. She won't give me an answer if she wants to go out with me. She asked me not to pressure her and she will come around. How do I deal with her? The more I pull away the more she wants me, but how do I seal the deal? Or do I move on for good. Do I date other girls? Do I tell her I am dating other girls? Where from here? We are suppose to talk when she comes back & what if she does not meet up then?

Anderew's picture

Not many people could survive a long distance relationship and you are going for one that take guts man I hope it works out.

JacksonBrogen's picture

Dude, thank you sooo much I tryed it and every girl I ask out says yes!!

Anonymous's picture

Um she said maybe. What now.. :\

Max's picture

Hey chase, I'm from London and I waited seven months constantly flirting with this girl I really liked. I asked her out (after 7 months) pretty much got a straight up no. Asked again after another month and she seemed almost inclined to say yes but in the end stuck with no. One of her friends (who happens to be a ery good friend of mine and who really wants to see us hook up) told me a few days when she would be free. A couple of those days ar this week and it's been 2 weeks since my precious failed attempt at asking her out so I have decided I ought to give it one last shot, after reading this article I thought that would be the best way to go, is it?

Thanks for your help

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