Why Chasing Women Doesn’t Work and Why Persistence Does | Girls Chase

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Let me start by saying that I've been reading the blog for awhile now and honestly it's the best I've ever come across. There isn't an article that doesn't somehow change how I think about dating women.

So here's my story, there's this girl at work, I don't have a lot of direct contact with her because our jobs don't really require that and I've only spoken to her a few times at company drinks. Some time ago she asked for my help, totally unnecessary which was a good time for me to ask her out. We had a drink and it was nice, no major sparks though. Next day at a company outing she barely spoke to me even though she sat right next to me, but she said she had nothing to do Sunday, so I sent her a text asking her for a bite to eat, to which she replied very late. When I tried to make it the week after, no reply. She was a bit weird at work afterwards so I backed off but kept it friendly.

Two weeks ago (3 weeks after drink no.1) I decide that maybe I'm letting my judgement get ahead of me (I was doubting her character) and ask her for a coffee. She couldn't meet but said "maybe next week." That was last week and I had a week off, but I purposely didn't meet with her that week because it didn't suit me. I dropped her a line though on Sunday asking her if she'd like to go for a drink Tue/Wed. Monday she replies that we should have a drink, so yesterday we actually did... it was a lot of fun, we talked about everything from work, personal ambitions, family, love, etc. We moved through a few places, at the end she even told me she'd been to the last place with a guy very recently (which I didn't really react to, I won't bite to that lol). I almost felt like kissing her when we parted, but I didn't want to rush it.

So here's my dilemma, I really like this girl and want to get to know her better, but I also want to move it forward. She said she liked visiting museums (she's not from my city) which I probably could have moved on immediately, but does it sound like a good idea for me to ask her to go to one on Sunday and then see if during the day I can move it to drinks/dinner?

Rgds. Nem
(Sorry for the huge chunk of text)