I originally came here looking on ways on how to become more secure in my relationship (I am female) and I ran across this article. It is amazing. Even though I was looking for advice on the opposite sex, this gave me a new standpoint on my own relationship of 8 years. I have never been insecure in my relationship, but my bf cheated on me last year and I can't seem to stop worrying if it will happen again. This article made me c that I can't keep living in fear , as long as I provide love and satisfaction, I can't stop cheating but I can stop being so negative and change within myself. I try to control his actions, but I'm really gona take some of this advice. Thank u for the great post !