As a woman, I'm going to side with the ladies here. I think it's much more sexy if he pays and I believe in the if you ask someone out, you pay rule. If I ask out, I always pay. Also agree it's not about the money. If you must not pay, take her out dancing or to a park or something. The whole split thing after someone asks you out is a bad move. Making HER pay after you ask her out, forget it...you're never going to see her again. The only guys who have ever pulled the I-forgot-my-money line on me or have asked me to pay (however sweetly) have been complete jerks over all.