Lisa, thanks for your perspective. A little discussion is always good for getting to the bottom of things.
I've fleshed out a proper response here:
Dating Advice for Men
that discusses one of the (unfortunate, I think) realities that women's dating advice to men usually ends up being counterproductive to the man actually succeeding with women.
Basically, yeah, clashes with mainstream advice, and certainly women won't like it (it jeopardizes all those nice free dinners and doting menfolk!), but fact is, when you get out and put it to the test, a clear winner emerges, and it isn't paying for women.
I've tested it rigorously, and I know a bunch of other guys who have too. Paying is a really nice thing to do; it's great for men looking for friends.
Men looking to get physical with women and take lovers and get girlfriends though need to utilize a different approach.