I so agree with your comment.. If a guy didn't pay on the first day i would DEFINITLY not go out with him. It would be the biggest turnoff.. See what the OP doesn't realize is it's NOT about the money, AT ALL!! And he seems to have built a theory of his own and replayed that theory in his head to the point where he believes it!! When i was with a guy (who i ended up going out with.) By the third meal i insisted on splitting and wouldn't take no for an answer. He already showed he respected me enough to ask me out AND pay. Whoever wrote this completely distorted the reason behind guys paying for woman., i'll say it again.. 'IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE MONEY'
I DO however this feminist and those who think men and woman should be equal should pay there own meal, open there own doors, etc Lol.. but thats just my opinion.
And not paying on the first date won't get you too far.. Of course there will be some that only stick around for the first couple of dates but it's life man, you gotta take a gamble.. If you think a woman is special enough to ask out and worth enough to pay for her then go with it. If shes not then Oh well another lesson learned! Only a few would actually stick around after a guy made her pay, and usually those are the desperete, overweight type of females who don't get alot of dates!